I'm a little embarassed to tell y'all this story... but it is what it is. UPDATE:
So that Somali chick (we'll call her Norma) i was kicking it with...
We had happy hour last week (thursday). It was cool. We went and got some sushi... she ended up staying the night (night 2). No sex.
That night, told her on Saturday i was to meet up with my cousin in Broadway cuz he had friends from out of town he wanted to take out. After mentioning that, she was quite enthused about it... told her to be at the spot by 8:30.
Saturday rolls around and she has on this freekum dress that was fukkin' amazing. I ain't ever see an outfit look so sensual yet seductive on a woman that i was taking out. It was almost too good to be true (and it was).
We have a couple drinks at my place and she started getting faded (she didn't eat much cuz she's tryna keep it tight for this modeling thing she has in a few weeks... attempting to lose weight).
So we're out and about, go to this mexican place for cosmos and frescas... this is where she's talking about Somalian food and bringing me to family events so i can try it and meeting the family. She mentions admiring my understanding of culture and my wit and conversation abilities. Etc (shiit y'all prolly hear way too often... but she was gassing me up and i have yet to compliment her on much. I have refrained from almost any of that) .
i finally meet up wih the cuzzin, introduce him to homechick and vv... and after a drink and less than a minute of hanging out, she says, "I gotta go... i'll be right back."
A few songs go by and the place we're at is packed... i look around and i don't see her.
Then i go to the front and see her leaving (she doesn't see me notice tho).
WHAT THE FUKK?!?!
So i go back in and hang out with the crew... because i've experienced this before... and i'm not about to chase her grown ass cuz i assume i'm being tested.
About 20 minutes goes by and she still ain't back.
Me being impatient, and also feeling responsible in the event that shiit wrecks the fam cuz i did take her there... went outside like a simp and texted her:
(now remember, i'm drunk as shiit and hated this feeling of being abandoned like that. shiit ain't cool).
ME: Now... i don't believe in the act of cuffin' people... but i do command respect so call me when you get this message.
Minutes later, she calls me and there's a bunch of music in the background. But not the kind of music you hear in a venue... the muffled music; like the shiit you hear when there's music in the background OF A VEHICLE.
So the phone is on... but she's not speaking. And i'm standing outside the bar like a damn idiot. Was i being trolled? Or were her actions of that of a heartless wench? (After all... i've only known her for a couple weeks).
Long story short fam...
She finally called me back around 1:30 (when shiit was starting to close).
She telling me she met up with some friends. Uhh... okay. AND NOT TeLLING ME IN ADVANCE? WHere's the fukkin' courtesy?
It's bullshiit cuz i ain't putting up with any of this.
We finally met up and i drove her back to the crib (Sleepover number 3... no sex. but she was in her panties. She won't let me touch her boobs or crotch. I had a sista make me wait 2 months from first date to sex... but not all of them. SO i didn't know if this is unusual or not. For my standards yes because i'm used to hitting early. Perhaps i've been spoiled by sluttery, who knows).
She wakes up and leaves early to go watch the football game early sunday morning as so did I.
When she was leaving... things didn't seem normal. She barely kissed me and it just came off mad awkward.
Now here are some tidbits y'all should know before i cut her off:
The bouncer in the front knows one of my guys who bounces there. He tells me that she's making out with random ass people. Since i didn't see it... i'm still weary of it cuz there was no reason for dude to lie about it (That was enough to make me feel like im with THOT.CENTRAL, let alone bouncing without giving me a heads up).
When we got back to the crib, she asked me to plug one of her phones in the charger and as i do, her screen pops up and i see two texts (i wasn't really tryna look, but it was kinda a natural glance). Check this... IT WAS HER AGUING WITH ANOTHER PERSON (male/female? I dunno... but i won't be so naive to assume its a woman... cuz it consisted of her saying, Chill the fukk out. And the other person going, "NO, YOU CHILL THE FUKK OUT!"
Also, before we went home, we did go to grab some food with the cousin... and she gets a phonecall from some guy. Not once, but TWICE. The second time she picks up and goes, "DOn't call me on this number any more. I don't know you. etc." (And i'm assuming she's doing this for good measure cuz i'm there, obviously).
And another thing is... i notice she lies about little shiit. Little white lies that she doesn't think I catch on to (i.e. for instance, this jacket she bought she said she got from Zara but she accidentally leaves it at the crib and its some off brand from forever 21. What the fukk gives?).
She told me her father (whom she is closer to) passed away when she was a teen. And her mom, who's apathetic towards her relationship with her daughter Norma and has zero affection with, has been estranged from from as long as she can remember. This is important to know because chicks with daddy issues/having no dads and the remaining parent being mindfully absent is a recipe for disaster. These types of gals tend to fall for many guys to compensate for that lack of love/attention (she has 4 other siblings and she's somewhere in the middle, i've dated these types before and while good looking/seemingly smart/educated... are usually nutcases).
Based on that last text exchange i saw when i plugged in her phone... i'm starting to think i may be one of her side pieces/or she using me for resources (drinks/trying out new places, etc.).
Kinda fukked up how things started off pretty damn well and it basically hit an abrupt wall right within one evening. There were occasional red flags, but i tend to give people benefit of doubt to prove themselves. I guess i'm just patient in that regard.
Better to know now than later, though.
It's just hard to filter out these chicks off the bat because you have to spend x amount of time to really figure out what their intentions are and what kind of individuals they are (And by then, how much time, energy and money have you burned when you are struck with the harsh realities?).
Remember, never at any point in my time with her did i gas her up or compliment her (if it was, it's something non aesthetic).
But i had to dead it. She was batshiiit looney and i am not putting up with the horse manure to get a nut from her fine ass. It isn't worth it (hell, she didnt' even finish off a hand job that was outside of my pants, that was more of a tease/brutal rubbing session than anything. What a fukkin' prude.
It was a vital learning lesson and fortunately, my lifes experiences allowed me to not invest too much money and wanting to pursue it any further.
Most dudes prolly wouldn't have given a fukk because of her looks. But i know better.
Let me re-start 2016 on a better note. LOL>
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nikka came in here talkin bout "once upon a time..."
and shyt, now i'm like barry bonds in that bytch 
