Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Youseenmywork]

I'm going to keep this short, my girl does not want me to go down to Miami next week to visit my friend. Do I disregard what she saying and go or cancel the trip. We had some really bad issues back in 2015 that we are trying to work out now so that is something that I take into consideration.

Don't what makes you happy.(your happiness as a man comes first). Why dosent she want you to visit your friend? Let's start there. Did she give you a reason ? What issues in 2015 are yall working threw if you don't mind me asking ?

 

[Mainevent_7]

I could probably write a short book on everything that's gone on with this relationship. But back in 2015 she cheated and but told me months later so a few days after she told me I did the same thing but she found out when she went through my phone and saw some text messages of me asking my friend ( the one that lives in Miami) should I step outside my relationship. He just told me to be careful if you do. She said she wanted me to wait until the trust is repaired in our relationship before I start putting myself in compromising situations. Idk how long it will take for her to trust me again but at this point it been months since I seen my friends or gone out just to show her that something like that won't happen again. What's crazy is when I told her that I was going on this trip, she decided to go out of town with her friends this weekend and the guy she cheated on me with is in the same city as them. I've just been sitting in the crib pissed off at this whole sitiation.

This is my first real long term relationship so it's been damn near impossible for me to let her go.

 

[EA]

I think I'm on the receiving end of one the smoothest curves I've ever witnessed.

Yesterday, I messaged a girl I used to work with and asked her what she was doing for lunch. She told me she was getting her eyebrows done (fair enough), then she said she'll tell the other guys in the department that I used to work with to message me so I can eat lunch with them

She carried on the conversation asking me how I'm doing, I responded...no response.

Fast forward to the end of the day, she drives past me as I'm putting gas in my car, stopped to roll her down her window and call me out to say hi (my back was turned) but she still hasn't responded to me on WhatsApp.

I'm chalking this up as an L but at least it's progress. A year ago, I wouldn't even have asked her out to lunch

 

[TRUEST]

I'm going to keep this short, my girl does not want me to go down to Miami next week to visit my friend. Do I disregard what she saying and go or cancel the trip. We had some really bad issues back in 2015 that we are trying to work out now so that is something that I take into consideration.

fucck that. go and bring her with u, unless u were planning on doing dirt there to begin with. ur friend's girl and ur girl can both get to know each other while u and ur friend do ya thing.

 

[TRUEST]

I could probably write a short book on everything that's gone on with this relationship. But back in 2015 she cheated and but told me months later so a few days after she told me I did the same thing but she found out when she went through my phone and saw some text messages of me asking my friend ( the one that lives in Miami) should I step outside my relationship. He just told me to be careful if you do. She said she wanted me to wait until the trust is repaired in our relationship before I start putting myself in compromising situations. Idk how long it will take for her to trust me again but at this point it been months since I seen my friends or gone out just to show her that something like that won't happen again. What's crazy is when I told her that I was going on this trip, she decided to go out of town with her friends this weekend and the guy she cheated on me with is in the same city as them. I've just been sitting in the crib pissed off at this whole sitiation.

This is my first real long term relationship so it's been damn near impossible for me to let her go.

End that relationship ASAP. like right now. like immediately. i assure u theres nothing but pain waiting for you if u dont leave now. and that miami trip, if u dont go, i will personally ban u from this site. (nah im just bluffing lol). but seriously dude, its clear u obviously like her but if u want to keep this girl in ur life in any form where u'll have the power, u need to start consuming ur time with other women and u need her to know she holds no power over u. and the first thing u need to do to convey that is going to that miami trip. ask her if she wants to come, and if she says she does, make her buy her own ticket.

i mean damn it. she cheated on it. u shouldn't take her back from that. when men cheat, its different. a woman cheating is the ultimate disrespect to a man. and u must leave this relationship as quickly as u can.

 

[Mainevent_7]

End that relationship ASAP. like right now. like immediately. i assure u theres nothing but pain waiting for you if u dont leave now. and that miami trip, if u dont go, i will personally ban u from this site. (nah im just bluffing lol). but seriously dude, its clear u obviously like her but if u want to keep this girl in ur life in any form where u'll have the power, u need to start consuming ur time with other women and u need her to know she holds no power over u. and the first thing u need to do to convey that is going to that miami trip. ask her if she wants to come, and if she says she does, make her buy her own ticket.

i mean damn it. she cheated on it. u shouldn't take her back from that. when men cheat, its different. a woman cheating is the ultimate disrespect to a man. and u must leave this relationship as quickly as u can.

Good looks on the advice. Definitely going to end it today.

 

[Solano707]

Good looks on the advice. Definitely going to end it today.

Yeah man, i'm with the breh @TRUEST on this one. She cheated on you, you cheated on her - it's pointless staying in the relationship. you need to seize the initiative and dump her first before she does you. Retain the power; let that hoe know she's easily replaceable. Don't be afraid to let her know that, and don't don't be afraid to think that she is the only person in the world and that you'll lose your sleep if you're not with her. Don't do that. You give that woman that type of power and she will crush your soul with it. Take it form me, I was in the same boat not to long ago. She cheated on me multiple times and I kept coming back, I was beggin and pleading for us to work it out, not just for me but for the sake of the family.

Now, I'm on my

She's knows it and I know it. Don't beg, never beg - EVER

Your a wolf out in these streets breh, go find you some game and eat

 

[Mainevent_7]

Yeah man, i'm with the breh @TRUEST on this one. She cheated on you, you cheated on her - it's pointless staying in the relationship. you need to seize the initiative and dump her first before she does you. Retain the power; let that hoe know she's easily replaceable. Don't be afraid to let her know that, and don't don't be afraid to think that she is the only person in the world and that you'll lose your sleep if you're not with her. Don't do that. You give that woman that type of power and she will crush your soul with it. Take it form me, I was in the same boat not to long ago. She cheated on me multiple times and I kept coming back, I was beggin and pleading for us to work it out, not just for me but for the sake of the family.

Now, I'm on my

She's knows it and I know it. Don't beg, never beg - EVER

Your a wolf out in these streets breh, go find you some game and eat

I was on the same thing begging and pleading. I gave her way to much power and I felt it slow crushing my soul.

The deed is done, I had to call her up this morning and let her know it's over. But I know as soon as she get back in town she going to call me and shyt.

The Miami trip is in full affect, I need something to get my mind off her.

 

[Solano707]

I was on the same thing begging and pleading. I gave her way to much power and I felt it slow crushing my soul.

The deed is done, I had to call her up this morning and let her know it's over. But I know as soon as she get back in town she going to call me and shyt.

The Miami trip is in full affect, I need something to get my mind off her.

You'll be good breh, time heals all wounds. Plus, you'll thank yourself later when you are over her.

 

[kevm3]

Yep wasting time. Both of yall just gonna punish each other with the cheating. Once that trust it's gone, things ain't the same. Just go to Miami and let this relationship go.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

This is to my older brehs or some younger brehs do any of you cats ever get tired of dating?I know game is changing as we get older (online,shorter attention spans) but do you get to the point where your just tired of the whole show (fresh cut,new clothes,always in gym,getting the # etc.. Is this normal.Im not saying settle down with ya wifey or anything.Im just saying the point where you want stability

 

[Gus Money]

I was on the same thing begging and pleading. I gave her way to much power and I felt it slow crushing my soul.

The deed is done, I had to call her up this morning and let her know it's over. But I know as soon as she get back in town she going to call me and shyt.

The Miami trip is in full affect, I need something to get my mind off her.

I respect your resolve. If cheating is involved then there's really no point to stay in the relationship. The trust is gone, your minds will always wander, it just adds too much stress. You need to join that bachelor life and try to process why you've remained in what seems like a somewhat unhealthy relationship. Enjoy that trip, and focus on yourself for a while. How old are you?

 

[Gus Money]

This is to my older brehs or some younger brehs do any of you cats ever get tired of dating?I know game is changing as we get older (online,shorter attention spans) but do you get to the point where your just tired of the whole show (fresh cut,new clothes,always in gym,getting the # etc.. Is this normal.Im not saying settle down with ya wifey or anything.Im just saying the point where you want stability

Yeah, I know what you mean 100%. The whole dating scene adds so much stress and it gets old after a while. I've been single for a few months and last night I went out with my boys. We approached a few groups of women and it's like people are always on the look out for something better to come along. Hell, I guess I'm guilty of this same thing sometimes. I had a good time because I look at interacting with new women as just a game now, but I would have been pretty disappointed if I was actually looking for anything significant.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Yeah, I know what you mean 100%. The whole dating scene adds so much stress and it gets old after a while. I've been single for a few months and last night I went out with my boys. We approached a few groups of women and it's like people are always on the look out for something better to come along. Hell, I guess I'm guilty of this same thing sometimes. I had a good time because I look at interacting with new women as just a game now, but I would have been pretty disappointed if I was actually looking for anything significant.

Yea man its not so much interacting and going out with friends.Its the whole game.You get a # kick it and somehow someway you get bored as for significant its not much quality out there and it depends on what your looking for or need at a stage of your life.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Yea man its not so much interacting and going out with friends.Its the whole game.You get a # kick it and somehow someway you get bored as for significant its not much quality out there and it depends on what your looking for or need at a stage of your life.

Honestly breh i posted a post a while back about maybe calling it a wrap. I havent wanted to date in two years. I just havent had the urge to. I hope to try to get back in the swing of things around may thoe. Ive really just been working and developing my hobhies (music production, photography) . I know were you coming from. Stability is going to be difficult to find in this generation. Im 31 like i told my grandmother if i get married coo...if not i have a plan besides getting my accounting degree. That plan is to come up with a way to help men understand masculinity and what it means to be a man to the fullest. Before i do all that thoe im start back at the foundation of myself as a man ...i wanna feel like ive done everything i could to reach my potenial as a man and helping men understand masculinity in the society we live today would be a good place to start. I believe if men get in line the rest of society will have to get in line. I said to myself i got about 3yrs left of this "dealing with women possibly trying to find a wife" im 31 now sooo...jesus take the wheel...lol