Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Explain

basically...if you can make people feel comfortable you can make them trust you. and trust is everything
best way to do that is listen without being judgmental. lets you find out the real person behind the facade because theyll trust you enough to be truthful

 

[Mr.Plan B]

basically...if you can make people feel comfortable you can make them trust you. and trust is everything
best way to do that is listen without being judgmental. lets you find out the real person behind the facade because theyll trust you enough to be truthful

Your not lying I found out so much from this chicks by just smile in there face not say much.

Back my head in calling them all kinds of hoes from the stuff they tell me.

 

[Mr.Plan B]

I just don't get it modern SOME women WONT

1.Cook or clean

2.Wont take your last name in a marriage

3.Will stay on Facebook/Twitter with numerous selfies (vanity)

4.Can only talk about so much.When was the last time you talked to a woman about a real topic.How many women have quoted Betty Shabazz more then Beyoncé.Ask a woman when Malcolm X b day is and I bet she wont know.Ask about a certain celebrity she would

5.Fake hair fake nails,eyelash.Ridicilous "Secretariat" horse hair weave.Crazy wigs. I can understand a lil weave but weaves are too much these days lol

6.Doesnt go to church.Will she read the Bible with you.Pray with you? Does she help bless the food? Can she quote a scripture.

7.A roster full of men (homeboys from back in day).Male friends?LOL miss me with that

8.Tatted up more then JR SMITH.Piercings etc..

9.Dips when times gets tough.At times can be mentally weak.Hard being a black man,dont need to hear a complaint about something trivial (drama on job) etc Also modern day women homegirl knows more about your relationship issue then you do.

10.MOST of all wont help you build.If you were in a relationship and didnt have dough would she be there after a few months.If a dude rode the bus all the time would she stay?If he was homeless would she on the park bench with him?

Dap

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Dap

Preciate it

 

[360dagod]

I cheated on my girl so much I wonder how I can even get mad for her slippin up once . life crazy

Women and Men usually cheat for different reasons...

 

[twan83]

I just don't get it modern SOME women WONT

1.Cook or clean

2.Wont take your last name in a marriage

3.Will stay on Facebook/Twitter with numerous selfies (vanity)

4.Can only talk about so much.When was the last time you talked to a woman about a real topic.How many women have quoted Betty Shabazz more then Beyoncé.Ask a woman when Malcolm X b day is and I bet she wont know.Ask about a certain celebrity she would

5.Fake hair fake nails,eyelash.Ridicilous "Secretariat" horse hair weave.Crazy wigs. I can understand a lil weave but weaves are too much these days lol

6.Doesnt go to church.Will she read the Bible with you.Pray with you? Does she help bless the food? Can she quote a scripture.

7.A roster full of men (homeboys from back in day).Male friends?LOL miss me with that

8.Tatted up more then JR SMITH.Piercings etc..

9.Dips when times gets tough.At times can be mentally weak.Hard being a black man,dont need to hear a complaint about something trivial (drama on job) etc Also modern day women homegirl knows more about your relationship issue then you do.

10.MOST of all wont help you build.If you were in a relationship and didnt have dough would she be there after a few months.If a dude rode the bus all the time would she stay?If he was homeless would she on the park bench with him?

Cosign
And for that I have to say even tho we go thru rough patches and have needed time apart before cuz the way we bumps heads I have to be 100% wifey is a good woman

Cooks,clean, going to school to increase income, been upfront with me, she wants to fukk 24/7, took in my kids as her own, funny, can have long convos, smart and beautiful.

I can't predict the future and she could something that may make me look at her differently in the future to where we won't be together but I do appreciate what it has been with her since we been together over 6 years
























Of course do the too me and I gotta probably will make me change my tone and look at her

 

[Lo-Co]

If you create an atmosphere of comfort for anyone who converses with you, you can do alot of damage in this world

Without making a point about just females, you gotta understand the foundation of communication..

There are people out there waiting to unveil their true self to someone who creates the opening for them to do so..


Im really think a higher power has a bigger purpose for me that maybe i'm just beginning to understand...

I can write a book on the shyt these women tell me..

all my conversations are like this line. stiff, awkward,plain,boring,repetitive and mundane.

yet everyone else in life and on here can easily conversations and discussions like these lines

 

[360dagod]

all my conversations are like this line. stiff, awkward,plain,boring,repetitive and mundane.

yet everyone else in life and on here can easily conversations and discussions like these lines

if you want to make your convo life easier...women love using adjectives...build off those adjectives

also, put them on the defensive...playfully....

talk shyt to them randomly and playfully...

When you see an opening to teach..ALWAYS TAKE THAT OPENING...

Building off adjectives=listener
Putting them on the defensive playfully=Balls
Talking shyt randomly/playfully=Spontaneous and Funny
Teaching=A fatherly figure

Thats really the recipe right there...

 

[Lo-Co]

if you want to make your convo life easier...women love using adjectives...build off those adjectives

also, put them on the defensive...playfully....

talk shyt to them randomly and playfully...

When you see an opening to teach..ALWAYS TAKE THAT OPENING...

Building off adjectives=listener
Putting them on the defensive playfully=Balls
Talking shyt randomly/playfully=Spontaneous and Funny
Teaching=A fatherly figure

Thats really the recipe right there...

i never really understood before. i just feel like im too on the edge.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

I am too much of a dikk. I am trying to hang around my smooth friends to pick on some of their tips on some best practices shyt.

 

[Atlrocafella]

I think it is bruh....

Man I know it is. I go to school at night as she been FaceTiming this dude whenever I'm not home....I asked her about it and she say....that's just my friend....

I ask her why she never FaceTime while I'm home and she say he works during the day and the only time we can FaceTime is at night....

I tell her....stop talking to dude, period.

She say aight....but she still talking to dude...

Found out that this dude is her ex-boyfriend from like 10 years ago.....

Damn brehski, shyt got me upset for you. Sad to say, but that's why I always tell these women I will never trust them completely. Never let your guard down, even in marriage, these chicks willing to throw it all away for a new feeling.

Never let these women get comfortable with you. I got a main and I let her know early on that you can be replaced at a moments notice, play that petty shyt with me if you want , and I keep the roster in rotation for moments like this.

 

[TRUEST]

i was talking to one of the female receptionist where i work today. sh1t kinda got me feeling all types of ways at how bad i've fuccked up in the past.

girl is very young. shes 22. her man is 21. she said dude broke up with her a couple of weeks ago when he found text messages from a guy friend from her past. it was just 3 texts back and forth between her and the friend. and when her man found out, he didn't like it at all and he broke up with her. she said she couldn't believe it. she said she "begged him" for days and he didn't talk to her. the trip they were going to go on, she said he told her he doesn't want her coming along anymore. she begged and finally, dude gave in and on the day of the trip, told her, she can come.

so while at the destination, he was a complete dikk to her. for 2 days, she said she kept begging him and was getting frustrated because he was just very short with her to the point where she started thinking, why did i even come on this trip. but after 2 days, he started being nice to her again. and told her, if i hadn't been as harsh as i was to you, u would do it again. i wanted u to understand i dont tolerate all that "guy friend" bs. she said after they made up, she deleted her facebook, got rid of all of her social media except for the ones he approved of. she even give him her password to everything...and she has his too.

i heard her tell me all this and i was just like "wow" in my head. back at 21, i was pusssy whipped and i would have quickly forgiven any chick as long as i liked her. and here was this 21 year old kid who got the game on lock. lesson to be learned. i did tell her i agree with him. u have no business having guy friends. none. he's correct to be mad.

if ur girl is giving u sh1t about ur discomfort concerning her male friends, u need to cut her off asap. it will only lead to nothing but problems for you.

another situation from several years ago. a coworker of mine got in touch with an ex girlfriend of his on myspace. found her myspace page. sent her a message. she responded back saying she was happy to hear from him. they messaged back and forth for a day or two. till she out of no where responds back to him and says her husband does not approve of her talking to him. and she will be respecting his wishes and therefore will no longer be talking to him. he read her message to me and in my head i was just impressed that women like this exist.

so again, know who u are and what u stand for. anyone that challenges your core needs to be bushed. if u r uncomfortable with anything ur girl is doing, u need to address that asap and make sure there are consequences. worst thing, she walks out of ur life...in which case, she'd be doing u a favor. a huge favor. trust.

 

[MaccabeanRebel]

Just venting...

My girl is trying to give me an ultimatum...we either live together or we're done. Been dating a year and it's been a rough year to say the least, and I definitely do NOT want to live with her..and I'm not going to. It just amazes how much entitlement she has about making demands when she literally has NOTHING of leverage...She literally quit her job a few days ago with no concrete future prospects, EXTREMELY opinionated, no savings, expensive taste with nothing to show for it, weaved out, super emotional, and volatile...

I break it down to her everytime..NO one wants to come home to that. But she's getting pressure from all her friends because she has all these weddings coming up and she says we are making "no progress"...yet she says Im the only guy she would marry

On top of that Im pretty sure she still maintains contact with her guys friends who I said I didn't like her interacting with...
Anyways, im just venting...ima handle this the right way fellas, she about to get them bushes, but I just wanted to vent.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Just venting...

My girl is trying to give me an ultimatum...we either live together or we're done. Been dating a year and it's been a rough year to say the least, and I definitely do NOT want to live with her..and I'm not going to. It just amazes how much entitlement she has about making demands when she literally has NOTHING of leverage...She literally quit her job a few days ago with no concrete future prospects, EXTREMELY opinionated, no savings, expensive taste with nothing to show for it, weaved out, super emotional, and volatile...

I break it down to her everytime..NO one wants to come home to that. But she's getting pressure from all her friends because she has all these weddings coming up and she says we are making "no progress"...yet she says Im the only guy she would marry

On top of that Im pretty sure she still maintains contact with her guys friends who I said I didn't like her interacting with...
Anyways, im just venting...ima handle this the right way fellas, she about to get them bushes, but I just wanted to vent.

Get rid of this chic or down grade her position. ALWAYS remember your HAPPINESS is PARAMOUNT...it comes first. Women don't know what makes them happy...there man is suppose to give them what they need not what they want. Which in turn makes the relationship happy. It might be time for you to entertain other women.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Just venting...

My girl is trying to give me an ultimatum...we either live together or we're done. Been dating a year and it's been a rough year to say the least, and I definitely do NOT want to live with her..and I'm not going to. It just amazes how much entitlement she has about making demands when she literally has NOTHING of leverage...She literally quit her job a few days ago with no concrete future prospects, EXTREMELY opinionated, no savings, expensive taste with nothing to show for it, weaved out, super emotional, and volatile...

I break it down to her everytime..NO one wants to come home to that. But she's getting pressure from all her friends because she has all these weddings coming up and she says we are making "no progress"...yet she says Im the only guy she would marry

On top of that Im pretty sure she still maintains contact with her guys friends who I said I didn't like her interacting with...
Anyways, im just venting...ima handle this the right way fellas, she about to get them bushes, but I just wanted to vent.

Bolded sounds like the EXACT OPPOSITE of the type of chick you should be looking to move with / settle down with. Steer clear.