8 month relationship, get broken up with over text. Man these bytches really heartless nowadays
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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I'm in the EXACT SAME boat breh. A thread was made here on with the poster clowning/trolling but he wasn't wrong...if you don't start swimming in high school and maybe that first year of college it's very hard after that.I need a second opinion on this bc ive had issues with it for the past 6 years, even though ive gotten betterIm an introvert, selectively social, not very talkative or w/e words you wanna use
Ive been this way since HS and to be real im wondering if i should try to change...I usually start dealing with a woman and then they start asking "Why are you so quiet?" "Dont you know more people?" And im just likei run with a small circle and enjoy time to myself. I feel like it's fcking me up bc im not always in the club/go out all the time or have a large circle on speed dial. Shii is weird because if a girl is lowkey/reserved we value that bc we assume shes not out fukking everyone. But if a guy is the same its like yo
why isnt this nikka out more/more sociable/more fun?
Am i trippen or should i work on this more? Im conversational but other than that im not a real extrovert
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Aye brehs.....I'm done trying to make it work brehs....
I dropped my story in her a couple pages back....my wife decided she didn't want to be married anymore after being together 7 years...we just had a kid...have a 6 year old.....etc...
I was fighting to make it work but the shyt ain't happening....I'm essentially fighting by myself...so yeah.....I'm throwing the towel in.....
What post was it? Can you link it?
But yeah breh, I was there just like you are... trying to fight for it but she wasn't having it. She thought she had it all figured out. It gets better though breh, the moment you realise you can let - and you can - the faster it becomes easier to get over and care for yourself. Remember, she made that decision without you - you can't change that. So don't go down that rabbit hole like I did thinking you can fix it because you can't.
http://www.thecoli.com/posts/18072806/
Starts there and I believe I was talking to you on a couple replies throughout....I'm pulling away breh....I don't talk to her unless it's about the kids. I just don't get this shyt breh....
Aint much to tell breh
We broke up a month ago, talked for like 5 hours on the phone ironing out our issues promising to make it work. every thing peachy. go to see batman with the boys on friday. On saturday see text me at like 4 AM about some bullshyt and I reply, tell her I got pulled over by the cops...no reply. So I go to the local street fighter tourney and after at about midnight I straight ask her am I suffocating her or some shyt because she acting different. Should I feel weird my gf takes a year to text me back? She gives me probably the most sociopathic answer I've ever heard from a woman in my life
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In this case you should. And you should also think it's weird your gf doesn't seem to want to spend time with you like she used to. I can never tell if you're oblivious because you don't see or because you choose not to. Mostly I think it's the latter because you want to be loved so badly nothing else matters."
I text some shyt back and she just straight up says I'm done.
I try to call her and she text me don't call me anymore I don't feel the same (I was just fukking you a day ago 
). So thats that. It hurt, and I'm disgustingly neurotic so for her to break up with me over text the more I think about it the more I'm fine with it. She obviously didn't give two fukks about me. Don't even respect a nikka enough to do the shyt in person. And my birthday is in 3 days I'
I aint scressing to hard. I'm young, in shape, and stable. And this last episod just showed how much or little she really cared about me. I swear man this girls born in the 90's are fukking pure trash
Youseenmywork
KING
If your SMV(sexual market value) is low, go your own way for a bit. You get horny and need a release? Jack off to porn to get your release. Chasing poon with low SMV is just a disaster waiting to happen and it sets you back, a lot. I'm all for guys "overcoming approach anxiety" and getting good at game, but I wouldn't recommend anyone practices game until they're on a solid footing in life. Game is a "a less immediate need" than making sure your mental health is good and that you're in control of your finances and have some general life direction. Without a strong sense of self as a foundation at the bottom, it's a fools errand to pursue higher levels of need like sexual satisfaction, self-satisfaction should always take priority over sexual satisfaction.
Practicing game when you're dirt poor, suffering from low self-esteem/depression/lack of confidence, don't have enough food in the fridge or whatever is retarded, you're placing a "less immediate need" higher in priority than the shyt that matters. You need a good foundation to build a strong empire, if you're focusing on getting laid and getting good with women before you have any sort of stability in your life, you're lacking disposable income, your mind isn't thinking healthy/productive/positive etc then you really need to take time out to fix yourself before you start trying to go and get other people to like you. You'll find it hard to make friends, let alone get laid, if your life is a fukking state because you're a fukking state.
Make money, learn some shyt, go to the gym. Too scared to go the gym because it's full of guys twenty times your size? Try to get over it. Can't get over it? Get a weight set and work out at home, use a fitness program from the internet, once you have acquired some fitness and seen some gains and got a bit of confidence you won't be so bothered about entering an actual gym. Small steps. Everyones at different stages, some low value guys have crippling social anxiety as a result of their lack of value, other guys don't find doing normal things like going out and talking to people or entering a gym and working out there a big deal, whatever, this advice is here for those who need it, it'd be pretty obnoxious to disregard common issues low value men have "because it's beta" remember most people in this sub start beta, some even omega, everyone's on a quest to become more alpha/masculine. Don't forget your roots if you're not a natural, don't scoff at the new guy if he's trying, respect that. Not just on the sub, but in real life too.
Often self-improvement means other shyt has to go on hold. If you're a fat guy or an omega WoW player who aimlessly jacks off all over the hotkeys and has no direction in life, you stumbled on TRP and you message me asking me for advice on "how to incorporate TRP into your life" I would say forget bytches for about 6 months to a year and go work on yourself. You have to like yourself so other people can like you. Make sure you're in a job that doesn't have you working with people that make you want to cut your own wrists on a daily, better to lower your income and work with people you enjoy working with, rather than earn more but be stuck with thunder c*nts who make you contemplate the merits of self-harming. If you have no source of income, get one. You need one. Money = freedom. More money equals more freedom.
Have direction, have projects. Focus on things. Lack of focus = failure. Myself included, I've known many people full of talent who lack the proclivity to apply themselves. You can be a brain box but if you don't feel motivated or see a point in anything then you'll just fulfill your immediate needs and end up a failure rather than build yourself into a success. Fear is relevant, fear of the unknown. Something 50 Cent says is "Those who are afraid of change stop themselves from becoming great" it's true. Potential can be wasted. Don't waste your life away. The younger you are the better, but fukk even if you're 40 - better to turn around now than turn around at 50. Once you hit 50 you only would have said "shyt I've known this since 40, I should have done something then" and then compounded your own sense of frustration even further. Control the time you have left and make it valuable.
Remember, nobody gives a fukk about you except your parents (assuming your parents aren't c*nts too or you're not so old that they've gone and died.) Most of your friends are more associates than they are friends, they won't give much of a fukk about you they're so busy doing their own shyt the only time they think about you is when they want you for something that benefits them - need company to go drinking or some crap like that.
You're practically invisible to girls if you have low SMV so don't even bother. Don't resent them, you don't like low smv girls yourself, just become better to become noticeable. You don't even like yourself. Go give yourself a reason to like yourself. Try to do at least TWO THINGS everyday that make you a better person. Jog, read an interesting book, earn some money. Learn to be funny, surround yourself with funny people. I make it a habit to talk to people with wit/sense of humour, I watch a lot of stand up comedy. Comedy is important to me, comedy is medicine. Comedy can stop a man in pain turning insane, watch that shyt. Not taking serious things seriously is a great coping mechanism for dealing with the bullshyt life throws at you. Keep your mind healthy by working on yourself, use comedy as a painkiller to assist in that if you need to.
I believe a lot of guys who are really bottom of the barrel whether they're flat out undesirable or just ridiculously poor (and thus need to get money on lockdown) need to take a serious hiatus from the sexual/social game and just focus on improving their situation, their money, their inner game/sense of self. It's like sports, sometimes a player has gotta go on the bench when he's too worn out or injured. Get on the bench and fix yourself and then you can fight to live another day.
Keep at it, you can make it.
-Illimitablemen.com
Practicing game when you're dirt poor, suffering from low self-esteem/depression/lack of confidence, don't have enough food in the fridge or whatever is retarded, you're placing a "less immediate need" higher in priority than the shyt that matters. You need a good foundation to build a strong empire, if you're focusing on getting laid and getting good with women before you have any sort of stability in your life, you're lacking disposable income, your mind isn't thinking healthy/productive/positive etc then you really need to take time out to fix yourself before you start trying to go and get other people to like you. You'll find it hard to make friends, let alone get laid, if your life is a fukking state because you're a fukking state.
Make money, learn some shyt, go to the gym. Too scared to go the gym because it's full of guys twenty times your size? Try to get over it. Can't get over it? Get a weight set and work out at home, use a fitness program from the internet, once you have acquired some fitness and seen some gains and got a bit of confidence you won't be so bothered about entering an actual gym. Small steps. Everyones at different stages, some low value guys have crippling social anxiety as a result of their lack of value, other guys don't find doing normal things like going out and talking to people or entering a gym and working out there a big deal, whatever, this advice is here for those who need it, it'd be pretty obnoxious to disregard common issues low value men have "because it's beta" remember most people in this sub start beta, some even omega, everyone's on a quest to become more alpha/masculine. Don't forget your roots if you're not a natural, don't scoff at the new guy if he's trying, respect that. Not just on the sub, but in real life too.
Often self-improvement means other shyt has to go on hold. If you're a fat guy or an omega WoW player who aimlessly jacks off all over the hotkeys and has no direction in life, you stumbled on TRP and you message me asking me for advice on "how to incorporate TRP into your life" I would say forget bytches for about 6 months to a year and go work on yourself. You have to like yourself so other people can like you. Make sure you're in a job that doesn't have you working with people that make you want to cut your own wrists on a daily, better to lower your income and work with people you enjoy working with, rather than earn more but be stuck with thunder c*nts who make you contemplate the merits of self-harming. If you have no source of income, get one. You need one. Money = freedom. More money equals more freedom.
Have direction, have projects. Focus on things. Lack of focus = failure. Myself included, I've known many people full of talent who lack the proclivity to apply themselves. You can be a brain box but if you don't feel motivated or see a point in anything then you'll just fulfill your immediate needs and end up a failure rather than build yourself into a success. Fear is relevant, fear of the unknown. Something 50 Cent says is "Those who are afraid of change stop themselves from becoming great" it's true. Potential can be wasted. Don't waste your life away. The younger you are the better, but fukk even if you're 40 - better to turn around now than turn around at 50. Once you hit 50 you only would have said "shyt I've known this since 40, I should have done something then" and then compounded your own sense of frustration even further. Control the time you have left and make it valuable.
Remember, nobody gives a fukk about you except your parents (assuming your parents aren't c*nts too or you're not so old that they've gone and died.) Most of your friends are more associates than they are friends, they won't give much of a fukk about you they're so busy doing their own shyt the only time they think about you is when they want you for something that benefits them - need company to go drinking or some crap like that.
You're practically invisible to girls if you have low SMV so don't even bother. Don't resent them, you don't like low smv girls yourself, just become better to become noticeable. You don't even like yourself. Go give yourself a reason to like yourself. Try to do at least TWO THINGS everyday that make you a better person. Jog, read an interesting book, earn some money. Learn to be funny, surround yourself with funny people. I make it a habit to talk to people with wit/sense of humour, I watch a lot of stand up comedy. Comedy is important to me, comedy is medicine. Comedy can stop a man in pain turning insane, watch that shyt. Not taking serious things seriously is a great coping mechanism for dealing with the bullshyt life throws at you. Keep your mind healthy by working on yourself, use comedy as a painkiller to assist in that if you need to.
I believe a lot of guys who are really bottom of the barrel whether they're flat out undesirable or just ridiculously poor (and thus need to get money on lockdown) need to take a serious hiatus from the sexual/social game and just focus on improving their situation, their money, their inner game/sense of self. It's like sports, sometimes a player has gotta go on the bench when he's too worn out or injured. Get on the bench and fix yourself and then you can fight to live another day.
Keep at it, you can make it.
-Illimitablemen.com
Naw, she went straight up crazy. So, I work in a facility were I can't bring in any electronic devices - nothing! So, every once in a while I would go out ot my car and check my phone. She had drop like 4 voice mails and like 20 text messages saying that she misses me, only wants to be wtih me and that she "feels like she loves me"...
I think if she slowed down a bit I be more understanding, but it's like she's trying to get wifed up. I already told her I just got out of a marriage and just want to date, nothing serious.
She has other plans tho...
In that case, forget what I said, and I hope I didn't sound too judgmental. Blocking her sounds like the right call now because only certified crazies bring out the "I feel like I love you" so early on. Don't ask me how I know.
Rich Spirit
#LeveledUp
Once a girl checks out of a relationship, it's a wrap, nothing you can do about it. Sucks that it has to end this way.Aye brehs.....I'm done trying to make it work brehs....
I dropped my story in her a couple pages back....my wife decided she didn't want to be married anymore after being together 7 years...we just had a kid...have a 6 year old.....etc...
I was fighting to make it work but the shyt ain't happening....I'm essentially fighting by myself...so yeah.....I'm throwing the towel in.....
EA
A Pound & A Prayer
Get asked by your ex to take them back when they're about to adopt their nephew, brehs 
I knew that from the jump but still tried to fix everything....waste of time breh.....
StretfordRed
Afro-European
It's worrying
I considered two breakups a bit hard on me, but a whole marriage?! Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiet
StretfordRed
Afro-European
Not all of them no. Just nice toned or normal bodies with a lil pokie at the back
Seems like women are too important to you. You need to find something else to occupy your mind or free time with instead of hanging out with women. Now based on that post alone I'ma assume your a talker and people person and you like to talk alot. I can understand why you enjoy the company of certain women.
All in all if your a black man there nothing like a sister by your side. Doesn't matter the shade but having a sister as your partner is
Nah I'm good by myself but my mans have partners so sometimes it makes me realise I should have a life partner too!
And I'm normally not bothered about the colour of he skin. Just now that I am 31, I want to find that full time chick that I can connect to and start thinking about the family. I just think now it'll be easy with a sister than some English or Italian chick that has no real compatibility with the kid
nikka was talking to me
DaRealness
I think very deeply
I swear some of these broads are so fukking dumb and deserve what they get (48:07 mark onwards):