Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I'll ride for my boy till the end cause we've been through a lot and he's been there for me. And we know no girl will come between us.

Chick sounds like an attention whore or she is trying to use you to get to your friend, who is in turn is using you to aggravate this broad even more.

Take the most unlikely, far-fetched theory for how this chick is using you to achieve your goals, assume that the likelihood of this far-fetched theory is in fact 100%, let that marinate in your head for a little bit, and if you still feel good about her then do whatever you want. From the little posts of yours I have read, I can't see this having a good ending. Pretty much all the nikkas who come into this thread, sit at the round table and spit on everybody else's advice, come back on some "y'all were right".

Posters here might be cynical, pessimistic, overly so in fact, but all of this balances out with the complete lack of sense men exhibit in the company of beautiful women.
 
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I'll ride for my boy till the end cause we've been through a lot and he's been there for me. And we know no girl will come between us.

Chick sounds like an attention whore or she is trying to use you to get to your friend, who is in turn is using you to aggravate this broad even more. If you ride for your boy, then stop talking to this chick, period.

Take the most unlikely, far-fetched theory for how this chick is using you to achieve your goals, assume that the likelihood of this far-fetched theory is in fact 100%, let that marinate in your head for a little bit, and if you still feel good about her then do whatever you want. From the little posts of yours I have read, I can't see this having a good ending. Pretty much all the nikkas who come into this thread, sit at the round table and spit on everybody else's advice, come back on some "y'all were right".

Posters here might be cynical, pessimistic, overly so in fact, but all of this balances out with the complete lack of sense men exhibit in the company of beautiful women.
 

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Man, there's zero reasons to be 'friends' with that broad. She's a woman who was supposedly all over your friend and you aren't trying to make any moves with her, so the only thing that will happen is a possible rift between you and your friend or her using you as a buddy tracker, when she constantly tries to siphon information about your boy from you.
 

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lol nah.. i like being friends with her.. that's the thing.

but it's a complicated situation...the story is like this ... my boy calls me one night says let's go movies, he brings out this girl with him but didn't tell me that he is bringing company, otherwise i would have declined. This was the first time i met her, it was end of last summer.

few months later, i meet this girl randomly on the street, and she's like hey remember me, i said ya you were with my boy that night. so she chatted me up a bit, then asked for my number said we should hang out. i said cool and right away she tried to get me to hang out with her. Finally, i said ok and we hung out, but except she got drunk and kinda started getting too emotional saying that she really likes my boy, but he don't want nothing to with her. my boy is the player type, loves fukking around with girls, fukking with their emotions, and this girl is a good girl. i told her, i didn't know the situation and it's between them. didn't really say much else on the type of person that he is. knowing my boy, he's probably told her all this shyt that is non-truthful that it kinda got me feeling sorry for her cause this girl is really into him to the point where she is fukked up emotionally.

My first instinct was to run and cut her loose, but she kept calling and texting and said that we had a great time hanging out and wants to hang out more often majority of the time i would decline, but some times i would go out cause i get bored just being at home doing nothing. I think at some point she told my boy that her and I have been hanging out, and since then, my boy brings her up to me all the time. ..saying shyt like how's the girl, i heard you've been hanging out with her. I told her, ya we hang out as strictly friends. He's like you should hit her up, she's easy. I was like fukk no, we're only friends, i don't want her like that, knowing strictly the fact that this girl is literally on his dikk.

My boy has this girl wrapped on his finger. she's a really good girl, but just fukked up in the head, so whenever he's bored, he calls her up, and she goes to him. basically, she's the equivalent version of the simp male. But i became good friends with her. It's just like a weird bond. And she still hits me all the time. I tried to keep distant but she just keeps coming back. I even cussed her out once for being stupid and naive, but i realized she's dumb as shyt, and i'll just enjoy her company.

Whether she wants me or not has never come up. And i've never stated that i've had interest. Now though, i sense some kind of jealousy from my boy. She comes up in every conversation whenever we're hanging out. I went over to his house yesterday to watch the nba game. All of a sudden, i get a text from the girl saying are you at his house, i said yeah, how did you know. she's like i'm coming over cause he asked me to. my boy didn't even say a word to me that she's coming. and he lied to her saying he's been out all day. so the girl was waiting for him all day, while i was at his house just drinking. my boy is straight up ruthless and i really wanted to tell her what was going on, but i thought against it, and kept quiet.

:what::what::dahell::dahell:

Nikka the hell is this?

If your homeboy don't care about her then fukk her. If you catching real feelings for this girl you dumb as hell.


And this is common sense but take advice from here with a grain of salt. You know the situation, the girl, and ur homeboy better than any of us.

If you really tryna save her then shyt gone head
 

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lol nah.. i like being friends with her.. that's the thing.

but it's a complicated situation...the story is like this ... my boy calls me one night says let's go movies, he brings out this girl with him but didn't tell me that he is bringing company, otherwise i would have declined. This was the first time i met her, it was end of last summer.

few months later, i meet this girl randomly on the street, and she's like hey remember me, i said ya you were with my boy that night. so she chatted me up a bit, then asked for my number said we should hang out. i said cool and right away she tried to get me to hang out with her. Finally, i said ok and we hung out, but except she got drunk and kinda started getting too emotional saying that she really likes my boy, but he don't want nothing to with her. my boy is the player type, loves fukking around with girls, fukking with their emotions, and this girl is a good girl. i told her, i didn't know the situation and it's between them. didn't really say much else on the type of person that he is. knowing my boy, he's probably told her all this shyt that is non-truthful that it kinda got me feeling sorry for her cause this girl is really into him to the point where she is fukked up emotionally.

My first instinct was to run and cut her loose, but she kept calling and texting and said that we had a great time hanging out and wants to hang out more often majority of the time i would decline, but some times i would go out cause i get bored just being at home doing nothing. I think at some point she told my boy that her and I have been hanging out, and since then, my boy brings her up to me all the time. ..saying shyt like how's the girl, i heard you've been hanging out with her. I told her, ya we hang out as strictly friends. He's like you should hit her up, she's easy. I was like fukk no, we're only friends, i don't want her like that, knowing strictly the fact that this girl is literally on his dikk.

My boy has this girl wrapped on his finger. she's a really good girl, but just fukked up in the head, so whenever he's bored, he calls her up, and she goes to him. basically, she's the equivalent version of the simp male. But i became good friends with her. It's just like a weird bond. And she still hits me all the time. I tried to keep distant but she just keeps coming back. I even cussed her out once for being stupid and naive, but i realized she's dumb as shyt, and i'll just enjoy her company.

Whether she wants me or not has never come up. And i've never stated that i've had interest. Now though, i sense some kind of jealousy from my boy. She comes up in every conversation whenever we're hanging out. I went over to his house yesterday to watch the nba game. All of a sudden, i get a text from the girl saying are you at his house, i said yeah, how did you know. she's like i'm coming over cause he asked me to. my boy didn't even say a word to me that she's coming. and he lied to her saying he's been out all day. so the girl was waiting for him all day, while i was at his house just drinking. my boy is straight up ruthless and i really wanted to tell her what was going on, but i thought against it, and kept quiet.

:scust:this is neg worthy
 

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One month into dating this girl.

She real cool, enjoying it, so easygoing.

I'm trying something new, essentially a 1-year process. First 6 months are non-exclusive but I'm on overtly expressing it.

1st quarter: Friendship

2nd quarter: Dating/Courtship

3rd quarter: 'Seeing' one another. It's exclusive.

4th quarter: Relationship.

I'm certain it won't go down as linearly as that but I tend to rush into shyt so wanted to respect the process with the goal of having a quality relationship. We'll see how it goes, lol.

How is this working out? How do you plan on transitioning thru these quarters?
 

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if you haven't spoken to a female in awhile especially if she was at fault for something, she will never approach you. They know better. If you happen to make eye-contact with them, they either look away or throw in a slight smile hoping you'd come say wassup. But when you see them and you don't show any expression at all whatsoever/put on a straight face, especially after they threw a smile at you is soul-ethering. Sometimes even when you do this, they still come upto you. :mjlol:
Story of how its been going for me...br making a breh feel like im hideous by how quick they look away.:bryan:
 

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Man I am a dumbass. I've been talking to this chick and were not dating...but it's obvious we feel each other. She's stayed over prolly 5 times the past 2 weeks. Good sex and all that. Yadda yadda.

Anyways were both friends with this one chick who I used to hook up with. We will always probably have a weird sort of thing for each other but we haven't done anything since like February. Anyways were all at the bars and shyt Thursday. Playing some pool. I'm beyond fukking drunk at this point. Not blacked out but very very drunk. So is my current "chick" and ol girl, the friend. Long story short I end up making out with the friend on some drunk shyt. New chick sees. Flees with her friend.

:lupe:

I hate using the drunk excuse but I really was out of it. Ol girl likes me though and understands me and other chick had a thing in the past and we were all just fukked up. Still ended up coming back with me after I found her down the street at another bar. But goddamn. Not exactly healthy for a burgeoning relationship.

Thing is...I really do like ol girl as more than just a friend. And although new chick accepted my apology and we really do seem good, I cannot get my old fling out of my head.

fukk
 

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Why do females try to come after me when I'm on my shyt? Like just let me be I'm trying to build myself up, I can't do that and try to make you happy all at the same time.
 

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Why do females try to come after me when I'm on my shyt? Like just let me be I'm trying to build myself up, I can't do that and try to make you happy all at the same time.
That's when your most attractive to them it's in their nature. Realize That, take it for what it is and move on
 

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Man I am a dumbass. I've been talking to this chick and were not dating...but it's obvious we feel each other. She's stayed over prolly 5 times the past 2 weeks. Good sex and all that. Yadda yadda.

Anyways were both friends with this one chick who I used to hook up with. We will always probably have a weird sort of thing for each other but we haven't done anything since like February. Anyways were all at the bars and shyt Thursday. Playing some pool. I'm beyond fukking drunk at this point. Not blacked out but very very drunk. So is my current "chick" and ol girl, the friend. Long story short I end up making out with the friend on some drunk shyt. New chick sees. Flees with her friend.

:lupe:

I hate using the drunk excuse but I really was out of it. Ol girl likes me though and understands me and other chick had a thing in the past and we were all just fukked up. Still ended up coming back with me after I found her down the street at another bar. But goddamn. Not exactly healthy for a burgeoning relationship.

Thing is...I really do like ol girl as more than just a friend. And although new chick accepted my apology and we really do seem good, I cannot get my old fling out of my head.

fukk
New girl likes you even more now that she saw you kiss "friend".

i would try to finesse both, but you're in a bad spot since they know each other
 

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lol nah.. i like being friends with her.. that's the thing.

but it's a complicated situation...the story is like this ... my boy calls me one night says let's go movies, he brings out this girl with him but didn't tell me that he is bringing company, otherwise i would have declined. This was the first time i met her, it was end of last summer.

few months later, i meet this girl randomly on the street, and she's like hey remember me, i said ya you were with my boy that night. so she chatted me up a bit, then asked for my number said we should hang out. i said cool and right away she tried to get me to hang out with her. Finally, i said ok and we hung out, but except she got drunk and kinda started getting too emotional saying that she really likes my boy, but he don't want nothing to with her. my boy is the player type, loves fukking around with girls, fukking with their emotions, and this girl is a good girl. i told her, i didn't know the situation and it's between them. didn't really say much else on the type of person that he is. knowing my boy, he's probably told her all this shyt that is non-truthful that it kinda got me feeling sorry for her cause this girl is really into him to the point where she is fukked up emotionally.

My first instinct was to run and cut her loose, but she kept calling and texting and said that we had a great time hanging out and wants to hang out more often majority of the time i would decline, but some times i would go out cause i get bored just being at home doing nothing. I think at some point she told my boy that her and I have been hanging out, and since then, my boy brings her up to me all the time. ..saying shyt like how's the girl, i heard you've been hanging out with her. I told her, ya we hang out as strictly friends. He's like you should hit her up, she's easy. I was like fukk no, we're only friends, i don't want her like that, knowing strictly the fact that this girl is literally on his dikk.

My boy has this girl wrapped on his finger. she's a really good girl, but just fukked up in the head, so whenever he's bored, he calls her up, and she goes to him. basically, she's the equivalent version of the simp male. But i became good friends with her. It's just like a weird bond. And she still hits me all the time. I tried to keep distant but she just keeps coming back. I even cussed her out once for being stupid and naive, but i realized she's dumb as shyt, and i'll just enjoy her company.

Whether she wants me or not has never come up. And i've never stated that i've had interest. Now though, i sense some kind of jealousy from my boy. She comes up in every conversation whenever we're hanging out. I went over to his house yesterday to watch the nba game. All of a sudden, i get a text from the girl saying are you at his house, i said yeah, how did you know. she's like i'm coming over cause he asked me to. my boy didn't even say a word to me that she's coming. and he lied to her saying he's been out all day. so the girl was waiting for him all day, while i was at his house just drinking. my boy is straight up ruthless and i really wanted to tell her what was going on, but i thought against it, and kept quiet.

:snoop:
She isn't your real friend; she is using you as a mole to return the latest update on your best friend's daily activity. You need to leave her alone before she creates a messy rift between you and your friend.
 

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Why do females try to come after me when I'm on my shyt? Like just let me be I'm trying to build myself up, I can't do that and try to make you happy all at the same time.

Bottom line is women want winners and you look much more attractive to them when you're out there trying to handle your business. You give off a way different aura... One that's not thirsty, but commanding and powerful. As much as you hear these so called 'boss chicks' give themselves props, women don't want to be bosses. They want a boss, and when you're handling your business, they can sense it. Don't let these women knock you off track. Only accept that one in your life that is going to aid you.
 

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Bottom line is women want winners and you look much more attractive to them when you're out there trying to handle your business. You give off a way different aura... One that's not thirsty, but commanding and powerful. As much as you hear these so called 'boss chicks' give themselves props, women don't want to be bosses. They want a boss, and when you're handling your business, they can sense it. Don't let these women knock you off track. Only accept that one in your life that is going to aid you.

It crazy I got like 5 joints hitting me up at once. This one is 20 gym rat and actor. I think I'm pick her but I'm play around a lil first
 
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