Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

lol nah.. i like being friends with her.. that's the thing.

but it's a complicated situation...the story is like this ... my boy calls me one night says let's go movies, he brings out this girl with him but didn't tell me that he is bringing company, otherwise i would have declined. This was the first time i met her, it was end of last summer.


My boy has this girl wrapped on his finger. she's a really good girl, but just fukked up in the head, so whenever he's bored, he calls her up, and she goes to him. basically, she's the equivalent version of the simp male. But i became good friends with her. It's just like a weird bond. And she still hits me all the time. I tried to keep distant but she just keeps coming back. I even cussed her out once for being stupid and naive, but i realized she's dumb as shyt, and i'll just enjoy her company.

The broad is just seeking attention she ain't getting from your homie...YOU'RE WRONG AND ON SOME CHUMP ASS shyt fukkING WITH HER.

-Your homie sound like he clearly just pumpin and dumpin her
Spending alone time with her is just ..


Unless you wanna save her, back the fukk away...it's plenty of chicks that are seeking male attention out here breh don't be a bytch


You stay cordial with ya homie chicks to try to fukk they friends,not try to save em after they been pumped and dumped.

 

[Mickey Kane]

How is this working out? How do you plan on transitioning thru these quarters?

It's still going along cool man.

We had a talk a couple weeks ago when we were out during my birthday with friends. I was a bit twisted but I introduced her to a couple of friends as my 'lady' and she hollered at me the next day to tell me she wasn't comfortable with that because how fast everything moving and not wanting to feel pressure which is fair. She's still 100% for everything but it was a good talk.

It's been 2 months now seeing each other, and whilst I still consider it a 'friendship' phase where the focus is just getting to know one another better, we've been behaving like two people who are dating whether it be talking all the time, seeing each other a lot, sex, etc. Even played around with the idea of going on holiday together in August.

I'm still talking to other women, making plans with other women too. We haven't had a conversation about exclusivity but it's too early for that. TBH, I still need to get over some shyt with my ex so it helps.

Hit me up in a month though, that's the transition from 'friendship' to 'dating', I'll keep you posted, haha.

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

haven't been in this thread much because of grad school and stuff, the OGs in here still giving good advice as always

i messed around with a few girls this year, but around november me and this one girl finally came to a head after talking for a while as friends and we started hanging out and hooking up on the regular (kept it on the low from everyone too since we classmates). I was still on my whatever thing cause I was feeling myself considering how good things were going with a couple different girls to start the year. Didn't think I liked her like that but she kept coming through in the clutch, always looking out for me on some real caring shyt. I stretched out where it was going cause I wasn't sure if she was headed back home to for the summer or whatever, but she's not. We had that talk and we been official for about a month now.

I can't complain man, pretty girl, smart, really down for me, she cool. Usually I'm the type of guy to be looking to escape any sort of situation or look for faults, but we in a good spot. Just figured guys in here would appreciate some positivism.

All I gotta say is if something don't feel right, it usually isn't. I didn't even really control where this was going, it just got to the point where if we didn't become a thing that I would regret missing out on a decent thing just to fool around some more with girls who care half as less. Sometimes you gotta let it fly from behind the 3 pt line even though you a career 25% shooter

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

It says in the bible God will spit you out if your lukewarm take that same approach, a girl is either hot for you or its bushes, if she's cold if she's so so bushes.

Younger versions of ourselves wondering what she thinks about you or whatever, not realizing interest should be obvious or bust. Maybe even over the top to the point it makes you surprised. Anything you have to rack your brain over is added stress which is the opposite of what a new exciting friendship/relationship/woman should bring you.

My girl told me that she actually had to hold off on trying anything with me just to not let go so easily and make it that easy for me. I didn't know she was holding it in like that. Regardless, I knew it was going to happen at some point sooner or later. I didn't have to chase for it or anything

 

[KingOFKings]

Younger versions of ourselves wondering what she thinks about you or whatever, not realizing interest should be obvious or bust. Maybe even over the top to the point it makes you surprised. Anything you have to rack your brain over is added stress which is the opposite of what a new exciting friendship/relationship/woman should bring you.

My girl told me that she actually had to hold off on trying anything with me just to not let go so easily and make it that easy for me. I didn't know she was holding it in like that. Regardless, I knew it was going to happen at some point sooner or later. I didn't have to chase for it or anything

This is why cold gaming 100 girls is like climbing a mountain backwards.

Always let the woman choose and then attack.

That's why building yourself up (physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, career/finance, clothing) is always the way to go.

It will lead you to quality women, to put it blunt/simple.

 

[Mr210]

Would your exes have more negative things to say about you or positive?

 

[NeilCartwright]

I live in ATL but have been in the NE part of the US for 3 wks for some military training. After this trip I'm going to Houston for 5 more weeks

I had 2 women I was dealing with back home. One just graduated, and is going to start working at a PR firm back home (22). And the other is a volleyball player for our school (20) and thick as hell

I'm not in a relationship with either but how would y'all know which women can really hold you down, or is a keeper? Both of em say they miss me yada yada and we gotta kick it when I get back but it's a known fact guys in the military get cheated on and ShiiAnd I don't wanna go out like that. Having my "girl" slobbering the next nikkas dikk while I'm away working/training.

What are some signs I should be looking for? I've been single for a minute but I'm looking to lock down one of these two women. On one hand it's cool going out with the guys I work with in different cities, drinking and Shii, but I wanna lock down a chick from ATL before I permanently move away next year. Lots of educated black women back home, man


Traveling is rough, it'll have you in ya feelings quick

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

This is why cold gaming 100 girls is like climbing a mountain backwards.

Always let the woman choose and then attack.

That's why building yourself up (physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, career/finance, clothing) is always the way to go.

It will lead you to quality women, to put it blunt/simple.

I've never been real good at the cold gaming thing, I can strike casual conversations all the time but it seems like an uphill battle for me to cold game. I gottago with my strengths. I do significantly better if I'm getting good signals, or running into to you on a semi-regular basis, or meet you through a friend or as a stranger at some occasion of a friend's. Got a bunch of successes and real boneheaded mistakes (butgood stories) by a dumber me, but most were a product of something of the above.

It's easier to be chosen and close than anything else. That doesn't mean wait to do something. It means be yourself strike a friendly conversation see where it goes and you'll know if itss worth the effort just off body language, conversation, word of mouth whatever. Can't tell you the amount of people especially women I just had a random friendly conversation at a friend's party and end up talking to them most of the night

 

[DarkHorse23]

So I'm going on a blind date on my birthday( June 17) This ought to be interesting

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

So I'm going on a blind date on my birthday( June 17) This ought to be interesting

My aunt been trying to set me up on one with this girl from her church the whole year....

Too much unknown for me to go through with something like that.

 

[RichieRich]

I live in ATL but have been in the NE part of the US for 3 wks for some military training. After this trip I'm going to Houston for 5 more weeks

I had 2 women I was dealing with back home. One just graduated, and is going to start working at a PR firm back home (22). And the other is a volleyball player for our school (20) and thick as hell

I'm not in a relationship with either but how would y'all know which women can really hold you down, or is a keeper? Both of em say they miss me yada yada and we gotta kick it when I get back but it's a known fact guys in the military get cheated on and ShiiAnd I don't wanna go out like that. Having my "girl" slobbering the next nikkas dikk while I'm away working/training.

What are some signs I should be looking for? I've been single for a minute but I'm looking to lock down one of these two women. On one hand it's cool going out with the guys I work with in different cities, drinking and Shii, but I wanna lock down a chick from ATL before I permanently move away next year. Lots of educated black women back home, man


Traveling is rough, it'll have you in ya feelings quick

Lock one down? As in?

You're moving out of the area next year, you should keep it casual with both and just see them when U visit. No point in trying to have a main hours away, especially if you aren't even dating one yet. You're gonna be looking at her thru the 'I'm about to leave' lens and get in too deep.

They are in school, haven't even started their lives yet, they might not even want to hold it down while you are gone

 

[DarkHorse23]

My aunt been trying to set me up on one with this girl from her church the whole year....

Too much unknown for me to go through with something like that.

I'm not paying for it. Also my pops set it up. He know I don't want no ugly woman. He better.......... I hope.

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

I live in ATL but have been in the NE part of the US for 3 wks for some military training. After this trip I'm going to Houston for 5 more weeks

I had 2 women I was dealing with back home. One just graduated, and is going to start working at a PR firm back home (22). And the other is a volleyball player for our school (20) and thick as hell

I'm not in a relationship with either but how would y'all know which women can really hold you down, or is a keeper? Both of em say they miss me yada yada and we gotta kick it when I get back but it's a known fact guys in the military get cheated on and ShiiAnd I don't wanna go out like that. Having my "girl" slobbering the next nikkas dikk while I'm away working/training.

What are some signs I should be looking for? I've been single for a minute but I'm looking to lock down one of these two women. On one hand it's cool going out with the guys I work with in different cities, drinking and Shii, but I wanna lock down a chick from ATL before I permanently move away next year. Lots of educated black women back home, man


Traveling is rough, it'll have you in ya feelings quick

breh come on think it through, you want to do this cause you're feeling some sort of internal or societal pressure to lock something down. why is that? See em when you're in town. I promise when you go back there will still be educated black women you're attracted to regardless of the availability of those two

I feel you though, I think it's our natural tendency to take interest and follow it through to a tangible end. shyt I'm guilty of that myself. You feel you don't capitalize on potential opportunities, then you won't get many more. Guarantee that's not true though. You gon feel terrible if you lock down a potentially loyal woman at home and meet the woman of your dreams travelling.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

So I'm going on a blind date on my birthday( June 17) This ought to be interesting

You haven't been posting here man. I thought you was MIA for a couple of years while losing weight, working out and getting ya paper up. How's working out going by the way?

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

What are some signs I should be looking for? I've been single for a minute but I'm looking to lock down one of these two women. On one hand it's cool going out with the guys I work with in different cities, drinking and Shii, but I wanna lock down a chick from ATL before I permanently move away next year. Lots of educated black women back home, man

Maybe it's cuz it is early in the morning Monday but this sentence doesn't fit here. My brain doesn't seem to be processing this correctly.

It almost sounds like you are being forced into an arranged marriage almost (lmao). Why the pressure breh? How old are you?

& just roll a dice then. before getting married you shouldn't be asking yourself these sorts of questions. wait till that nikka reinscarf reads this lol he's gonna flip.