Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Dating this new girl for a few months, she was very generous in bed but she is a little codependent. She seemed to be getting obsessive about "planning our future". I explain how her expectations should be, realistically, and she doesn't seem to understand. I am down to continue but we won't be rushing into living together or getting her pregnant. I got enough going on with my career and she is stressing me out big time. Then she finally hears me I feel, but then starts getting quiet and acting miserable.

Then basically let's me see she is still conversing with her pathethic jobless midget ex online for no reason. I am forced to dump her ass on the spot. I tried to let her explain but she keeps trying to pin her actions on me and not take responsibility. This annoys me further so I cut all contact.

She manages to contact me anyway, saying she misses me, regrets her actions, hasn't been touched by any other dudes (including the ex), wants to be my girl again, etc. I am starting to warm up to her again, cautiously, but then the next day she's saying the way I reacted to her behavior "shocked her" and she'd feel better being friends for a while and not going back to being together.

Point blank, she is all over the place, and she's trying to speak down to me. Talking about going back for her Master's in Psychology because she's "good at helping people in trouble", again delusional because she can't even manage her own shyt at all. Works in a call center and is very unhealthy. Anyway so I'm already fukking annoyed again so I tell her "Look, I'm not waiting for you, I already got other dates lined up." I tell her she is playing games and then re-cut all contact again.

Is this girl too far gone and what were my mistakes in this situation?

Thanks
 
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Swamp-Thing said:
Dating this new girl for a few months, she was very generous in bed but she is a little codependent. She seemed to be getting obsessive about "planning our future". I explain how her expectations should be, realistically, and she doesn't seem to understand. I am down to continue but we won't be rushing into living together or getting her pregnant. I got enough going on with my career and she is stressing me out big time. Then she finally hears me I feel, but then starts getting quiet and acting miserable.

Then basically let's me see she is still conversing with her pathethic jobless midget ex online for no reason. I am forced to dump her ass on the spot. I tried to let her explain but she keeps trying to pin her actions on me and not take responsibility. This annoys me further so I cut all contact.

She manages to contact me anyway, saying she misses me, regrets her actions, hasn't been touched by any other dudes (including the ex), wants to be my girl again, etc. I am starting to warm up to her again, cautiously, but then the next day she's saying the way I reacted to her behavior "shocked her" and she'd feel better being friends for a while and not going back to being together.

Point blank, she is all over the place, and she's trying to speak down to me. Talking about going back for her Master's in Psychology because she's "good at helping people in trouble", again delusional because she can't even manage her own shyt at all. Works in a call center and is very unhealthy. Anyway so I'm already fukking annoyed again so I tell her "Look, I'm not waiting for you, I already got other dates lined up." I tell her she is playing games and then re-cut all contact again.

Is this girl too far gone and what were my mistakes in this situation?

Thanks
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first off, :salute::salute:

secondly, she was shocked because she didn't expect you to dump her ass like that. She thought she could manipulate you into thinkin it was your fault or that talkin to her ex was nothing. :dahell:

keep her in the bushes and maintain no contact at all. You don't need this breh. TRUST ME.
 
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Swamp-Thing said:
Dating this new girl for a few months, she was very generous in bed but she is a little codependent. She seemed to be getting obsessive about "planning our future". I explain how her expectations should be, realistically, and she doesn't seem to understand. I am down to continue but we won't be rushing into living together or getting her pregnant. I got enough going on with my career and she is stressing me out big time. Then she finally hears me I feel, but then starts getting quiet and acting miserable.

Then basically let's me see she is still conversing with her pathethic jobless midget ex online for no reason. I am forced to dump her ass on the spot. I tried to let her explain but she keeps trying to pin her actions on me and not take responsibility. This annoys me further so I cut all contact.

She manages to contact me anyway, saying she misses me, regrets her actions, hasn't been touched by any other dudes (including the ex), wants to be my girl again, etc. I am starting to warm up to her again, cautiously, but then the next day she's saying the way I reacted to her behavior "shocked her" and she'd feel better being friends for a while and not going back to being together.

Point blank, she is all over the place, and she's trying to speak down to me. Talking about going back for her Master's in Psychology because she's "good at helping people in trouble", again delusional because she can't even manage her own shyt at all. Works in a call center and is very unhealthy. Anyway so I'm already fukking annoyed again so I tell her "Look, I'm not waiting for you, I already got other dates lined up." I tell her she is playing games and then re-cut all contact again.

Is this girl too far gone and what were my mistakes in this situation?

Thanks
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Doesn't seem worth the trouble
 
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So guys, I just copped a whip my first. Feels good the freedom just to get in and go. Parking sucks though in my area in NYC


Anyways a few days ago, me and the nurse were in her car and this is when I first copped the car and me and my male friends were joking about how many hoes Ima bag with the new ride. On the ride back (I copped in jersey) she was silent. I knew she was mad but I didn't know what it was. We dropped my homies off and we head towards the movies and she comes out says:

Her: what you said bothered me:wtb:

Me: what did I say? :beli:

Her: all this about how many hoes you gonna get. You look like the type to have multiple women :leostare:

Me: But you're dating other men and I'm dating other females. I thought this was the arrangement?:jbhmm: Yea you spend most of ya time with me but you go out and have dates with others and I don't say nothing. So why you mad? :what:

Her: even though I shouldn't, I at least tell you. You look sneaky. Just like my other Virgo BFs. I don't trust it

Me: we are not exclusive :martin:

From there she dropped it. Went to the movies and had a good time


My thing is, from jump we said we will date but nothing serious. She was talking to some guy before me and she was talking to both of us. She told me that and I'm like cool so I went into my roster and starting dating others and she noticed my time for her was getting short. I don't fall for the guilty trips. I'm used to people being unapologetic to me as I'm not "sexy" or "cute" enough for them. So I have a stone cold attitude when it comes to dating. You fukk with me cool. You don't fukk with me that's cool too. But when you stop messing with me or when I see what the game is, don't get mad on how I react. My pops told me never show them emotions. No matter how bad it hurts or whatever just :manny: and keep it moving
 
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Swamp-Thing said:
Dating this new girl for a few months, she was very generous in bed but she is a little codependent. She seemed to be getting obsessive about "planning our future". I explain how her expectations should be, realistically, and she doesn't seem to understand. I am down to continue but we won't be rushing into living together or getting her pregnant. I got enough going on with my career and she is stressing me out big time. Then she finally hears me I feel, but then starts getting quiet and acting miserable.

Then basically let's me see she is still conversing with her pathethic jobless midget ex online for no reason. I am forced to dump her ass on the spot. I tried to let her explain but she keeps trying to pin her actions on me and not take responsibility. This annoys me further so I cut all contact.

She manages to contact me anyway, saying she misses me, regrets her actions, hasn't been touched by any other dudes (including the ex), wants to be my girl again, etc. I am starting to warm up to her again, cautiously, but then the next day she's saying the way I reacted to her behavior "shocked her" and she'd feel better being friends for a while and not going back to being together.

Point blank, she is all over the place, and she's trying to speak down to me. Talking about going back for her Master's in Psychology because she's "good at helping people in trouble", again delusional because she can't even manage her own shyt at all. Works in a call center and is very unhealthy. Anyway so I'm already fukking annoyed again so I tell her "Look, I'm not waiting for you, I already got other dates lined up." I tell her she is playing games and then re-cut all contact again.

Is this girl too far gone and what were my mistakes in this situation?

Thanks
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I hate being a part of this social media era. Girls give you the :dahell: face when you tell them you don't really use it. I don't like being an active participant in the growing amount of narcissism in our world :francis:
 
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Turk said:
I hate being a part of this social media era. Girls give you the :dahell: face when you tell them you don't really use it. I don't like being an active participant in the growing amount of narcissism in our world :francis:
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Image being 32 breh ...
 
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RealAssanova said:
first off, :salute::salute:

secondly, she was shocked because she didn't expect you to dump her ass like that. She thought she could manipulate you into thinkin it was your fault or that talkin to her ex was nothing. :dahell:

keep her in the bushes and maintain no contact at all. You don't need this breh. TRUST ME.
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I second that. Don't give her that power, and maintain your dignity. any hoe is replaceable - make sure that she knows that you this.
 
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