Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Brandsdale]

I usually built a strong rapport with these hoes before I get the number
That usually eliminates flakiness

Getting her number right away has a high flake rate

Very true and that's exactly why I try and make a nice healthy engaging conversation before I get the number. .....but even then I still get either no response or hour-2hour long response

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Very true and that's exactly why I try and make a nice healthy engaging conversation before I get the number. .....but even then I still get either no response or hour-2hour long response

That's just part of the game.....if your meeting females at nightclub setting there 80 percent number flake rate

That's why u gotta close the deal the same night
I stopped getting or asking number at night time

 

[Ohene]

edit: i wrote way too mu h

all i can say is that cold approaching is not for the faint of heart. you will get rejected, you will get dissed, you will get ignored, you will get flaked etc. I can personally understand where Dark horse is coming from. At the beginning , approaching, conversing, getting numbers etc and you build up a confidence like, "hmm that wasnt so hard".

But then you begin wanting to see real results for the work you're putting in. The success may happen but if hit a brick wall of some flakes, wrong numbers, ignored messages etc you get annoyed with the whole thing. You start looking in the mirror like whats wrong with me?

You can work on yourself and hope that women come to you but its not that easy either. Since graduating from school two years ago all of the girls I've fukked were off cold approaches. That's 4/5 women and the one was drunk off her ass when she approached me. shyt, on paper I am almost a prototype for most of these chicks. I've had girls tell me I'm too good to be true, how I must be a player etc etc. Tall, apparently handsome, an alpha according to a woman ive fukked in the past (never knew ppl used these terms in real life), good job, good salary, well dressed, well mannered, witty, humorous, a bit of an a$$hole but even still I run into a ton of bullshyt. I have tons of stories. Maybe I'm over aggressive, maybe I have bad luck, maybe I'm not as attractive, witty, funny etc as some women have told me. All i know is theres no real logic to it or point in thinking about it. Women defy logic and there's no guaranteed way to attract them. You just have to get in where you fit in. It's a matter of trial and error.

At the end of the day like my homie said most girls wont approach, they may try to signal but thats as far as it gets. The only way they'll approach for the most part is if you find a way to distinguish yourself whether its through money, fame, status, or just having something they want that only you in a particular situation can provide. Now when I say fame and status i dont mean you have to be a celebrity actor, athlete or millionaire and shyt. I just mean that whatever situation youre in you have to be the head honco or put yourself on display popular guy cause thats what women flock to.

You cant just be a regular ass dude trying to get at these chicks. Something has to stand out. For example if you have an IG, you better have pictures of you travelling, partying, exploring, playing sports, working out and just living an active, live lifestyle. This converses with women who can have an instagram full of mirror pics and selfies with nikkas flockin.

Case in point: Sara Bahrami (@sarabahrami_) • Instagram photos and videos (nothing but selfies)

Tells you what you need to know really

Overall, men just want a girl who looks good (hence why the selfies suffice).

Women want an influencer though. A guy who can provide them with fun, a lifestyle.

 

[Ohene]

When you get to a point where you just dont care anymore though...i think it's the healthiest spot to be in. You have to genuinely not care though

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

When you get to a point where you just dont care anymore though...i think it's the healthiest spot to be in. You have to genuinely not care though

Funny enough that's when u get the best results and attract the most girls

problems is most guys do one approach every 2months and expect results

U gotta go out all most 3nights a week and socialize with many females
But that's a lot of work

 

[Ohene]

Funny enough that's when u get the best results and attract the most girls

problems is most guys do one approach every 2months and expect results

U gotta go out all most 3nights a week and socialize with many females
But that's a lot of work

i probably approach like 3-5 chicks a week. depends on the week. some days i'll get like 2 numbers. sometimes i wont bother though. i'm in a drought though. I aint playing te game the right way. It's like I've been too stubborn to adapt

but that whole when you dont care i swhen you get the most chicks stuff. Meh. I dont buy it. It's more complicated than that. Cause last year I was going hard getting at chicks in the summer and I ate. In my experience the only times I ate were when I made an effort to meet women or put myself in situations to meet women

 

[Kal El]

Word? Why's that?

Then again I do see her around the gym talking to hella guys


I don't know if she's feeling me or just wants attention, because she does come up to me randomly in the gym and we have a mini convo. During one of our convos she told me she doesn't like girls and only hangs around guys. We talk sports and shyt, but this chick supposedly "hates" people and doesn't go out for fun much. She stays at home with her family

Sounds exactly like a girl I'm talking to.... thought she had potential, but the "I have more guy friends than girl friends" is a serious red flag. Means she probably is an attention seeker and overly flirtatious, hence why other girls don't like her

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

i probably approach like 3-5 chicks a week. depends on the week. some days i'll get like 2 numbers. sometimes i wont bother though. i'm in a drought though. I aint playing te game the right way. It's like I've been too stubborn to adapt

but that whole when you dont care i swhen you get the most chicks stuff. Meh. I dont buy it. It's more complicated than that. Cause last year I was going hard getting at chicks in the summer and I ate. In my experience the only times I ate were when I made an effort to meet women or put myself in situations to meet women

Didn't care as In when you approached u come off as non-needy and normal
And success rate went through the roof

Ps..I find Toronto kinda wack for game

 

[Ohene]

Didn't care as In when you approached u come off as non-needy and normal
And success rate went through the roof

Ps..I find Toronto kinda wack for game

GTA/Toronto's all i know. what's wrong with it?

 

[DarkHorse23]

cant have any ego if you wanna do cold approaches

Gotta be congruent.....your thoughts ..words...and action have to aligned
Shyt takes crazy reference experience to master it


But you can just be non action taking and wait forever for a sign
And if your not the ideal in the looks department....good luck waiting forever

You just made my point, most dudes who not "ideal" are going to get shut down by women. Why you think guys like Kent and Jamal are frustrated. Yes you give yourself a shot to but most likely it's going end with a no. It's sad situation for the average dude. Either get rejected by countless women and hope one bites, or be alone and invisible.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

You just made my point, most dudes who not "ideal" are going to get shut down by women. Why you think guys like Kent and Jamal are frustrated. Yes you give yourself a shot to but most likely it's going end with a no. It's sad situation for the average dude. Either get rejected by countless women and hope one bites, or be alone and invisible.

Bro looks do matter but it's still not excuse
U just gotta be more witty funny etc
Unless u got a horn coming out of you face..u should still eat

 

[Playa With Tha Passport]

That 17 year old is pregnant

 

[Youseenmywork]

cant have any ego if you wanna do cold approaches

Gotta be congruent.....your thoughts ..words...and action have to aligned
Shyt takes crazy reference experience to master it


But you can just be non action taking and wait forever for a sign
And if your not the ideal in the looks department....good luck waiting forever

What needs to be said is it does wear you down...as a man. I'm 32 I just got out of a relationship. I don't like clubs and I'm not really a bar type. I can feel the change also I don't drink or want to anymore and I never really been a smoker. When you cold approach it also show you how at times women anit shyt. You learn a lot yes but I can see as patrice would were the ...resentment comes from. I'm the type like patrice I'm just very fourth coming when talking to women anit got time to lieing cause that means I have to keep coming up with shyt.

I think at my age I have about a year and to have to just keep approaching women. It other things in my life that could use my attention. I might start approach women again around September or October. Sometimes I'm just not inspired by the game at all I really know we're these breh in this thread coming from. My suggestion to any of the breh is take all of life and perfect it like health...cooking ...financial...spirtual be selfish as possible when bettering it's really the greatest satisfaction cause when these women leave or do what a women do you all ways have something to lean in the end.

 

[Solano707]

Yeah man I hear you. Investing all your time worrying about what they do, who they fukk and won't fukk, what they like or don't like, and why they do the things they do has become mentally exhausting and isn't good for my health because all it does is make me very bitter and stress me out. Just going dedicate my energy/time/focus to my body/health, career, family(parents getting older, wanna make the most of every moment I have left with them), friends, and my relationship with God. I do agree with you that you'll probably be on a vegan diet sexually waiting for women to approach you. Idk bruh I just don't see the point in approaching anymore. They just going reject you, curve you, or put you through the wringer for mediocre sex(because we all know a lot of them don't know how to have sex, mainly just lay there like a fukking dead fish) and that's the best case scenario. I guess I'll just look for signs of interest before I shoot my shot. I'm not cold approaching anymore.

You sound defeated, breh

 

[Brandsdale]

Funny enough that's when u get the best results and attract the most girls

problems is most guys do one approach every 2months and expect results

U gotta go out all most 3nights a week and socialize with many females
But that's a lot of work

forgive me for the paragraph lol.



i get what you're trine say man. you gotta not care and keep shooting. Not caring only helps with your self esteem as if like "4 chics burned me this week but its no sweat imma keep shooting and my confidence is still in tact"

when you don't care but still keep trying to get at chics is when it helps you build a thicker tougher skin to tackle the rejection, ignored text messages, etc from these women that some men might have their confidence crippled.

Prime example: I tried to holler at Indian shorty at the convenience store and was gonna ask for her number, which I told her, but she told me that "i wasn't gonna give it to you" I said "i forgot my phone in the car so here's my number" said fukk it and wrote my number down on a receipt took my gatorades and got out there and smiled at her

you can have the juice and be as confident as ever but theres always gonna be rejection, which with me it came to the point where I just stopped giving a fukk because I've had women play some dumb shyt on me where i became desensitized to it, mind you I haven't even been in a relationship before

before I would think:

-maybe they don't like my dreads?
-maybe I'm tjust a dweeb and don't realize it?
-maybe I'm not going as hard in the gym as I think I am?

the homie Asantehene would even tell you, if you don't have a thick skin, or a bit of a sensitive person you don't HAVE to cold approach or always try and approach women but when you tryna you gotta get the fukk out there

women can be mean, crude bytches and they can really have the power to cripple a guys confidence man