Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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it's been over 3 years since i posted in here 
i had a story back then bout how i met this bad female at walmart, she had a sob story but was mad sweet tho.. and had an ass u could see from the front (word to mos def), but she was a gold digger, noted i had a good job and, after i foolishly let her choose the restaurant we could eat at (b/c i thought she was some down to earth chick, hard on luck) she chose some extra fancy spot thinkin i was gon spend half a grand wining and dining her... so i chucked the deuces and bounced on her.
but i don't have updates on that, b/c that was pretty open and shut. I just wanted to say that the constant theme a lot of you guys have preached for years: just work on/improve yourself. <-- that's straight 100% truth. i can testify.
At the time of that walmart story, i was a couple years outta grad school. Since then, i just put in work to improve myself. I always worked out but ate like shyt, so i decided to better my eating habits plus get a personal training certification as a side hustle, even made a website for it. Then with my main job, i built up my accomplishments/ portfolio these last few years to where another company took note and, by the time negotiations ended, i formerly accepted a 100k+/year position
. Also got accepted to go to the vegas strip for a week each year to teach these workshops based on the stuff i do at my job. That's not to say i haven't been dating or whatever, but that i definitely put all that in the back burner in favor of my career/hustle/health/state of mind. And at age 30 now, it's paid off big time. My blood pressure has dipped tremendously b/c of the shyt i've cut out from my diet.
So shout out to yall for championing that self improvement message
But so now i'm at a bit of a cross road. B/c i definitely want an educated, morally sound, no-kids having, melanin-rich (or some melanin in her), 24-28 age range chick with a good career path ahead of her... but cotdamn it i also want her to be bad AF too!
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But easier said than done to find all those qualities (and even if you find one that has it, of course its not even guaranteed yall will even vibe right). More often than not, i'll find out that she got kids or she a year or two older than me and is lookin for a husband/kids NOW lol.
Conversely, when i do go out with my homeboys to whatever bar/lounge, these bottle girls got me lookin like
prime mid 20s chicks lookin bad af, but then i remember stuff like that walmart chick and i'm like 
lol not to generalize them tho.
So i'm stayin patient, keeping an eye open and being proactive whenever i see something... while still keeping my focus on constant self improvement (payin off student loans now, investing more in my personal training hustle, etc), but i do feel i'm getting to that crossroads where i can either be like a couple of my remaining homeboys who i'm not sure will ever settle down... or like the rest (which tbh, is where i envision myself) with the wife n kids thing (or nah, @Reinscarf ? lol)... and if so, it's been at the back of my mind more and more about finding that chick.
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i had a story back then bout how i met this bad female at walmart, she had a sob story but was mad sweet tho.. and had an ass u could see from the front (word to mos def), but she was a gold digger, noted i had a good job and, after i foolishly let her choose the restaurant we could eat at (b/c i thought she was some down to earth chick, hard on luck) she chose some extra fancy spot thinkin i was gon spend half a grand wining and dining her... so i chucked the deuces and bounced on her.
but i don't have updates on that, b/c that was pretty open and shut. I just wanted to say that the constant theme a lot of you guys have preached for years: just work on/improve yourself. <-- that's straight 100% truth. i can testify.
At the time of that walmart story, i was a couple years outta grad school. Since then, i just put in work to improve myself. I always worked out but ate like shyt, so i decided to better my eating habits plus get a personal training certification as a side hustle, even made a website for it. Then with my main job, i built up my accomplishments/ portfolio these last few years to where another company took note and, by the time negotiations ended, i formerly accepted a 100k+/year position
. Also got accepted to go to the vegas strip for a week each year to teach these workshops based on the stuff i do at my job. That's not to say i haven't been dating or whatever, but that i definitely put all that in the back burner in favor of my career/hustle/health/state of mind. And at age 30 now, it's paid off big time. My blood pressure has dipped tremendously b/c of the shyt i've cut out from my diet.So shout out to yall for championing that self improvement message
But so now i'm at a bit of a cross road. B/c i definitely want an educated, morally sound, no-kids having, melanin-rich (or some melanin in her), 24-28 age range chick with a good career path ahead of her... but cotdamn it i also want her to be bad AF too!
()But easier said than done to find all those qualities (and even if you find one that has it, of course its not even guaranteed yall will even vibe right). More often than not, i'll find out that she got kids or she a year or two older than me and is lookin for a husband/kids NOW lol.
Conversely, when i do go out with my homeboys to whatever bar/lounge, these bottle girls got me lookin like
prime mid 20s chicks lookin bad af, but then i remember stuff like that walmart chick and i'm like lol not to generalize them tho.So i'm stayin patient, keeping an eye open and being proactive whenever i see something... while still keeping my focus on constant self improvement (payin off student loans now, investing more in my personal training hustle, etc), but i do feel i'm getting to that crossroads where i can either be like a couple of my remaining homeboys who i'm not sure will ever settle down... or like the rest (which tbh, is where i envision myself) with the wife n kids thing (or nah, @Reinscarf ? lol)... and if so, it's been at the back of my mind more and more about finding that chick.
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My mom randomly (and i mean randomly) straight asked me on mother's day, after snappin a pic of me impromptu whether she could play match maker for me with one of her friends daughters, and i was like 
"nah mom, i'm good"
Mom (with her afrikan self): Well, you are looking for one?
Me: yea yea, of course
"nah mom, i'm good"Mom (with her afrikan self): Well, you are looking for one?
Me: yea yea, of course
FukYaFeelings
Superstar
Got that fine ass Hooters girls number 
Ain't tip her shyt either
Gave her a ride home cuz she was gonna take an uber. When I first saw her I was like
Should I go full simp for this girl?
My mind told me nah, not yet nikka.
Hopefully ion fukk this up but it I do whatever. Normally I just sit and stare and wish I woulda talked, I did all that and got the digits
Ain't tip her shyt either
Gave her a ride home cuz she was gonna take an uber. When I first saw her I was like
Should I go full simp for this girl?My mind told me nah, not yet nikka.
Hopefully ion fukk this up but it I do whatever. Normally I just sit and stare and wish I woulda talked, I did all that and got the digits
I've gotten used to rolling solo. Most of my married friends are miserable and cheat on their wives on a regular basis
I roll solo dolo too, it's kind of nice actually. You just have to be comfortable with yourself
Where? Like on the weekend?
All my friends are starting to move on with their lives. I find myself wanting to go out but nobody is available go with
Why would I feel weird? I go out to meet women. I dont need a bunch of dudes tagging along. When I hit a lounge or club I'm constantly moving around and hollering at chicks while guys in groups are just standing around talking to eachother. Its actually easier to pull a chick out of the club when you are alone than out with a bunch of friends.
can't wait til I get my money up to do some shyt like this
Ehh, I usually go to the movies or go out to dinner by myself - you'll be amazed how many waitresses will hit on you by doing this: "What's a handsome man like you eating by yourself?" Is what I get most of the times.
I usually go shopping by myself. I went to hookah lounge on a friday night by myself, I had a good time, just chilled and was left to my thoughts
nomoreneveragain
Superstar
What you do when you send a message meant for another girl?
I know it is probably easier, and I've tried to do it a few times but I have constantly remind myself that I'm not a creep/loner/loser especially when everyone there is with a group or someone else.
I also have to fight the urge to not pull out my phone and look busy