Real men dont date single mothers.
Why? Because dating a single mother is just a HEADACHE. Dealing with these women is a recipe for drama, drama, and more drama. Seriously, these women are just not worth the grief. Theyre stranded in 18+ years of Hell and theyre looking for someone to be company to join them in their misery.
Why should a man avoid a single mother? Let me list the numerous reasons.
Never Available A single Mothers schedule is never open. Single mothers are the kind of women to always cancel dates at the last minute. Something always gets in the way of a man spending time with her. Its hard to have a relationship with her because shes never there.
YOU are NOT a priority. Usually in a relationship the man winds up DEAD LAST. Behind, her kids, her job, the car, the kitchen sink, the stopped up toilet. Even the dog gets more attention and affection than a man involved with a single mother. Any man who gets involved with a single mother winds up a fifth stringer in a relationship. And he rarely ever gets called up to play.
Thinks the world revolves around HER and ONLY HER. A single mother is one of the biggest narcissists on the dating scene. She often thinks that a man has to drop everything in his life to be part of hers and her kids. Theyre so selfish they dont think a man has needs, wants or a life of his own. Hes just supposed to be there to give her everything she wants in life.
Emotionally Unavailable- Most Single mothers cannot form an intimate connection with a man because her feelings are invested in other people. Usually her primary focus is on her children.
In addition to dedicating herself to her children, most single mothers have given their hearts to someone else- their childrens father. And those feelings she still has for him will always prevent her from getting closer to you. There will always be some distance between a single mother and the new man in her life.
The ex/ Baby Daddy is ALWAYS THERE. A man just doesnt deal with a single mother. He deals with her ex or her baby daddy as well. And this guy is always hovering around like a helicopter looking to cockblock you. Some of these guys still think they have a shot at getting back with her. Others just dont want to see her happy. A lot of these dudes want to fight over her.
Seriously, its a game theyre playing with each other. And theyll be playing that game with each other until their children turn 18 or 21. Head for the exit. Its just not worth dealing with this fool and his insecure bullshyt.
The kids are working AGAINST YOU When dealing with a single mother you also deal with Kids. Kids who still in their little heart of hearts think that Dad will come back and love them.
Seriously, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.
Those kids will HATE YOU. They will act out to keep you from getting closer to mommy. They will make accusations against you to get you in trouble. Again, its just not worth dealing with the bullshyt to get with a female. There are four billion women in the world. You can find a quality female who doesnt carry all this baggage or give you this much grief.
Entitled attitude Single mothers think because she had a baby out of wedlock the world owes her EVERYTHING. And she thinks shes the one who deserves the best. Even though shes usually collecting welfare, food stamps, or child support, in eyes shes still supposed to be treated like shes a queen because she popped a kid out of her vagina.
In their deluded distorted vision of the world Men are still supposed to take her out to the finest restaurants and buy them lots of expensive stuff. And hes supposed to take care of her kids too, buying them whatever they want while taking a blind eye to their bad behavior.
Distorted self-image Single mothers still thinks shes as sexy like she was before she had a baby. Only she doesnt understand how her body has changed. In some cases for the worse.
Single mothers are the type to try to squeeze themselves into sexy outfits like low-rise jeans and cropped T-shirts to show off their belly button, not seeing the muffin top and stretch marks squeezing out over the top of their pants. Theyre the type to stuff themselves into slinky spandex dresses, (not aware of that gut, and the cellulite on their asses) and head out to the club. She thinks men are supposed to run up on her offering to buy her drinks. And because a few thirsty simps step to her, she thinks shes still got it. But the only people who wants what she has to offer are scavengers at the bottom of the social scene.
Always the victim. Single Mothers never take responsibility for their actions. The situation theyre in is always the fault of that no good man, these damn kids their mother or someone else. They never take any time to do any self-examination or make any efforts to change their lives. Theyre still looking for some Rich Incredibly Handsome Man to put on a cape and play Captain Save-A-Hoe, sweep her off her feet and take her out of the troubling situation she helped make.
Jekyll & Hyde Personality. A single mother will be the sweetest thing when a man first dates her, but a few months into a relationship she turns into a NUTJOB. A man will usually see glimpses of this when she chastises her kids when he first meets them. During that meeting shell yell at them and bully them to get them to act right while praising a man like hes an angel.
Its all an act. Heaven will turn into Hell around the six month mark.
Once a single mother gets a man settled into her life its not common for her to start verbally abusing him and mocking him as she projects all that pent-up rage from those previous failed relationships onto him. And its usually around this point that most men realize why this woman is single and why its time for him to hit the exit door.
Drama Queen. Because a single mother always sees herself as a victim of society, shes always talking about her problems. And she always has a new trouble to bring everyone. Theres never a good day in the life of a single mother because theres always some new crisis about to emerge in her life.
The reason single mothers need the drama is because it makes them feel important. It makes people pay attention to them. And when Captain-Save-A-Hoe is doting on them trying to solve their problems it makes them feel an artificial sense of value. They need that value to deflects peoples attention from how pathetic their lives actually are.
Manipulative In most cases, a single mother has no interest in a man shes dating. In a lot of cases shes just using a guy as a pawn.
In most cases shes dating to make her Baby Baddy jealous. Deep down in her heart of hearts she believes that if shes seen with someone else who sees her as valuable that hell see her as valuable and take her back.
In other cases when shes not trying to get a rise out of Baby Daddy shes playing the sympathy card using a guy to get gifts, free dinners and free drinks out of him. To a single mother, The men in her lives are just human ATM machines where she whispers a sweet nothing in his ear like a PIN number and money comes out of his wallet.
And because shes a drama queen who loves to play the victim, the Single mother plays to mens emotions to get them to react in the way she wants. Its not common for a single mother to tell her man man about her baby daddy so he can go fight him. Or pit two baby daddies against each other. Many a man has wound up either dead or in prison because a single Mother played the victim card.
Dishonest. A single mother is a LIAR. Its how she gets what she wants. Its how she manipulates people. Its how she takes care of her kids. Its how she survives in this world.
Single mothers lie. And they LIE ALL THE TIME. They lie to men about their age, their height, their weight, how many kids they have, the job they do.
On top of the lies they tell to others They lie to themselves. They lie about about how beautiful they are. They lie telling themselves theyre still a catch. They lie telling themselves they still have a chance with a good man. They lie telling themselves that their lives will be happily ever after one day.
The horrible truth is without those lies most of those single mothers would realize how pathetic their lives are. How they have no options in the dating scene. That theyre at the bottom of the barrel in the dating scene and the only men who want them are pathetic Manginas and thirsty Simps.
Carries Baggage, baggage and more baggage A single mother has more issues than Time and Newsweek combined. And when shes looking for a man, shes not looking for an equal caring partner. Shes looking for a Pullman Porter to take care of her kids, and clean up her messes with her childrens father. Brothers, dont let yourself get sized up for the white jacket and the bow tie!
Anyway, dealing with a single mother is like walking through a minefield. After several months of being involved with her, it leaves a man anxious and tense because he doesnt know where to step that wont lead to an explosion that kills him.
Thats why Real Men avoid single mothers like disease.
Real men understand life is too short to put up with someones drama and their emotional baggage. We only have a limited time on Gods Earth and who wants to spend it being a Pullman Porter cleaning up someone elses messes. As I stated before in a previous blog, let that woman take her run over Jimmy Choos and clean up her own mess. She made her bed, now let her lie in the wet spot.
Dont date single mothers and dont waste your time with them. There are four billion women in this world. If youre patient, youll find a good one.
