Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

Never allow yourself to subcomb to jealousy.

Game is not you vs him.

Game is not even you vs her.

Game is you vs yourself. Never forget it.

If you find yourself comparing your qualities to another man, you mentally already lost.

Trying to pick her brain or influence her decision directly? Loser. Pathetic. "Beta".

The only way to ensure she stays to you...

The only response when she starts fukking up and disrespecting you...

The only avenue to take when you are at a loss for answers...

Is to focus more on yourself.

If you're constantly in a state of getting better, how could any man compete with you...how could any woman not love you...

this is an excellent post. one thing that should always be added is what "focusing on yourself" entails. this is where 99% of people fucck up.

yes, working out and making urself as attractive as u can be is important - however, it doesn't come close to being the most important
focusing on urself should entail finding means to make more money. more money equals more opportunities, freedom, peace of mind, women of course, better food, etc.

when u advise people to focus on themselves, it is imperative to lay out what that means because not doing so is almost as bad as those people who tell their kids to "go to school, get an education" which is a very aggravating piece of advice to hear. this type of advise leads young minds down paths that takes them years to recover from when they pursue a stupid degree with no serious earning potential and a huge debt to pay off.

 

[DarkHorse23]

Interracial dating is very big in Seattle...women up here don't really get approached at all...any women from here will tell you that. From what I observe I don't see many black men talking to the black women here.

I play guitar and when I try to black women I usually fail...meaning shyt gets awkward. One chick I was messing with recently said she thought I was arrogant and a prettyboy because I carry my guitar around.

Its wierd...white broads see the guitar and be .

Black women see it and its .

Regardless I still try to talk to almost every attractive black women I see...

So the black women there are bitter about interracial dating but then when you(a black man) approach them they reject you? Smh black women's issues are of their own doing smh

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

So the black women there are bitter about interracial dating but then when you(a black man) approach them they reject you? Smh black women's issues are of their own doing smh

I Didnt say bitter but more so not used to having black men or any men approach.

Mind you im speaking as someone who lives in Seattle...which is wierd all around people here dont have the gift of gab like they do in the south/east.

 

[HearNoEvil]

Every single thing you do.

Thought you have.

Activity you partake in.

All fall somewhere on the attractive scale, which is loosely based on how much testosterone each action entails.

shyt like playing video games, crying when your girlfriend leaves you, or telling jokes that no one laughs at are negative attraction, or unattractive.

shyt like weight lifting, aggressively climbing the corporate ladder, or just thinking positively in general, raises attraction.

You want that net positive attraction score. Not so you can round up more bird brain women, but because being attractive also attracts good luck. Being positive attracts positive shyt.

Acting within your nature as an indomitable man, a fukking inhuman force, isn't just gratifying because of all the p*ssy you get, but because life itself will start to bend to your will.

Reconsider your life. Reconsider what you do. No seriously.

You bothered clicking on a thread entailing gems with women, many great men owe their origin to a desire for knowledge, or having recently faced some sort of rejection, women-related or otherwise.

I don't write for average people. I write for animals. The top 10%. There is no literature for us.

And if just one of you pawg worshipping schmucks reads this post and decides to never play another videogame, looks into ways to start his own business, and kicks his shyt head girlfriend to the curb, then I would consider that an outstanding triumph.

You would be on your way to becoming yet another great man...

Lord knows we're running short on those.

 

[Tug life]

Why havent you smashed? That should be your main goal at this point.

Spend more in person time with her, smash , and then see how she switches up llol

Im about to go out with her tonight I'll make that extra push

 

[CASHAPP]

So i googled this chick's name online....(we all do it)

from what i saw she has like 2 sisters and a father.


My question to you guys is since this is one of the rare cases of there possibly being a single father instead of a single mother....

How do you think her personality would be like compared to girls normally raised by a single mother with no father?

I saw this post in another coli thread and it made me think about this:



You raise some valid points, you also have to look at the background of a lot of these women. Many come from single parent households so they don't even know what to look for in a dude long term, because they never had an example growing up. They are just acting on biological instinct to mate with the highest value male possible, but it hasn't been ingrained in them to look for certain values in a man long term, including compatibility and equality in value. By the time they really understand what is most important in a long term mate, it's too late.

In my experience, the girls that I know that came from dual parent families will date the guy that isn't tall or doesn't have an enormous amount of swagger, or isn't significantly better looking than her. Whereas the girls the come from single parent families tend to "date" out of their league and are always crying about men dogging them out. There are plenty exceptions, but this is the general trend. The pathology associated with the dysfunctional black family unit has a ton of negative impacts, and it's impact on woman's selection methods is apparent.

 

[DarkHorse23]

I Didnt say bitter but more so not used to having black men or any men approach.

Mind you im speaking as someone who lives in Seattle...which is wierd all around people here dont have the gift of gab like they do in the south/east.

So attractive black women aren't getting approached by white, asian, or other races of men? I'd think in a city with interracial dating being so accepted that would give other races the confidence to approach black women. Some white men are attracted to black women but just intimidated by them, and thus might not approach.

I've heard Seattle isn't the only city out there like that. I heard black women are having those issues in california as well. It's a west coast thing i guess....people are very liberal

While in the south and east, black men may still shy away from white women, on the west coast they might feel more comfortable. It's more accepted.

It's funny California attracted me for one of those very reasons, and not the reason you THINK. I'm going see if you can figure it out (Hint: Better opportunity of hopefully connecting with a group of women because of less competition) I gave you the answer literally

 

[Kal El]

Some great posts these last couple pages talking about investing in yourself.

You don't have to give up talking to women to focus on you. It actually works to your benefit to be talking to women while you're on your self-improvement journey.

Because women are attracted to guys who are busy chasing their goals. But here's the key in my opinion. You have to PROGRESS.

You can't just say "ok, I'm going to start going to the gym and get that degree/career" You have to actually be making progress i.e. transforming your body every month, getting A's and B's at the end of the semester, climbing up the work ladder etc......and women must see you making that progress.

Girls will want to fight for your time because of how busy you are.

Girl: "Hey what are you up to?"

Me: "Just got off work, about to head to the gym." or "Gotta hit the books and then hit the gym." or "Just got out the gym, gotta get some rest for work tomorrow."

That answer is about attractive as it gets..... much better than "At home chillin" or "At my friend's pad"

I got girl's sending me texts such as "Hey thanks for taking time out of your day to call, even if it was only for 10 minutes.. I know how busy you are" or "Hey I hope I'm not bothering you blah blah blah" etc..

Be less available brehs because you're too busy being the best man you can be.

 

[Kal El]

Every single thing you do.

Thought you have.

Activity you partake in.

All fall somewhere on the attractive scale, which is loosely based on how much testosterone each action entails.

shyt like playing video games, crying when your girlfriend leaves you, or telling jokes that no one laughs at are negative attraction, or unattractive.

shyt like weight lifting, aggressively climbing the corporate ladder, or just thinking positively in general, raises attraction.

You want that net positive attraction score. Not so you can round up more bird brain women, but because being attractive also attracts good luck. Being positive attracts positive shyt.

Acting within your nature as an indomitable man, a fukking inhuman force, isn't just gratifying because of all the p*ssy you get, but because life itself will start to bend to your will.

Reconsider your life. Reconsider what you do. No seriously.

You bothered clicking on a thread entailing gems with women, many great men owe their origin to a desire for knowledge, or having recently faced some sort of rejection, women-related or otherwise.

I don't write for average people. I write for animals. The top 10%. There is no literature for us.

And if just one of you pawg worshipping schmucks reads this post and decides to never play another videogame, looks into ways to start his own business, and kicks his shyt head girlfriend to the curb, then I would consider that an outstanding triumph.

You would be on your way to becoming yet another great man...

Lord knows we're running short on those.

I haven't touched a gaming console in three years. One of the best decisions I've ever made.

 

[International Playa]

Bro not to disrespect your opinions...

But the irony is that today so many of these women who are "followers of jesus" or "love the lord" we know by now alot are "reformed hoes".

look a nasty woman like jasmine cashmere and how she is now...

meanwhile ...the "square chicks" we talked about....alot are probably agnostic/athiest or just like the average young person now just bottom line doesnt follow religion or go to church...

I would bet any amount of money that in 2016 you have a better chance of finding a woman who is wife material who is agnostic than one who is religious.

alot of women become "religious" as guilt over what they did in the past. but the chick who that isnt their thing ironically will have a clean HOEFAX and no dirty laundry.

True,some females in my church, they sing in the choir, go to sll church functions. They seem like good girls, buuut some of them have had 1-2 abortionsss or dating 2 guys at the same time

 

[kevm3]

True,some females in my church, they sing in the choir, go to sll church functions. They seem like good girls, buuut some of them have had 1-2 abortionsss or dating 2 guys at the same time

There's a huge difference in women that are followers of Jesus in word and in deed. The church is filled with women who go to club on Saturdays and come to church on Sundays. To actually do what the Bible says and live that lifestyle is completely different. You won't see the type of women I'm referring to in the clubs, they don't have tons of male friends and these women were actually raised to respect the authority of a man. Sadly, you won't see many of these women because they get wifed up quickly. Having a woman who occasionally posts up Bible verses, but 50% of her pics are in the club isn't the type of woman that I'm referring to. These women are hard to find because usually they are out the way and they aren't the type of women that date around a ton or let men get close to them. "Going to church", aka the building, doesn't it make any easier to find them, because, like was mentioned, the building of church is full of people faking the funk. It just ultimately comes down to character analysis and you have to thoroughly screen any woman you deal with.

 

[kevm3]

On another note, never make the development of your manhood contingent on 'what the ladies like' because different ladies like different things and it's a very weak metric to use what women like as the barometer to judge your life because their tastes can be so fickle and you are also giving up your autonomy as a man by basing your actions on what you imagine someone else likes. By being real and basing your development on proper principles and not women's preference, you will put yourself on very strong ground, and this will allow you to attract a woman who actually like you and not something you have.

A lot of guys end up confused in life because they base their life on what someone else wants, and nobody can read minds. This ends up with individuals who will always be chasing a false image that is always shifting and they will constantly have to ask questions like, "What do I do next?"

I used to believe in that a man needs to be a leader, he needs to be super fit, he needs to be this, he needs to be that, but when you look at it, you have loser type dudes around the way who have kids with 10 different women and some of those women are fine. What I have found more important than anything when dealing with women is you have to get at them. Throw all notions of what you need or what you should have out the window. If you don't get at her, you won't have her. All of those extras make it easier by reducing her resistance to your approach, but if your social skills are not on point, then you won't get anywhere. If you want to know one thing to work on to improve your dealings with women, it's your conversation and your aggression with conversing with women.

 

[Lo-Co]

Hitting the gym tomorrow. Been slacking. But I'm back on it. I feel positive about 80 percent of the time. Conversation is still my major malfunction. In terms of running out of things to talk about. I feel I need to just do more things. I need to fully embrace being awkward. I just don't know how. I kept trying to follow everyone else's playbook to no avail. I just know I'd be a catch. .

 

[TRUEST]

Hitting the gym tomorrow. Been slacking. But I'm back on it. I feel positive about 80 percent of the time. Conversation is still my major malfunction. In terms of running out of things to talk about. I feel I need to just do more things. I need to fully embrace being awkward. I just don't know how. I kept trying to follow everyone else's playbook to no avail. I just know I'd be a catch. .

nah man. awkwardness is a problem u have to solve by all means necessary. a woman would have to really really like u to overlook ur awkwardness. u dont want ur woman being terrified to introduce you to her friends for fear u would be labeled a creep or something else. get knowledgeable on topics and be able to lead conversations. tease her.

u cant go around life thinking "hey im awkward, that's just me. i'll find a woman who likes me for me". its like a stank woman walking around talking about "hey, i stink, that's just who i am. the right guy for me would love my stank". nah negro. u need to shed that awkwardness asap. women hate that

 

[Lo-Co]

nah man. awkwardness is a problem u have to solve by all means necessary. a woman would have to really really like u to overlook ur awkwardness. u dont want ur woman being terrified to introduce you to her friends for fear u would be labeled a creep or something else. get knowledgeable on topics and be able to lead conversations. tease her.

u cant go around life thinking "hey im awkward, that's just me. i'll find a woman who likes me for me". its like a stank woman walking around talking about "hey, i stink, that's just who i am. the right guy for me would love my stank". nah negro. u need to shed that awkwardness asap. women hate that

That's the thing. I want to be smooth,thorough. I don't even know what I'd do to stop being awkward. Ive had problems that have set me back further than. The average man. I'm on the spectrum, but it be never stopped me at all. I'm trying to main event instead of being on the undercard. I feel like I'm not aggressive enough when I talk to women. I like being laid back but I think I'm too laid back. I have the voice to make strides but I don't project enough. That's my problem. I'm too used to playing the background.