Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I need to keep up with things. Getting out of my feelings when it came to rejection. Even saying hi to women was hard. Sheesh.
 

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Most people been there breh, if you overcame that fear of approaching once it gets routine pretty quickly and you got nothing to fear
Hi.

One of the hardest words to say to a woman when you have little experience. I'm just having short conversations. Anything to build a resistance. :jbhmm:some women out here are just as nervous. That's something that slightly puts me at ease when it comes to this. I just need to be more interesting. I used to hang around women to understand them as people. But I was still odd. :mjlol:
 

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Hi.

One of the hardest words to say to a woman when you have little experience. I'm just having short conversations. Anything to build a resistance. :jbhmm:some women out here are just as nervous. That's something that slightly puts me at ease when it comes to this. I just need to be more interesting. I used to hang around women to understand them as people. But I was still odd. :mjlol:

Just do it step for step. In the beginning a good way to get into conversation is for example by asking her for her opinion on a certain topic, an idea for a gift for somebody etc. etc.
Doesnt necessarily need to be with the intention of getting her number, just to get some experience on the talking part. After a while when you improved your skills you can hit em with more direct approaches, when you got the confidence for that its :ahh: because it makes you a stand out among dozens of guys who dont approach.
Like if I'm in the city with a homie and hes like "Damn that girl over there is bad" im always like "Why you dont approach her ? :childplease:" Just remember you got absolutely nothing to lose, if you get her number/see her again she's at least interested and theres a good chance of smashing. Otherwise you never see her again and keep it movin :yeshrug:

Thats a lil tip for everyone here btw:
If you see a real dime, just approach her, most of the times she'll be happy about it because no one else has the balls to approach those :ohlawd: girls
 

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Im asking becuz Im like you, most of my dates are Saturday, Im just not sure how much I should talk to the woman till the date

Well each situation is different depending on when I get the number, but what I've learned is limit the texting because you don't want to come off as her friend. Save the talking for when y'all meet
 

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Just do it step for step. In the beginning a good way to get into conversation is for example by asking her for her opinion on a certain topic, an idea for a gift for somebody etc. etc.
Doesnt necessarily need to be with the intention of getting her number, just to get some experience on the talking part. After a while when you improved your skills you can hit em with more direct approaches, when you got the confidence for that its :ahh: because it makes you a stand out among dozens of guys who dont approach.
Like if I'm in the city with a homie and hes like "Damn that girl over there is bad" im always like "Why you dont approach her ? :childplease:" Just remember you got absolutely nothing to lose, if you get her number/see her again she's at least interested and theres a good chance of smashing. Otherwise you never see her again and keep it movin :yeshrug:

Thats a lil tip for everyone here btw:
If you see a real dime, just approach her, most of the times she'll be happy about it because no one else has the balls to approach those :ohlawd: girls
I'm just trying to conversate in general.

Never thought of doing that. I always rolled up like

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Hey how are you?


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Uhhh I like your hair


Her reply:
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:mjlol::mjlol:

My fear revolved around just not being around women a lot. :yeshrug:except for ones that shared no attraction with me. Some of them kinda helped. Some guided me down simp road. And I just went along with it because I didn't know better. A few breakups made me reevaluate. Now I just want to be able to share who I am with women. Cause I know they're missing out. :wow:
 

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I'm just trying to conversate in general.

Never thought of doing that. I always rolled up like

tumblr_inline_nwvq9z8MRG1qbiz5t_540.gif

Hey how are you?


tumblr_inline_nwvq9z8MRG1qbiz5t_540.gif


Uhhh I like your hair


Her reply:
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:mjlol::mjlol:

My fear revolved around just not being around women a lot. :yeshrug:except for ones that shared no attraction with me. Some of them kinda helped. Some guided me down simp road. And I just went along with it because I didn't know better. A few breakups made me reevaluate. Now I just want to be able to share who I am with women. Cause I know they're missing out. :wow:

That kermit gif has me cryin right now :mjlol:
 

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Thoughts on this:

Earlier today I messaged this woman on POF. She replied with like a 3 word response, well after the 3rd short response to what I felt should have been longer I said "well good luck on here and have a good day"

She responded with "thats it?"

To which I replied "yes your profile says serious inquires to which I fit that". However at my age I'm not going to let fly short responses to all my questions. Me trying to get to know you takes 2 people being receptive or else this just comes off as an interview. I'm not going to invest my time in such behavior"

Her response was something like: Lol ok I understand. Thank you for your candor I appreciate that. My short responses was due to me being busy at work. I am in a more talkative mood now"

I didn't respond, beautiful woman with a nice body
 

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Had a girl friend zone me about a week ago, I'll hold that L.

But her friend been wanting to talk to me for a min now, bout to Fck strictly out of spite:smugdraper:

But I needa slow down. Got 3 I'm dealing with now but work/school/the gym is taking up a lot of time. Gotta prioritize:snoop:
 

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Got a chick's number from work, first number I've asked for in a LONG time. shyt was easy having not done it in a while. Situation was perfect, everything was set up nicely.

I got the juice :sas2:
 

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Thoughts on this:

Earlier today I messaged this woman on POF. She replied with like a 3 word response, well after the 3rd short response to what I felt should have been longer I said "well good luck on here and have a good day"

She responded with "thats it?"

To which I replied "yes your profile says serious inquires to which I fit that". However at my age I'm not going to let fly short responses to all my questions. Me trying to get to know you takes 2 people being receptive or else this just comes off as an interview. I'm not going to invest my time in such behavior"

Her response was something like: Lol ok I understand. Thank you for your candor I appreciate that. My short responses was due to me being busy at work. I am in a more talkative mood now"

I didn't respond, beautiful woman with a nice body


Yeah you did the right thing. Most squares would have kept texting her.
 
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