Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[twan83]

I need some guidance brehs I took a L that kinda fukked my head up. My whole view on women has been shifted tremendously and I don't think I can go back to how I was. To behonest I'm not fully over it and prolly won't be for awhile but I'm at a place where I can move on now but I'm now dealing with some weird anger or disdain. Not because it didn't workout but because I feel like i had shyt happen that I didn't deserve happen to me. Also feeling disrespected. Also feeling like my intelligence is being insulted I can admit I'm a little inexperienced but I'm not dumb or that inexperienced in life to not know when something ain't right.

So now I'm walking around carrying this distrust and fear when I talk to other women, kinda making me not even want to fukk with them really. Don't really want to give them the chance to have me looking like a clown or a fool and I don't want to be that vulnerable again. Also I cant seem to bring myself to be that sweet charming cat I normally am to women. Its like I don't want to go so hard and go out my way trying to be a decent breh if all I'm going to get is what I got. I really feel like I got a lot of grief for no reason. I could see if I was a foul nikka but all I did was be good. I don't want to be #HoH but everytime I think about everything in it's entirety knowing everything it got me feeling all kinds of angry.

It's like I can't look at women or relationships the same at all and it's making me want to move in a very different way. I can really see why some dudes move with that coldness towards women now. It's hard trying to fight that #HoH feeling and that's not who I want to be but Im feeling like I got did dirty for no reason and I didn't deserve it.

I just want to feel like I use to feel but I don't think that's ever coming back. It's like that mental connection I forged is made of diamond and cannot be broken at all. That's why it's fukking with me so bad. It's one hell of a connection and it crushed me.

I'm carrying some anger brehs and I can't point it at the right place because it melts me.

Well lil breh I know how u feel it's why I changed and became cold as ice and hoh for life
Sometimes u can't get back that kindness and gentleness u use to have anymore
A scarred heart can do that too u
Even if you find someone who deserves that part u use to have they can't get it cuz of a past issue that changed u for better and worse

U can't be something that was taken from u by a shytty person if you get hurt a certain way cuz it won't feel right anymore that u do it you feel like ur forcing ur old self

Sometimes u just need time to heal and u could go back but from what I seen when u get hurt deeply and scarred u don't go back
A good guy goes dark

And sometimes u need to be that way to learn for future relationships

Told u too hit me up breh any ways when u feel a certain way

I tried to be that nice romantic guy but once I got hurt really bad that part of me was gone forever for the best and worse

Don't let a female that hurt u hate life tho let a female who did u wrong teach the ways of handling things better
Not tolerate shyt, not be as trustworthy and put em in their place and walk away any time you want

Let a good female get the good pieces of u but still keep the same state of mind also

I told u I got u anytime remember that cuz I meant that


Also just focus on u bettering yourself and ur financial stability
Do more for u

 

[Prynce]

How are other areas of your life?

Are you where you wanna be at when it comes to your education, career, and physique?

I'm in college doing well getting a degree in marketing. Also just got into a entrepreneurship program.

I just got a better paying job.

I been in the gym everyday since it went down only thing keeping me somewhat straight

 

[Ohene]

I'm in college doing well getting a degree in marketing. Also just got into a entrepreneurship program.

I just got a better paying job.

I been in the gym everyday since it went down only thing keeping me somewhat straight

honestly man just take your time to feel better. and dont let anybody or anything define what feeling better should mean. If naturally you find yourself being HOH and after some time thats what makes you feel better; you're over the situation then so beat it. Don't force yourself to be anything that you used to be or feel you should be. Just let nature take its course and focus on yourself. Months down the line youll look back at whatever happened, look at yourself and realize you're a better man than you once were

 

[Prynce]

Well lil breh I know how u feel it's why I changed and became cold as ice and hoh for life
Sometimes u can't get back that kindness and gentleness u use to have anymore
A scarred heart can do that too u
Even if you find someone who deserves that part u use to have they can't get it cuz of a past issue that changed u for better and worse

U can't be something that was taken from u by a shytty person if you get hurt a certain way cuz it won't feel right anymore that u do it you feel like ur forcing ur old self

Sometimes u just need time to heal and u could go back but from what I seen when u get hurt deeply and scarred u don't go back
A good guy goes dark

And sometimes u need to be that way to learn for future relationships

Told u too hit me up breh any ways when u feel a certain way

I tried to be that nice romantic guy but once I got hurt really bad that part of me was gone forever for the best and worse

Don't let a female that hurt u hate life tho let a female who did u wrong teach the ways of handling things better
Not tolerate shyt, not be as trustworthy and put em in their place and walk away any time you want

Let a good female get the good pieces of u but still keep the same state of mind also

I told u I got u anytime remember that cuz I meant that


Also just focus on u bettering yourself and ur financial stability
Do more for u

Ill pm u breh

 

[TRUEST]

I need some guidance brehs I took a L that kinda fukked my head up. My whole view on women has been shifted tremendously and I don't think I can go back to how I was. To behonest I'm not fully over it and prolly won't be for awhile but I'm at a place where I can move on now but I'm now dealing with some weird anger or disdain. Not because it didn't workout but because I feel like i had shyt happen that I didn't deserve happen to me. Also feeling disrespected. Also feeling like my intelligence is being insulted I can admit I'm a little inexperienced but I'm not dumb or that inexperienced in life to not know when something ain't right.

So now I'm walking around carrying this distrust and fear when I talk to other women, kinda making me not even want to fukk with them really. Don't really want to give them the chance to have me looking like a clown or a fool and I don't want to be that vulnerable again. Also I cant seem to bring myself to be that sweet charming cat I normally am to women. Its like I don't want to go so hard and go out my way trying to be a decent breh if all I'm going to get is what I got. I really feel like I got a lot of grief for no reason. I could see if I was a foul nikka but all I did was be good. I don't want to be #HoH but everytime I think about everything in it's entirety knowing everything it got me feeling all kinds of angry.

It's like I can't look at women or relationships the same at all and it's making me want to move in a very different way. I can really see why some dudes move with that coldness towards women now. It's hard trying to fight that #HoH feeling and that's not who I want to be but Im feeling like I got did dirty for no reason and I didn't deserve it.

I just want to feel like I use to feel but I don't think that's ever coming back. It's like that mental connection I forged is made of diamond and cannot be broken at all. That's why it's fukking with me so bad. It's one hell of a connection and it crushed me.

I'm carrying some anger brehs and I can't point it at the right place because it melts me.

ok. u come off as a good guy. but u need to snap out of this woe is me bullsh1t. its ok to feel the way u do. but everyone needs companionship. u just need to learn to choose more carefully those u give the gift of ur company.

and by that i mean, when ur dating a girl, watch out for any out of pocket behavior that u dont like. and when u spot it, be very, very quick to unleash ur wrath on her. and either break up wiht her or give her a good talking to. then walk the fucck away.

basically, what im saying is, when ur dating women, the ones who are unscrupulous or lack basic home training will always, i repeat ALWAYS display patterns that shows who they are, very early in the relationship. when u start finding urself checking these women, and feeling less remorseful about the feelings u may have hurt, it is then, u'll become a man. right now, ur thoughts and emotions are that of a adolescent. a teenager on a journey to adulthood. u wont finish that journey unless u get ur sh1t together

 

[Youseenmywork]

As jaded as this is, it's so real. That heartbreak puts a lot of things in perspective. Unfortunately it leaves behind some serious scars.

I can't say its jaded it just the truth. I don't even like hanging around nikkas that haven't take an L and had they heart taken by a chic. I think a lot of men have had there eyes opend to the reality of women..after a heartbreak . The game isn't going to be easy nor is heartbreak. Having your heart broken it a ride of passage...to me. What you do after that and apply what you learned will ultimately determine what type of man you will become with women.

 

[Deafheaven]

Chick I went out with last week said she don't want to date anyone atm because some nikka was stalking her off of OKC

Anyway told her thats her right and if she change her mind hit me I'll cook you dinner and we can pick up where we left off. Said I'm a breath of fresh air from the usual demanding needy creeps but she just wigged out right now I'm about 80% she'll hit me up shortly but if not she was coo peoples.

 

[Chef]

Reading previous pages and the amount of shyt that came true is amazing.

 

[Mr.Plan B]

I need some guidance brehs I took a L that kinda fukked my head up. My whole view on women has been shifted tremendously and I don't think I can go back to how I was. To behonest I'm not fully over it and prolly won't be for awhile but I'm at a place where I can move on now but I'm now dealing with some weird anger or disdain. Not because it didn't workout but because I feel like i had shyt happen that I didn't deserve happen to me. Also feeling disrespected. Also feeling like my intelligence is being insulted I can admit I'm a little inexperienced but I'm not dumb or that inexperienced in life to not know when something ain't right.

So now I'm walking around carrying this distrust and fear when I talk to other women, kinda making me not even want to fukk with them really. Don't really want to give them the chance to have me looking like a clown or a fool and I don't want to be that vulnerable again. Also I cant seem to bring myself to be that sweet charming cat I normally am to women. Its like I don't want to go so hard and go out my way trying to be a decent breh if all I'm going to get is what I got. I really feel like I got a lot of grief for no reason. I could see if I was a foul nikka but all I did was be good. I don't want to be #HoH but everytime I think about everything in it's entirety knowing everything it got me feeling all kinds of angry.

It's like I can't look at women or relationships the same at all and it's making me want to move in a very different way. I can really see why some dudes move with that coldness towards women now. It's hard trying to fight that #HoH feeling and that's not who I want to be but Im feeling like I got did dirty for no reason and I didn't deserve it.

I just want to feel like I use to feel but I don't think that's ever coming back. It's like that mental connection I forged is made of diamond and cannot be broken at all. That's why it's fukking with me so bad. It's one hell of a connection and it crushed me.

I'm carrying some anger brehs and I can't point it at the right place because it melts me.

Let me make this clear brother you got two choices in front of you. #1 Try to open yourself back up to receive and give "love". #2 Become cold hearted towards "love".

Just know if you pick the wrong one to open yourself up too again you will become cold for rest of ya life. That why you should play the field after a breakup few months of doing you so you're not completely jaded.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Let me get the brehs take on this situation...

I approached a chick that works near my building and pretty much asked her that if she didn't have a current situation going on, we should get link up. She told me she did have a current situation but was still about to give me her number and shyt, but I declined it and was like I don't want to interrupt what you got going on, but I'll see you around.

My boy thinks I still should have gotten the digits and try to hang out with her, but I'm not trying to deal with a chick who's already dealing with another Nicca, wasting my time and money

 

[Rich Spirit]

Let me get the brehs take on this situation...

I approached a chick that works near my building and pretty much asked her that if she didn't have a current situation going on, we should get link up. She told me she did have a current situation but was still about to give me her number and shyt, but I declined it and was like I don't want to interrupt what you got going on, but I'll see you around.

My boy thinks I still should have gotten the digits and try to hang out with her, but I'm not trying to deal with a chick who's already dealing with another Nicca, wasting my time and money

All these chicks dealing with another nikka to a certain extent

 

[Atlrocafella]

All these chicks dealing with another nikka to a certain extent

True, but this one is telling me upfront that she is. So it's better for me to avoid that altogether.

 

[Youseenmywork]

 

[twan83]

Let me get the brehs take on this situation...

I approached a chick that works near my building and pretty much asked her that if she didn't have a current situation going on, we should get link up. She told me she did have a current situation but was still about to give me her number and shyt, but I declined it and was like I don't want to interrupt what you got going on, but I'll see you around.

My boy thinks I still should have gotten the digits and try to hang out with her, but I'm not trying to deal with a chick who's already dealing with another Nicca, wasting my time and money

Waste of time let alone can lead to serious issues with her lying later saying she ain't with dude but is and get caught in the act with how people are nowadays u getting shot or jumped half the time over p*ssy or dikk
Not worth it
I hear that I just walk away not worth my time for the unnecessary drama
And I've been in those situations not knowing she with a dude that alone says something
Be like u said ur single lying ass either married or have a bf who wanna fight u and shyt with his boys half the time

 

[InDePickWest]

Let me get the brehs take on this situation...

I approached a chick that works near my building and pretty much asked her that if she didn't have a current situation going on, we should get link up. She told me she did have a current situation but was still about to give me her number and shyt, but I declined it and was like I don't want to interrupt what you got going on, but I'll see you around.

My boy thinks I still should have gotten the digits and try to hang out with her, but I'm not trying to deal with a chick who's already dealing with another Nicca, wasting my time and money

A guy that's not willing to be the side nikka?