Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[patscorpio]

Yeah, a lot of these new age women are vulgar and crude in their mannerisms. They will openly talk about sexually doing this or that with a celebrity when they got a man. They will have 10,000 homeboys on the list as back-ups or guys they are actually boogeying with even while they are with their man.

Just going back and catching up on stuff in this GOAT Coli thread (next to the boxing one) and this statement triggered something that's happened in recent times. I have 2 homegirls both I met in my undergrad days in college. Both are college educated, got multiple degrees, have good jobs ,the whole nine. But gotdamn they have some filthy ass mouths and minds that they have no problem expressing to me. One homegirl has 2 kids with 2 different nikkas. Stays complaining that only dudes only want her for sex but in random text convos to me has no problem telling me that she's horny all the time, fukks these nikkas with no protection, and even had an abortion. She had no shame telling me all this. It was so vulgar brehs , The other homegirl has no kids, a fitness nut, religious, and has been celibate for the past 3 years. In conversations she has flat out told me she has been part of 3 somes before (MFF variety) and she dreams of getting eaten out damn near every night. Also has a knack of turning the minor things into wild descriptive sexual innuendos but she won't give it up again until she gets into another relationship.

Plus they both know i'm in a relationship so this is like teasing me when they tell me all this dirty shyt. It's so demonic

 

[CrossBones]

I still think How to win friends and influence people is a good book though.

good looking out with the book idea. I looked online and found something on that. Im looking forward to listening to it this week. if yall dont want to buy a book, check one out of the local library, or download a copy, theres plenty of other avenues to get what you want. theres a few parts out there, but I want to finish part one and two this week.

theres a wealth of knowledge out there for us, brehs. use your time wise.

Spoiler

[ame]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7diieEraTZQ[/ame]

 

[sixsixtwo]

Why I support men's rights - my story : MensRights

 

[sixsixtwo]

"Well, we started out as a group, but this last club we landed in had a pretty awesome band playing and we started to make friends. I noticed the guitar player really taking a shine to the bride to be and being flirty with her during their set.

We all kinda got scattered for a little while, the band took a break at about midnight or 1am. I went to go pee and heard the tell-tale slapping of someone having sex in the stall next to me. I started laughing to myself, then all of a sudden saw the veil my friend had on fall on the floor. OMG!!!!!!!

I didn't realize til later it was the guitar player til I saw his shoes. lmao.

Then as soon as they finished, there was this whispered talk between them about her being on birth control and her sneaking him into her hotel room after the band finished for the night.

I guess it is more my job to keep it a secret than to stop her."

I was out with friends for a bachelorette party / night out on the town. The bride to be got pretty drunk and turned girls gone wild. : sex

 

[beezy]

Ok, so the time has come for me to let this out. ive been an avid reader of this thread for a while now and feel like its the illest trillest realest thread of all time, and i could benefit from sharing my situation. this may be a little long so please bare with me

Heres my background: (i know it may sound bad at first but listen) Im 23, married and have a son.. yea i know, i fukked up, bein locked down in my prime and all but heres the thing: i was in college when i started dating my wife; i was a lil player makin rounds with my boys and all, and she was a good girl i had known for a good 10 years. She wasnt easy and was def hard to get, and even broke my heart because i was a simp, and the problem was that she came from a religious home,maybe wanted someone who could relate, and her parents didnt want their daughter with my "goon" ass. she had only had one serious bf before me which was also a "good" kid and went to the same church whatever whatever, but she stepped all over him and got bored of him. so i came along and shook up her world. i even turned the tables and broke her heart for the first time and humbled her. once we were on the same page, we ended up just leaving our parent's homes to be with eachother being so caught up in love.. she got pregnant months down the line.. i was a fulltime college student working fulltime overnight and just didnt see any other option but to join the military to support us. of course i would have to marry her in order to do that, so i did. and we've done good.. livin in hawaii, got our own place, vehicles, everything we want and need. (and no, i dont deploy with my job in intelligence so thats never been an issue) im gettin out next year and have great paying job offers lined up.

So heres the issue: fast forward 3 years: being the young man i am, good looking, in shape, money, and a bright future ahead of me, im like bored, and looking at the grass bein greener on the other side. Shes a good girl.. i mean reading all the stuff in this thread makes her seem like a diamond in the rough at times.. she cooks, cleans, great mom, has values and morals, id say a solid 8/10 in terms of looks,obviously no "body count" conisidering im the second man shes been with, great in bed.. and she really loves me and will do just about anything for me.. I even installed a keylogger on our computer to make sure shes not frontin, and to date i havent had any suspicions. shes also not good lying so i think i can always tell. yea that may sound perfect to some of yall, but me, i want to travel the world like yall talk about, experience stuff like that, start new hobbies, drive a sports car, pull bytches, basically WHATEVER I WANT. like maybe if i was in my 30's this would be enough, but i cant help it.. and i stick thru it cuz i feel like maybe thats selfish; particularly cuz i want to be with my son.. i also wouldnt wanna toss a good girl and some other nikka reap the benefits, and then me regret it.. mind you, things arent all perfect as you might think, shes still a woman, still gets on my nerves, has jealousy and insecurity issues, we argue about our differences plenty, she can be self centered in thinking that her feelings matter the most and act unappreciative.. but that comes with all relationshyts i guess..

maybe it was pointless to write all this, but whatever.. i dont have many other people to talk to and some of you seem knowledgeable and experienced.. what do yall think?

 

[Malta]

Ok, so the time has come for me to let this out. ive been an avid reader of this thread for a while now and feel like its the illest trillest realest thread of all time, and i could benefit from sharing my situation. this may be a little long so please bare with me

Heres my background: (i know it may sound bad at first but listen) Im 23, married and have a son.. yea i know, i fukked up, bein locked down in my prime and all but heres the thing: i was in college when i started dating my wife; i was a lil player makin rounds with my boys and all, and she was a good girl i had known for a good 10 years. She wasnt easy and was def hard to get, and even broke my heart because i was a simp, and the problem was that she came from a religious home and her parents didnt want their daughter with my "goon" ass. she had only had one serious bf before me which was also goody goody and went to the same church whatever whatever, but she stepped all over him and got bored of him. so i came along and shook up her world, etc etc i even turned the tables and broke her heart for the first time and humbled her. once we were on the same page, we ended up just leaving our parent's homes to be with eachother being so caught up in love.. she got pregnant months down the line.. i was a fulltime college student working fulltime overnight and just didnt see any other option but to join the military to support us. of course i would have to marry her in order to do that, so i did. and we've done good.. livin in hawaii, got our own place, vehicles, everything we want and need. (and no, i dont deploy with my job in intelligence so thats never been an issue) im gettin out next year and have great paying job offers lined up.

So heres the issue: fast forward 3 years: being the young man i am, good looking, in shape, money, and a bright future ahead of me, im like bored, and looking at the grass bein greener on the other side. Shes a good girl.. i mean reading all the stuff in this thread makes her seem like a diamond in the rough at times.. she cooks, cleans, great mom, has values and morals, id say a solid 8/10 in terms of looks,obviously no "body count" conisidering im the second man shes been with, great in bed.. and she really loves me and will do just about anything for me.. I even installed a keylogger on our computer to make sure shes not frontin, and to date i havent had any suspicions. shes also not good lying so i think i can always tell. yea that may sound perfect to some of yall, but me, i want to travel the world like yall talk about, experience stuff like that, start new hobbies, drive a sports car, pull bytches, basically WHATEVER I WANT. like maybe if i was in my 30's this would be enough, but i cant help it.. and i stick thru it cuz i feel like maybe thats selfish; particularly cuz i want to be with my son.. i also wouldnt wanna toss a good girl and some other nikka reap the benefits, and then me regret it.. mind you, things arent all perfect as you might think, shes still a woman, still gets on my nerves, has jealousy and insecurity issues, we argue about our differences plenty, she can be self centered in thinking that her feelings matter the most and act unappreciative.. but that comes with all relationshyts i guess..

maybe it was pointless to write all this, but whatever.. i dont have many other people to talk to and some of you seem knowledgeable and experienced.. what do yall think?

Sounds like you have a good woman, if you read closely most men in this thread want something similar to what you have. I have been with my girl for 7 years, we have two kids together, she is the love of my life without question and I wouldn't trade her to just go out and fukk chicks. That is an empty hollow lifestyle, and while it might be fun for a while even pimps have 1 main chick, so you might feel bored but there's ways you can fix that.


The grass isn't always greener on the other side, you just find out it's just some different grass. She's not stopping you from starting new hobbies, buying a sports car or traveling. I know you feel trapped, mostly because you're young but you need to ask yourself what are you really missing out on? Maybe it happened for you too young, but there's a lot of men out there that would trade what they have for what you have.

Since you're in the military, why not start checking postings in other locations and basically travel that way?

 

[CrossBones]

"Well, we started out as a group, but this last club we landed in had a pretty awesome band playing and we started to make friends. I noticed the guitar player really taking a shine to the bride to be and being flirty with her during their set.

We all kinda got scattered for a little while, the band took a break at about midnight or 1am. I went to go pee and heard the tell-tale slapping of someone having sex in the stall next to me. I started laughing to myself, then all of a sudden saw the veil my friend had on fall on the floor. OMG!!!!!!!

I didn't realize til later it was the guitar player til I saw his shoes. lmao.

Then as soon as they finished, there was this whispered talk between them about her being on birth control and her sneaking him into her hotel room after the band finished for the night.

I guess it is more my job to keep it a secret than to stop her."

I was out with friends for a bachelorette party / night out on the town. The bride to be got pretty drunk and turned girls gone wild. : sex

this is why there needs to be no serious attachment to modern women. never act like the world stops without them. more often than not, they aint shyt. theyre mostly a temporary luxury these days. guys are going crazy over girls that arent even what they think they are.

if she can just fukk and give it up to someone else that easy, then why would anyone want to settle with that? and the girls think its normal and ok to "go wild." if women are that easy to fukk and disregard (like for the drummer), then why even stress locking them down or when one leaves? wheres the value there? get another. dudes need to be disconcerning over women that arent bringing anything of real value. p*ssy is just p*ssy. dont stay with a girl for p*ssy access or act like everything goes to shyt because shes gone. dont treat them like they are important when they just want to party and go wild.

 

[CrossBones]

maybe it was pointless to write all this, but whatever.. i dont have many other people to talk to and some of you seem knowledgeable and experienced.. what do yall think?

dont fukk her over. you wont get many chances to have a real, down ass chick.


yeh going wild and doing your thing is cool, so why dont you do that? travel WITH her. do some romantic shyt together. get HER some hobbies and get your own. then share in them every now and again. shes your partner, man. make sure you both have individual lives, but always share your most important times together

all that crazy shyt, its a cycle that leads to more crazy shyt. its for single men. SINGLE. but for a man that has a child, and a down ass wifey, its not all that and it will get crazy for you. build something more important and long lasting with her.

 

[beezy]

Sounds like you have a good woman, if you read closely most men in this thread want something similar to what you have. I have been with my girl for 7 years, we have two kids together, she is the love of my life without question and I wouldn't trade her to just go out and fukk chicks. That is an empty hollow lifestyle, and while it might be fun for a while even pimps have 1 main chick, so you might feel bored but there's ways you can fix that.


The grass isn't always greener on the other side, you just find out it's just some different grass. She's not stopping you from starting new hobbies, buying a sports car or traveling. I know you feel trapped, mostly because you're young but you need to ask yourself what are you really missing out on? Maybe it happened for you too young, but there's a lot of men out there that would trade what they have for what you have.

Since you're in the military, why not start checking postings in other locations and basically travel that way?

See, you say with certainty that your girl is the "love of your life" and all that, but what if i dont have that feeling? I mean, i suppose that things will never be like they were when it first started, that lust for her.. and sure, the feeling fades and its supposed to be a different kind of love.. but that understanding doesnt make me any happier. i mean, we're all just in pursuit of happiness right? sometimes i feel like maybe i could find that outside of this situation.. but i question whether or not its just a temporary thing, and maybe even next week, ill be happy and satisfied again with my life, who knows. i just dont wanna be in my 30s or somethin lookin back and feeling like i wasted my youth.. i dont wanna be that older guy advising my son to not do like i did and be full of regrets. i mean we're only 4 years into this and im already feeling like this? what happens if 10 years in we split up, then ill feel like a scrub for not pullin the plug earlier.

i get what your sayin man, but im still a bit confused; still growin, still learning, and finding myself. i just wish i had done more of that before settling down. as far as hobbies and traveling and stuff goes, i just figure if i was single id have much more time to focus on me and do alot more.. my time is really strained right now with work,school, and trying to spend time with my fam. and of course, i got single friends that tell me all about the wild shyt theyre doin and i wish i could participate.. i mean i go out with the boys every once in the blue, and i have fun.. and i miss doin that all the time.. my one friend thats also married even got himself a baadd lil "mistress" while we were out.. i can say, all that may be cloudin my judgment and influencing me, but it just feels bad thinkin everyone else is havin a great time and im here miserable at times.

 

[beezy]

dont fukk her over. you wont get many chances to have a real, down ass chick.


yeh going wild and doing your thing is cool, so why dont you do that? travel WITH her. do some romantic shyt together. get HER some hobbies and get your own. then share in them every now and again. shes your partner, man. make sure you both have individual lives, but always share your most important times together

all that crazy shyt, its a cycle that leads to more crazy shyt. its for single men. SINGLE. but for a man that has a child, and a down ass wifey, its not all that and it will get crazy for you. build something more important and long lasting with her.

traveling WITH her just doesnt seem as fun tbh.. i mean, when we go out together im bored lookin around thinkin i could be havin fun right now if i were solo. and gettin us hobbies is SOO much easier said than done. ive tried talkin about it to her. but i just dont know WTF she could do! i can easily find things to do, ALL the time, and have varied interests.. she does not. shes never really been into anything. plus with a 2 year old, its hard to do anything with very limited childcare. i understand that what you're saying is we need to have fun together and spark some sorta flame but believe me, ive been trying..

 

[Wild self]

I seen an ex on twitter, she's starting to look Face all greasy, cheeks getting bigger, no body pics so I know time is just wearing that ass out. Meanwhile, I'm now in the best shape of my life and my family ages extremely well to begin with.

This is a chick I was really feeling when I was younger too, thank god she never got pregnant.

I see that a lot whenever I go to my facebook as well. I knew this extroverted chick that had niccas buy her mad shyt and trick on her like mad. She real gassed up cause she ad this BAD ass body. Ass, thighs, hips.

Until I saw her for her 27th birthday. SHe was looking all fat in the face and, similar to your situation, reluctant to show off that body. She also complains that she is gonna find a husband one way or the other this spring cause she is scared of "not having kids when her eggs are fertile."

Then I realized that time, on a chick, is her worst enemy. Time on a man is our best friend

 

[CrossBones]

traveling WITH her just doesnt seem as fun tbh.. i mean, when we go out together im bored lookin around thinkin i could be havin fun right now if i were solo. and gettin us hobbies is SOO much easier said than done. ive tried talkin about it to her. but i just dont know WTF she could do! i can easily find things to do, ALL the time, and have varied interests.. she does not. shes never really been into anything. plus with a 2 year old, its hard to do anything with very limited childcare. i understand that what you're saying is we need to have fun together and spark some sorta flame but believe me, ive been trying..

so how is she stopping you from having fun when youre out or traveling? you have to take the reigns and find shyt that would be fun for yall. and for hobbies, I know she probably cooks, but how about getting her to take a cooking class, or an art class at the local community college? or photography? sign her up for yoga. get her signed up for a book club.


you gotta occupy these womens minds and time. find her shyt to do. tell her to join the PTA and help with events. she has to be proactive with her freetime. get the fam to help with baby watching. it gives you more freetime as well.

see outside of that, it looks like all shes doing is stopping you from random puss. I dont know what else it is youre missing. if thats it, Id say its not worth it to sacrifice all that you built. in my opinion.

anything you want to do when youre "young" you can always do anways. money is the only real factor on deciding if you can. and if you choose to break up a home so you could start paying child support and alimony - that wont give you more money. it also takes the child away from you more often that not. all the things you want to do like sports, hobbies, dress fly, hang with friends, travel, etc etc you can still do.

but finding another woman who is down for you for real for real?

the only thing you cant do with your lady is find other women (maybe). so what? bytches are a mess these days. I would recommend to stay and to do what you would do if you were single, just with her in your life. cus you can go anywhere, have fun, then come home and have guaranteed p*ssy. not like guys who are going out hoping for the best, sometimes its dry out there or they settle for fives and sixes. just have fun and go home and fukk her like a random bytch. you got it all right now, you just need to reestablish the things you want to do in your life, and work her into it too.

Spoiler

and if youre going to get some random strange every blue moon like your boys, what I heard from an old head was
rule one: never let it be someone you know or knows where you live
rule two: make sure she knows its a one off.
rule three: fukk and use protection
rule four:dont replace your woman with this side piece of ass. she is just ass.
rule five: go out with toss away clothes. come back in your regualr shyt. never bring that shyt close to her or your life again.

 

[Malta]

See, you say with certainty that your girl is the "love of your life" and all that, but what if i dont have that feeling? I mean, i suppose that things will never be like they were when it first started, that lust for her.. and sure, the feeling fades and its supposed to be a different kind of love.. but that understanding doesnt make me any happier. i mean, we're all just in pursuit of happiness right? sometimes i feel like maybe i could find that outside of this situation.. but i question whether or not its just a temporary thing, and maybe even next week, ill be happy and satisfied again with my life, who knows. i just dont wanna be in my 30s or somethin lookin back and feeling like i wasted my youth.. i dont wanna be that older guy advising my son to not do like i did and be full of regrets. i mean we're only 4 years into this and im already feeling like this? what happens if 10 years in we split up, then ill feel like a scrub for not pullin the plug earlier.

I don't know what to say in that event, I don't necessarily lust after my girl, but I still find her very attractive and what we have is based around being friends as well as lovers. I think you might have gotten locked up too young, you've been with her since you were 19, and essentially been a husband role since then. I think it may be hard for you to appreciate what you have to be honest.

i get what your sayin man, but im still a bit confused; still growin, still learning, and finding myself. i just wish i had done more of that before settling down. as far as hobbies and traveling and stuff goes, i just figure if i was single id have much more time to focus on me and do alot more.. my time is really strained right now with work,school, and trying to spend time with my fam. and of course, i got single friends that tell me all about the wild shyt theyre doin and i wish i could participate.. i mean i go out with the boys every once in the blue, and i have fun.. and i miss doin that all the time.. my one friend thats also married even got himself a baadd lil "mistress" while we were out.. i can say, all that may be cloudin my judgment and influencing me, but it just feels bad thinkin everyone else is havin a great time and im here miserable at times.

I like traveling with my girl as much as I do traveling by myself, I've had long term experiences of traveling by myself and while I love it, sharing experiences with someone you love is great as well. It sounds like you've already kind of made up your mind to be honest, sounds like you want us to talk you out of something you know you're going to do.

 

[kevm3]

Exactly, don't toss your loyal woman overboard because you will see what the jungles are like out here. Toss your decent woman away and start smashing these hoes and one of them will pass you an std... or if you get them pregnant, 18 years of child support coming your way.

With where you're at, I would focus my energy on interesting hobbies. Obviously, you have to take care of your family obligations, but that doesn't mean you can't save and take your family on a trip. Don't give up family and a loyal woman to go mashing on some hoes.

As a man, it's up to you to find things to keep you entertained, but there's a ton you can do within the context of the marriage. If you are going to travel, you will just have to have a fly place to take your family.

You might have to end up doing something like hunting, fishing or just something fly you can take your son on as well.

Don't give up your family and wife to deal with these wild women. They will have you in a situation you don't want to be in.

 

[Malta]

By the way, you live in Hawaii fam, take her on dates on some high school shyt. It's easy to ignite a spark in your woman with simple things, especially romantic things that they like. You take her on a picnic, make lover to her on the beach at night, and you'll wake up the next morning with her looking at you like you just invented the cure for everything. It buys you more stress free time.

That said, if you're truly unhappy then you should just call it quits, but not to smash random hoes. If you need to find yourself, then I can understand, but if you're ending it to fukk sluts, then I can't.