Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[nomoreneveragain]

So for a guy who is more on the cautious side, how does he determine whether she's being genuine or not? Is it a certain time frame or what?

Her Actions

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

Her Actions

Well yea, I meant more time wise. It was mentioned above that some men can't trust a woman's actions from the jump, so I was wondering how much time he invests to determine her authenticity.

 

[Kal El]

Well yea, I meant more time wise. It was mentioned above that some men can't trust a woman's actions from the jump, so I was wondering how much time he invests to determine her authenticity.

Funny you mention this scenario since I've been dating this woman for two months who's extremely generous.

She's offered to pay for every date (I don't let her, we alternate), and she gets me random gifts for no special occasion. She's even offered to help me with tuition. Sometimes we meet up in between classes and she brings me lunch without asking.

I took her virginity so I don't think there's any ulterior motives, but I always have my guard up....

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

Funny you mention this scenario since I've been dating this woman for two months who's extremely generous.

She's offered to pay for every date (I don't let her, we alternate), and she gets me random gifts for no special occasion. She's even offered to help me with tuition. Sometimes we meet up in between classes and she brings me lunch without asking.

I took her virginity so I don't think there's any ulterior motives, but I always have my guard up....

The offering to pay for tuition is a little extra lol but everything else seems okay. If you don't suspect any ulterior motives, then why are you still so guarded?

 

[nomoreneveragain]

Well yea, I meant more time wise. It was mentioned above that some men can't trust a woman's actions from the jump, so I was wondering how much time he invests to determine her authenticity.

Good measuring stick is by the depth of the conversations.

My girl did something for me, that cost no money and I knew she was legit.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

Good measuring stick is by the depth of the conversations.

Elaborate

 

[nomoreneveragain]

Elaborate

When we first dated we talked about mainly Pokemon Go and Baseball.

Now we talk about things with more substance:

I remember I told her in passing I was thinking about being a refugee officer next year and 2 weeks later she hits me up telling me how she spent her lunch that day talking to a refugee officer and got all this information for me.

That one action set it off for me.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

When we first dated we talked about mainly Pokemon Go and Baseball.

Now we talk about things with more substance:

I remember I told her in passing I was thinking about being a refugee officer next year and 2 weeks later she hits me up telling me how she spent her lunch that day talking to a refugee officer and got all this information for me.

That one action set it off for me.

Very, very thoughtful of her

 

[kevm3]

Well yea, I meant more time wise. It was mentioned above that some men can't trust a woman's actions from the jump, so I was wondering how much time he invests to determine her authenticity.

Most men aren't used to women being genuinely open and kind and are used to being buttered up for some kind of favor in the future, so it's not a surprise he was thrown off guard. There's no exact time period that will determine when his skepticism will diminish, but as long as he sees that you aren't going to come out asking for some kind of 'favor', he should eventually come around and see your generosity as authentic unless he's one of those guys who are always paranoid and skeptical.

 

[TRUEST]

Good measuring stick is by the depth of the conversations.

My girl did something for me, that cost no money and I knew she was legit.

was the refugee officer she spoke to a man? she spoke to him and got his information for you. what do you think was going through the "refugee officer's" mind when a girl whom i presume is probably attractive, was asking for his "information"?

ur girl may have done this with an honest mind, but knowing women, they wont talk to you unless they're somewhat attracted to you.

but hey, if no warning signs are being kicked off in ur gut, to each his own my dude.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

was the refugee officer she spoke to a man? she spoke to him and got his information for you. what do you think was going through the "refugee officer's" mind when a girl whom i presume is probably attractive, was asking for his "information"?

ur girl may have done this with an honest mind, but knowing women, they wont talk to you unless they're somewhat attracted to you.

but hey, if no warning signs are being kicked off in ur gut, to each his own my dude.

See, I read his story and nothing of this sort came to my mind. She wouldn't have even approached the person if it wasn't for her boyfriend.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

All you have to do is like him...lol. Go out on the town and have a good time.

 

[Youseenmywork]

You gotta keep this in mind.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I see this everyday every day and it's sad to watch. Been gave up on this a looonnngg time ago.

 

[Youseenmywork]

the irony