Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

Breh I knew this chick for 4 years and when I met her i was tryna holla at her. Long story short we have an on and off friendship. I never got to fukk bc she claimed she was a virgin and waiting for marriage, and I actually do believe that. But these last two weeks I been kicking it with her and she digging me and all that again, and I make out with her and finger her and she squirted and all that. But ever since then she been mad annoying and clingy, keep asking "where do we go from here" and them annoying ass questions like that. The thing is she know how I am, I ain't waiting for marriage and I'm not sacrificing sex, that's part of the reason we never could further our relationship. I know I'm kinda fukked up bc i completely stop caring after that lil event, but she also forcing the issue. She just texted me 7x and called 4x (all ignored) in a row, asking the same shyt and tryna talk shyt out. And the crazy thing is yesterday I told her to stop forcing the issue.

I'm thinking about blocking her ass low-key, but I ain't really tryna be an a$$hole

just tell her the truth. You like her and are attracted to her but not ready for a relationship right now. You just want to go with the flow. Tell her every time you see her you get turned on and want to take it further on a physical level but that if she wants more than that, it's better for thr both of you to stop seeing each other. Tell her you wanted to be honest cause that's the type of guy you are. If she tries to guilt you into a relationship, tell her it's better you guys stop talking. If she says she's not sure, tell her to figure it out and get back to you if she changes her mind. After that let her choose. It'll be her doing. But if she's already acting clingy then

If you already fingered her and she's still trying to act like a virgin, don't even feel bad for her breh.

 

[1thouwow]

just tell her the truth. You like her and are attracted to her but not ready for a relationship right now. You just want to go with the flow. Tell her every time you see her you get turned on and want to take it further on a physical level but that if she wants more than that, it's better for thr both of you to stop seeing each other. Tell her you wanted to be honest cause that's the type of guy you are. If she tries to guilt you into a relationship, tell her it's better you guys stop talking. If she says she's not sure, tell her to figure it out and get back to you if she changes her mind. After that let her choose. It'll be her doing. But if she's already acting clingy then

If you already fingered her and she's still trying to act like a virgin, don't even feel bad for her breh.

I've known her for 4 years. She knows where I stand, and I reiterate that quite often. She just blowing me. I finally picked up her call and she said the same shyt we talked about the other day, but try to flip it like it was some new revelation. I'm thinking about blocking her

 

[Turbulent]

I've known her for 4 years. She knows where I stand, and I reiterate that quite often. She just blowing me. I finally picked up her call and she said the same shyt we talked about the other day, but try to flip it like it was some new revelation. I'm thinking about blocking her

she wants you but without the guilt that she broke her principle. Basically she wants you to take responsibility for her choice by either promising her something or giving her a title. That way, of it doesn't work out she can pretend in her mind that you played her and took advantage of her. Sounds like you are right, maybe you should just cease contact. But i wouldn't just do it out of the blue. I would break it down to her first so that she expects you not to reply to her texts

 

[1thouwow]

she wants you but without the guilt that she broke her principle. Basically she wants you to take responsibility for her choice by either promising her something or giving her a title. That way, of it doesn't work out she can pretend in her mind that you played her and took advantage of her. Sounds like you are right, maybe you should just cease contact. But i wouldn't just do it out of the blue. I would break it down to her first so that she expects you not to reply to her texts

Lmao my nikka, I been breaking it down to her since that shyt happen.

 

[Turbulent]

Lmao my nikka, I been breaking it down to her since that shyt happen.

you own her soul then

 

[NeilCartwright]

How do yall deal with women coming out and telling you they want yall to be exclusive?

Once they do that i cant just say "Nah, im not really ready for all that" bc then i wont be able to fck...Its fukked up but i usually tell them what they want to hear, or be ambiguous in my answers to that question.

Im in two situations like that where the girl thinks im trying to be there man and all that

 

[Turbulent]

How do yall deal with women coming out and telling you they want yall to be exclusive?

Once they do that i cant just say "Nah, im not really ready for all that" bc then i wont be able to fck...Its fukked up but i usually tell them what they want to hear, or be ambiguous in my answers to that question.

Im in two situations like that where the girl thinks im trying to be there man and all that

not necessarely true. if you tell her you don't want a relaionship and leave it at that you might not fukk again but if you follow it up with a reinforcement that you like the way things are now then her ego might convince her own self that she wants the same thing as you deep down.

 

[Brandsdale]

THIS. The more you txt her the more she gonna find something to not like about you. Just txt her to set up dates and leave her boring ass alone. No need for stupid convos.

dead ass

sometimes you have to be careful how many layers you peel away and expose yourself to a chic

 

[Loud Still Coolin]

S/o to all y'all in here rocking and going getting it in. 2016 was a hellish demonic year for me. Reading y'all stories reassure me there is grown single women out there. I don't do the social media and I'm not jealous type. I just made poor decisions in 2016 messing with all the wrong hoes and wrong nigas hoes. I been a side nikka my whole life. It got to end. No more playing with the unavailable in 2kno17. Its not worth it if invisible entitled boyfriend and baby daddies gon stalk you text you or even abuse their choosing ass counterpart etc. No more easy sneaky scandalous broads. Couple hoes got locked too. Backin off. New vibes.

 

[Rell Lauren]

Need to start hitting bars solo after work to see if I can pull something.

 

[Mr210]

How do yall deal with women coming out and telling you they want yall to be exclusive?

Once they do that i cant just say "Nah, im not really ready for all that" bc then i wont be able to fck...Its fukked up but i usually tell them what they want to hear, or be ambiguous in my answers to that question.

Im in two situations like that where the girl thinks im trying to be there man and all that

Just be honest...if you just want sex, find females that only want sex as well

 

[Brandsdale]

from what ive noticed with this whole realm of dealing with women and relations and what not theres one thing Ive noticed and wanted to write about that came to me yesterday

with women one of my homies reiterates a point all the time that nikkas, especially in the winter time or i.e, "cuffing season", usually date, have a fling or get in a relationship with a chic because its convenient, cheap p*ssy at the end of the day. In certain fields of work, you're either freelancing or working a fulltime career in terms of where your goals or preference is in a career, same thing with women- you're either freelancing some p*ssy from time to time and fukkin chics left right and center on your own time whenever you want it with no strings attached or you're settling with ONE chic and keeping her on permanently fulltime. With freelancing you have the opportunity to work freely and grab clients and work on contract with companies that require your services and allows you space to do your own thing, travel for as long as you like, not have to stick to one place etc., kind of like chasing p*ssy where you're free to do whatever you want with whomever you want BUT the problem with freelance work is that it kinda screws you in the long run because you dont achieve any benefits from companies and dont acquire the necessities that you might need later on in life like dental, life insurance, retirement plans and what not and you're pretty much working until you're dead. With women you have freedom but you lose out on having someone that you can grow with and you get lonely and bored, although im sure some men would beg to differ depending on how much money you racking in.

now with working a fulltime job, you're a liiiiittle constrained how much vacation days you have and time off and sick days but ultimately its the bread and butter/safety net because you know you will always have work and always getting paid. It might get a little annoying coming into an office everyday and doing the same shyt, same meetings, some work outings, same people etc, but you're safe because you know you wont have to go out there like a freelancer and look for work all the time to make ends meat. With women the average guy gets sick and tired of all the games, dates, and nonses we gotta deal with just to get p*ssy that if we settle down with a chic for a bit we dont have to exhaust ourselves chasing p*ssy and having convenience is a peace of mind. Im sure that as men we might get anooyed with women we're dealing with in a relationship but at the end of the day the thought of having exhaust ourselves for p*ssy might become influence us to shutup and dwell once we realize we have a companion at home that we dont have to chase after. Im sure that the feeling of wanting to be free and not have to be tied down might be very enticing but as one of my friends once said you can fukk a thousand bytches and what not but at one point you get tired of it and feel yove made your mark or had you're fun. Its not a contest and no ones trying to break a Guinness World Record, and im sure Wilt Chamberlain and Dan Bilzerian both hold the record so there's no point in even trying to compete

 

[lamont614]

At least you are learning breh. See how she contacted you when you stopped contacting her? See how she agreed to come to your place when you made your move? Your whole energy was probably "fukk it, what do i have to lose" when you asked her over. Maybe you were a little too rough when kissing on her. Foreplay starts in the mind. Tease her, play with her, say sexy shyt to her, same way she came to you when you gave her space, give her space to invite you on her body. But fukk it, you kissed on her, got close, etc maybe she was just playing stupid games. Don't sweat it.

And another thing, stop blowing her phone up. Stop looking for excuses to text her. She knows you want her. If and when she'll want you, she'll reach out just like last time when you gave her the space to do so. And then you invite her over straight.

Thank you for taking time out to reply

 

[Medio]

I used to be up in this thread a lot, shot out to all the homies here who gave advice.
I've since been in almost a 3 year happy relationship then stopped posting here really although I do not know everything, not even close. My girl was the one who never played text games or anything like that compared to everyone before her, I never had to worry about waiting 5 minutes or 5 hours or any shyt like that.

My girlfriend right now is the best women ever and I love her.
She always goes the extra mile for me, knows how to love me, makes me happy, knows how to cook and clean, has a great job and is educated.

Her and I are not from 'great' families and she had a harder upbringing than I and I'm excited to start our own foundation, to actually have a house, kids, send them to good schools, travel.

 

[Trapperman Dave]

I used to be up in this thread a lot, shot out to all the homies here who gave advice.
I've since been in almost a 3 year happy relationship then stopped posting here really although I do not know everything, not even close.

My girlfriend right now is the best women ever and I love her.
She always goes the extra mile for me, knows how to love me, makes me happy, knows how to cook and clean, has a great job and is educated.

Her and I are not from 'great' families and she had a harder upbringing than I and I'm excited to start our own foundation, to actually have a house, kids, send them to good schools, travel.

This reeks of love


But good luck on your relationship and future children