Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[twan83]

Aiite... I need some advice on my current situation.


I met this female on a dating site around the end of December, and I ended up adding her on Snapchat & basically forgetting about her.


Well last night she post a snap story of her body basically and I hit her up. Basically just said "damn girl wassup when are you free to kick it"

She surprised me and said "Tonight" so I showered and went n picked her up.. We went to a bar and had a few drinks

The date SEEMED good to me, her body language was good, she was laughing/smiling, and talking a lot


So when I went to drop her off I got out the car to get a hug or kiss, went for the kiss but got cheek.. I can't remembe the last time I got cheek and not lips.. So that killed my whole vibe cause it felt like the date went well...


So this morning I ended up texting her and here's what was said

Me: " I had fun last night, I feel like we vibe well"

Her: " I agree I had a good time too

Me: " so since you fluent in Spanish (she's black tho) lemme (in Spanish) can I get a second date with you"

Her: yeah we can have another date..

Me: okay coo..

Then.. no reply..


Basically she's got the fattest ass out of any of the females I've met online so far...

And she works 2 jobs and she was telling me she hasn't seen any of her friends in about a month or two because of her schedule.. but during the date at the bar she said she'd make time for a second date like she did that night..

So how should I go about this with out fukkin it up.. the ass is so fat I GOTTA hit


@twan83 (thoughts too)

Tread carefully cuz u hit her up so late and only did cuz of body snap
So she gonna make u work for it imo
It's y u got a kiss on cheek
Bet if u did responded within a week instead of damn near a month u be further in the bases too
Also any female doing that shyt just starving for attention imo which I hate
Don't get me wrong I still hit em up and try to smash but hard to take serious if u out here showing body shots all the time on instagram
Snapchat Facebook MySpace
Blackplanet etc....

Haven't seen her friends in a long time but made time for u is a good thing and a shady thing
cuz she could be feeling u a lot but also how she do her friends like that too if they close
It's subjective imo but not serious but just something of note

When she wanna see u again she will make time
Don't ask her again or keep asking her
U could just still txt or call her often and I say after bout a week and u still ain't got a answer of a date
While having a fun good convo be like in the middle so when we gonna go on our date and she still stalling
or just push her back of line and only talk when u feel like it every so often outta the blue
Then when she brings up 2nd date be like u kept stalling took it as u friend zone me so what be a reason to go out on 2nd date
If she gives u compelling reason u could go out for 2nd date and usually keyword usually they will be hella aggressive and try to make it up too u even let u hit
If she on same shyt while on date I cut it short and be like I ain't got time for games so I'm out

 

[Nuke Dukem]

Tread carefully cuz u hit her up so late and only did cuz of body snap
So she gonna make u work for it imo
It's y u got a kiss on cheek
Bet if u did responded within a week instead of damn near a month u be further in the bases too
Also any female doing that shyt just starving for attention imo which I hate
Don't get me wrong I still hit em up and try to smash but hard to take serious if u out here showing body shots all the time on instagram
Snapchat Facebook MySpace
Blackplanet etc....

Haven't seen her friends in a long time but made time for u is a good thing and a shady thing
cuz she could be feeling u a lot but also how she do her friends like that too if they close
It's subjective imo but not serious but just something of note

When she wanna see u again she will make time
Don't ask her again or keep asking her
U could just still txt or call her often and I say after bout a week and u still ain't got a answer of a date
While having a fun good convo be like in the middle so when we gonna go on our date and she still stalling
or just push her back of line and only talk when u feel like it every so often outta the blue
Then when she brings up 2nd date be like u kept stalling took it as u friend zone me so what be a reason to go out on 2nd date
If she gives u compelling reason u could go out for 2nd date and usually keyword usually they will be hella aggressive and try to make it up too u even let u hit
If she on same shyt while on date I cut it short and be like I ain't got time for games so I'm out

Okay I feel you... I feel you bro.. lemme ask you this though...


I'm in a weird spot when it comes to texting females I'm either one or the other

1- I text tooooo much and end up saying too much and talking myself out some p*ssy

2- I don't text at all and then the bytches kinda put ME on the backburner ( the average chicks won't, but the bad ones don't really put up with that..

So like this female I was asking about, she works two jobs and doesn't have a lot of free time..

So you're saying I should make small talk and then just try and get the date in.. like don't be gossiping with this bytch... talk set the date up and bounce

 

[twan83]

Okay I feel you... I feel you bro.. lemme ask you this though...


I'm in a weird spot when it comes to texting females I'm either one or the other

1- I text tooooo much and end up saying too much and talking myself out some p*ssy

2- I don't text at all and then the bytches kinda put ME on the backburner ( the average chicks won't, but the bad ones don't really put up with that..

So like this female I was asking about, she works two jobs and doesn't have a lot of free time..

So you're saying I should make small talk and then just try and get the date in.. like don't be gossiping with this bytch... talk set the date up and bounce

I treat all females the same regardless of how they look I txt when I wanna txt your ass simple as that
It comes down to how much I'm feeling u and how I view u
U should never txt a lot period if she blowing up ur phone respond of course but don't need to make it so much keep it simple breh
U gotta have a balance is ur problem don't look at bad females as superior than average treat their ass the same fukk all that they ain't no different or special just cuz of looks
If a female feelin u enough regardless of her looks she will let it be known by her actions she will blow ur shyt up or always make plans to wanna see u

Don't be thirsting over these females
For oh girl keep is simple like said she txting u and all u respond when u want not cuz u have too
And when u wanna go on date with her just ask her and she stall push her back of line simple as that

When females txt me I txt with a response of course how long of a txt depends on the question
But i txt them when I'm ready
If I take a long time to txt them i obviously don't have that much interest in them to be frank at that time but don't mean it can't start to go up cuz it can depending on how we convo
When I wanna see a female and she bullshytting I'm like ok coo
Back of line she goes or bushes she shall go
And when she ask y we don't talk as much or anymore I tell em I'm a grown as man I ain't got time for these games
Only games I play is video games
If u feeling me enough u would make it happen simple as that and that is 100% factual and true for any female regardless of schedule

She will know when she is free and make plans

Too many times guys worrying bout how soon or how often they should txt or call a female

To be frank there is no 100% correct answer cuz each female is different
Some want a lot some don't

It's y I say do it when u want too but at same time I also say this keep it balance

What I mean by this u don't need to be txt a female a lot or too little keep it between
Balance it by the how u feelin her and how she feelin u
She txt u a lot respond to her often but not overkill
She don't respond a lot fall back let her be she ain't feelin as much as u think or like
That's balance breh

Be front with these females don't sugar shyt
U wanna see her tell her that
She give shytty answer
Or put back burner for a fukk buddy

shyt I even tell a female if I just wanna fukk nothing more than that
Don't do this unless u know what the hell ur doing and u can talk to them
On a another level that most guys can't

For future reference breh
U can't talk and can talk urself outta p*ssy
Meaning yes when doing too much u ain't going nowhere
And no cuz some females find it attractive that u talk ur way outta of it as a sign aww it's cute I want him more

Be u but just balance ur shyt breh
Don't put these fine ass females on a pedastool they don't deserve it

IM a type a Dude that knocks them down several levels and give em reality check u ain't no diff than the others

One of em did my boy wrong
She didn't know he was my boy i smashed her then stopped talking to her and ended up dating her friend instead
She hit me with that why her she not me I said damn right she better looks ain't everything and by the way the guy u did dirty was my boy
She went on date with him and in middle of date left with another dude

How could her friend date me
It's simple she flirted with her ex bf long time so not like she forgot bout it
She even asked me am I the guy that smash her friend then ignore I said yea I didn't even know they were friends
Told her was just sex nothing more
Plus I told her straight up if that is issue that's on u but if u feelin me let's go on date sometime ur friend ain't shyt for how she did my boy and that's when she told me what her girl
Did to her ex bf

 

[PewPew]

I'm sorry I disagree with that statement she will comeback to be frank that's a load of bs
Ain't nothing guaranteed she will comeback
I get the day by day thing in a sense
But here is a couple of things
If y'all get back together
U can't say shyt or bring it up with her playing the field cuz she was allowed too cuz y'all broke up a lot of people do that nonesense if U ain't together it's free game to everyone
Don't use ur kid as a excuse like most do also
An unhappy is bad for a kid no way around it
They too smart and will notice it and it will effect them
Be prepared for the worse in case
Cuz u gotta consider her playing the field for the first time she won't return or if she does she won't be the same

Now having said that and being married for a 2nd time
Me and wifey had similar situation but just was having issues to the point neither of us happy had nothing to do with playing the field
But we went our separate ways for the best for us and our kids for several months but we're still civil and rotated the kids
We eventually found our way back to each other not by choice or force just happened cuz we figured solution to our problems before things got finalized and been doing good since then

I'm just giving u both sides of the coin from being married twice to where it didn't work out and it did but I never used my kids as a reason to stay not saying u are either but too many people do
Just want u to know there is hope but prepare for worse
Each case is different even more so when kid is involved
Ultimately it's ur choice but be smart and see things for what they are also don't be blind cuz u don't wanna lose her also if it comes down too it
I do wish u the best and don't blame u for wanna work it out with her at all
Most don't even wanna do that or try too just but each situation is different and everybody has a diff opinion on forgiveness from ok u hurt me but we can try to work it out or fukk that bushes u shall go

I do feel for u breh I truly do cuz I know how u felt
I never wanted to be married more than once breh but shyt happens but I'm grateful cuz I ended up with something better
7 yrs together 4 kids another 1 on the way
Got my own house
At same time even if we don't work out in the future I'll be ok cuz I'm mentally strong and understand what it's like to be a single father from experience
And refuse to be taken for granted

I bolded the parts that I feel like were straight nuggets of truth and information. You're absolutely right in every sense bro. In the beginning I was scared to let go but now im at peace with it. I definitely dont wanna us to work out solely for our kid and if she was not there, I would still be trying to get her back.

I know right now its a crap shoot about whether we will get back or not but I am just enjoying finding my own happiness and letting shorty do her. Ultimately what's going to happen is going to happen, and regardless of how this plays out, I will always have love for her and treat her with the repect she deserves. Theres plenty of fish in the sea, just focused on getting my CCNA cert and losing weight/being an amazing father

I didnt get here overnight either, took a lot of sleepless night and depression to get here. But what doesnt kill you makes you wiser and stronger

 

[twan83]

I bolded the parts that I feel like were straight nuggets of truth and information. You're absolutely right in every sense bro. In the beginning I was scared to let go but now im at peace with it. I definitely dont wanna us to work out solely for our kid and if she was not there, I would still be trying to get her back.

I know right now its a crap shoot about whether we will get back or not but I am just enjoying finding my own happiness and letting shorty do her. Ultimately what's going to happen is going to happen, and regardless of how this plays out, I will always have love for her and treat her with the repect she deserves. Theres plenty of fish in the sea, just focused on getting my CCNA cert and losing weight/being an amazing father

I didnt get here overnight either, took a lot of sleepless night and depression to get here. But what doesnt kill you makes you wiser and stronger

Yea be that amazing father as best as u can be and that cert
Better urself like u said
If y'all work out good for u and the kid
If she don't comeback stay the course
Anybody can leave someone but forgiving and working it out cuz u both want too takes a strong mental person and it can work out under the right circumstances of course
Hate it when it involves kids
shyt is
Cuz nobody asked for it too happen sometimes 2 people or one person grow apart from one another just happens and sometimes ur both better off that way
Breakups don't always involve cheating I tell people or it's someone's fault shyt like growing apart or falling out of love and not getting it back happens

I wish u the best of luck tho breh
Be there for ur kid as much as possible

 

[Squirtle]

Okay I feel you... I feel you bro.. lemme ask you this though...


I'm in a weird spot when it comes to texting females I'm either one or the other

1- I text tooooo much and end up saying too much and talking myself out some p*ssy

2- I don't text at all and then the bytches kinda put ME on the backburner ( the average chicks won't, but the bad ones don't really put up with that..

So like this female I was asking about, she works two jobs and doesn't have a lot of free time..

So you're saying I should make small talk and then just try and get the date in.. like don't be gossiping with this bytch... talk set the date up and bounce

This is a girl you said you just wanna hit, yet you are asking for advice as if she makes you nervous and gives you butterflies or something. You sound like a real bytch to be honest. If you just wanna hit it and quit it why the fukk do you care so much? You sound like you caught feelings breh.

But I'll tell you right now, she just wants attention. I can tell because although she posts body shots on social media, she didn't even let you kiss her on the first date. That right there shows you she aint about that life. Which is a good thing if you caught feelings, bad if you just want to smash.

 

[PewPew]

Yea be that amazing father as best as u can be and that cert
Better urself like u said
If y'all work out good for u and the kid
If she don't comeback stay the course
Anybody can leave someone but forgiving and working it out cuz u both want too takes a strong mental person and it can work out under the right circumstances of course
Hate it when it involves kids
shyt is
Cuz nobody asked for it too happen sometimes 2 people or one person grow apart from one another just happens and sometimes ur both better off that way
Breakups don't always involve cheating I tell people or it's someone's fault shyt like growing apart or falling out of love and not getting it back happens

I wish u the best of luck tho breh
Be there for ur kid as much as possible

Thanks bro! I see my daughter EVERY weekend without fail. Honestly being a father makes me want to better myself soooo much its not even funny. Im truly praying for the best but im going to make sure my daughter and I are Gucci regardless. thanks for the love bro

 

[Squirtle]

Thanks bro! I see my daughter EVERY weekend without fail. Honestly being a father makes me want to better myself soooo much its not even funny. Im truly praying for the best but im going to make sure my daughter and I are Gucci regardless. thanks for the love bro

 

[4North1Side2]

Aiite... I need some advice on my current situation.


I met this female on a dating site around the end of December, and I ended up adding her on Snapchat & basically forgetting about her.


Well last night she post a snap story of her body basically and I hit her up. Basically just said "damn girl wassup when are you free to kick it"

She surprised me and said "Tonight" so I showered and went n picked her up.. We went to a bar and had a few drinks

The date SEEMED good to me, her body language was good, she was laughing/smiling, and talking a lot


So when I went to drop her off I got out the car to get a hug or kiss, went for the kiss but got cheek.. I can't remembe the last time I got cheek and not lips.. So that killed my whole vibe cause it felt like the date went well...


So this morning I ended up texting her and here's what was said

Me: " I had fun last night, I feel like we vibe well"

Her: " I agree I had a good time too

Me: " so since you fluent in Spanish (she's black tho) lemme (in Spanish) can I get a second date with you"

Her: yeah we can have another date..

Me: okay coo..

Then.. no reply..


Basically she's got the fattest ass out of any of the females I've met online so far...

And she works 2 jobs and she was telling me she hasn't seen any of her friends in about a month or two because of her schedule.. but during the date at the bar she said she'd make time for a second date like she did that night..

So how should I go about this with out fukkin it up.. the ass is so fat I GOTTA hit


@twan83 (thoughts too)

Hope you smash but honestly sounds like shes just using you for free drinks n a meal

 

[Solano707]

Aiite... I need some advice on my current situation.


I met this female on a dating site around the end of December, and I ended up adding her on Snapchat & basically forgetting about her.


Well last night she post a snap story of her body basically and I hit her up. Basically just said "damn girl wassup when are you free to kick it"

She surprised me and said "Tonight" so I showered and went n picked her up.. We went to a bar and had a few drinks

The date SEEMED good to me, her body language was good, she was laughing/smiling, and talking a lot


So when I went to drop her off I got out the car to get a hug or kiss, went for the kiss but got cheek.. I can't remembe the last time I got cheek and not lips.. So that killed my whole vibe cause it felt like the date went well...


So this morning I ended up texting her and here's what was said

Me: " I had fun last night, I feel like we vibe well"

Her: " I agree I had a good time too

Me: " so since you fluent in Spanish (she's black tho) lemme (in Spanish) can I get a second date with you"

Her: yeah we can have another date..

Me: okay coo..

Then.. no reply..


Basically she's got the fattest ass out of any of the females I've met online so far...

And she works 2 jobs and she was telling me she hasn't seen any of her friends in about a month or two because of her schedule.. but during the date at the bar she said she'd make time for a second date like she did that night..

So how should I go about this with out fukkin it up.. the ass is so fat I GOTTA hit


@twan83 (thoughts too)

I wouldn't be too thirsty. Just simply hit her up and schedule a date - take the lead because women want to be led. With that being, text her once and ONLY once. Any more after that and you just like the rest of the thirsty nikkas out there. Trust, everyone women has her phone glued to her hand. She will see your text and respond - if she does. If she doesn't after a day.... bushes.

 

[Lo-Co]

How am I upset over a chick who ain't want me in the first place?

shyt is retarded

I need a better mentality

 

[ViShawn]

I'm learning that I won't please everybody, ESPECIALLY women.

The same things some women love and admire you for is the same thing that some women will hate you for.

 

[PewPew]

Matthew 6:33
33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

You sent me this over reps and i want you to know I read it bro and it really hit me hard. Not to sound too preachy but lately ive been really focused on praying more, thinking positive, and understanding that God is in complete control of my life and everything i want/need i can have if i only ask. In a way i feel more empowered because I know that God got my back no matter what. The whole walk by faith thing if you will. Thanks for sending this over

 

[Nuke Dukem]

Hope you smash but honestly sounds like shes just using you for free drinks n a meal

True.. I never got cheek when goin for a kiss.. maybe back in the day like 6-8th grade ...

The kiss the alone makes me think that but my guy said the girl he been dating since august now didn't kiss him on the first date...

Plus at the bar she only ordered two small drinks..

 

[Squirtle]

Matthew 6:33
33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

You sent me this over reps and i want you to know I read it bro and it really hit me hard. Not to sound too preachy but lately ive been really focused on praying more, thinking positive, and understanding that God is in complete control of my life and everything i want/need i can have if i only ask. In a way i feel more empowered because I know that God got my back no matter what. The whole walk by faith thing if you will. Thanks for sending this over

Amen, I was hoping this would be the result. Just remember, He will never fail you.