Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CookisaCac]

Ive ate well off okc

This shyt asking me to many damn questions. Ima just make a fake profile and try to see if I recognize any chick


Then approach in person

 

[Ohene]

Aight Yall here comes my overthinking ass lol;

Broke the ice with a chick at work today (yeah I know the add age but this is a job not a career), it actually didn't go as planned but I still got her name anyway. I only did this cause we've made frequent eye contact before but it was definitely outside of my comfort zone. Can't take 3-5 minutes to chop it up in what I do but I'm introverted anyway so I just said it was nice to meet you and went about my business for a little bit. We were working in the same area pretty much.

After a little while I come back to hear her talking to another woman about how she's a serious type of girl who doesn't give her number out often but I guess somebody in there felt comfortable to ask. So I make sure to poke fun at it like, "Well can I ask?" She laughed out an "Oh my God" but I wasn't gonna stand around for a full-blown it was just an in-the moment joke to plant the seed.

A few minutes later I'm like, "I guess that oh my god was a no, huh?" And she says I don't like to give my number out, I get asked a lot and I feel bad so I just don't give it out. So I say oh I see, it's cool.

At the end of the shift everyone is leaving but she works a position that had her busy 10-15 minutes after me. So before I bounce I say, "You sure you can't make an exception?" She smiles and goes, "Not at the moment."

So should I collect on the rain check tomorrow, play it on some see you when I see you again shyt, or y'all think she's playing?

the bolded was where you fukked up. you mentioned that "well can I ask" was a seed planter...great

thing about a plant is you water it too much too fast and that shyt gonna die. why did you essentially ask 3 times in a day? you should've just continued to talked to her on some friendly coworker shyt over a few weeks and then asked for the number another time on some, "I know you said you dont give your number out, but Ima be doing such and such on such and such date and would love for you to join me. You mind if I get that" type shyt. Or you probably coulda kicked it with her without even asking for it...by grabbing lunch with her one day during work or something.

girls like her give their number out but just not to strangers. so what i'm saying is you should've built a rapport. by not thirsting for the number you would've set yourself apart from the others. by continuing to talk to her you would've been able to break that barrier and no longer be a stranger in her eyes. This is not always the best approach but at work, when things can be awkward, the situation is delicate and you KNOW you're going to see shorty again it usually is. Being aggressive is only for when seeing girls on road and not knowing if youll ever see them again. Otherwise you gotta be coy.

I was in a situation last year. I would see a black girl in the office (were rare) and finally saw her on the subway OUTSIDE the office one day. Sparked a convo and when we got to work I said I'd find her in the outlook address book and email her. From that we would continue to talk on the instant messenger and one day we decided to grab lunch. I told her where I would meet her and gave her my number saying to text me when she leaves in case I'm away from my computer. She did just that. Probably had her in the crib two weeks later suckin my dikk.

 

[Shadow King]

The cool thing about being a man is you can always find some way to improve yourself and this can continue until the day you die. We appreciate much better than women. Like in high school I was completely bytchless outside of a week long gf but I'm about to be 27 this month and eventually built myself into the type of man that would attract the women I think are beautiful. Now I'm not a gigolo or nathin but I consistently pull like 7-8s and I'm a short black dude who does makeup lmfao. find your lane and destroy that shyt. I figured out I can get a lot of play being that pretty mysterious worldly nikka and I've ate well. most byrds say I remind them of prince on first reaction, can't get a better compliment for what I'm going for than that. I say find some direction and attack it. Women love a nikka who loves himself.

What you mean by find some direction?

 

[Deafheaven]

What you mean by find some direction?

your style of whatever. optimize what you think you can use to attract women.

 

[Shadow King]

the bolded was where you fukked up. you mentioned that "well can I ask" was a seed planter...great

thing about a plant is you water it too much too fast and that shyt gonna die. why did you essentially ask 3 times in a day? you should've just continued to talked to her on some friendly coworker shyt over a few weeks and then asked for the number another time on some, "I know you said you dont give your number out, but Ima be doing such and such on such and such date and would love for you to join me. You mind if I get that" type shyt. Or you probably coulda kicked it with her without even asking for it...by grabbing lunch with her one day during work or something.

girls like her give their number out but just not to strangers. so what i'm saying is you should've built a rapport. by not thirsting for the number you would've set yourself apart from the others. by continuing to talk to her you would've been able to break that barrier and no longer be a stranger in her eyes. This is not always the best approach but at work, when things can be awkward, the situation is delicate and you KNOW you're going to see shorty again it usually is. Being aggressive is only for when seeing girls on road and not knowing if youll ever see them again. Otherwise you gotta be coy.

I was in a situation last year. I would see a black girl in the office (were rare) and finally saw her on the subway OUTSIDE the office one day. Sparked a convo and when we got to work I said I'd find her in the outlook address book and email her. From that we would continue to talk on the instant messenger and one day we decided to grab lunch. I told her where I would meet her and gave her my number saying to text me when she leaves in case I'm away from my computer. She did just that. Probably had her in the crib two weeks later suckin my dikk.

Yeah you right. Thing is I'm not a small talker definitely keeping my mouth shut at work from now on.

 

[International Playa]

I'm back in my hometown visiting my folks. Theres a chick from a while back who recently moved back here as well, she's staying with her parents

We're feeling each other but don't have a place to Fck. I'm staying with my parents and she is too. I'm 23 and she's 22

A hotel is kinda iffy and I feel like I'm too old to be fcking in my car. I'm used to having my own apartment back home to bring women to but I need some ideas for a spot while I'm visiting my parents.

I still got my own apartment, i sometimes still fukk women in my car. Women love the spontanity of fukking in places where they could get caught.

Drive in to some abandoned car park n fukk lol. I have seen this cat with a big van with a mattress in the back, dude used to fukk married lawyer,accountant etc b1tches on their lunchtime in the back of that van

 

[Ohene]

Yeah you right. Thing is I'm not a small talker definitely keeping my mouth shut at work from now on.

That's the last thing I want you to do. Take what I said and learn from it. Apply it

 

[International Playa]

Brehs leave women from work alone, just be friends with them. Nothing wrong with being friends with a female.Remember she has a mom, maybe a sister, female cousins & female friends she can introduce you to. When a female sets you up with anothrr female, the chances of smashing are quite high.


If your mouthpiece is lacking & you are not comfortable around women, you can practice by being friendly with women from work. Do not fukk women from work brehs.

 

[Shadow King]

That's the last thing I want you to do. Take what I said and learn from it. Apply it

At work though? I'm not tryna be that dude whose name go to HR

 

[Ohene]

At work though? I'm not tryna be that dude whose name go to HR

true.

 

[Rell Lauren]

Online dating got your boy thinking he don't look good. Can't get a swipe to save my life.

 

[TRUEST]

At work though? I'm not tryna be that dude whose name go to HR

its too late for that. based on ur story, sounds to me uve pretty much burned any chance u have with that girl to dust. u came off extremely desperate.

think of it like this. imagine a girl who u have no attraction to being on ur ass, chasing u down, stalking u. how would u feel? u feel very irritated. angry. disgusted. thats how u look when u pester a girl for her number. reading ur post was actually prettty disturbing, to be honest. poor girl had to say no with a smile.

 

[True Blue Moon]

its too late for that. based on ur story, sounds to me uve pretty much burned any chance u have with that girl to dust. u came off extremely desperate.

think of it like this. imagine a girl who u have no attraction to being on ur ass, chasing u down, stalking u. how would u feel? u feel very irritated. angry. disgusted. thats how u look when u pester a girl for her number. reading ur post was actually prettty disturbing, to be honest. poor girl had to say no with a smile.

Definitely. It felt like some I want what I want type deal, despite ol' girl being cool enough to let breh down easy.

 

[ZoeGod]

Yo I got a question for the brehs. I wonder if I gave my cousin the right advice. So my cousin is a 25 year old virgin. I talked about this before about him in another thread a year ago. My uncle (his pops) is a strict Haitian parent. So he was shelters and not allowed to go out. Anyway he is out of shape. He is 6'0 and 265 pounds. But he wants to get girls. I told him to get in shape first before he even attempts to approach chicks. My reason is that since he lacks experience and is overweight he is gonna struggle hella hard and deal with harsh rejections with his already weak self confidence. I told him to just focus to get himself in shape in 3 months then put himself out there. I figure he will get his confidence booster he loses weight. Imma help him as well to lose weight. So was this the right advice to give him? My homeboy told me that fat nikkas get bytches which is true but I told him my cousin has no experience of dating at 25 which is a major disadvantage add on top of this he is over weight which puts him in an even more serious disadvantage. So anyway is my homeboy right or did I give my cousin the right advise?

 

[Jack Michaelson]

Yo I got a question for the brehs. I wonder if I gave my cousin the right advice. So my cousin is a 25 year old virgin. I talked about this before about him in another thread a year ago. My uncle (his pops) is a strict Haitian parent. So he was shelters and not allowed to go out. Anyway he is out of shape. He is 6'0 and 265 pounds. But he wants to get girls. I told him to get in shape first before he even attempts to approach chicks. My reason is that since he lacks experience and is overweight he is gonna struggle hella hard and deal with harsh rejections with his already weak self confidence. I told him to just focus to get himself in shape in 3 months then put himself out there. I figure he will get his confidence booster he loses weight. Imma help him as well to lose weight. So was this the right advice to give him? My homeboy told me that fat nikkas get bytches which is true but I told him my cousin has no experience of dating at 25 which is a major disadvantage add on top of this he is over weight which puts him in an even more serious disadvantage. So anyway is my homeboy right or did I give my cousin the right advise?

I can only say from my experience of being a severely overweight dude for most of my life that losing weight was definitely a confidence booster for me. I would catch chicks looking but wasn't having too much luck with them, but after dropping 100 pounds more chicks would say shyt and show me more attention than I got with all that weight.