Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CrossBones]

I had a somewhat similar situation. not too long ago, but long enough.


I met this broad through a friend, she was new in dade county as shes from broward. she worked at a cafe around hialeah, and was taking a class with this girl I knew.

so, we go out. we spend like 10-11 hours together on our first date. it went real well, better than I thought it might. and it wasnt slow or boring or anything. first we just walked, we talked, she took pictures of the scenery, I set up an impromptu picnic where we are laid out, we just chilling. go in the car, headed out to somewhere else. I was feeling it so we kept going. a very nice repoir with this young woman. we then had wine on deck, found a place to parlay, listened to some smooth music, a really easy going and pleasant date, if I do say so myself.

she was real open to me, real cooperative. I liked the vibe and so did she. she was just like my bytch. like we were a couple in how we interacted. it came natural. then we headed out and ate at a new place I just randomly picked out while cruising. shyt was spontaneous, the spot was real cozy, everything just felt right. a picture perfect day.


but about, three times throughout the date she let me hear about her ex a little bit more and more. this other man. I got to hear how she was with him for years, she felt he was "jealous" (RED FLAG), she lived with him for years and he let her use his car (RED FLAG), and that shes scared if she bumped into him (WTF)

why even tell me all this? what are her intentions with that? where would all of that leave me, you know? just ask yourself that.

and this aint the first time I fukked with a bytch who had that, "insanely jealous ex boyfriend"

and I know, through experience, that means that you head out, and forget about her. the troubles that shyt brings, is no joke. Im not even going to get into all of that other stuff right now.

but yeah, we hit it off otherwise. shes trying to feed me off her plate with her spoon and stroke my face at the table and shyt. moving fast as a fukk. listening to my nerves, Im about to fukk her just to do so.

but I knew through experience, that the more this woman tries to get me more open, that theres something else going on. it was becoming too much

her moves felt nice, but at the same time it was real open, real clingy, and real intimate for a first date. like we were an automatic couple, but only she never earned that.

so I try and do the cool thing, let it simmer. we make out in the car. etc etc

she texts me a lot since then, we talk. talk starts to center about her boyfriend (oops, I mean "ex boyfriend") more and more, and how he was with her. like she wanted me to be that.

Im more like aye! this shyt is moving WAY too fast. and no, you dont get to whip the ride. sit your ass down. I give you a ride if I got the time and you do afterwards, but youre not gaming me.

to cut it short, she was talking more and more of that, "worried about her ex man" shyt. next week, with no word she moves out of Dade and suddenly moved back in with that chump.

seriously.

the faster she moves, the more she tries to talk that sweet talk, the more game being run. dont trust them early on is the lesson here. dont reward her with the wifey potential wifey shyt so soon. she has to try and BE THAT FOR YOU. through time and effort. when she shows shes ready and wants that, and youre not trying to make her what she isnt then you might be able to take her seriously. read her through actions and what she shows you about her. you cant just push and suddenly reward a woman into that. I know, through different relationships I been taught that.

my shyt would have been all fukked up if I did more with her. I cant imagine what it would be with this random ass cat conveniently "followering her," my ride, my effort, and my time being more tied up in all that. bytch must be out her mind.

 

[kevm3]

So whats the solution breh? Play the game too & keep sidepieces on deck?

Nah, I don't believe in lowering yourself down to someone else's level if they are playing it foul. The solution is to create a gameplan keeping those facts in mind.

1) Always have several things you like to do ahead of women
This can be chilling with your homies, family, going to church, drawing, or whatever else you do. This will keep you from being thirsty, and will also have the side benefit of making you interesting.

2) Always be prepared for her to either leave or cheat
This means you never get too attached to any woman and you have to be able to keep pushing if she leaves or cheats. Do not be surprised if she leaves out the blue. You have to condition yourself emotionally for that.

3) Never build your world around a woman
This one builds on the past two rules. Building your world around a woman is one of the most dangerous things you can do.

4) Work on and build up yourself.
The so called "king of the women" concept is real. There's a certain bar if you pass, that once you pass it, you have a ton of females just loving you. I don't recommend keeping a harem, but I do recommend keeping yourself so fly that you can replace your current girl with ease if she wants to act up. The crazy thing is the more women like you, the more other women like you. It's a snowball effect, so once you pass this bar and get a few women talking, your reputation will start to spread and you'll have a lot of choice.

5) She's not to be taken seriously until proven otherwise
Never be surprised at what a woman can pull. This is why you keep them lower on the tier of your 'interest level'. When you are not all that emotionally affected by what women are doing and never allow her vagina to control you, you have several interests and things that just interest you, then you will be much better off. In order for her to really be taken seriously, you have to assess her character over time.

 

[Swing]

but about, three times throughout the date she let me hear about her ex a little bit more and more. this other man. I got to hear how she was with him for years, she felt he was "jealous" (RED FLAG), she lived with him for years and he let her use his car (RED FLAG), and that shes scared if she bumped into him (WTF)

and this aint the first time I fukked with a bytch who had that, "insanely jealous ex boyfriend"

Speak on that breh cuz I went thru some sh1t like that not too long ago... I was thinkin that b1tch still with her man

 

[CrossBones]

Speak on that breh cuz I went thru some sh1t like that not too long ago... I was thinkin that b1tch still with her man

a woman will play all types of games with her man. more often than not, thats the real reason why he went funny style on her. youre supposed to believe all out the blue, that he just got "jealous?" I thought yall were together and you chose to be his girl? so whats to get jealous about?

a lot of times, its an old story and trick used to absolve the woman from her mistakes, and to stress that the man is at fault for all of this. to hide her games. a lot of times she drug him out, wore his emotions out, or just made him jealous on purpose or without a care.

we know that females live to talk trash about their ex to their new man. it makes them look like innocent little girls you supposed to believe in. as if she did nothing wrong. she laid up with him, enjoyed the benefits from being his girl, and probably did some sideways, grimy shyt to him. most girls like that have a problem with ending a relationship right, or even treating one that theyre in right.

theres no reason for a man to just "go crazy." typically she built up the relationship to look one way, when she wasnt really down to begin with. who just wakes up, says, I KNOW THE SKY IS GOING BE RED TODAY. I DIDNT SEE IT, BUT I KNOW IT WILL. thats what shes saying. one day, out of nowhere, he started getting jealous. and for no reason. sounds a little fishy.

jealousy is like what they say, without smoke theres no fire. so something that she did was real flaw on her side. and this more than often not is the case.


it takes two to tango. so she is, one way or another attracting jealousy and anger in the relationship. or shes choosing men that will act a certain way to her behavior. shes not providing a sense of security or loyalty with her actions. or she makes bad decisions, plain and simple. shes definitely a tricky one to deal with, at best.

see thats why I dont trust it. anything to do with her and the ex is only going to be decided upon what I see for myself

now for her to bring that shyt up to you, her trash and baggage, shes also by default playing games with you. because its on you now to be aware of this. she brings it to life by telling you, and making you feel a certain way about it.

what the real is, is that shes letting you know what her deal is on the low.

the sick reality is that sometimes theyre working undercover, and on the low with each other onto the next stage in their affair.

they arent somehow, mysteriously "bound" together. this doenst happen in life. you want to stop seeing someone, you do it. you dont want to really deal with them, you wont. even with baby mamas. we can talk about the kids and thats it. anything more is trying to stir up emotions and bring the other one more into their life.

see, on that undercover shyt, shes going to go around acting all happy with her life and broadcasting it loud because she wants her ex to be jealous about her moving on. and now he knows about this new man through her, or her friends (or facebook), so he doesnt like you! shes bringing extra drama to you. she just made problems for you. its making you automatically his enemy, when you dont even know the man.

she did that by shamelessly slandering him, and then going out behind your back and havin some kind of communications with him. so cant none of you like each other after that.

its more games.

so you got, one bytch who cant help but promote jealousy and anger, and a crazy boyfriend (gee how did that happen) that she is introducing you to.


I dont buy it. even if it was like that and not entirely her fault, you see that shes involving all of the players into her little story. bringing this mess with her. why would you need all that noise? tell her to kill that.

women can have no shame and no sense of accountability. this all just "happened," and now youre a part of it.


when that woman put you in the position to be her new man after the insanely jealous ex, it almost triggers off that "self defense/protection" alert in a man. for her and you. and they know that. those types, they mostly look for it. and now that youre gamed, youre twice as cooperative of this poor womans plight and issues.

in one case, I heard that this girl I was fukking with ex, might just run up and stab a me because he saw me with his "ex." thats what SHE told me. that hes really jealous.

I almost ended up bodying this man, and the woman was overhyping the whole shyt from the jump! my man came in, and talked with the ex at his front door, and old boy was shook and not even on none of that shyt. he was square. he got embarassed that he was chasing her, but not about to do shyt to me.

it was a game for her. used the story to manipulate a young player.

she was using me, hyping me, and getting me on some shyt cus she saw where I was at how I got down. later I hear that she was plotting on me to body this guy because he beat her ass before.



that charge that she said he had, wasnt for anything violent. it was for street racing. he just got out from like a month of time

anyways, I dont trust women with jealous exes. most of the times, hes still in her life to some degree. its cooperative thing with them.

you dont need to any chick or feel sorry for her. she needs to get herself right so she doesnt involve you in her past drama.

 

[NerdNash]

Nah, I don't believe in lowering yourself down to someone else's level if they are playing it foul. The solution is to create a gameplan keeping those facts in mind.

1) Always have several things you like to do ahead of women
This can be chilling with your homies, family, going to church, drawing, or whatever else you do. This will keep you from being thirsty, and will also have the side benefit of making you interesting.

2) Always be prepared for her to either leave or cheat
This means you never get too attached to any woman and you have to be able to keep pushing if she leaves or cheats. Do not be surprised if she leaves out the blue. You have to condition yourself emotionally for that.

3) Never build your world around a woman
This one builds on the past two rules. Building your world around a woman is one of the most dangerous things you can do.

4) Work on and build up yourself.
The so called "king of the women" concept is real. There's a certain bar if you pass, that once you pass it, you have a ton of females just loving you. I don't recommend keeping a harem, but I do recommend keeping yourself so fly that you can replace your current girl with ease if she wants to act up. The crazy thing is the more women like you, the more other women like you. It's a snowball effect, so once you pass this bar and get a few women talking, your reputation will start to spread and you'll have a lot of choice.

5) She's not to be taken seriously until proven otherwise
Never be surprised at what a woman can pull. This is why you keep them lower on the tier of your 'interest level'. When you are not all that emotionally affected by what women are doing and never allow her vagina to control you, you have several interests and things that just interest you, then you will be much better off. In order for her to really be taken seriously, you have to assess her character over time.

This is post worth breh im throwing this on the site. If you could elaborate a little more that would be perfect.

 

[Swing]

you dont need to any chick or feel sorry for her. she needs to get herself right so she doesnt involve you in her past drama.

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Appreciate u takin ur time bruh

shyt wasnt adding up in my case either... First date she told me her ex could pop up at any given time... She went to the bathroom n came back, I was texting, didnt see her coming back, this bish says "somebody could walk up n do something to u real easy" Had me like but the shyt didnt hit me til later tho...

A month goes by, she asks me out the blue, "what would u do if someone came n tried to kill us" I told that bish imma throw ur ass infront of him and run, joking, but she took offense i could sense it in her body language...

Now she could be a girl that needs to feel protected and all that bullshyt but something wasnt right...Im glad I had my foot on the breaks the whole time.

shyt went downhill after that, she got all aggy and told me I was cold hearted, felt like she was forcing me, guilt tripping and basically threatning me into a relationship only after a couple of months...had to eject out that shyt real fast.

 

[CrossBones]

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Appreciate u takin ur time bruh

shyt wasnt adding up in my case either... First date she told me her ex could pop up at any given time... She went to the bathroom n came back, I was texting, didnt see her coming back, this bish says "somebody could walk up n do something to u real easy" Had me like but the shyt didnt hit me til later tho...

A month goes by, she asks me out the blue, "what would u do if someone came n tried to kill us" I told that bish imma throw ur ass infront of him and run, joking, but she took offense i could sense it in her body language...

Now she could be a girl that needs to feel protected and all that bullshyt but something wasnt right...Im glad I had my foot on the breaks the whole time.

shyt went downhill after that, she got all aggy and told me I was cold hearted, felt like she was forcing me, guilt tripping and basically threatning me into a relationship only after a couple of months...had to eject out that shyt real fast.

that was game right there! she had you thinking you needed to be ready to kill just to be with her. and maybe you did.


tell her fukk out of here bytch. call the cops. get a dog. I dont know you like that.

 

[CrossBones]

it almost comes off as if she as setting the shyt up too. hyping both of yall! what does she mean, he might be here? why? and then she goes off and disappears texting, and then coming back? what is that fukk shyt?

thats why that he say she say shyt sould be dead at the gate. show me whats up. dont tell me all this slander and shyt. matter fact, why dont we just build you and me, and leave that in the past?

you know why, I know why. its all game.

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

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Appreciate u takin ur time bruh

shyt wasnt adding up in my case either... First date she told me her ex could pop up at any given time... She went to the bathroom n came back, I was texting, didnt see her coming back, this bish says "somebody could walk up n do something to u real easy" Had me like but the shyt didnt hit me til later tho...

A month goes by, she asks me out the blue, "what would u do if someone came n tried to kill us" I told that bish imma throw ur ass infront of him and run, joking, but she took offense i could sense it in her body language...

Now she could be a girl that needs to feel protected and all that bullshyt but something wasnt right...Im glad I had my foot on the breaks the whole time.

shyt went downhill after that, she got all aggy and told me I was cold hearted, felt like she was forcing me, guilt tripping and basically threatning me into a relationship only after a couple of months...had to eject out that shyt real fast.

Good thing you avoided that. If something is not right, then it NOT right! She probably just wanted a dude just to "protect" her from an abusive ex or a stalker.

 

[Shameonyou]

get money and just fukk them for leisure....women arent proving they are worthy of our hearts...so just give them dikk

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[Still Benefited]

When I ask women why they broke up with they ex and they tell me "cuz he wuz so jeaalous" I take that shyt like a grain of salt....I know for a fact a lot of womens perception of they ex bein jealous is accurate from they perspective,but in reality I know plenty nikkas that treat they woman like property for the simple face he's protecting his investment as in he put a lot of time/money into HER,or he's protecting his security as in she pays his bills and he stays in her house and drives her car,or simply he just gon make sure she don't play him or embarrass him as long as they together so he goin thru that phone and he interogatin.....technically that is a sign of jealousy and its rampid out here.......but it ain't no damn "if I can't have her no one can" shyt that women think it is lol....while he wuz displaying all those jealous signs he wuz cheatin on u the whole time and when u actually decide to leave he will quickly move on to the next chick and be "jealous" with her

And the reason is 99% of women LOVE that shyt more than they hate it....ain't no woman ever broke up with a man cuz he wuz jealous I don't believe unless she just stopped likin him and he wuz just in the way....stalking is almost NEVER the reason if she liked dude.....now if he beat her azz that's different,but she would say "he beat my azz and that's why we broke up". Instead of saying he wuz jealous....these women fearing phantom nikkas that they thought wuz obsessed with them but really had a side chick and just moved her up once she left....crazy thing is once she realize he ain't actually that damn jealous and is doin his own thing she gon go looking for bruh bcuz she miss that shyt,she miss feeling like a nikka cared where the fuk she wuz goin and when she coming back.

So when a woman says "my ex wuz sooooo jealous" next time,realize its probaly bullshyt in the sense dude really don't care like she may have rightfully believed from his actions,know that a lot of women say this cuz they think it made them special that a man wuz jealous or stalked them,that "stalker" word is aother one that every women throws out,thhinkin it makes her look like a prize and gets our minds thinkin "damn she must have sum fire puzzy or mouf if she wuz gettin stalked"(nah probaly the same regular shyt).....if she really seem scared tho like its a OJ waitin in the wings u might wanna get the fuk outta dodge but its all bullshyt majority of the time,a reaistic perspective from her part a lot of times but not real from the phantom stalker....I break that shyt down for em when they tell me that shyt "ain't nobody stalking you,he probaly at his new girl house chillin".....just know if she brings it up tho its a good chance she liked that shyt bruh,and if u ain't that type of dude where u gon be worried bout her whereabouts,going through her phone,askin where she been AT ALL...probaly shouldn't even go down that road,its agood chance now that how "jealous" a nikka acts with her will be her meter as to how much a man cares about her....so if u don't have a stalker bone in your body u better get one if u wanna fuk wit her that bad,u gon have to out "jealous" the last nikka she complaining about bein "jeaous"....if he went through her phone u gon have to smash her phone,if he drove by her house to see what she wuz doin u might have to sleep outside her house.

Again,that's one demographic,a large group of them just think its sum cute shyt to say and impresses us thinkin it makes them look more like a prize that sumbody wuz jealous about them or stalked them,no seriousl ity a lot of them believe that from what I can tell...just look how smug they look when they say it sumtimes,"my last boyfriend wuz so jealous"

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[sixsixtwo]

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[Atlrocafella]

So lemme tell you how shady women can be... (long read, I know, so save the "cool story bro"s)

I met this African broad back in September. Daycare teacher. Seemed VERY chill, we got along well. She was from out of town and had been here for a few months, didn't know many people. She hadn't been able to find permanent work here.

Anyway, she went back to her hometown across the country for a family wedding back in October. By this point we had been on maybe 3 dates. No sex, but fooled around. While there she got offered a permanent position in that city that she had applied for months back. She decided it was best to stay there and pursue that. No worries. I was bummed, but such is life. While I saw the potential, I wasn't all that attached.

She had to come back to get her stuff, so I offered her to stay with me during those days, since she had some issues with her roommate. During those three days, it was straight gf status. We fukked nonstop, she cooked for me. She even made it seem like she wanted to stay, had me lookin for places for her since she didn't know the city that well.

Anyway, she couldnt get it together so after those three days, she got on the bus and went back out West. Shes makin it seem like she wants to be with me. I like her, and I admit brehs, I was in a p*ssy haze, so I was like "well maybe something is here". She talked of moving back soon. Plan was for me to go visit her around the holidays, and see where things stand, because I wasn't gonna even TRY the long distance thing without first seeing if this was really legit.

So the last few weeks, she's been very distant and saying things like, I dunno if I can get time off for you to come, etc etc. Not sending the good morning texts. I chalk it up to having doubts about whether or not this is really worth all the effort it'll take, which I had as well, so I understood.

Two weeks ago on the phone, I was like, well you know, if you want me to come, I need to start making arrangements. And she's like yeah do that. Then she disappears on me. Stops returning my phone calls, texts. Just vanished.

I get what is happening, she's not into this anymore. I barely am as well. So that's cool. But have the respect to let someone know. So I sent her a message saying as much, and she wrote this...

i didnt mean to ignore u.I know you been really good to me and am thankfull for it. But i dont think its a good idea for you to come i did get offered a job that i start next week. so i wouldnt be able to take sometime off to spend with you if you do come. not only that but also the fact that i am unsure when i return back to Ottawa. I think its hard maintaining long distance relationship so am not sure whats next from here...I would rather see us pull our relationship off as am struggling seeing whats next if we were to continue.

I reply that I understand, but just woulda been nice for her to act like an adult and be open. I say the usual "no hard feelings, stay in touch".

Few days later, she seems to have blocked me on FB. I'm like, that's weird, I didn't think I did anything to warrant that. I have my homegirl look at her profile to see if indeed she's still on FB or perhaps she deleted her whole shyt.

This is her status...

I guess this is what true ♥ feels like finally i can admit am inlove for the first time with the most wonderful and loving man. what more could i ask for from santa? am happier than ever couldnt get any better looking forward to the new year to come



Women man....

They say women are the best liars..damn