Make sure you got that issue handled b4 you go back....its happened to me and its a bad feeling
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Make sure you got that issue handled b4 you go back....its happened to me and its a bad feeling
here's a personal tale about never following ya lady. no snakes or curses from god. lol
a friends cousin of mine, always had self esteem issues growing up. when he was around 20 or so, he had been with his girl for about two years. she was his first everything. girls never gave him any play in high school. he met her, fell in love, lost his virginity to her and they moved into an apartment together.
after awhile, he started realizing he was making a huge mistake by getting serious with her too soon and so young. she wanted a wedding ring and but my guy was seeing how he was missing out on life by being tied down so young.
he finally started putting in apps to universities and got accepted by a good school. going away to college was his dream and i was happy for dude because he was finally about to leave our city and break out of his shell. self esteem issues from growing up with no daddy plagued this nikka hard but i knew going away to school would give him a clean slate. dude was geeked!
when i saw him weeks later he told me he wasnt going away to school anymore. fam told me his girl gave him an ultimatum: "if you go away to school, im breaking up with you"
two weeks later they were engaged. and that nikka was not happy about it. no bullshyt
today that nikka is in his thirties, married to her, 4 kids deep, no college degree, overweight, working a dead end job with no goals in sight. some people want you to stay exactly who you are because if you push forward, you might outgrow them. his lady smelled blood and preyed on that nikkas insecurities.
hell never leave his wife due to his religion forbidding divorce...even though he hasnt been in love with her since they got engaged.
at your boyYa make her come too u instead
fukk I look like driving way out there for sex and u don't even let me stay the night living that far
She probably like this guy can't even get it up he can't stay night here sex might be wack
Only reason she let u hit again is out of curiosity too see if sex game on point if it is she will let u stay and cook ur ass breakfast believe me when I tell u that
So if u wanna waste gas u better hope first off she let u hit and if she does u better hit a homerun or ur driving home same damn day
shyt I have her pay for my gas and make breakfast after I break her back best believe cuz I've done it before too females
But In most cases too far no go unless u my girl or u come to my place at times also with a compromise but for sex tho only sex man that's asking for too much unless u got plans to make her your girl
dude is batsh1t crazy. dont listen to anything he says. as for the chick in question, ur soft d1ck is a huge huge negative for u. if she likes u, she'll hit u up. if she barely likes u (which it appears to be the case since she wouldnt let u spend the night), she wont hit u up again.
but my advise to u. if ur going to see her again, stay away from porn for a couple of days before u see her.
VertigoKnight
Veteran
Yeah not maintaining hardness is a negative especially for a one night stand situation. Guarantee if you blew her back out she would have let you stay the night.
I'd be interested to see if she is up to meet again.
I'd be interested to see if she is up to meet again.
I use to really get sad and depressed over this girl. But now I see that she isn't for me.
We have far too different PoVs and ways of looking at life to ever work.
I'm obsessed with love, creativity and music.
She just wants to be happy and have a basic normal life. And if I was with her I know that what is meant for me in life wouldn't happen cause I would have sacrificed my life for hers. I have too much to see and do for me to be happy just being normal. I understand that now.
I loved her for a season and she was just a lesson. I'm happy because it doesn't hurt anymore.
We have far too different PoVs and ways of looking at life to ever work.
I'm obsessed with love, creativity and music.
She just wants to be happy and have a basic normal life. And if I was with her I know that what is meant for me in life wouldn't happen cause I would have sacrificed my life for hers. I have too much to see and do for me to be happy just being normal. I understand that now.
I loved her for a season and she was just a lesson. I'm happy because it doesn't hurt anymore.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
here's a personal tale about never following ya lady. no snakes or curses from god. lol
a friends cousin of mine, always had self esteem issues growing up. when he was around 20 or so, he had been with his girl for about two years. she was his first everything. girls never gave him any play in high school. he met her, fell in love, lost his virginity to her and they moved into an apartment together.
after awhile, he started realizing he was making a huge mistake by getting serious with her too soon and so young. she wanted a wedding ring and but my guy was seeing how he was missing out on life by being tied down so young.
he finally started putting in apps to universities and got accepted by a good school. going away to college was his dream and i was happy for dude because he was finally about to leave our city and break out of his shell. self esteem issues from growing up with no daddy plagued this nikka hard but i knew going away to school would give him a clean slate. dude was geeked!
when i saw him weeks later he told me he wasnt going away to school anymore. fam told me his girl gave him an ultimatum: "if you go away to school, im breaking up with you"
two weeks later they were engaged. and that nikka was not happy about it. no bullshyt
today that nikka is in his thirties, married to her, 4 kids deep, no college degree, overweight, working a dead end job with no goals in sight. some people want you to stay exactly who you are because if you push forward, you might outgrow them. his lady smelled blood and preyed on that nikkas insecurities.
hell never leave his wife due to his religion forbidding divorce...even though he hasnt been in love with her since they got engaged.
I was in a somewhat similar situation as this dude years ago, but luckily we never had kids and I left my religion behind so it was
for her so I can live again.It's a shame for him, but this is what happens when you have no one in your life to give you good game and help build you up.
This is why I say if you have low self esteem, you really shouldn't be in a relationship. Whatever is wrong with you, fix it. Self esteem issues? Seek some form of therapy/help, attend workshops or read books or view videos speaking on the topic. Body/health issues? Join the gym or cycle and detox/eat healthy. Money low? Get them certs or train for a skill and use what you have wisely in the meantime. You dress wack? Change your wardobe. Etc etc etc......
No one should be your "everything", especially nowadays where people are flaky and unpredictable. I made the mistake of getting too serious too soon and paid the price, but luckily I had an out and a chance to start over....hence my recent divorce AND I'll be flying to Jamaica two weeks from now free to do whatever the fukk I want to!!
This guy threw his whole life away when by now he could have been living it up with his shyt together, health on point and a bad chick who supports him by his side. Instead he's miserable with kids and a broad who obviously never had much going for herself.And you right, women will smell blood quicker than any shark or land animal ever could. That's why you can't get ever give off a thirsty/low self esteem "I'm nothing without you" aura because people will eat you up in this world if you're not careful. That shyt is for the birds. If I even sense a woman is trying to use me then it's instant bushes. Any woman who doesn't want you to improve yourself should automatically be thrown out like Jazzy Jeff on Fresh Prince, but dude got taken advantage of. I can't believe how he had his future destroyed by a chick that could just leave him at any time anyway. Of course she made sure to get knocked up so she could trap him.
That's a real cautionary tale if I ever heard one.
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Reno89
All Star
If you want to gauge the level of a woman's interest in you, it will be based on her response to one question: what are you looking for? Her answer is pretty much how much she likes you. A scale of one to 10.
1. "I'm celibate and waiting for marriage"
She don't like you at all, unless you are offering her end goal.
2. "I'm celibate".
She doesn't like you, but she at least isn't going to coerce you into marriage. You can move on and not waste your time. However, is likely to give it up if you offer commitment
3."I'm looking for marriage"
See #1, except she is willing to smash if you offer her end goal.
4. "I'm looking for something that can possibly lead to marriage"
She is mildly into you. However, she needs to know from the jump at you plan on possibly marrying her for her to continue.
5. "I'm looking for a relationship"
She is also mildly into you, but doesn't mind losing you if you don't offer commitment. However, if you offer the commitment, she's willing to smash before you officially commit.
6. "I'm looking for friendship first"
Once again, mildly into you. This is level 6 because this could mean that she is willing to smash without the possibility of commitment, which is a higher level of Interest, or she could be under the celibate category that is waiting for commitment before she smashes.
7. "I'm looking for friends"
We are heading towards the end of the middle ground. She is into you to a certain extent. If you guys never end up being in a relationship, she is fine with that. If you guys end up being f*** buddies, she could be fine with that too. Regardless, she's going to keep you around if you aren't too pushy.
8. "I'm looking for someone to chill/kick it with" She is very into you, and is letting it be known that you ain't going to have to do much to get her to smash. You coming straight to the crib. Every once in awhile, you guys may order Postmates, GrubHub, etc., but that's about it.
9. "I'm looking for friends with benefits/fukk buddies" She is into you at a very, very high level. You're going to be the one she calls after level 1-5 is done feeding her, taking her rock climbing, or some other ish. She is "taking her time" with them because of you, and if you decided you wanted to be in a relationship, they would get her voicemail from then on.
10. "One night stand"/"To smash"
She is so into you, she's not even going to press on exchanging contact information before she smashes. This treatment is often reserved for the rich/famous You can easily become level 9, but she isn't concerned with if you become a regular.
What level of interest should you require? That's completely up to you
1. "I'm celibate and waiting for marriage"
She don't like you at all, unless you are offering her end goal.
2. "I'm celibate".
She doesn't like you, but she at least isn't going to coerce you into marriage. You can move on and not waste your time. However, is likely to give it up if you offer commitment
3."I'm looking for marriage"
See #1, except she is willing to smash if you offer her end goal.
4. "I'm looking for something that can possibly lead to marriage"
She is mildly into you. However, she needs to know from the jump at you plan on possibly marrying her for her to continue.
5. "I'm looking for a relationship"
She is also mildly into you, but doesn't mind losing you if you don't offer commitment. However, if you offer the commitment, she's willing to smash before you officially commit.
6. "I'm looking for friendship first"
Once again, mildly into you. This is level 6 because this could mean that she is willing to smash without the possibility of commitment, which is a higher level of Interest, or she could be under the celibate category that is waiting for commitment before she smashes.
7. "I'm looking for friends"
We are heading towards the end of the middle ground. She is into you to a certain extent. If you guys never end up being in a relationship, she is fine with that. If you guys end up being f*** buddies, she could be fine with that too. Regardless, she's going to keep you around if you aren't too pushy.
8. "I'm looking for someone to chill/kick it with" She is very into you, and is letting it be known that you ain't going to have to do much to get her to smash. You coming straight to the crib. Every once in awhile, you guys may order Postmates, GrubHub, etc., but that's about it.
9. "I'm looking for friends with benefits/fukk buddies" She is into you at a very, very high level. You're going to be the one she calls after level 1-5 is done feeding her, taking her rock climbing, or some other ish. She is "taking her time" with them because of you, and if you decided you wanted to be in a relationship, they would get her voicemail from then on.
10. "One night stand"/"To smash"
She is so into you, she's not even going to press on exchanging contact information before she smashes. This treatment is often reserved for the rich/famous You can easily become level 9, but she isn't concerned with if you become a regular.
What level of interest should you require? That's completely up to you
Clay Puppington
rabid
Aight Coli, sending an S.O.S
The girl I was messing with let herself go (I can do chubby but....) so I lied to her and said I'm in a relationship now, instead of hurting her feelings.
So....I'm dry as shyt now and I think it's getting to me. I'm talking myself out of approaches, giving up too easy with girls, and my swag ain't how it used to be. I feel like shorties can feel this disgusting aura I have as well.
I had one girl in the bag but I messed it up so badly that I don't even want to talk about it.
So Coli, has anyone ever been in a similar situation or have any advice for someone who is? I need to get my mind right ASAP because this mindset I have is gross. Talk to me like a beginner.
Last thing I want is to end up like The Message's friend, no offense.
The girl I was messing with let herself go (I can do chubby but....) so I lied to her and said I'm in a relationship now, instead of hurting her feelings.
So....I'm dry as shyt now and I think it's getting to me. I'm talking myself out of approaches, giving up too easy with girls, and my swag ain't how it used to be. I feel like shorties can feel this disgusting aura I have as well.
I had one girl in the bag but I messed it up so badly that I don't even want to talk about it.
So Coli, has anyone ever been in a similar situation or have any advice for someone who is? I need to get my mind right ASAP because this mindset I have is gross. Talk to me like a beginner.
Last thing I want is to end up like The Message's friend, no offense.
Mister_DoItNice
Leading The Regime
Go to the gym. You need to get your mind off these women for a while.
PuffTheMagicDragon
All Star
Should have just told her you don't find her as attractive anymore. One of the reasons why a lot of women let themselves go is because a lot of men don't put their foot down and tell them. You can't coddle them like that.
Also sounds like you aren't in the best shape yourself, you could kill 2 birds with one stone by working out with her
Aight Coli, sending an S.O.S
The girl I was messing with let herself go (I can do chubby but....) so I lied to her and said I'm in a relationship now, instead of hurting her feelings.
So....I'm dry as shyt now and I think it's getting to me. I'm talking myself out of approaches, giving up too easy with girls, and my swag ain't how it used to be. I feel like shorties can feel this disgusting aura I have as well.
I had one girl in the bag but I messed it up so badly that I don't even want to talk about it.
So Coli, has anyone ever been in a similar situation or have any advice for someone who is? I need to get my mind right ASAP because this mindset I have is gross. Talk to me like a beginner.
Last thing I want is to end up like The Message's friend, no offense.
like homeboy said..gym
Nuke Dukem
Da Bears
Well... I realized first hand why I never ever want to date/deal with single mothers..
I've avoided single mothers for a loooong time, just because I don't have any shortys myself I don't think I should have to deal with someone else, but I eased up and gave one a chance
First off
These bytches obviously never have any time... So making plans is always an event.. I'd set up a date and it'd get pushed back a day due to her not having a sitter or whatever ...
Second
I like to feel like the main priority in a females life, with a single mother you'll never get tha because you ALWAYS have to deal with the kid, and 50/50 you'll have to deal with the baby daddy...
I'm just venting, but yeah fukk single mothers
I've avoided single mothers for a loooong time, just because I don't have any shortys myself I don't think I should have to deal with someone else, but I eased up and gave one a chance
First off
These bytches obviously never have any time... So making plans is always an event.. I'd set up a date and it'd get pushed back a day due to her not having a sitter or whatever ...
Second
I like to feel like the main priority in a females life, with a single mother you'll never get tha because you ALWAYS have to deal with the kid, and 50/50 you'll have to deal with the baby daddy...
I'm just venting, but yeah fukk single mothers
Dreamzeedream
Banned
I gotta stop attaching myself to people I'm not in a relationship with. I don't know why I do that shyt
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