Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I always want brehs to learn from my lessons that I had to learn the hard way

always let women do most of the talking. I'm a talkative guy. I'm intelligent and good with words, and I love to talk sometimes

brehs, that is a turnoff for most women. And not necessarily because they don't like talkative dudes. It's cause they dont like dudes that don't let THEM talk

women love to talk and most of the stuff they talk about is a bunch of foolishness, but they LOVE to talk

I used to be that guy who would try to fill those silent pauses in the middle of a convo

you don't have to always do that

even when talking by text or on FB or something

What i started doing was when having online convos with a chic, if I saw her typing on FB, I gave her like 15 min before I would type something else. Why? because she would type one thing, put it out there, and then if I waited, she would start typing again and keep typing and keep typing

if you're talking to a woman online, there's NO WAY that if you look over the convo, you typed more than she did. The woman should ALWAYS have given more in the convo than you did

it places you in a position of strength in a lot of ways

one such way is that if you let a woman talk, she'll tell you the secrets to pulling her or getting her out her panties. You just gotta read between the lines.

 

[Rice'N Beckford]

Weekend was chill. Booked a thick ass darkskin african joint at the club. Gonna get drinks wit her tmrw

Went to eat wit this 24 yr old joint off pof yesterday for the first time. She told me recently she had an abortion with twins. Sime doctor nikka knocked her up and wasnt tryna be a dad.

Also, she was married for 1.5 yrs in the military. Divorced 2 yrs ago.

She said that she needs repairing and that I have to be patient. Im just looking fo fukk and chill. No relationship for me lol. I told her she only wanna BF cause she lonely.

I already know that if I smash. She gonna be harassing me

But the lightskin and them tittiies

 

[Nuke Dukem]

Could just be using you for a free meal, especially if she already said she's broke. And if she outright saying that, she most likely just getting you to pay. Not really a good look on her side. You just trying to smash? I wouldn't seriously consider dating a chick like this...

I would tell her like this "Aiight, cool, when you get on your feet, let me know".

Women are looking for free meals, and she has not indicated she ain't giving up the puss.

Say sure, lets go.

Then when its saturday, flake on her.
fukk you mean shes broke but want to eat sushi. Bro dont tolerate this nonsence. Let her crave for that shyt and dead it in her face by disrespecting you to pay for her on a upfront thing.

Theres rice and stew @ home

And if she didnt tell you shes broke upfront, you take her to a sushi place which is only reachable by car. That way after the date and you payed, you decide if you want to have that fukking tea at your place. Or drop her off the bus stop.

If you like her i think you should take risk

**Update**


Here’s the update on this goofy bytch..



We had setup plans for this sushi date for Sunday @ 2pm...


Well luckily the place was closed on Sundays..


So it’s about 12:30pm on Sunday and the bytch messages me on fb messenger saying..



Her : “hey my phones broke Incase you tried texting me “




So I told the bytch


Me: “aw okay that spot is closed, so we can get on something else”



Man this bytch didn’t even open the message or reply back at all.. ( I know you can view messages without opening the app in notifications so I know she seen it lbs)


So I charge the bytch to the game



And then later I see the bytch post a snap story with her “broke” phone..




Fck her but I really really really wanna treat the bytch ... Nothing crazy/Goofy, but I feel goofy if I leave this unchecked




But yeah fukk that bytch lol

 

[ChiefKenji]

**Update**


Here’s the update on this goofy bytch..



We had setup plans for this sushi date for Sunday @ 2pm...


Well luckily the place was closed on Sundays..


So it’s about 12:30pm on Sunday and the bytch messages me on fb messenger saying..



Her : “hey my phones broke Incase you tried texting me “




So I told the bytch


Me: “aw okay that spot is closed, so we can get on something else”



Man this bytch didn’t even open the message or reply back at all.. ( I know you can view messages without opening the app in notifications so I know she seen it lbs)


So I charge the bytch to the game



And then later I see the bytch post a snap story with her “broke” phone..




Fck her but I really really really wanna treat the bytch ... Nothing crazy/Goofy, but I feel goofy if I leave this unchecked




But yeah fukk that bytch lol

Shouldnt of said that the spot was closed, should of just went and picked her up and than see what was the situation if you really wanted to see her.

But i told you you should have flaked on her, now she flaked you. See how stupid it feels?

Lets fix this.


Step 1: Stop looking at her snaps(story), especially if she aint sent it to you directly.

Step 2: If you really want to check/get back at her, reschedule the date when the spot is open then either flake on her or actually go to the spot. When eating the sushi, you analyze her and based on her behaviour you check her on her previous actions. Put her in her place by actually saying something that is not nice towards her. For example, say that you enjoying eating sushi but she looking sleepy and if everything is ok back home. (Even if she is looking great) This will raise insecurity fast and she will feel either the need to prove something to you or show her true colours so you know what the deal is.

Step 3: Pay 50/50 if she showed her true colours and cut the date short. Say that you have to go to another apointment and that she can have your share of sushi if she decides to stay longer. Tell her you will text her later, then delete her number.

Only pay 100 if your analytics are positive for something sexual afterwards even if its a kiss or a grab. Do this before you go into your car.

 

[360dagod]

Weekend was chill. Booked a thick ass darkskin african joint at the club. Gonna get drinks wit her tmrw

Went to eat wit this 24 yr old joint off pof yesterday for the first time. She told me recently she had an abortion with twins. Sime doctor nikka knocked her up and wasnt tryna be a dad.

Also, she was married for 1.5 yrs in the military. Divorced 2 yrs ago.

She said that she needs repairing and that I have to be patient. Im just looking fo fukk and chill. No relationship for me lol. I told her she only wanna BF cause she lonely.

I already know that if I smash. She gonna be harassing me

But the lightskin and them tittiies

The 24 year old gonna raise your blood pressure something serious

 

[Nuke Dukem]

Shouldnt of said that the spot was closed, should of just went and picked her up and than see what was the situation if you really wanted to see her.

But i told you you should have flaked on her, now she flaked you. See how stupid it feels?

Lets fix this.


Step 1: Stop looking at her snaps(story), especially if she aint sent it to you directly.

Step 2: If you really want to check/get back at her, reschedule the date when the spot is open then either flake on her or actually go to the spot. When eating the sushi, you analyze her and based on her behaviour you check her on her previous actions. Put her in her place by actually saying something that is not nice towards her. For example, say that you enjoying eating sushi but she looking sleepy and if everything is ok back home. (Even if she is looking great) This will raise insecurity fast and she will feel either the need to prove something to you or show her true colours so you know what the deal is.

Step 3: Pay 50/50 if she showed her true colours and cut the date short. Say that you have to go to another apointment and that she can have your share of sushi if she decides to stay longer. Tell her you will text her later, then delete her number.

Only pay 100 if your analytics are positive for something sexual afterwards even if its a kiss or a grab. Do this before you go into your car.

Yeah I shudve listened.... smh


I’m done with her tho, I’m not wasting anymore energy ... too many others out there



I will waste her time tho n do like you said

I’ll set sum up n not show cancel at the last minute


What would really make me happy is getting the food then leaving her to pay the bill

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Japanese get really weird with their anime

 

[ViShawn]

My weekend was good. I surprised an old buddy of mine in San Antonio, which is about 90 min south of where I live in Austin. Him and his family is moving and his wife told me it was his birthday. I surprised him coming down.

We also hit up a restaurant and some bars downtown. I told an old co-worker to come meet me who was a guy and a female coworker that is recently divorced but seems to be into me. She was excited to see me as I was too. I see her as a friend TBH.

While we were at one bar it was my female co-worker and I that were waiting to get served. These two women were near us. One in particular kept shyly looking at me and smiling in a very awkward fashion.

When they decided to move they had to pass me so I chatted them up. Turns out the one that was looking at me and the one I was interested in was an elementary school principal in small town TX. 5'9'' PAWG (fukk y'all militants ) seemed to have good conversation. More on the introverted side.

I think I hurt my friend's feelings a bit that was with me because she hasn't seen me in a while and I walked off with these two girls eventually, but I had to seize the opportunity and chat them up. Plus she just signed her divorce papers a month ago AND she divulged that she had sex with a guy friend she knows...I'm not going to get involved with the emotions surrounding all of that.

Regarding the girls I even called the one girl out for wanting to dance but only half assing it. I told her to go away and go dance so they did then I eventually caught up with them.

She lives a little over an hour away but seems willing to drive to me. Plus she is going to be in Austin for a week in two weeks. This weekend I may swing her way though

 

[ViShawn]

BTW deleting all my online dating apps and getting out there enjoying life the past month and involving myself with my friends and family has made me a happier person.

 

[African_brehda]

Brehs
This girl I'm talking to, very smart chick, we vibe very well, chemistry is there( she admitted it herself)

Buuuuut, sometimes when we're texting, she just goes missing, and I don't double text. Then she hits me up two days later on some I miss you shyt then proceeds to go missing again
Looked on her phone when I met her, and she has A LOT of unread messages from other people, and A LOT of messages coming in, so prolly easy for me to get missing amongst them.

So brehs, what do I do?
a) call her out on that shyt ( which I really want to)
b) ask her to pin our chats so she doesn't miss my messages ( personally think this seems needy)
c) just bush her (Which I really don't want to, she's very cool and seems to have her shyt together)

Brehs, pls advice

Btw, I never text her first again. Feeling ignored gets me heated

 

[Ohene]

Brehs
This girl I'm talking to, very smart chick, we vibe very well, chemistry is there( she admitted it herself)

Buuuuut, sometimes when we're texting, she just goes missing, and I don't double text. Then she hits me up two days later on some I miss you shyt then proceeds to go missing again
Looked on her phone when I met her, and she has A LOT of unread messages from other people, and A LOT of messages coming in, so prolly easy for me to get missing amongst them.

So brehs, what do I do?
a) call her out on that shyt ( which I really want to)
b) ask her to pin our chats so she doesn't miss my messages ( personally think this seems needy)
c) just bush her (Which I really don't want to, she's very cool and seems to have her shyt together)

Brehs, pls advice

Btw, I never text her first again. Feeling ignored gets me heated

if u see this girl as a potential you gotta say something or nothing will ever change. gotta be willing to take an L though
if u just tryna fukk then be coy and patient

 

[Snoopy Loops]

Brehs
This girl I'm talking to, very smart chick, we vibe very well, chemistry is there( she admitted it herself)

Buuuuut, sometimes when we're texting, she just goes missing, and I don't double text. Then she hits me up two days later on some I miss you shyt then proceeds to go missing again
Looked on her phone when I met her, and she has A LOT of unread messages from other people, and A LOT of messages coming in, so prolly easy for me to get missing amongst them.

So brehs, what do I do?
a) call her out on that shyt ( which I really want to)
b) ask her to pin our chats so she doesn't miss my messages ( personally think this seems needy)
c) just bush her (Which I really don't want to, she's very cool and seems to have her shyt together)

Brehs, pls advice

Btw, I never text her first again. Feeling ignored gets me heated

Don't push it. Be aloof with the situation. Keep your options open. Actions speak louder than words, so her chat of missing you shouldn't matter.

 

[African_brehda]

nothing will ever change

What do I say without coming off as needy?

 

[Chris Cool]

So I've been talking to this girl. I've known her for a while, she knows my family and vice versa, never talked to her really because she always had a boyfriend. She broke up with the bf last year, started talking to her a couple months ago, we hit it off, smash, hang out, kissing, texting all day and shyt, it seems like she finna be my girl but then she hits the and says she not tryna rush into a relationship. I understand, she was with the same nikka from 19-25. Everything seems cool though, but last week I was tryna hang and she was just playing me with bs answers idk, we'll see. I asked if she still like me she says yeah, shyt goes back to normal. I try to hang with her again on Friday, she says maybe, then when I ask later it's idk. I knew she wasn't fukking with me and said it, she says I guess.



That shyt pissed me off, I send my last text "weak as fukk. Girl bye." With the gif, and she sends me a "bye Felicia" gif.



This the longest we haven't talked since we started taking and I really like this broad, but I can't hit her back, can I? it's over, huh?

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Brehs
This girl I'm talking to, very smart chick, we vibe very well, chemistry is there( she admitted it herself)

Buuuuut, sometimes when we're texting, she just goes missing, and I don't double text. Then she hits me up two days later on some I miss you shyt then proceeds to go missing again
Looked on her phone when I met her, and she has A LOT of unread messages from other people, and A LOT of messages coming in, so prolly easy for me to get missing amongst them.

So brehs, what do I do?
a) call her out on that shyt ( which I really want to)
b) ask her to pin our chats so she doesn't miss my messages ( personally think this seems needy)
c) just bush her (Which I really don't want to, she's very cool and seems to have her shyt together)

Brehs, pls advice

Btw, I never text her first again. Feeling ignored gets me heated

only cause you're emotionally wrapped up in her, you need to bush her

that's the only reason why.

And before you say that you aren't, exhibit a:

"we vibe very well, chemistry is there( she admitted it herself)", and "ask her to pin our chats so she doesn't miss my messages"



just the fact that you said those 2 things tells me everything I need to know.

If you weren't emotionally invested, I would tell you to go with the flow, dont make her a priority and just play with her the same way she's playing with you

but for you to think you "vibe really well" and that "there's chemistry" when she take 2 days or longer to respond to you.............. you sure?