You're gonna be all right, breh. We all gotta go back to the well to remind ourselves what to do.
one of the hardest thing for a man to realize is that what you have is not special, that ":you dont know my girl like i do" ish is a joke and that the majority of women are wired the same.
you learned from your mistakes and your going to be different this time, only to realize its not you its them. You'll say damn i wont date a black girl anymore, or a white girl, or a asian, or a girl from a single parent home, or a girl with money etc. only to realize it doesnt matter
and i agree it takes time, weve all been there, read the link i posted above, men take heeartbreak, and failure in marriage, long term relationships harder than females, there is no outlet. I remember back when i was extremely
, and there was nothing just had to suck it up every day, chick was on my mind from as soon as i went up till iw ent to sleep tormenting me, days, weeks, months, it took me going away on vacation for a few weeks to finally get her off my mind, i read countless of relationship forums, topics, mens rights blogs, forums, marriage forums and it was always repeating men getting screwed, men heartbroken but no outlet, it took me years to get to th epoint i am right now, sometimes a little portion of me says sign up for a dating site, go out there find someone, like a old drug addict and his friend telling him just take one snort man
then i just dwelve into my old notes again and realize the reward isnt worth the risk, im not scared or bitter, im content, im happy. I remember i think from the age of 16 up to like 25 i always had a chick on valentines day, past 3 years its just been me
sad thing is id make a great father and husband but its just not worth it
i posted a link to a story i came across today and i was reading some of the comments
I completely understand the wish to commit suicide in this circumstance - been there, but didn't quite do it. My wife left me for another man when my children were a little over a year old - to say I was blind-sided is putting it mildly. The hole that one feels in one's life in this circumstance is hard to describe, but it is aching and corrosive.
Immediately after you've been told that the love of your life actually doesn't think much of you, the lawyers jump in and in neat legalese, tell you that your relationship with your children is forever fractured, and that you have NO CHANCE of custody. Oh - and you owe her and your lawyers a ton of money. Matrimonial home? The dream home you purchased together? She keeps it because it will be good for the kids. Your new digs will be a rented apartment in a slightly dodgy building.
So - you're alone. Worse, you know that the one person you loved most in the world feels contempt for you (how else could you cuckold someone?) and is doing all the things you did - sharing all the moments, the intimacies, the shared experiences that you valued with someone else. Oh - and you're broke. At the time our divorce was finalized, I was able to rescue about $110k from the smoking ruins of my life - but stupidly, I allowed my wife to pay it out in installments which she frequently missed and never fully paid. If I missed one ( I did - but only once - the cheque bounced) of my child support payments however... ! Between child support and alimony I was paying, at the start, about $25k a year - my gross pay was a little over $65k... after taxes that left me a little over $20k a year to live on... do able - but not easy.
no - I understand the wish to off oneself all too well. I went as far as buying the aluminium hose and duct tape to poison/suffocate myself in my car... in the end the only reason I didn't was that I didn't want my sons to grow up without their real father around.
My point? Divorce is probably the most difficult thing that most people can conceive of. I realize now that the divorce was hard on my ex wife too - the difference however, is that in our society, divorces seem, disproportionately, to be blamed on men (we were too insensitive, didn't pay attention, didn't work hard enough,earn enough etc etc etc.), and divorce LAW is written for the protection of women (and ostensibly children). The result is that in divorce, men are usually seen as the culpable party regardless of the circumstances, are immediately estranged from their own families, and presented with what is often crippling debt.
I'm not surprised that men commit suicide after divorce. I was suicidal for a full 2 and a half - 3 years following my divorce - and I am not someone who had EVER considered such a thing - it's not in my nature. No - I am surprised that more men don't commit suicide after divorce.
like i said not worth it
So much truth... the women in those shows are so damn selfish. I was head over heels with a girl that was a huge fan of Sex and the City and called Nurse Jackie sexually empowered because she cheated on her husband. I don't even have to follow up with a story to let you know how that panned out for me.
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but life is boring no thrills, let me fly halfway across the wrld by myself to meet a foreign person who will screw my brains out, kids? husband? who cares.
There are many reasons that I would call this man "unmanly" on looks alone, but that sign just seals the deal. shyt is cringe worthy. This is pretty much the last guy that I would go to for reassurance that taking it up the ass with a strap on isn't unmanly. 
. Because it's true, a girl shouldnt strap herself down or necesssarily settle. Compromise yes, bus not settle. But peep the first reply:
My generation is fukked