Killigraphy
Banned
There is a lot of ego and low-self-esteem in the male gender.
Lots of men use hooking up with women as validation hoping it brings value to their existence.
Some men ego brings entitlement and in some ways, fear is welcomed.
This is why self-improvement is heavily promoted.
Who are you?
What's your personality type?
Where are you in life?
What's your social status?
Who are the people you surround yourself with?
What type of women do you like?
You have to invest in you because it will reflect on the women who enter your life.
Let me give concrete examples:
1. A friend of mine is in the military, divorced, has a kid.- his rotation consists of divorced or single parent moms.
2. I have been in community college/ university for years now-- my last two GF's are from school.
You hang out with people who have the same hobbies, circumstances, personalities, and interests as you.
This is why I feel like men lack validation and have too much ego. Dudes try to holler at anything or anyone and no high ground of self-awareness.
You could be a 21-year-old attending college with the hobbies of staying in on weekends watching movies, listening to music, talking, and drinking wine and that could match with that random lady in your class who's 30.
You could be that 29-year-old guy about to go into his thirties where all of his friends are all married and have children now. To fit in you settle down and try to start something serious. But deep down you know you enjoy the party/drinking life on weekends and it bleeds into your relationship so you resent the woman you tried to start a life with.
Maybe that chick who rejected you wasn't so bad? Maybe if you were self-aware you would realize that rejection was a blessing in disguise because that female was known for drama, something you never participate in.
If she likes traveling, hiking, and all that outdoors shyt, then why would she be down to be with you if all you like to do is stay at home and watch horror flicks?
Get someone to match your wave length
get to know yourself brehs.
Always important +1 .
That's usually the problem with old heads or guys who settled. A lot of them don't go into the detail on how they just gave up on themselves, and got with the local ageing thot just because they wanted kids. They'll spew out tired rhetoric like "I'm a man because of x" yet have horrible jobs, bad communication skills, and have no real talents. Forget father figures, these types couldn't pick up a good book or take advice from people already in the game. They oversimplify due to ignorance, and over complicate something like self growth.
