i definitely agree but what's done is done. can't change the past. moving forward however i feel like i need to attempt to make things right (not for her but mostly for myself and my code). but at the same time it's a delicate line to walk...
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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you need to give more details.
You definitely fukked up when you acted like nothing happened.
The bolded has come to full light, its clear she wants in the circle and is now "friends" with everyone in the family and the inner circle. She knows we are all the creative type with active minds putting things together. Why is this important? Because its a clear reminder that you need to focus on your goals before anything else. This is a bad broad brehs, a female who would have never added/talked or even glanced at any of us before one of us started making moves. Now that the names are moving up ladder? She texts frequently, she sends ME messages and I haven't even met her face to face yet
My brehs I didn't even know how to pronounce her name and asked my friend who the fukk that was when she requested me
She is dying to get into that inner circle and a power move to gain whatever leverage she can solely based on her looks. Its a rough cycle out there, but we all see the game and recognize whats going on. Two of my boys out in Cali had contacted with her previously, but its a whole different ball game now. All because some recognition is being thrown around. Its hilarious how someone is so much more attractive/interesting to these females once a buzz is spreading.
This is viewing a relationship in terms of what you can potentially gain and worry about the rest later on. So many women in this country do this and we slip because it is in our nature to take care of them, its what we were taught growing up and see the continuation of that message with movies and other forms of media.
Glad you recognize it ahead of time because that's the kind of woman that can ruin friendships... She tries to bust in your circle and starts jumping from dude to dude in there and tries to use ya'll as a launchpad for whatever she is trying to do. It is very easy to ruin friendships because the men within don't have an understanding of females and one of them catches feelings for a girl but she is trying to bounce around the crew.
basically i met this chick, she was choosing me pretty hard. everything was going cool and smooth. I was in the right zone but then i received some bad advice and the funny thing is, eventhough i told him why i disagreed with him, that shyt still contaminated my mindset with doubt (don't get me wrong, i can't even blame dude, it's my fault for not having the mental toughness at that point). I even made a post about this some time later about not even entertaining simp's advice in convos. but anyway i started to switch up on her a little bit and her behavior changed as well. one day i sent her a text telling her i wanted to meet and she didn't reply in a timely fashion so i had already charged it to the game, didn't chase when days later she sent me a text apologizing because she'd be busy for stuff (she said which stuff, note she didn't acknowledge my request and while i know what she said was true, she was still using that to give me the run around). so i just replied aight. she started flirting a little but i didn't bite and pretty much ended the convo. days later after i didn't contact her, she calls me (i assume her other options didn't workout) and again i didn't check her verbally but my tone might have showed her a little what it was (or maybe not). Anyway, we hung up and the next day i sent her a text out of politeness for something and again, no reply so i said fukk it.
days later she texts me again out of the blue (again, i assume her other options didn't work out). Still didn't check her. I don't know if it's because i'm scared to show emotion cause i'm not even scared of a confrontation with her or anything but i just act like whatever (again, bad move). It's almost like i don't check her because in my mind i already put her in the bushes and talking to other chicks. Almost like even checking her on it would be an extra investment of emotion.
She basically made that bad move twice but i wasn't myself to be honest. The thing is now, i feel cool again (was going through a slump but i feel like i'm starting to get back on my mode). She's starting to show signs that she's choosing again. on one hand i feel like checking her because i feel like if i don't she'll feel comfortable pulling the same move all over again. but on the other hand like i said, i don't appreciate the way she reacted but at the same time i did switch up on her and i understand why she wasn't feeling me like before (only problem i have with her is the way she dealt with the fact she wasn't feeling me as much). I feel like i'm back to my mode and from her recent behavior she started acting right again as well. When i got my mind right she got hers as well.
so now i'm wondering if i just let it be and continue being me, and the fact that i'm back to playing it right should keep her in check (or maybe i'm too arrogant at this point?). or should i check her?
EDIT: the fact that i stepped back and took some time to myself (as well as talking to other chicks) definitely helped me gain some perspective and also gave me some time and focus to take care of some other business that needed to be taken care of. Balance your life folks!!!
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Daily Star: Simply The Best 7 Days A Week :: Just Jane :: Perfect regret
MY ex-boyfriend always wanted to get married and have children.
He was a gorgeous man and a brilliant lover a real Mr Perfect.
Often hed beg me to let him make me pregnant.
I told him I wasnt ready.
I was more interested in drinking and clubbing with my friends.
Eventually he issued an ultimatum marriage or split.
I went for the split, kidding myself Id find someone just as good and that he wasnt all that great anyway.
Six months later he married a girl from his office.
I saw the photos online and wept about him for the first time since our break-up.
He looked so handsome and she, the bytch, looked like the cat that got the cream.
It dawned on me just what Id lost. I did ring him once (when drunk) and asked him to come back to me but he just hung up.
Now they live in one of the biggest houses in the next street.
His business is doing brilliantly and he drives a gorgeous car.
Even worse, she gave birth to twins at the beginning of last year who look like something out of a glossy magazine.
Theyre always beautifully dressed and smiling.
I see this happy family on a Saturday morning, all having breakfast in a local coffee shop and I feel sick.
That could have been me.
I havent had a proper boyfriend since him, just a succession of one-night stands who never call again.
The latest asked if he could call me by his ex-wifes name during sex, because it was just easier.
How did I manage to throw it all away?
MY ex-boyfriend always wanted to get married and have children.
He was a gorgeous man and a brilliant lover a real Mr Perfect.
Often hed beg me to let him make me pregnant.
I told him I wasnt ready.
I was more interested in drinking and clubbing with my friends.
Eventually he issued an ultimatum marriage or split.
I went for the split, kidding myself Id find someone just as good and that he wasnt all that great anyway.
Six months later he married a girl from his office.
I saw the photos online and wept about him for the first time since our break-up.
He looked so handsome and she, the bytch, looked like the cat that got the cream.
It dawned on me just what Id lost. I did ring him once (when drunk) and asked him to come back to me but he just hung up.
Now they live in one of the biggest houses in the next street.
His business is doing brilliantly and he drives a gorgeous car.
Even worse, she gave birth to twins at the beginning of last year who look like something out of a glossy magazine.
Theyre always beautifully dressed and smiling.
I see this happy family on a Saturday morning, all having breakfast in a local coffee shop and I feel sick.
That could have been me.
I havent had a proper boyfriend since him, just a succession of one-night stands who never call again.
The latest asked if he could call me by his ex-wifes name during sex, because it was just easier.
How did I manage to throw it all away?
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Alright brehs, I see that this thread is damn near 800 pages long.
Did yall find the women of yall dreams yet?
Did yall find the women of yall dreams yet?
Not By Bread Alone
Rookie
I can't shake this woman. I'm going to have to get a new number. She's giving me a dozen missed calls every other day, calling from hidden numbers that I can't block. Message and everything.
I can't even use my phone - it has to be on silent all the time. Good thing she doesn't live in the same country, otherwise she would be bona fide stalking me
Should I change my number and leave her to realise this herself, or should I send her a quick message stating so?
I'm not even concerned about getting "one-up" - I just don't want to deal with the hassle of her trying to email me instead of calling me. Maybe she'll finally get it in her head that I don't want contact. On one hand I laugh at all her missed calls, but on the other hand it's a real disruption.
I was thinking of sending her a short message to the effect of: "I'm changing my number. Yes I've moved on."
What say you brehs?
I can't even use my phone - it has to be on silent all the time. Good thing she doesn't live in the same country, otherwise she would be bona fide stalking me
Should I change my number and leave her to realise this herself, or should I send her a quick message stating so?
I'm not even concerned about getting "one-up" - I just don't want to deal with the hassle of her trying to email me instead of calling me. Maybe she'll finally get it in her head that I don't want contact. On one hand I laugh at all her missed calls, but on the other hand it's a real disruption.
I was thinking of sending her a short message to the effect of: "I'm changing my number. Yes I've moved on."
What say you brehs?
George Gooney
AA GANG AA GANG AA GANG
I can't shake this woman. I'm going to have to get a new number. She's giving me a dozen missed calls every other day, calling from hidden numbers that I can't block. Message and everything.
I can't even use my phone - it has to be on silent all the time. Good thing she doesn't live in the same country, otherwise she would be bona fide stalking me
Should I change my number and leave her to realise this herself, or should I send her a quick message stating so?
I'm not even concerned about getting "one-up" - I just don't want to deal with the hassle of her trying to email me instead of calling me. Maybe she'll finally get it in her head that I don't want contact. On one hand I laugh at all her missed calls, but on the other hand it's a real disruption.
I was thinking of sending her a short message to the effect of: "I'm changing my number. Yes I've moved on."
What say you brehs?
Tell her she's coming on too strong! Don't develop a habit of running away from your problems and taking the high ground with women.
Not By Bread Alone
Rookie
Nah breh, I caught her cheating. I've posted about her a few times in this thread if you want an entertaining read:
http://www.the-coli.com/3599035-post10377.html
I'm still walking around
that she's outta my life!
http://www.the-coli.com/3599035-post10377.html
I'm still walking around
that she's outta my life!
Brehs, my lady weed dealer just called me "boo". Should I be giving this any additional thought?
Poh SIti Dawn
Staying Positive, Getting Better Everyday. Holler!
Nope, I'm progressing though.
-Ended things with my ex
-Built my confidence up
-learned a lot
and today I've just now kind of gotten the idea of not even focusing on women but instead trying to better myself (looking at internships to help children during summer camps in foreign countries; I'd like to go to Italy).
Funny thing happened today, I was walking to my car, seen a girl and she smiles and says "hi" to me but silently so that I could barely hear what she said but instead mouthed the words and then she looked down and bit her lip as she walked past me. Had my
face on but on the inside I was like 
just smiled and kept on walking. The thirst was so under control I swear.