one of the most important things you can do for yourself in life is learning to control your high when youre just getting to know someone. a lot of people are constantly getting in too deep and falling for someone who hasnt even put in a fraction of the work necessary to make them feel that way. we could rationalize all day about how great she MIGHT have been, but if she hasnt been that way with you, then dont hold your breath and feel bad about what never really was there.
sure its nice when you meet someone that you feel that you can really talk to, spend some good times with together, and she can be feminine with you. thats all good and well. but beyond all of that level 1, basic surface shyt, you shouldnt be feeling any ol' girl yet
because the realness of who she truly is hasnt come out yet.
that honeymoon phases trick a majority of men out there, and thats how you can get caught up with the wrong one. dont waste your time and play it out in your head on how it could have been, be more concerned with what is and what was.
believe me, Ive been with single mothers, heavily religious women, young college bytches, older women, independant women, foreign women, etc. and when it finally comes down to it, by the time things were getting cold I realized that a lot of the surface qualities I liked about them is something I can get ANYWHERE else. that honeymoon face lasts but so long, then comes out the real woman. and many times, its not so pretty. women who are ugly on the inside and are seriously insecure are a cancer to you.
the REAL shyt that matters, came when they were showing me their character when the chips were down. or how they reacted when it was on them to show and prove what they said they were about. thats what really spoke out on their behalf.
if a woman cant follow through for you and what youre bringing, then her value has to be near zero to you. they can not sit up high on a perch when theyre merely only mooching or accepting your time and insight. so you make sure you show to her there are no free rides, and there is no just sitting on the bench looking pretty. you cant accept her doing little to nothing because "shes busy" or whatever. none of that is gonna make things work. bottomline, you can not be take a girl more serious than she takes you. you will play yourself out like that.
when you understand that: she may flake out on plans a lot, she may not have your back for real, she tests you just to see if youll check her, her loyalty comes in a "what have you done for me lately" type of package deal, see that she does not know how to be there emotionally to support or comfort you, gossips about others more than she talks about her own progress, looks for weaknesses in you to exploit for later, and likes to start shyt just to start shyt on some days ....then you can start to disqualify a lot of women from being true. if thats being the case, then you have to disqualify her from being worthy of anything you may have to offer.
when you finally take off their masks, that is the real moment of truth. and to tell you the real, a lot of women are not mature enough for us to take too seriously. they might not even know
how to be taken seriously and how to mature into a woman, thus they end up riding the famed cock carousel as an immature slut and then end up on POF looking for Mr Right when theyre "ready to settle down." they may eventually wake up, but once they are awake, theyre fukked up in the game or have fukked up with you. you need to see when its time to look elsewhere and find another one, regardless of how pleasant she started off as. once you learn to control that initial high and see what it is, you do not go and travel back into enemy territory.
its going to be your job to not get smitten with looks and what
appears to be a good woman while youre still looking at her from the outside in. only her time and her actions will determine if shes is worth any effort. you have to go and make sure she meets you halfway, as well as communicate to her thats what you expect from her.
if its early in the game, then there is no need to feel any type of way about her coming and going. dont sweat that. theres a lot more where that came from that you SHOULD be spending your time on.
This chick I know is like that. when we first started chillin, she was on me HEAVY! Calling me all throughout the day, every day checking up on me. I actually haven't smashed yet despite her coming to my house several times(she claims she's a virgin
I didn't ask her so w/e.) I'm not going to lie I wasn't that interested in her as much as she was in me so I always had that distance when it came to who's feeling who.
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I don't got time to be playing phone buddy with you!
