Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

I don’t care if she is or isn’t , my point is I’m not going to be around her all the time if I’m not getting it, which is why she was frustrated with me.

Breh If the reason you’re pulling back from a female is cause of lack of sex, never tell em that. It cast u in a submissive light. She has something u want and since you’re not getting it u wanna take ur toys/attention and play stingy.

nah I’ve dealt with this enough times to know exactly what not to do.

u go to a chicks house at night. Y’all playing. U tried ur best moves and she ain’t letting u through. Change the subject. Cuddle for a few minutes (max 5 minutes), joke around with her to get her mind off the tension. Then out of nowhere, get up and tell her u gotta dip. Do not show any frustration or anger. Remember. This is at night. As ur getting ready to leave she’ll stop u and rest of the night will be to your liking.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Breh If the reason you’re pulling back from a female is cause of lack of sex, never tell em that. It cast u in a submissive light. She has something u want and since you’re not getting it u wanna take ur toys/attention and play stingy.

nah I’ve dealt with this enough times to know exactly what not to do.

u go to a chicks house at night. Y’all playing. U tried ur best moves and she ain’t letting u through. Change the subject. Cuddle for a few minutes (max 5 minutes), joke around with her to get her mind off the tension. Then out of nowhere, get up and tell her u gotta dip. Do not show any frustration or anger. Remember. This is at night. As ur getting ready to leave she’ll stop u and rest of the night will be to your liking.

I feel you breh. It’s like this though, from the jump, she told me she’s celibate and not interested in having sex before marriage, so I told her upfront, that’s cool, I just won’t put us in a situation where I feel like I want it to happen, out of respect for your celibacy. So that includes, not inviting you to the crib to chill late at night, or any other type
Of intimate type setting, because I don’t want to frustrate myself knowing that it’s not going to go past a certain limit, or being up under her all the time knowing that it can’t go past a certain level for the long term. I liked her enough to adjust the way I dealt with her instead of just deading it and moving on. So I was cool with occasionally seeing her and if it evolved into something more that way, than cool, she wasn’t with it

 

[sfgiants]

Covid causing me and my girl to go long distance. I'm moving back home to Atlanta and she going back to her family in seattle to save money.

Anyone do long distance successfully and got any tips? We've been together for about a year now

If you don’t have a plan in eventually reuniting you’re gona be sharing her inside of 3.5 months. 3 hour time difference, you gon be asleep while she’s on bumble/hinge getting hella likes

ultimately there has to be a plan you’re both working toward Cuz watching each other jack off on cam ain’t gona make up for being there in person.

 

[sfgiants]

I feel you breh. It’s like this though, from the jump, she told me she’s celibate and not interested in having sex before marriage, so I told her upfront, that’s cool, I just won’t put us in a situation where I feel like I want it to happen, out of respect for your celibacy. So that includes, not inviting you to the crib to chill late at night, or any other type
Of intimate type setting, because I don’t want to frustrate myself knowing that it’s not going to go past a certain limit, or being up under her all the time knowing that it can’t go past a certain level for the long term. I liked her enough to adjust the way I dealt with her instead of just deading it and moving on. So I was cool with occasionally seeing her and if it evolved into something more that way, than cool, she wasn’t with it

why is this even a thing.. colossal waste of time. A bytch would have to be rich + perfect body + a brain surgeon to even take a risk of being with a woman who refuses to have sex, and when you finally do you’re already married and the sex is trash cuz she’s a pillow princesses

you’re at the very minimum an optimistic one full calendar year before a wedding just logistically speaking that you’re gona go without sex
And who knows maybe 7 months in you realize you’re not feeling each other and you just wasted 7 months of your life

bush time

 

[PharaohAtem]

checked tinder and these girls aren't looking too good

 

[LeVraiPapi]

Nada



Nah, she was telling her best friends about me, always hitting me up, always pressing me to hang out and etc..she was just thinking she could lock me down and eventually get wife’d up without ever having to have sex until after marriage to make her feel she did it the “right” way, even though she’s only been celibate for about a year and some change.

nah breh. Sounds like you want that chick. You do sound frustrated and it palpates in your posts.

Understandably so... I been there.

Here is what I did.

I invited her to hang out and do all kinda things with her. We went go-karting, golfing, dinner, boat ride and all that. I never made a move to kiss her or made compliments about her body. I friend-zoned myself. I would even stare at other females or flirt while she is around. Take her to your spot and watch a movie with her. Show her sex with her is not important for you now. Let her see herself as a regular chick and nothing extra. Treat her like a homie. Call her "yow, bruh, dawg". That tells her you are just chilling with her and you are not that into her anymore. Most importantly, you are always busy. Hit her up when you want. Do shyt with her when you want. If she says "nah I m tired" Just reply "cool"

Once she realizes, you not that into her p*ssy anymore, you golden. She will be begging for your attention. Make sure you meet other girls too. Once you start smashing a few other girls, she will not be as important to you anymore.

Best of Luck!

It sounds like she thinks she can dangle her p*ssy in front of you cuz you were too thirsty.

 

[DaHNIC82]

nah breh. Sounds like you want that chick. You do sound frustrated and it palpates in your posts.

Understandably so... I been there.

Here is what I did.

I invited her to hang out and do all kinda things with her. We went go-karting, golfing, dinner, boat ride and all that. I never made a move to kiss her or made compliments about her body. I friend-zoned myself. I would even stare at other females or flirt while she is around. Take her to your spot and watch a movie with her. Show her sex with her is not important for you now. Let her see herself as a regular chick and nothing extra. Treat her like a homie. Call her "yow, bruh, dawg". That tells her you are just chilling with her and you are not that into her anymore. Most importantly, you are always busy. Hit her up when you want. Do shyt with her when you want. If she says "nah I m tired" Just reply "cool"

Once she realizes, you not that into her p*ssy anymore, you golden. She will be begging for your attention. Make sure you meet other girls too. Once you start smashing a few other girls, she will not be as important to you anymore.

Best of Luck!

It sounds like she thinks she can dangle her p*ssy in front of you cuz you were too thirsty.

That shyt be working like a charm.... Treat em like a homie.. When you talk, Mix some flirting with some charming when she looking good and you'll have her attached.. Also STILL talk to other women while doing this. Then her friends would check you..

 

[Atlrocafella]

nah breh. Sounds like you want that chick. You do sound frustrated and it palpates in your posts.

Understandably so... I been there.

Here is what I did.

I invited her to hang out and do all kinda things with her. We went go-karting, golfing, dinner, boat ride and all that. I never made a move to kiss her or made compliments about her body. I friend-zoned myself. I would even stare at other females or flirt while she is around. Take her to your spot and watch a movie with her. Show her sex with her is not important for you now. Let her see herself as a regular chick and nothing extra. Treat her like a homie. Call her "yow, bruh, dawg". That tells her you are just chilling with her and you are not that into her anymore. Most importantly, you are always busy. Hit her up when you want. Do shyt with her when you want. If she says "nah I m tired" Just reply "cool"

Once she realizes, you not that into her p*ssy anymore, you golden. She will be begging for your attention. Make sure you meet other girls too. Once you start smashing a few other girls, she will not be as important to you anymore.

Best of Luck!

It sounds like she thinks she can dangle her p*ssy in front of you cuz you were too thirsty.

that’s the thing, I admit that I liked her, and I know I would want things to go further, but knowing she wasn’t with going all the way, I was like cool, in that case, imma see you occasionally and kick it with you on some hang out grab a drink shyt , she wants to make a boyfriend out of me and see me everyday and do all this other shyt, but I’m not entering a boyfriend/girlfriend situation with celibacy on the table.

 

[LeVraiPapi]

That shyt be working like a charm.... Treat em like a homie.. When you talk, Mix some flirting with some charming when she looking good and you'll have her attached.. Also STILL talk to other women while doing this. Then her friends would check you..

Real Neggas know. :

I never kissed her. I dapped her or shook her hand.


Then, one day, she randomly asked me out and I was like "I am already out in Las Olas and might get back home" Then she was like "Can I partake lol" I was like "come thru" (See I don't even use through cuz she a homie now )

@Atlrocafella hold firm breh. Talk to other girls. By the time you get around to play with her, your interest in her might be even gone

Then, you got her right where you want her. SHe has to chase you now

 

[LeVraiPapi]

that’s the thing, I admit that I liked her, and I know I would want things to go further, but knowing she wasn’t with going all the way, I was like cool, in that case, imma see you occasionally and kick it with you on some hang out grab a drink shyt , she wants to make a boyfriend out of me and see me everyday and do all this other shyt, but I’m not entering a boyfriend/girlfriend situation with celibacy on the table.

You don't tell her that outright. You just become very busy all of a sudden. Then you tell her when you might be free. SHow her your time is not hers. You are the catch. SHe wanna be bf/gf, cool. Then, you shape that into whatever you want. How EVER YOU WANT! Don't be sayng no cuz that's what she expected. Throw her a harder curve ball

Make her a homie.

 

[Astroslik]

Anyone dated a chick who sucks at sex? I don’t have patience for this shyt. She checks most of the other boxes though.

 

[Bigblackted4]

Anyone dated a chick who sucks at sex? I don’t have patience for this shyt. She checks most of the other boxes though.

Yes it’ll be a struggle for a while but you have to find ways to open her up

 

[NerdNash]

I’m tired of all my women brehs. About to get a whole new roster. Time to rebuild. Then maybe wife something next year. MAYBE

 

[LeVraiPapi]

Anyone dated a chick who sucks at sex? I don’t have patience for this shyt. She checks most of the other boxes though.

Even better for you. That shows a lack of experience.

Mold her into whatever r you want and she will be your toy , at your pleasure/mercy all the time.

 

[Vinny Lupton]

What's some good phrases to deflect the "what are you looking for" type questions on the apps? Told one flat out I'm staying single and that didn't go over well