Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

My nikka has problems keeping females from falling for him. "God's Gift", no J. Cole

It ain’t even that. There’s this female I been hanging out with and taking out to eat. We hooked up once. She has kids and she can’t have anymore which is all fine by me. But I take her out regularly cause she’s pretty and I’m well aware of how attractive u can become if other women see u with a woman who’s easy on the eyes. The issue is on more than a few occasions there’s been girls who were blatantly flirting in front of her, which she didn’t like. But at the same time I think it made her more attracted or whatever. I must admit I take her out for my own selfish reasons. People think I’m menacing and unapproachable cause I hardly smile. So I take her out so they see I’m not so bad after all if another female consistently hangs out with him Lol.

it’s frustrating really cause I told her I’m single for a specific reason. Being in a relationship is tiring. Constant texting, talking on the phone, going out all the time. Your weekends are never consistently quiet. Always into somesh1t. And being in my 30s i realize my peace of mind supersedes all things. What I had going with her I thought was a good deal. I take her out to eat and I pay and we go our separate ways. I don’t invite her back to my place cause then that means I have to entertain her.

meh it’s whatever. She’ll probably dip when she realizes I’m not gonna give her what she secretly wants.

 

[DaRealness]

those of yall with female friends, how do yall keep them from falling for you but still continue to hang out?

I keep them as acquaintances at this point to limit the b.s. to be honest. If we're not in a relationship or dating then I don't really hang out and definitely limit the time on the phone if it’s not about anything in particular.

 

[TRUEST]

I keep them as acquaintances at this point to limit the b.s. to be honest. If we're not in a relationship or dating then I don't really hang out and definitely limit the time on the phone if it’s not about anything in particular.

I used to do that until I realized I legit had no female friends. Like none. So I had to take the conscious effort to make plans to communicate even if I hated it.

 

[DaRealness]

I used to do that until I realized I legit had no female friends. Like none. So I had to take the conscious effort to make plans to communicate even if I hated it.

Whatever works for you since you know what your needs are.

 

[Turbulent]

those of yall with female friends, how do yall keep them from falling for you but still continue to hang out?

I think you can't really stop someone from being attracted to you in the same way you can't force someone to be attracted to you. It's like going against nature.

Only way i could see is if you consciously do little things here and there that are unattractive (needy feminine behaviour) but not so much that she doesn't want to hang out with you anymore (basically like reverse games). The problem with this is that you will eventually fukk your own mental state up because of the constant switching of personality you have to do. Low key this is why a lot of females are on prescribed drugs (especially the promiscuous ones). They constantly have to adjust and adapt their personality to the man they are with and the situations they are in. They are never centered. Always switching masks from work to home to their friends to family to the multiple men they deal with. Imagine that life over decades...

So yeah, i would just let her be attracted and if she's not happy on the situation, let her choose to leave but trying to make someone more or less attracted in you, the only way is to play games imo. And when playing games, you always end up playing yourself...

 

[Paradoxical Tiger]

Brehs I need advice


I’m 23, 6 foot and handsome and all that but I COMPLETELY lack sexual experience. I mean I’ve been approached over 100 times in my life (90% were BW) but was way too shy/socially awkward to do anything about them. Granted most of those women who approached were busted but it still counts I guess?


Anyways I don’t know what to do about my lack of social experience. I got opportunities to fukk single mothers and ugly white women but SHOULD I take that? Is it worth it? I’ve been focusing on my purpose and this year is gonna fukk around and be my best year ever in terms of success.


Idk brehs. I’m tired of settling for average women, but I also want to still practice my stroke game. I don’t want to waste my 20’s doing nothing but grinding even though I understand it’s important.


Right now I only got 4 bodies and they all pursued me.


I got one girl who wants to smash but she is a 2 in the face with a 9 body, A single mother who is bad, And a girl who seems nice but lives an hour away


I want to rack up bodies but I don’t know how I should go about it.

Being approached that many times and only having 4 bodies is quite literally making me depressed. That’s not even including the bytches that I was sure was feeling me but didn’t say anything.


Help

 

[Paradoxical Tiger]

Oh and my grandma still helps with my bills

 

[Turbulent]

Brehs I need advice


I’m 23, 6 foot and handsome and all that but I COMPLETELY lack sexual experience. I mean I’ve been approached over 100 times in my life (90% were BW) but was way too shy/socially awkward to do anything about them. Granted most of those women who approached were busted but it still counts I guess?


Anyways I don’t know what to do about my lack of social experience. I got opportunities to fukk single mothers and ugly white women but SHOULD I take that? Is it worth it? I’ve been focusing on my purpose and this year is gonna fukk around and be my best year ever in terms of success.


Idk brehs. I’m tired of settling for average women, but I also want to still practice my stroke game. I don’t want to waste my 20’s doing nothing but grinding even though I understand it’s important.


Right now I only got 4 bodies and they all pursued me.


I got one girl who wants to smash but she is a 2 in the face with a 9 body, A single mother who is bad, And a girl who seems nice but lives an hour away


I want to rack up bodies but I don’t know how I should go about it.

Being approached that many times and only having 4 bodies is quite literally making me depressed. That’s not even including the bytches that I was sure was feeling me but didn’t say anything.


Help

you want to have multiple bodies, all 9s and 10s, seems VERY unlikely. Is it worth it? I don't know but probably not. Fukking a hundred girls 1 time vs fukking 4 girls 25 times, i would choose the 4 and honestly it's probably more fun as both people open up and learn eachother (but maybe that's just me). As far as how to approach girls you TRULY want... You gotta improve your social skills and i would say try to research youtube on the subject. General advice is take baby steps at first. Get in the habit of looking people in the eyes but in a non threatening /non creepy way. Get in the habit of smiling and saying hi if they smile back. After a while, start to small talk with strangers (females, males, girls you wre attracted to, girls you are not attracted to, cashiers, waiters and waitresses, young, old, etc) for like 1 to 5 minutes then tell them you gotta go but it was really nice meeting them. once that's a habit, when you are talking to a girl you kinda like, just tell her you gotta go but what's your phone number or whatever. Don't get attached to if they give it, it's all practice and doesn't say anything about your worth. From there you will figure shyt out.

But yeah, watch some vids about improving your social skills. The trick is, ot has to become you. It's not something that you will just be able to turn on the first time you try it.

 

[Primetime]

Brehs I need advice


I’m 23, 6 foot and handsome and all that but I COMPLETELY lack sexual experience. I mean I’ve been approached over 100 times in my life (90% were BW) but was way too shy/socially awkward to do anything about them. Granted most of those women who approached were busted but it still counts I guess?


Anyways I don’t know what to do about my lack of social experience. I got opportunities to fukk single mothers and ugly white women but SHOULD I take that? Is it worth it? I’ve been focusing on my purpose and this year is gonna fukk around and be my best year ever in terms of success.


Idk brehs. I’m tired of settling for average women, but I also want to still practice my stroke game. I don’t want to waste my 20’s doing nothing but grinding even though I understand it’s important.


Right now I only got 4 bodies and they all pursued me.


I got one girl who wants to smash but she is a 2 in the face with a 9 body, A single mother who is bad, And a girl who seems nice but lives an hour away


I want to rack up bodies but I don’t know how I should go about it.

Being approached that many times and only having 4 bodies is quite literally making me depressed. That’s not even including the bytches that I was sure was feeling me but didn’t say anything.


Help

In a non-COVID environment i'd say go out with ya homeboys and friends to fun places where you can meet females and socialize (sports bars, beaches, malls, day parties). Or even better, have friends host house parties and invite their female friends over, which can ease you into talking to females in a more safe/controlled environment. Either way, you just got to get your reps in. Simple as that.

Now if you don't have homeboys or friends, then log off the coli and go make some. It can be at the gym, the bball court, school, work or wherever. If you have a healthy social life, talking to females will become a natural extension of that.

If you're more a solo act (which i don't recommend at your stage if you're shy) then something like eating at the mall food court (instead of taking it to-go) or setting up shop at a starbucks will increase your likelihood of random encounters with females who will be all around those places.

Of course, with Covid times, you may just have to stand pat a bit... which leads to the other thing you mentioned...

...as far as fukking... just pick whichever one is covid-free, std-free, and vibes with you the most to be your sparring partner in bed during these pandemic times. Get your reps up with that one and experiment with different positions and improving on your stamina or whatever else.

 

[Primetime]

Regarding female friends... i have no female friends

Well, I suppose my married female coworkers i consider as friends to an extent, but we aren't going to go have dinner together nor would we likely ever interact again if either of us moved on to another job. Maybe an occasional "how are things" on linkedin or FB.

Really, I don't have any interest in female friends. Maybe female acquaintances, which was easier to maintain in college when everyone is moving in cliques but you see each other every day on campus or in the dorms. You make acquaintances and it becomes like networking in that they can introduce you (or vouch for you) to any new bad female that they are cool with.

Outside of college (i'm about a decade removed now) my acquaintances are basically any random neighbors (either married or that i don't find attractive) or people at my job that greet in passing every day.

 

[TRUEST]

Regarding female friends... i have no female friends

Well, I suppose my married female coworkers i consider as friends to an extent, but we aren't going to go have dinner together nor would we likely ever interact again if either of us moved on to another job. Maybe an occasional "how are things" on linkedin or FB.

Really, I don't have any interest in female friends. Maybe female acquaintances, which was easier to maintain in college when everyone is moving in cliques but you see each other every day on campus or in the dorms. You make acquaintances and it becomes like networking in that they can introduce you (or vouch for you) to any new bad female that they are cool with.

Outside of college (i'm about a decade removed now) my acquaintances are basically any random neighbors (either married or that i don't find attractive) or people at my job that greet in passing every day.

Get u an attractive girl who ur not really sexually attracted to. And spend time with her going to bars, restaurants. It’ll sharpen your social skills and will raise your stock in the eyes of other women. The only downside is one of u (u or the female friend) falling in love and resenting the other for not making a move to claim them.

 

[Krisrunner2049]

I have a scumbag bio and women still add me on tinder. Just tryna fuxk and these women rather talk endlessly ins. I’m 21 and not as green as I used to be, unmatching girls when I peep they’re on the attention hoe tip

 

[Ahadi]

67 degrees on Friday in NYC.



Gona be a preview of summer

 

[Actually6Foot3]

Fellas, we have to hold ourselves to a higher standard in all aspects in life. Key word OURSELVES, not just the women we date. I've realized that a lot of men want women to view and treat us a way we don't even view or treat ourselves. Frauding. We want to demand the best out of folks yet we go around accepting the bare minimum from ourselves half assing or procrastinating through life?

You can't expect someone to give you THEIR best self if YOU won't even give YOU your best self? How can you expect someone to respect you when it could be clear to them that you don't even respect yourself.

Food for thought. If it applies to you, you'll know.

Half assing on your finances/job/education
Half assing on your health/diet/fitness
Half assing on your looks/hygiene/clothing

bruh def on the coli



Nah but he spit good game on this account ngl

 

[MikelArteta]

The old ugandan chick I used to canoodle and cavort with back in late 2018/early 2019 just reached out to me today. How she's been dreaming about me for weeks and just had a dream that I was getting married

Said she was surprised I didn't hang up or was angry


How she hopes we can possibly meet up for coffee etc.