Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

What i’ve come to realize now is that “explaining” things to women never works in our favour or solves the issue at hand. Instead, things end up getting drawn out even more which results in you becoming unnecessarily agitated. Or worst, you end up in an argument which is what the woman wants and nikkas should NEVER argue with a woman. It subconsciously says to her she can get to you which means you’re weak.

Simply state your point, deny or deflect ONCE and say nothing more afterwards. She wants to continue? Cool. Walk away from her or ignore her.

Explaining/talking/arguing is a feminine trait and is for the birds. Men are about action.

That book Declare war on Yourself I recommended in here a few weeks back, the author mentioned how when he found out his girlfriend was cheating, he didn't fuss or fight or cry asking her why, he just packed up all her shyt and left it at the front door. Even when she was cussing him out and harassing him after that he just refused to acknowledge her existence and moved on. He speaks in depth about not letting anyone take you off your square because at the end of the day, YOU will be the one that looks bad.

In essence that's how you have to be as a man. Cool and collected. You got dudes out here letting themselves get baited into full blown emotional arguments with total strangers, chicks they're not even in relationships with. If I don't know you, the fukk is there to argue about? Some dumb broad in public wants attention and says some dumb shyt to you in the line or wherever, just ignore it and KIM. Keep a poker face while some dumb ass broad or even a dude (nikkas who want attention from other men is another one) wants to mouth off and get on with what you need to do.

 

[Apollo Creed]

That book Declare war on Yourself I recommended in here a few weeks back, the author mentioned how when he found out his girlfriend was cheating, he didn't fuss or fight or cry asking her why, he just packed up all her shyt and left it at the front door. Even when she was cussing him out and harassing him after that he just refused to acknowledge her existence and moved on. He speaks in depth about not letting anyone take you off your square because at the end of the day, YOU will be the one that looks bad.

In essence that's how you have to be as a man. Cool and collected. You got dudes out here letting themselves get baited into full blown emotional arguments with total strangers, chicks they're not even in relationships with. If I don't know you, the fukk is there to argue about? Some dumb broad in public wants attention and says some dumb shyt to you in the line or wherever, just ignore it and KIM. Keep a poker face while some dumb ass broad or even a dude (nikkas who want attention from other men is another one) wants to mouth off and get on with what you need to do.

this. Lotta dudes put themselves in an inevitable L Moving into a womans place. Now she has leverage over you lol.

 

[DaRealness]

this. Lotta dudes put themselves in an inevitable L Moving into a womans place. Now she has leverage over you lol.

NEVER move into a woman's place. You're just one disagreement away from being kicked out and looking like an a$$hole.

 

[Apollo Creed]

NEVER move into a woman's place. You're just one disagreement away from being kicked out and looking like an a$$hole.

yup.

 

[MikelArteta]

Man I’m early 40s and was chilling not stressing dating at all. A made run on Hinge was doing decent and link with a a good one and it’s good. Brehs just gotta relax on some of the gloom and doom. Definitely be smart, definitely don’t waste your time, definitely make your life as best as possible for yourself. That said don’t get in the mind set of saying it’s over after this point.

Yup and especially a man not like you got eggs etc., I'm 35 and my last gf was 25, i'm sure you in your 40's have dated women in their early to mid thirties.

 

[RealAssanova]

That book Declare war on Yourself I recommended in here a few weeks back, the author mentioned how when he found out his girlfriend was cheating, he didn't fuss or fight or cry asking her why, he just packed up all her shyt and left it at the front door. Even when she was cussing him out and harassing him after that he just refused to acknowledge her existence and moved on. He speaks in depth about not letting anyone take you off your square because at the end of the day, YOU will be the one that looks bad.

In essence that's how you have to be as a man. Cool and collected. You got dudes out here letting themselves get baited into full blown emotional arguments with total strangers, chicks they're not even in relationships with. If I don't know you, the fukk is there to argue about? Some dumb broad in public wants attention and says some dumb shyt to you in the line or wherever, just ignore it and KIM. Keep a poker face while some dumb ass broad or even a dude (nikkas who want attention from other men is another one) wants to mouth off and get on with what you need to do.

Big facts fam.

Its one thing i’ve had to come to grips with and truly understand. Especially lookin back at my relationship and how things at times were. You get deep with a woman and sometimes lose sight of your frame.

But on the flipside, that relationship also taught me a lot so i’m also grateful.

In a relationship/FWB/casual situation, only 1 person is allowed to be emotional. Let that be the woman. Its imperative that dudes ALWAYS remain stoic and in control of themselves. Do not let a woman move you off that perch. They will constantly try to in the form of emotional manipulation/guilt trippin, baiting you into arguments, disrespect you, but its still upto you on how you control your frame and react.

Imagine....a weaker person (female) getting under the skin of a stronger person (male)?

Sounds pathetic right? That’s what they’ll see and think too. Only its magnified tenfold.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Big facts fam.

Its one thing i’ve had to come to grips with and truly understand. Especially lookin back at my relationship and how things at times were. You get deep with a woman and sometimes lose sight of your frame.

But on the flipside, that relationship also taught me a lot so i’m also grateful.

In a relationship/FWB/casual situation, only 1 person is allowed to be emotional. Let that be the woman. Its imperative that dudes ALWAYS remain stoic and in control of themselves. Do not let a woman move you off that perch. They will constantly try to in the form of emotional manipulation/guilt trippin, baiting you into arguments, disrespect you, but its still upto you to control your frame and how you react.

Because the minute she got you in any of those situations (bar anything requiring immediate termination of her), starts the countdown to the demise of your situation.

yeah. I think every breh needs to gain experience from a long term relationship to truly understand women. The younger you get the experience the better.

 

[Ohene]

why would you not put your business ventures first? Only thing you dont put business over is family

nobody said anything about not putting my business ventures first. there is a difference between something currently being your biggest priority versus it being your ONLY priority
dont put words in my mouth brother

 

[Apollo Creed]

nobody said anything about not putting my business ventures first. there is a difference between something currently being your biggest priority versus it being your ONLY priority
dont put words in my mouth brother

what is the difference between biggest and first priority?

 

[Bless't]

They were specific to my setup. What works for me, won’t work for y’all. I’m sure everyone here got a home girl or some woman that can put them on game. If not invest in a woman, that’ll put you on.

This actually just happened with me. Joined Tinder last week, was getting likes, starting conversations and whatnot. Then hung out with a girl friend of mine and showed her my profile. It's been super popping since. It's always a good thing to have a women's perspective when it comes to a dating profile. IMO.

 

[Apollo Creed]

This actually just happened with me. Joined Tinder last week, was getting likes, starting conversations and whatnot. Then hung out with a girl friend of mine and showed her my profile. It's been super popping since. It's always a good thing to have a women's perspective when it comes to a dating profile. IMO.

lmfao i dont get how mystical these updates are where dudes cant just spill the beans. Regardless of the pics you have there were requirements given and you aligned what you had to those requirements

 

[Bless't]

lmfao i dont get how mystical these updates are where dudes cant just spill the beans. Regardless of the pics you have there were requirements given and you aligned what you had to those requirements

For me, it was about removing a couple pics and adding others. Simple... but she knows what women are obviously looking for off of first glance. My actual profile is pretty bare. A few details about me here and there. Then I go through all the likes and start filtering who I actually want to get to know.

From there, I start conversations with the women I choose to.

 

[Apollo Creed]

For me, it was about removing a couple pics and adding others. Simple... but she knows what women are obviously looking for off of first glance. My actual profile is pretty bare. A few details about me here and there. Then I go through all the likes and start filtering who I actually want to get to know.

From there, I start conversations with the women I choose to.

my statement is more so saying are people giving requirements such as “use a pic of you doing xyz” or just “i like this pic but not that pic”.

as men we should he able to extract the logic and notice what is it that the person likes so we can add this info to our tool set.

 

[Ohene]

what is the difference between biggest and first priority?

I said BIGGEST vs ONLY.

Don't be an idiot. Youre a good poster lol

One can multiple and juggle multiple things at once. My career/business is #1, but it isnt the ONLY thing i'm focused on.

 

[Krisrunner2049]

Brehs that work a lot, how do y’all find time to go get some women? I’m working a lot and only have 1 day off. On my one day I like to chill and whatnot, idk if it’s worth it to hit up a spot