Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Been thinking about the ex who screwed me over a lot lately :snoop: :pacspit:
I'm not going to hit her up or anything, but just the fact that she is on my mind bothers me. Specially when I know she don give to shyts. I need to be colder :demonic:
 

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I need some advice from the fellow members around here.

Ever since I got completely shytted on by the chic that I used to be cool with a couple of years ago, I been working on myself and learning how to deal with women. During this time, I seen or experience all of the flakiness, emotional games, double standard, etc and it has made me very leary when I'm dealing with women now.

A couple of weeks ago, I got this number from the PAWG at a bar and we going to meet up later on tonight to get to know each other more. It been a minute since I been on a date, espically with a chic who I find attractive. Back during my sucker/simp days, I would be excited about the opportunity for this but now I just feel cold going into the date. Is this normal how some guys feel when they are dating again after a bad experience with a woman or two? I'm not trying to make myself look like a sucker for love or a simp again over a woman. I not really looking for a relationship or love because I'm trying to move to California soon but a part of me would like to have some type of female companionship ever now and then. A man get tired of going to the movies or bars by his lonesome from time to time. Any feedback would be greatly appreicated. Thanks
 

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The point? to set a precedent as a person who communicates with her who DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING FROM HER. In her mind, this makes you different from the 99% of dudes who she thinks all want her p*ssy. That's the best thing about women man. they're people you can prank, talk stupid shyt with and generally not take seriously and they LOVE YOU for it

Women have 20 Simps messaging them at any given time talking about nothing. Randomly texting them about nothing is a sure way to end up in the "gay buddy" friendzone. we are grown azz men here. Why waste time texting a women about idle bullsh1t. If she aint trying to meet up then her number is getting thrown in the bushes.
 

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Women have 20 Simps messaging them at any given time talking about nothing. Randomly texting them about nothing is a sure way to end up in the "gay buddy" friendzone. we are grown azz men here. Why waste time texting a women about idle bullsh1t. If she aint trying to meet up then her number is getting thrown in the bushes.

And all 20 simps are doing the same thing you're doing: pushing for a meet up. Regardless of who else is in her phone, that phone is the only means of communication between you and her until said meet up. And they're ALWAYS in their phone. Doesn't mean you can't stand out. You can talk about bullshyt in text because that's all it's for. Save everything else for face to face convo

And nothin should put you in any friendzone area if you know how to fukkin flirt. only people who get friendzoned are simps who can't turn her on and nikkas who try too hard to be super cool and stoic and never convey any sexual intent.

Again you set the tone for your interactions with women
 

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And all 20 simps are doing the same thing you're doing: pushing for a meet up. Regardless of who else is in her phone, that phone is the only means of communication between you and her until said meet up. And they're ALWAYS in their phone. Doesn't mean you can't stand out. You can talk about bullshyt in text because that's all it's for. Save everything else for face to face convo

And nothin should put you in any friendzone area if you know how to fukkin flirt. only people who get friendzoned are simps who can't turn her on and nikkas who try too hard to be super cool and stoic and never convey any sexual intent.

Again you set the tone for your interactions with women

You stand out with your game. If she aint feeling you then you move on. If I meet a chick I call her, chop it up with her and then have her tell me a good time to meet up. If she starts saying is she is busy and making extra excuses then I move on. I'm not going to waste my time randomly texting chicks and pretending I dont want something from her.
 

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You stand out with your game. If she aint feeling you then you move on. If I meet a chick I call her, chop it up with her and then have her tell me a good time to meet up. If she starts saying is she is busy and making extra excuses then I move on. I'm not going to waste my time randomly texting chicks and pretending I dont want something from her.

Pretending....I guess that's the difference. I do it cuz I really don't care and I can enjoy women as people regardless of the fukkery that they have.

I think the problem with a lot of dudes is that they put so much value and importance on sex that they forget to just enjoy themselves. I'm like :smugfavre: just havin fun out there.

Edit: lol @ the wasting my time part. bruh it's a text. it's a low committal form of communication that takes two seconds. use it as just that
 

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Pretending....I guess that's the difference. I do it cuz I really don't care and I can enjoy women as people regardless of the fukkery that they have.

I think the problem with a lot of dudes is that they put so much value and importance on sex that they forget to just enjoy themselves. I'm like :smugfavre: just havin fun out there.

Edit: lol @ the wasting my time part. bruh it's a text. it's a low committal form of communication that takes two seconds. use it as just that

well enjoy being in the friendzone breh

and actually i dont care about sex, ive been celibate the past two years, i just refuse to be some text buddy emotional tampon
 

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I need some advice from the fellow members around here.

Ever since I got completely shytted on by the chic that I used to be cool with a couple of years ago, I been working on myself and learning how to deal with women. During this time, I seen or experience all of the flakiness, emotional games, double standard, etc and it has made me very leary when I'm dealing with women now.

A couple of weeks ago, I got this number from the PAWG at a bar and we going to meet up later on tonight to get to know each other more. It been a minute since I been on a date, espically with a chic who I find attractive. Back during my sucker/simp days, I would be excited about the opportunity for this but now I just feel cold going into the date. Is this normal how some guys feel when they are dating again after a bad experience with a woman or two? I'm not trying to make myself look like a sucker for love or a simp again over a woman. I not really looking for a relationship or love because I'm trying to move to California soon but a part of me would like to have some type of female companionship ever now and then. A man get tired of going to the movies or bars by his lonesome from time to time. Any feedback would be greatly appreicated. Thanks

i had the same experience went on a chill session like lsat month, chick was banging. Back in the day id be a nervous wreck trying not to mess it up that night i was like :ehh:

I think the best thing is just to take it as just a date, maybe you will see her again after that maybe not who cares you aint marrying her, just go enjoy yourself and call it like that
 

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One that I've figured out over the years and have had women tell me I'm right:

When a girl is bytching about something, don't try to fix it. She just wants to vent. I used to try to quick fix shyt because that's what men do we fix things. Forget that. She just wants to get out her emotions and tell you how the world is trying to fukk her. :manny:

True to a degree. My girl actually takes my advice, it just takes some time to sink in after she vents.

Here's how i handle it:

Her: Complain complain
Me: *silent*
Her: Problem is so bad. It's such a problem.
Me: *silent*
Her: Ugh just so frustrated/confused/angry
*5 minute lmit reached*
Me: Ok, well have you ever thought about doing xyzabc?
Her: Well if i x then i cant do e because blah blah blah
Me: Fine...just my two cents. *Reiterates solution--does not get in argument...indicates conversation is over by going to do something else*
Her: You're not a good listener (or some variation of this)

*6 weeks later*

Her: Baby, you were right. I'm glad I xyz-ed. I'm glad you pushed me.
Me: :youngsabo: you owe me sex and a sammich
Her: :queen: Glad to oblige.

basically how it goes in my relationship. but i have a good girl from a smaller town in the south. some of these chicks you just have to ignore.
 
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