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Have you started getting pressure to get married and settle down from family members or women you talking to?
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Have you started getting pressure to get married and settle down from family members or women you talking to?
Mom wants me to have kids, but no pressure really. People wonder why I'm not married, and I just keep it real with them. Haven't found that woman I really want to take it there with yet. I'm one of the pickiest cats on the planet.
try asking a woman if she wants to marry you and tell her you already talked to her parents and got her parents blessing
Which is why you don't just bring it up to her. You propose to her and she either says yes or no and the issue of talking to the parent is already wrapped up. You're not going to be saying something corny like, "Girl, I already asked your dad and he said it's cool if we get married. Will you marry me?" All she is going to know is the man is down on one knee proposing.
Just because you asked for her parents blessing doesn't mean you are going to use that to obligate her to marry you either. You go to the parents, ask for the blessing, and if they ok it, you propose. A lot of women are actually flattered by the fact that you were respectful enough to seek the parent's blessing before proposing to her.
It really depends on the woman. If she is traditionalist, she will appreciate it. Another woman might not. How he actually approaches the situation is up to him and it will be based upon how he assesses his woman..
Just because you asked for her parents blessing doesn't mean you are going to use that to obligate her to marry you either. You go to the parents, ask for the blessing, and if they ok it, you propose. A lot of women are actually flattered by the fact that you were respectful enough to seek the parent's blessing before proposing to her.
It really depends on the woman. If she is traditionalist, she will appreciate it. Another woman might not. How he actually approaches the situation is up to him and it will be based upon how he assesses his woman..
yes women love attention whether positive or negative, just like on dating sites most women dont really want to meet men they just like opening thier inbox and seeing 100 notes and knowing they still got it, that they are still attractive. It's why they will put on makeup and do thier hair just to go to the grocery store, its why they go clubbing and dress scandalously they love the attention it brings them,.
yea..I be seeing these women looking fly as hell and im saying her head is so blown up,I would be better off not looking
look at tim duncan doesnt matter how rich you are, your personality, if you got kids picking the wrong woman is a life long decision and if you make the wrong one you will be burned
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Carné Asada;4261182 said:I was on the same boat as him. I'm an Introvert who rarely approached women. Hell, women approached me more than I approached them. Then I was introduced to the online dating world and it has beenfor the first couple of years. I got on POF and I was eating left and right.
My thing is that going to clubs/bars got pretty tired. And to be fair, we stopped going to the places that were packed with hoes. We would just go to places to grab a quick drink, vent, and call it a night....and that's normally around midnight.
But the real reason why I say online > real life is you can weed out the women with kids.
I'm 21, so that's probably why I don't understand that statement. I can just meet girls at school and such.
That's a perfect example of a man doing 'everything right' and still getting burned. But you will always have someone excusing the woman talking about, "Well, we don't really know what happened behind the scenes," or "he must have had a boring personality." What's crazy is she was the nice 'college sweetheart'. She wasn't even one of the 'shallow ones' he met in a bar.
As a man you have to be Cedric the Entertainer, Bill Gates, Mandingo, 2pac, TD Jakes and Sigmund Freud all wrapped in one or else you have something that can be 'the reason she cheated.'
A lot of the older generation ask me why I'm not married and I just tell them straight up what it is. I've had a few agree with me and the guy at the cologne store who I'm friends with actually told me that my generation of women is nowhere near his.
The thing is as well I can easily be married and committed till the day indie and work through then ups and downs but can I find a woman who week ll do the same?
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I have to find me a woman that's really committed to Jesus and actually following what's in the Bible and realizing that relationships are COMMITMENTS and that they require work instead of that trash women are taught nowadays about 'following their feelings' and 'seeking emotional fulfillment.' You know why men aren't taught that? Because it would be utterly disastrous for society. Although people should be generally happy, telling someone to chase behind and act solely upon their emotional states is disastrous and dangerous advice. The problem these days is that everybody is soft on women and nobody is stepping up and telling them the REAL. Men and women both have their mess-ups, but as men, we hear how we screw up all the time. Simps never want to tell women the real deal, which would actually improve that woman's life, because they want to tell her something pleasing to get into her pants.
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its sad, but Im starting to think its almost the mens fault for this. we overlook this girl being boring, attention hungry, and a general emptiness of her character, because we're too busy trying to get their affection for us by any means. men have been told that you need to get this and that, in order to get the "prize" of a womans company. so many women are dependant on what we give to them, that men can tend to view our own self worth on what WOMEN think.
men tend to look at what WE bring to a woman, and rarely the other way around. we're too busy trying to be everything for her to even really look at her benefits. instead of examining her, and seeing what she REALLY brings to the table, we're playing ourselves out for a relationship thats selfish and more slanted to her side from the get go.
from us thinking we NEED to get our social status up high, getting the expensive car, the clothes right, spending money on her like she deserves it etc just so that we can impress her ... we're only focusing on what we can do for her. if we saw ahead of time that she bores you, you cant find out what it is that she does to make up for what you do for her, she doesnt show effort for the relationsip and does not put energy into you, THEN you can see if shes really about that life or is just fronting so she can ge all she can from you.
After reading that Tim Duncan thread, I'm really doubting marriage. How it works, the principle behind it, even the purpose. I've always wondered why it was ok and encouraged for a woman to marry up, in regards to income, social status and even lifestyles. But in the same notion, a man must marry down and be comfortable with it because he's essentially the bread winner and he has to love his wife for what she brings to the table. This same wife who is several notches below the potential husband, can be as picky as they come. Even though she doesn't make as much, she doesn't come from a similar background. All that is thrown out the window because of her "potential" to be a good mother and wife. I'm sorry but none of it makes any sense.
its sad, but Im starting to think its almost the mens fault for this. we overlook this girl being boring, attention hungry, and a general emptiness of her character, because we're too busy trying to get their affection for us by any means. men have been told taht you need to get htis and that, in order to get the "prize" of a womans company. so many women are dependant on what we give to them, that men can tend to view our own self worth on what WOMEN think.
men tend to look at what WE bring to a woman, and rarely the other way around. we're too busy trying to be everything for her to even really look at her benefits. instead of examining her, and seeing what she REALLY brings to the table, we're playing ourselves out for a relationship thats selfish and more slanted to her side from the get go.
from us thinking we NEED to get our social status up high, getting the expensive car, the clothes right, spending money on her like she deserves it etc just so that we can impress her ... we're only focusing on what we can do for her. if we saw ahead of time that she bores you, you cant find out what it is that she does to make up for what you do for her, she doesnt show effort for the relationsip and does not put energy into you, THEN you can see if shes really about that life or is just fronting so she can ge all she can from you.
Pretty much. The problem is that men accept anything in the door, including disrespect in order to have the company of a female. You got people that think all we're doing is bashing women, but how many times have we said you have to step up every aspect of your life, get your finances right, improve your mentality, etc.? We've been talking about many ways of sweetening the pot for females and improving our value as a man, but when it comes down to it, men just accept any female attention that comes along.
What men need to understand is that their attention has value. You go on and just give it away and women have no incentive to improve and step it... that includes keeping your Johnson in your pants. Cats go around giving women all the attention and sex in the world and wonder why women have no incentive to improve. It's like women talking about how much dogs men are but always spreading their legs for the same guys they are calling dogs. You don't remove the reward and introduce punishment and the behavior will remain the same.
I have said this before and I will say it again, it amazes me from that Tim Duncan thread how the double standard takes place in the news media where it may get coverage but not as much if it is a women who did the cheating. The biggest it has ever been was with that Twilight actress last year but that's only because she isn't very liked already because she is "quiet".
But breh.....you remember that Elizabeth Hurley girl who got cheated on by Hugh Grant(or whatever his name was) in the late 90s with the Black prostitute and it was a big scandal?
Just Google Elizabeth Hurley infidelity/cheating scandal. If you did not hear, a couple years back it took place but her response was some "we moved on already" BS and it was only reported on websites and blogs(I believe this was 2010 but you can check the year when u google)...
It was NEVER reported on TV at ALL(to my knowledge) or with the same vitriol like when it was Hugh Grant. Even worse I don't think I read one comment talking about the double standard. This really is mind boggling.