Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

Yeah you'd think so, but everyone's different. The night after we had our first kiss she disappeared. I hit her up a few days later and she broke the news. Said she likes me but too much Is going on with family and she needs to fix things. Again I'm allowing it to be what it is and not giving it as much attention as I could. Girl seems good/genuine but eh second thoughts have me like she's taking to another nikka, but then again she could just need some me time.

Your gut/intuition is trying to tell you something. It's telling you something is fishy and just doesn't feel right. It's telling you she's not being genuine in some fashion. Might or might not be another dude but she's playing some type of game. She might not be lying to you in a technical sense but she's not being real with the feeling (and that's even worse than lying about facts, trust me...)

I won't tell you what to do cause that's on you, but i'll say this. In all my life i've never regretted following that feeling/intuition whenever i felt it. And i'd say that I probably messed up every time i doubted it.

Pretty much. I can understand just having your space for 2 or 3 days, but to completely disappear for 2 weeks makes me skeptical. We're in an unprecedented era of communication. Nobody is THAT busy over the course of 2 weeks where they can't take 1 minute to get back to a person they deem important. Obviously you are going to have your emotions, but you can't communicate that to someone that you really like? "I'm still having a hard time dealing with this... Thank you for checking up on me. I'll talk to you soon."

yup, and the fukked up thing is that we want to believe so much that they don't even need to give excuses or explanations, we'll actually make up excuses in our own minds for them. we've all done it...

 

[sixsixtwo]

up_up comments on Reddit, what is the worst secret your SO is keeping from you, but that you actually know?

"I know my wife had an affair early on in our marriage, though it may have started before we got hitched as it was her work colleague. The kicker is, she was pregnant with our first when we got married (that's why we got married quickly, actually) and, really, the kid doesn't look like me. I love my daughters dearly and, as I don't want anything to come between me and them, I've never told my wife about the Facebook exchanges I stumbled on by mistake (soon after our first was born and all the clues suddenly became plain as day)."

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Your gut/intuition is trying to tell you something. It's telling you something is fishy and just doesn't feel right. It's telling you she's not being genuine in some fashion. Might or might not be another dude but she's playing some type of game. She might not be lying to you in a technical sense but she's not being real with the feeling (and that's even worse than lying about facts, trust me...)

I won't tell you what to do cause that's on you, but i'll say this. In all my life i've never regretted following that feeling/intuition whenever i felt it. And i'd say that I probably messed up every time i doubted it.QUOTE]
The reason why I don't pay any mind to my gut feeling is because for one, her and I had been talking for 2 weeks straight, kicking it on Friday or Saturday and shyt. So I must of had her ass, because the day after her grandpa died is the day that she switched and told me how she needs time and such.

Monsieur. Fox: the way i see it, your fling is either talking to some other dude (maybe someone from her past showed up to re-comfort her) or she is testing you to see how much you'll chase (as usual, she might not even be doing it consciously).

in any case, fukk her intentions or motivations. bottom line is, she saw your text, didn't even acknowledge it. To the bushes. That's what i meant when i said "to me they're in the bushes until they're not and they're out of the bushes until they're back in". In other words, give her that space and don't contact her again. consider her done until she reemerges and when she comes back see how she acts and what she says. Your gut and instinct will tell you if you should take her seriously or if something isn't right. Like a spidey-sense. But don't sit there and wait for her (treat her like she needs to be treated).


I always run the "Will Smith" test. Her grandpa died and it's sad don't get me wrong. You were concerned for her, texted her and she didn't respond. Had Will Smith text her, do you think she would have responded? her job probably gave her a couple of days but then she showed up to work. probably sad but she still needs the money and that's understandable. but she can't send a little text to thank you for your concern or even just say she's ok?? you don't owe her shyt at this point and any waiting on her at this point would be simping (especially for a fling/fukkbuddy). You tried to be decent and look how she responded. As Reincar would say, those who don't take the hint, take the consequences.

yeah you're totally right about this. I'll just let the shyt be, thanks for the advice.

 

[Turbulent]

up_up comments on Reddit, what is the worst secret your SO is keeping from you, but that you actually know?

"I know my wife had an affair early on in our marriage, though it may have started before we got hitched as it was her work colleague. The kicker is, she was pregnant with our first when we got married (that's why we got married quickly, actually) and, really, the kid doesn't look like me. I love my daughters dearly and, as I don't want anything to come between me and them, I've never told my wife about the Facebook exchanges I stumbled on by mistake (soon after our first was born and all the clues suddenly became plain as day)."

this can't be life...

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I've been through a similar situation myself. These women KNOW that the man they are dealing with is concerned with them and wants to know that they are alright, but she can't take 1 minute out of two weeks to return the text of someone she is supposedly taking seriously and say, "Hey, I know you're worried, but I'm doing alright."? She just completely disappears for two weeks? As far as sleeping with the new girl, nah. Don't do it...

Now why I draw up a concern is normally, you would expect when going through a hard time for a person to want to go to someone close to them for solace or to cheer them up. I really don't know how close you two are, but if ya'll are real close, two weeks is a while to not make one attempt to contact you. I think it would make sense to that when you seriously want to be with someone, you would take time to let them know you are doing fine. You don't flat out ignore the text and never get back to taht person.

Maybe I'm tripping, but I would think that if I was dating a woman and someone close to me passed and she was seriously concerned about my well-being, I would at least take a little time over the course of two weeks to respond back and give her an update just to alleviate her concern... "Thanks for looking out for me. I've been spending time with the family trying to get over this loss. I'll get back with you when I'm in a better mood. But that's just me.

Don't go off smashing that other girl. Get back in contact with the girl you are talking to. If this goes on for another week and she is completely ignoring you still, you may have to let her know that you are moving on. When you get back with her, see how she reacts to you. If she keeps playing that distant game and disappearing for a week or weeks after ya'll get back in contact, then more than likely it's another guy. If it goes back to normal after, then cool, resume what you had.

Yeah I know, weird thing is I had met her in March, we went on a date, I hit her up a few days later and we spoke, and she didn't text back, but she says she did; idk. Either way a few months later I ran into her at school and we hit things off. Only had been kicking it and talking for 2 weeks, before she disappeared.

Yeah I know man, but you know women; they're fukking weird. I know me trying to find some sort of justification for her actions just makes it seem like I like her and shyt (cause I do) and that's where my biased opinion comes in. She has 3 other sisters, and like I said her mom died a few years ago as well, shyt might have just triggered in her and she might of shut down. Who knows, but one thing that is truly correct is that while she's gone, she's gone and I should be investing my time in other things.

As for the new girl, she's still heartbroken from her old relationship and we've been kicking it late night smoking and going for walks. Last night I slipped up and said some shyt about her and I to her, and I think I just got myself into a situation I don't even want to be in, a situation that I placed myself in because of my thirst with no genuine intentions to start a relationship with her like she'd probably want. Especially after she told me that she hooked up with 10 guys when she went on break to Florida, goes both ways, and just broke up with a 32 year old (she's 19). I don't think I can hold that down, and I need to put both feet on the ground and control that thirst and totally back off from her.

 

[Turbulent]

Yeah I know, weird thing is I had met her in March, we went on a date, I hit her up a few days later and we spoke, and she didn't text back, but she says she did; idk. Either way a few months later I ran into her at school and we hit things off. Only had been kicking it and talking for 2 weeks, before she disappeared.

Yeah I know man, but you know women; they're fukking weird. I know me trying to find some sort of justification for her actions just makes it seem like I like her and shyt (cause I do) and that's where my biased opinion comes in. She has 3 other sisters, and like I said her mom died a few years ago as well, shyt might have just triggered in her and she might of shut down. Who knows, but one thing that is truly correct is that while she's gone, she's gone and I should be investing my time in other things.

As for the new girl, she's still heartbroken from her old relationship and we've been kicking it late night smoking and going for walks. Last night I slipped up and said some shyt about her and I to her, and I think I just got myself into a situation I don't even want to be in, a situation that I placed myself in because of my thirst with no genuine intentions to start a relationship with her like she'd probably want. Especially after she told me that she hooked up with 10 guys when she went on break to Florida, goes both ways, and just broke up with a 32 year old (she's 19). I don't think I can hold that down, and I need to put both feet on the ground and control that thirst and totally back off from her.

slept with 10 dudes while on a trip and she's 19. No need to be thirsty over that. You may already have talked yourself out of that one with the relationship talk but you could have just made your move to hit. trust me, that's probably what she needed anyway. They all have a sob story man. Matter of fact, everyone on earth has a sob story (me included). Just tell her straight up you thought about it and you're not down for a relationship and you don't want to lead her on and then let it be/give her space. If she still jocks you after that, hit it twice and pass. if not .

 

[Two Stacks]

Yeah I know, weird thing is I had met her in March, we went on a date, I hit her up a few days later and we spoke, and she didn't text back, but she says she did; idk. Either way a few months later I ran into her at school and we hit things off. Only had been kicking it and talking for 2 weeks, before she disappeared.

Yeah I know man, but you know women; they're fukking weird. I know me trying to find some sort of justification for her actions just makes it seem like I like her and shyt (cause I do) and that's where my biased opinion comes in. She has 3 other sisters, and like I said her mom died a few years ago as well, shyt might have just triggered in her and she might of shut down. Who knows, but one thing that is truly correct is that while she's gone, she's gone and I should be investing my time in other things.

As for the new girl, she's still heartbroken from her old relationship and we've been kicking it late night smoking and going for walks. Last night I slipped up and said some shyt about her and I to her, and I think I just got myself into a situation I don't even want to be in, a situation that I placed myself in because of my thirst with no genuine intentions to start a relationship with her like she'd probably want. Especially after she told me that she hooked up with 10 guys when she went on break to Florida, goes both ways, and just broke up with a 32 year old (she's 19). I don't think I can hold that down, and I need to put both feet on the ground and control that thirst and totally back off from her.

i would stay very far away from that son.

 

[TRUEST]

Yeah you'd think so, but everyone's different. The night after we had our first kiss she disappeared. I hit her up a few days later and she broke the news. Said she likes me but too much Is going on with family and she needs to fix things. Again I'm allowing it to be what it is and not giving it as much attention as I could. Girl seems good/genuine but eh second thoughts have me like she's taking to another nikka, but then again she could just need some me time.

are you serious with this post? let me be the first to tell you, this chick is TALKING to someone else. you have been demoted. knock off this "ooh let me give her the benefit of the doubt" bs. i know people pretty well. u dont act the way shes acting unless you got a lot on your plate....in her case...a lot of d1cks.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

@Two Stacks @Turbulent I forgot to add she had a pregnancy scare last month cause her ex came in her and then they broke up. First she was worried she had an STD then she was worried she was pregnant. fukk what am I doing lol. See yaw that chick disappearing on me got me on some mega thirsty shyt I just need to step back finish off my school quarter and get ready to have fun in berlin. Thanks for the advice.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

are you serious with this post? let me be the first to tell you, this chick is TALKING to someone else. you have been demoted. knock off this "ooh let me give her the benefit of the doubt" bs. i know people pretty well. u dont act the way shes acting unless you got a lot on your plate....in her case...a lot of d1cks.

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Whether she does or does not. Her loss bud. I'm over it now

 

[MikelArteta]

@Two Stacks @Turbulent I forgot to add she had a pregnancy scare last month cause her ex came in her and then they broke up. First she was worried she had an STD then she was worried she was pregnant. fukk what am I doing lol. See yaw that chick disappearing on me got me on some mega thirsty shyt I just need to step back finish off my school quarter and get ready to have fun in berlin. Thanks for the advice.

This chick is horrible run

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[TRUEST]

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Whether she does or does not. Her loss bud. I'm over it now

good for you. but after so many pages of this thread, u should know by now the type of women to throw in the bushes. this isn't science. there's nothing more to it. if a chick is feeling u ANDDDD you've made the first move to reach out to her, trust, she will reach back out to you. if she doesn't, YOU AINT THAT IMPORTANT to her. understand this and cast her into the wilderness!

 

[MikelArteta]

If you're a sociopath who cares only about his own pleasure … women will see you as strong, interesting, desirable, and worthy of fukking.

If you're a decent human being who sincerely cares about other people … women will see you as weak, contemptible, exploitable, and of no value except as a wallet and a servant.

If you're a liar … women will value you for the drama you bring into their drab, empty lives.

If you're honest … women will see you as boring, weak, contemptible, exploitable, and of no value except as a wallet and a servant.

If you're an inarticulate thug … women will imagine that you're interesting, exciting, strong, and eminently fukkable.

If you're an articulate gentleman … women will KNOW that you're boring, dull, weak, and eminently UNfukkable.

If your focus in life is acquiring the possessions the consumerist culture brainwashes you into believing are the measure of your worth and value as a man … women will be desperately eager to jump on the gravy train.

If your focus in life is pursuing your dreams, passions, and interests … seeking beauty, fulfillment and meaning … women will either ignore you … or, if you're stupid enough to marry one of them, they'll try to turn you into that other guy … the guy who spends his life in the pursuit of possessions … the guy who has to keep fueling and driving the gravy train until the day he dies.

If you treat others with contempt, scorn and violence … women will be flocking to you, eager to ride your sociopathic cock.

If you treat others with kindness, respect and gentleness … women's vaginas will dry up when you approach … and, of course, they will see you as boring, weak, contemptible, exploitable, and of no value except as a wallet and a servant.

If you treat your woman as nothing but a hole; if you pay no attention to her complaints; if you disregard her feelings, opinions and wishes; if you treat her with contempt and disrespect; if it's my way or the fukking highway, bytch … she will be unable to resist fukking your brains out.

If you treat your woman as if she were an intelligent adult; if you listen to her; if you are willing to discuss and compromise … your woman's vagina will assume desert status (not dessert!) … and, it bears repeating … she will will see you as boring, weak, contemptible, exploitable, and of no value except as a wallet and a servant.

If you have no moral code … you will get much of what you want out of life, and, perversely, women will respect and admire you.

If you have a strong moral code … you will get little of what you want out of life, and, perversely, women will use your moral code as ammunition to destroy you.

If you are a giver … you will be exploited and sucked dry (of your resources, hopes, dreams, and joy of life).

If you are a taker … you will be rewarded and sucked often (by eager female lips on your cock).

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[Kartel13]

@Two Stacks @Turbulent I forgot to add she had a pregnancy scare last month cause her ex came in her and then they broke up. First she was worried she had an STD then she was worried she was pregnant. fukk what am I doing lol. See yaw that chick disappearing on me got me on some mega thirsty shyt I just need to step back finish off my school quarter and get ready to have fun in berlin. Thanks for the advice.

Last month? And you wondered why she disappeared? She is back with her ex bruh.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

good for you. but after so many pages of this thread, u should know by now the type of women to throw in the bushes. this isn't science. there's nothing more to it. if a chick is feeling u ANDDDD you've made the first move to reach out to her, trust, she will reach back out to you. if she doesn't, YOU AINT THAT IMPORTANT to her. understand this and cast her into the wilderness!

I know there isn't a science, but you've got to understand although the choir has been preached to several times, there's no sort of science but there's a sense of life; possibility, circumstances, etc. I'm understanding, as we all should be. And when dealing with the opposite sex, you must be; we're not mind readers, so in actuality we shouldn't be so quick to cast someone into the wilderness (LOL). The reason why I've given her the benefit of the doubt is simply because of our time spent leading up to her disappearance, we were tight; held an understanding that school comes first then each other second, and once her grandfather passed that same weekend that we hung out she disappeared. Now, whether she found a new man or she's deeply saddened by her grandfathers death and wants no other relationships on her hands besides the one that she shares with school, is out of my control and not my worries. "Cast her into the wilderness" (I love that line, it's almost quotable lol), no I won't even make an effort. Our time spent and relationship is nothing more than a game of chess, she's gotten up and placed our game on hold and upon her departure I've decided to get up and venture off. The pieces are there, but only time will tell whether the game is to be resumed or not; but until then lets leave things at that.