Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[George Gooney]

what happened?

I led her on and didn't take her serious because I didn't know how emotionally invested she was... We been talkin for a good 2-3 months hanging out doing non-romantic shyt(no sex but we did kiss) She started saying how she loved me and such but I figured it was just game... She started getting clingier and clingier so I just put her number on block for what was supposed to be a few days which wound up becoming a whole month... Now the reason this happened is because I forgot I put her number on block because I do it to so many people So me being stubborn not realizing I blocked her I'm wondering why she stopped calling. I'm like "f*ck it she don't call me then she in the bushes"... I went to put another number on block today and saw shortie's number on the list. When I realized what I did I called her today and she was broken, cursed me out and called me a womanizer and everything it hurt me because I never intended to hurt her Just needed some space... I hate when I hurt people who don't deserve it... All she did was like me...

 

[DaRealness]

I led her on and didn't take her serious because I didn't know how emotionally invested she was... We been talkin for a good 2-3 months hanging out doing non-romantic shyt(no sex but we did kiss) She started saying how she loved me and such but I figured it was just game... She started getting clingier and clingier so I just put her number on block for what was supposed to be a few days which wound up becoming a whole month... Now the reason this happened is because I forgot I put her number on block because I do it to so many people So me being stubborn not realizing I blocked her I'm wondering why she stopped calling. I'm like "f*ck it she don't call me then she in the bushes"... I went to put another number on block today and saw shortie's number on the list. When I realized what I did I called her today and she was broken, cursed me out and called me a womanizer and everything it hurt me because I never intended to hurt her Just needed some space... I hate when I hurt people who don't deserve it... All she did was like me...

Don't worry breh, she'll be aiight.

Two to three months is a hardly a long time, it's not like you two were even dating for a year. She didn't love you, she was infatuated and put you on a pedestal - this is the same thing we've all been warning each other about in this thread for ages, because look how you can set yourself up for hurt. This is where having a high level of indifference will act as a protective shield around your heart. In the early stages, everyone gets caught up in that euphoric honeymoon period. She simply didn't know you long enough to be making such claims. You two weren't even an exclusive couple by the way it sounds.

The mere fact she was being all clingy and then accused you of being a "womaniser" (which is odd considering you never even had sex yet) is a sign you most likely had a lucky escape. You were right not to take it seriously, because I wouldn't.

Granted, some hurt on her part may be understandable, but it seems like she needs to slow it down a lot and not get so easily attached. You didn't 'cheat' on her. If you want, you can probably call her one more time and tell her you didn't mean to hurt her and it was a genuine mistake if it will make you feel better. I just know if it were ME, I'd be wary of any clingy chick who claims to "love" me in such a short space of time. You see the real person once you've known each other for some time and are more relaxed in the relationship, not within a couple of months.

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

I led her on and didn't take her serious because I didn't know how emotionally invested she was... We been talkin for a good 2-3 months hanging out doing non-romantic shyt(no sex but we did kiss) She started saying how she loved me and such but I figured it was just game... She started getting clingier and clingier so I just put her number on block for what was supposed to be a few days which wound up becoming a whole month... Now the reason this happened is because I forgot I put her number on block because I do it to so many people So me being stubborn not realizing I blocked her I'm wondering why she stopped calling. I'm like "f*ck it she don't call me then she in the bushes"... I went to put another number on block today and saw shortie's number on the list. When I realized what I did I called her today and she was broken, cursed me out and called me a womanizer and everything it hurt me because I never intended to hurt her Just needed some space... I hate when I hurt people who don't deserve it... All she did was like me...

Why didn't you tell her that you wanted some space for a minute instead of blocking her? By blocking her, it make her feel that she did something wrong or piss you off without even knowing the reason. I been on the other side, so I know why she was angry.

 

[kevm3]

Yeah, it's understandable why she would be mad... it looks like you just disappeared out of the blue for a month and now you're coming to hit her back. If that happened and you were in her shoes, you would think she was chilling with another dude, fell off with him and is coming back to you. All you can really do is chalk it up and if she gives you another go, make sure you do it better than the last time.

 

[ExodusNirvana]

Spoiler

My homie has been dating this chick for 2 months and she wants him to meet her moms. My first response is like son...nah...way too early. He says nah she lives with her mom and it's a stepmom and they're very close so this is important.

Am I wildin? I feel like I'm trying to get this man to avoid a fatal error and he's telling me I'm using my prior situations with females and my situations with my own parents as a basis for this advice and thus I'm biased?

 

[TRUEST]

I led her on and didn't take her serious because I didn't know how emotionally invested she was... We been talkin for a good 2-3 months hanging out doing non-romantic shyt(no sex but we did kiss) She started saying how she loved me and such but I figured it was just game... She started getting clingier and clingier so I just put her number on block for what was supposed to be a few days which wound up becoming a whole month... Now the reason this happened is because I forgot I put her number on block because I do it to so many people So me being stubborn not realizing I blocked her I'm wondering why she stopped calling. I'm like "f*ck it she don't call me then she in the bushes"... I went to put another number on block today and saw shortie's number on the list. When I realized what I did I called her today and she was broken, cursed me out and called me a womanizer and everything it hurt me because I never intended to hurt her Just needed some space... I hate when I hurt people who don't deserve it... All she did was like me...

yeah that was all your fault entirely. take her out to eat man. sh1t like that would bother me as i dont like hurting people who dont deserve it.

 

[DaRealness]

By all means, nothing wrong with dude apologising to the girl and for the record, I wasn't being mean when talking about her. She's probably a nice person.

But IMHO, as far as pursuing a relationship is concerned, I think that horse has already bolted out the stable. Looking at it from her point of view, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with someone who just suddenly cut me off with no explanation at all. I'd tell them where to go.

On the other hand, I don't think such clinginess and 'I love yous' after such a short period of time is a good thing either considering they weren't even a proper item. But that's just my point of view. I could be wrong of course, cos obviously I'm not in the situation and don't know either party.

Both sides should probably just take it as a learning experience.

 

[Kartel13]

I led her on and didn't take her serious because I didn't know how emotionally invested she was... We been talkin for a good 2-3 months hanging out doing non-romantic shyt(no sex but we did kiss) She started saying how she loved me and such but I figured it was just game... She started getting clingier and clingier so I just put her number on block for what was supposed to be a few days which wound up becoming a whole month... Now the reason this happened is because I forgot I put her number on block because I do it to so many people So me being stubborn not realizing I blocked her I'm wondering why she stopped calling. I'm like "f*ck it she don't call me then she in the bushes"... I went to put another number on block today and saw shortie's number on the list. When I realized what I did I called her today and she was broken, cursed me out and called me a womanizer and everything it hurt me because I never intended to hurt her Just needed some space... I hate when I hurt people who don't deserve it... All she did was like me...

I mean, everyone has made valid points but one thing is, you're a man and you shouldn't be putting people on block unless you have someone who has this deadly crush on you. Be a man and tell people the truth. That blocking shyt is for kids and females. Stop running and confront your issues.

 

[Turbulent]

A guy named "60yearsofchallenge", whom I've mentioned here before, has an entire method of seduction that revolves around this. The awkwardness, uncomfortable silences etc. is actually sexual tension, and his line of thinking is that not only should you not "rescue" the girl and diffuse the silence, you should actually seek to build up the sexual tension as much as you can. Witty jokes, being "cocky and funny" and all that may seem cool, but they actually diffuse the sexual tension and ruin your rapport with the woman.

It seems counter-intuitive at first, and it flies in the face of every PUA crap there is, but it works. All of our lives we have been taught to swim against the tide when we should have been swimming with it.

When I was into game heavily I've had more success with this method than with all the other PUA stuff combined. And it's even better because you don't have to become a fukking dancing monkey(routines, canned material, shyt tests, dhv stories and all the other nonsense). It played to my strengths too, because I'm naturally calm, quiet and introverted, so on top of everything else I don't have to force myself to be something I'm not: the loudmouth, fratboy, life-of-the-party type

yup, that's what i'm saying! it makes people a little nervous and makes things more intense. but i don't even mean it as a technique though. i mean it more like, if she acts like it's my job to make her comfortable then i need to make her see things differently. Just like she has the right to walk out on me if she's not feeling this, I want her to understand that i could do the same if i'm not feeling this.

 

[MikelArteta]

Spoiler

My homie has been dating this chick for 2 months and she wants him to meet her moms. My first response is like son...nah...way too early. He says nah she lives with her mom and it's a stepmom and they're very close so this is important.

Am I wildin? I feel like I'm trying to get this man to avoid a fatal error and he's telling me I'm using my prior situations with females and my situations with my own parents as a basis for this advice and thus I'm biased?

Way to early Imo, you know the first time I want to meet someone's parents? Is when we're about to get engaged

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[MikelArteta]

I block numbers if I don't Change my number beforehand. I don't view it as childish., I remember years ago dealing with a bad breakup, months went by with no contact I was starting to feel better then poof got a text message and that ish set me back. I don't like people I don't want to talk to or associate with being able to contact me.

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[MikelArteta]

By all means, nothing wrong with dude apologising to the girl and for the record, I wasn't being mean when talking about her. She's probably a nice person.

But IMHO, as far as pursuing a relationship is concerned, I think that horse has already bolted out the stable. Looking at it from her point of view, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with someone who just suddenly cut me off with no explanation at all. I'd tell them where to go.

On the other hand, I don't think such clinginess and 'I love yous' after such a short period of time is a good thing either considering they weren't even a proper item. But that's just my point of view. I could be wrong of course, cos obviously I'm not in the situation and don't know either party.

Both sides should probably just take it as a learning experience.

Most women do not even know what love is, blurting it off after a few good dates, or after sex etc.

I've probably had like 10 women in my life tell me they loved me, I remember getting texts after first dates how they never felt this way before and two weeks in professing their love.

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[Kartel13]

I block numbers if I don't Change my number beforehand. I don't view it as childish., I remember years ago dealing with a bad breakup, months went by with no contact I was starting to feel better then poof got a text message and that ish set me back. I don't like people I don't want to talk to or associate with being able to contact me.

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Did you tell her to kick rocks and not contact you ever again?

 

[ExodusNirvana]

Way to early Imo, you know the first time I want to meet someone's parents? Is when we're about to get engaged

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Exaccctly

He's telling me she's close to her moms and shyt and I'm like that's an even BIGGER reason not to meet this broads moms because clearly she looks to her mother for validation in the choice of men she has, among other things.

Meaning that if you don't "wow" her mom in that first meeting, chances are the relationship will either fall to pieces soon or run into problems, and in either case it's a clear indication that it's time to make a break.

 

[MikelArteta]

Exaccctly

He's telling me she's close to her moms and shyt and I'm like that's an even BIGGER reason not to meet this broads moms because clearly she looks to her mother for validation in the choice of men she has, among other things.

Meaning that if you don't "wow" her mom in that first meeting, chances are the relationship will either fall to pieces soon or run into problems, and in either case it's a clear indication that it's time to make a break.

Yup pretty much he's being sized up, just like when women want you to meet their friends.

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