Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Duke Wy Lin]

all facts above. question though...can a couple ever even get to the point of marriage if they dont try to "fight" for the relationship beforehand?

conflict is inevitable...so where is the fine line between resolving conflicts versus holding onto something that ran its course

guess it really depends on the two people. i would say once there is any sortof fear thats causing one not to break up with their partner, they should probably break up with their partner

The idea that relationships have a life of their own and might just "run their course" is bullshyt because it implies a lack of agency. If a relationship simply dies out it's due to neglect and lack of investment by one or both ppl involved.

 

[Ohene]

The idea that relationships have a life of their own and might just "run their course" is bullshyt because it implies a lack of agency. If a relationship simply dies out it's due to neglect and lack of investment by one or both ppl involved.

real shyt

It only ends or runs its course once somebody decides to stop caring and trying

 

[Apollo Creed]

The idea that relationships have a life of their own and might just "run their course" is bullshyt because it implies a lack of agency. If a relationship simply dies out it's due to neglect and lack of investment by one or both ppl involved.

Relationship and the Institution of marriage are two different things that people conflate.

If you are not married or at max children are not involved what exactly are you “fighting for”?

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Relationship and the Institution of marriage are two different things that people conflate.

If you are not married or at max children are not involved what exactly are you “fighting for”?

Sunken cost fallacy. Ego. Pride. Feeling like you’ve invested time and emotions.

I’ve learned the hard way that fighting for a girl doesn’t work. If I have to fight that implies she’s running away which means my value to her is low in her eyes.

When emotions aren’t involved it’s easy to say “forget that chick find a new one” but emotionally invest several years into a girl and dead it overnight…well

 

[Apollo Creed]

Sunken cost fallacy. Ego. Pride. Feeling like you’ve invested time and emotions.

I’ve learned the hard way that fighting for a girl doesn’t work. If I have to fight that implies she’s running away which means my value to her is low in her eyes.

When emotions aren’t involved it’s easy to say “forget that chick find a new one” but emotionally invest several years into a girl and dead it overnight…well

You shouldnt be dealing with a woman if you not having enjoyment. nikkas he tryna build hoes up then be shocked she moves on to the next after sucking you dry emotionally or financially lol

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

Relationship and the Institution of marriage are two different things that people conflate.

If you are not married or at max children are not involved what exactly are you “fighting for”?

Based on your posts, it seems that you don't believe in the institution of marriage, and you also don't believe that relationships outside of marriage are worthy of real investment of time and energy. Is that a fair characterization of your position?

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

You shouldnt be dealing with a woman if you not having enjoyment. nikkas he tryna build hoes up then be shocked she moves on to the next after sucking you dry emotionally or financially lol

Nikkas get caught slippin in their subconscious emotionally with a woman they never wanted to be with in the first place. Then when she bounce he like “I gave YOU a chance and now you’re leaving me”

Dudes gotta stay on their square at all times and do a emotional awareness check with themselves to stay grounded.

 

[LoMax30]

If you're in the first 3-6 months of dating a woman and you're getting gassed off of compliments from her You can accept and appreciate compliments but let's be real, anybody can say anything (both men and women). You gotta see what the actions are and it usually takes a few months to cycle through all the emotions and situation types

I've seen too many people in the first month or two of dating a girl say shyt like "I think she's the one, she said she never met a nikka like me She said I make her feel good " Fast forward a couple weeks and it's "that bytch a raggedy hoe, if I see her again it's on sight "

Date with intention and optimism but not with blindness

 

[Apollo Creed]

Based on your posts, it seems that you don't believe in the institution of marriage, and you also don't believe that relationships outside of marriage are worthy of real investment of time and energy. Is that a fair characterization of your position?

The current institution of Marriage im the USA and family law in general needs to be overhauled before id recommend any sane man to enter into it.

Anything outside of an institution based on legacy is simply casual encounters and should be treated as such.

You have men committing suicide, playing mental gymnastics, paying for classes for shyt that literally does nothing for their legacy and the bytch is gonna move on regardless lol

This thread is 6k pages because nikkas are trying to make sense out of things not rooted in logic.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Nikkas get caught slippin in their subconscious emotionally with a woman they never wanted to be with in the first place. Then when she bounce he like “I gave YOU a chance and now you’re leaving me”

Dudes gotta stay on their square at all times and do a emotional awareness check with themselves to stay grounded.

The issue is men aint creating their square, they taking in squares being given to them by folks who have no interest in their well being lol

 

[Ohene]

Dealing with a woman is never going to be “enjoyed” 100% of the time lol

It just isnt

Yall sound like women to some degree, head in the clouds

With that mentality you’ll always be moving from one women to the next, fickle just like they tend to be. If you have no interest in a long term relationship and prefer to be alone then thats perfect. But otherwise youll end up frustrated

Maybe Its the use of the word “fighting” that’s causing confusion

 

[Apollo Creed]

Dealing with a woman is never going to be “enjoyed” 100% of the time lol

It just isnt

Yall sound like women to some degree, head in the clouds

With that mentality you’ll always be moving from one women to the next, fickle just like they tend to be. If you have no interest in a long term relationship and prefer to be alone then thats perfect. But otherwise youll end up frustrated

Maybe Its the use of the word “fighting” that’s causing confusion

Um no, the issue is men like yourself do not life on your own terms. I've said before if you are not married then take things with women day by day aka spend time with them on your terms, not because you feel you owe it to her.

The context of your post reads as a man who can't be by himself, hence the 'moving from one woman to the next' comment. My number 1 statement is learn to be alone and enjoy it.

nikkas cant take a bytches titty out of their mouth hence why this thread of full of nikkas crying they cant serve a bytch rather than live life on their terms.

Quote me next time you want to talk out your p*ssy

 

[Ohene]

Um no, the issue is men like yourself do not life on your own terms. I've said before if you are not married then take things with women day by day aka spend time with them on your terms, not because you feel you owe it to her.

The context of your post reads as a man who can't be by himself, hence the 'moving from one woman to the next' comment. My number 1 statement is learn to be alone and enjoy it.

nikkas cant take a bytches titty out of their mouth hence why this thread of full of nikkas crying they cant serve a bytch rather than live life on their terms.

Quote me next time you want to talk out your p*ssy

you a weird ass nikka. i literally said he same thing:

i would say once there is any sort of fear thats causing one not to break up with their partner, they should probably break up with their partner

sorry i hurt your feelings but i didnt feel like quoting multiple people so i just dropped a message in the thread generally. i actually agreed with some of your earlier posts so I am not sure what youre talking about. I wasnt directing my message towards you or anyone specifically but if the shoe fits so be it

like i said, if you want to move from woman to woman...go ahead. There is nothing wrong with that.

if you value or prefer to be in a relationship and eventually marriage for whatever reason, whether its to build a family, have some stability, share resources or whatever then the shyt you saying isnt going to work in the long run. some level of compromise, effort, patience is going to be required. it all depends on what one individual person wants at any given point in time.

but go ahead and believe whatever you want. It turns out that you not only sound like a woman but act like one. grow up nikka

 

[Ohene]

this guy says that only a marriage with children is worth trying to salvage, not realizing that without trying to salvage a relationship during adversity...it will literally never become marriage in the first place.

how dumb can you be @D'Lo Brown ? use some common sense

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

@D’Lo Brown @Ohene Fellas. We men. Chill the fukk out. shyt ain’t that serious. Let’s continue to break bread peacefully