Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mirin4rmfar]

Regardless of gender, the idea that another person can either make one happy/make one unhappy, is probably (certainly) a flawed and unreasonable position. It cedes way too much control to another. But, that's a popular narrative that someone else can do what we cannot. That's why so much research and therapeutic concepts push being happy on your own first.

A lot of women are like this. If I were to be out dating again, I think my #1 requirement is to date someone who enjoys their own happiness. I am just here to add to it.

 

[Wargames]

I plan on being a clinical social worker in at least 3 years. It's one of the best hospitals in the country


When I told her her eyes were pretty, after I said
"Just to be safe, I won't say anything else


She laughed and said thank you. I know I shouldn't fukk her but I might not be able to resist


I'm probably gonna ask her on Tuesday if she has a valentine. If she says yea imma say some shyt like "I'm not surprised, the pretty girls always have at least one "

If she says no imma hit her with the

and say "if I wasn't your coworker I'd have some decisions to make" and go off her response

If all else fails, imma just ask my cool manager what her opinion is if I were to be romantically involved with a coworker

Don’t do it if you value your job.

 

[BlaccSunrise]

that’s a starter
“I see your eyes brighter today” not too much, not too little

but you said co-worker.. and unless you work at a call center, warehouse, or McDonalds…

Fixed from my personal experience

 

[Apollo Creed]

‘My love language is gifts’

Any bytch with love language on her profile a weirdo

 

[Apollo Creed]

dreadhead, tall, looks to be single, dark skin , slim with big tiddies . I want slide in those inbox so bad but I am in a relationship. That's what I get for browsing too them much.

low key afraid for the amount of damage I might do in the dating game if I got back back out . Even my scent of my lotion alone would drop a womans panties. lol, I didn't know the difference a lotion with great scent would make until I started living with my girl . I was using regular lotion.

If you not married you single.

Trust your girl living by them rules lol

 

[DapMeUp!]

Wow I can't remember the last time I was in here seems like forever.

Haven't really been active since around September as in pursuing new situations
Ended up smashing an old friend I knew for sometime on new years. We never done anything previously but kinda just happened on the night.

Been keeping to myself since then and I intend to until the summer temptation comes for me Even then I'm keeping things strictly casual I don't have time to entertain anything heavy this year. Got so much in the works.

Just going to catch up on the last couple pages hope you brehs are eating well.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Wow I can't remember the last time I was in here seems like forever.

Haven't really been active since around September as in pursuing new situations
Ended up smashing an old friend I knew for sometime on new years. We never done anything previously but kinda just happened on the night.

Been keeping to myself since then and I intend to until the summer temptation comes for me Even then I'm keeping things strictly casual I don't have time to entertain anything heavy this year. Got so much in the works.

Just going to catch up on the last couple pages hope you brehs are eating well.

Stay strapped

 

[NeilCartwright]

Me and my girl disagree on this: She feels like if something affects me negatively/causes me to have a bad day, it shouldn't affect her. I feel like if something affects me negatively, im not projecting that to the people close to me, but i cant flip a switch and be happy go lucky in an instant when something is bothering me

We at a stalemate herei dont feel like its reasonable for me to ask someone to flip a switch and be happy if they're stressed out or something fukked up their day

 

[George Gooney]

Me and my girl disagree on this: She feels like if something affects me negatively/causes me to have a bad day, it shouldn't affect her. I feel like if something affects me negatively, im not projecting that to the people close to me, but i cant flip a switch and be happy go lucky in an instant when something is bothering me

We at a stalemate herei dont feel like its reasonable for me to ask someone to flip a switch and be happy if they're stressed out or something fukked up their day

Might be time to bush. Sounds like she doesn’t care about your emotions.

 

[skyrunner1]

Me and my girl disagree on this: She feels like if something affects me negatively/causes me to have a bad day, it shouldn't affect her. I feel like if something affects me negatively, im not projecting that to the people close to me, but i cant flip a switch and be happy go lucky in an instant when something is bothering me

We at a stalemate herei dont feel like its reasonable for me to ask someone to flip a switch and be happy if they're stressed out or something fukked up their day

This is that new age relationship contract where the man has to be the safety net for the women and provide and be a stopgap needed whether it be financial, physical, emotional, etc. This is a one way contract being written in real time where if you are being told I wont provide support of any kind and if you bring these issues to me I will consider you a net negative..

Good luck

 

[The ADD]

Me and my girl disagree on this: She feels like if something affects me negatively/causes me to have a bad day, it shouldn't affect her. I feel like if something affects me negatively, im not projecting that to the people close to me, but i cant flip a switch and be happy go lucky in an instant when something is bothering me

We at a stalemate herei dont feel like its reasonable for me to ask someone to flip a switch and be happy if they're stressed out or something fukked up their day

Depends on the level of the issue. I’d be more concerned if she wasn’t open to helping you discuss it or find a solve.

I say that assuming it’s a serious relationship and not someone you are just passing time with.

 

[Digital Omen]

Me and my girl disagree on this: She feels like if something affects me negatively/causes me to have a bad day, it shouldn't affect her. I feel like if something affects me negatively, im not projecting that to the people close to me, but i cant flip a switch and be happy go lucky in an instant when something is bothering me

We at a stalemate herei dont feel like its reasonable for me to ask someone to flip a switch and be happy if they're stressed out or something fukked up their day

Indications of selfish behavior such as the bolded: nip it in the bud now (have a convo and come to an agreement) or bush.
If you don't deal with it now, don't be surprised when she bushes you because you didn't meet her selfish standards

She's basically telling you "don't disturb my peace with your bullshyt"
Cold world

 

[Ahadi]

These pawgs aren’t tryna be lonely tomorrow



They’re applying pressure.

 

[WIA20XX]

Me and my girl disagree on this: She feels like if something affects me negatively/causes me to have a bad day, it shouldn't affect her. I feel like if something affects me negatively, im not projecting that to the people close to me, but i cant flip a switch and be happy go lucky in an instant when something is bothering me

We at a stalemate herei dont feel like its reasonable for me to ask someone to flip a switch and be happy if they're stressed out or something fukked up their day

LOL, Wait for her Aunt Flo to stop by and revisit the topic.

Females love to leak their emotions and expect you to "hop to it" if she's feeling some type of way.

• What's wrong babe?
• Can I get you anything?

And even if she don't expect you to do anything, just on GP her being out of sorts affects your moves. This is a human thing, not a relationship thing.
And it goes positive and negative. If one of the homies gets a come up, I'm happy for them. If you got a co-worker not get the promotion, you commiserate with em.

In terms of your relationship, this is a leadership and teaching opportunity for you.

"For this thing to work in the long term, I'm asking you to change."

If she ain't willing to change, not willing to learn, the relationship will end.
Unless you want to play it like our Grandfathers did, and the chick is just there for food and sex, and you're just there for finances and security.

 

[skyrunner1]

Indications of selfish behavior such as the bolded: nip it in the bud now (have a convo and come to an agreement) or bush.
If you don't deal with it now, don't be surprised when she bushes you because you didn't meet her selfish standards

She's basically telling you "don't disturb my peace with your bullshyt"
Cold world

This is actually being packaged n sold on social media in mass, dudes might be behind the curve a lil but in all their iterations of "soft life", "black girls in luxury", "Level up".. But even if someone doesnt subscribe to it en mass, them just swiping and seeing this on daily seeps into their subconscious. Stuff like that perks my ears and I believe people the first time they show me who they are. Also understand approaching a person and pulling their card, usually makes them realize they told on themselves and hide their cards better..

I wouldnt say much, just have your thrid eye open and watch actions. Its the same thing when women tell you about their past, dont judge them, just laugh and say hey I remember the time I did the same, what else you got And make mental notes..