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So my 1st date went well.Ol girl was looking like Kenya Moore and Meagan Stallion put together. She 5'11 so she stands out. Im 6'2. Went for lunch I made sure that bill wasnt gonna be high 
. She really feeling me.She a keeper but just going day by day.
. She really feeling me.She a keeper but just going day by day.
I overheard this girl telling another girl I was beautiful this morning. As a former uglygang member idk how to feel about it
It's hard to accept this new perception of me. I used to get called ugly and got "ewwwww" ed everyday. Now I get eye contact and up and down gazes
None of this shyt matters. I used to crave validation. Now that I have too much I feel very conflicted
It's hard to accept this new perception of me. I used to get called ugly and got "ewwwww" ed everyday. Now I get eye contact and up and down gazes
None of this shyt matters. I used to crave validation. Now that I have too much I feel very conflicted
africngiant
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do y’all have any cues when going out alone to not look like a weirdo
@A Pimp Named Slickback, one of the best compliments I ever got was from an extremely attractive women: "the best thing about you is (despite your looks) you have no ego", obviously, I do have an ego, even one I need to watch, (some ego is healthy) but, what she was saying is that I am not arrogant, and don't crave validation or entitlement.
@africngiant
so I had to catch this, because I roll solo like 80% of the time, traveled to other countries, ate 22 course meals by myself, go to movies alone, I have done it all alone.
Here's the thing, you won't really look like a weirdo. That's all in your head. And mostly, women will be intrigued. The key is to have confidence, and BE confident. I'll take a fukking novel to a high end spot, and read at the bar, order a meal. Obviously, not like at LIV or something. But, I'll roll to a club solo, in LA or Spain, and women will just come up and talk to you. Was in LA at The Conrad hotel, rooftop spot, had like a three hour dinner, oysters, salad, appetizers, burger, dessert, waiting for the last train, and the extremely fine hostess, was flirting, "You look like you know how to treat yourself, I need to do that more often". Obviously, these are pretty exclusive spots, it's not like having a drink at the local bar, but the concept is the same. Had a long afternoon at a spot in Bel Air, and every single woman in there looked hard at me, and two even struck up convos. Was reading my book, chilling, having a meal by myself. "You must be waiting for your wife"
Sit alone at a bar, and don't drink too much, don't talk too much to the staff, unless they are feeling you, and people will get it. And respect it, and probably even envy it. Dress well. Be comfortable in your own skin. If someone can master this, it just unlocks a whole world. There is no more "I need someone to be with me". Hope this gives the idea to lose the fear of looking like a weirdo.
@africngiant
so I had to catch this, because I roll solo like 80% of the time, traveled to other countries, ate 22 course meals by myself, go to movies alone, I have done it all alone.
Here's the thing, you won't really look like a weirdo. That's all in your head. And mostly, women will be intrigued. The key is to have confidence, and BE confident. I'll take a fukking novel to a high end spot, and read at the bar, order a meal. Obviously, not like at LIV or something. But, I'll roll to a club solo, in LA or Spain, and women will just come up and talk to you. Was in LA at The Conrad hotel, rooftop spot, had like a three hour dinner, oysters, salad, appetizers, burger, dessert, waiting for the last train, and the extremely fine hostess, was flirting, "You look like you know how to treat yourself, I need to do that more often". Obviously, these are pretty exclusive spots, it's not like having a drink at the local bar, but the concept is the same. Had a long afternoon at a spot in Bel Air, and every single woman in there looked hard at me, and two even struck up convos. Was reading my book, chilling, having a meal by myself. "You must be waiting for your wife"
Sit alone at a bar, and don't drink too much, don't talk too much to the staff, unless they are feeling you, and people will get it. And respect it, and probably even envy it. Dress well. Be comfortable in your own skin. If someone can master this, it just unlocks a whole world. There is no more "I need someone to be with me". Hope this gives the idea to lose the fear of looking like a weirdo.
Facts I'm an empath and I always get called humble, great guy, old soul, wise, cool, shyt like that
I'm at a point where I'm all of these things plus I don't seek validation anymore. So I'm an empath with healthy self esteem which is a game changer. Been working on myself for 6 months now. Not hoeing I'm talking making money, working out, getting closer to God reading books, self reflection. That's a must. Not for women either strictly for self
How she a keeper but you going day by daySo my 1st date went well.Ol girl was looking like Kenya Moore and Meagan Stallion put together. She 5'11 so she stands out. Im 6'2. Went for lunch I made sure that bill wasnt gonna be high
Lmfaoooo nikka dont get finessed please
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Wear AirPods so you feel less awkward
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Very few people will notice you, most people are worried about their own insecurities to notice you.
I go to many concerts by myself as some of my friends aren't in to the same music or artists that I enjoy. I also travel by myself a lot as some of my friends don't like to travel outside the country or they got too many responsibilities to travel.
Master small talk & the world will be your oyster. A small greet could spark a conversation that could lead to a friendship/relationship or network opportunities.
My closest homeboys I met him while at events rolling dolo. I used to bump in to him in the gym & different club events around the city, just give each other head nods, respect & kept it moving. Till one day we decided to go to an event together then we been homeboys ever since. He's good with the ladies & have been wingman to him a few times
So my 1st date went well.Ol girl was looking like Kenya Moore and Meagan Stallion put together. She 5'11 so she stands out. Im 6'2. Went for lunch I made sure that bill wasnt gonna be high
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
[/QUOTENikka you stay following me in majority of my posts,be replying with smilies if you have an issue with me use some words b . I said what I said.Ol serious azz nikka
I love rolling by myself.
I set the tone, I can dictate the speed of the convo, the next move, etc.
When you’re with ppl you have to rely on chemistry, they’re extensions of you. So if someone says something dumb or moves in an outrageous fashion, it falls on you. Even if you look the “best” they look at you as lower value because you associated with them,
You just be yourself and have fun.
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
No doubt thats the best way.
- Dress for the venue.
- If you've never been to a spot - pick a basic uniform. nice shoes, dark jeans, shirt with no logos.
- Once you get used to a spot - be it a Flat Bill Cap and J's spot, or a we ain't letting YOU PEOPLE in - dress 10-20% better than the next man.
- Grab you a Club Soda and Lime (tip your bartender).
- Don't sip NONE OF THAT MUG. It's a prop. Makes you look like your drinking.
- If/When You drank some alcohol - get it later when there's a line
- Why wait for the line? - so you can talk to other folks waiting in the line. It's not supposed to be efficient, you're socializing. If you just wanted to get drunk, could spent $3 on some Steel Reserve at the corner store.
- Converse with Staff
- The person taking the cover charge, coat check, bouncer, bartender, waitress, shot girl, liquor promotions. You want to find out where ELSE they work, and what that crowd is like. Also ask them who's the promoter...
- If you can meet the promoter or the dj - figure out where else they promote/spin - and go to that spot (and say what's up to them there)
- Get the lay of the land
- Dance floor, bar area, smoking area, lounge, restroom, VIP. Etc.
- If something negative pops off, you want to know how to get out.
- If something POSITIVE pops off, you will want to know how to get cozy for a second and then how to leave.
- When the hits come on, SING ALONG. (or rap along, whatever the case may be)
- If they really jamming, cut a damn rug yourself. Be the old head like me rapping along with Lil Keke and doing the Southside. Feeling it, adds to your mental state and everyone else's.
- 2 girls - you don't need a wing man, you just need to be interesting and entertaining. There are a lot of subtle techniques about dealing with 2 chicks, but sold not told.
- 3 girls - it's easier than 2 girls most of the time. 3 chicks usually give you enough to work with.
- 4+ girls - When it's 4 girls, you can talk to any given one of the, the other 3 stay occupied. Still, talking to all of them usually works better in my experience
- Dude in the mix - brother/family member, gay friend, one of the chick's boyfriends, or a dude who's not dating any of them but wants to (i.e. resident hater) - Talk to ol boy FIRST. It be the most mild mannered dudes that wanna flex. If it's a few dudes, chances are they're couples/family.
- ASK HER WHERE HER FRIENDS ARE.
- Go and find them, and then Meet the friends ASAP - Friends are the biggest blockers, and you need to defuse them really before you put in any work with the chick you're interested in.
Outside of America? Chances are good if she's alone and you're a tourist then she's a pro. I neither assume, nor judge, just be aware. Cause a fine broad giving choosing signals but "don't speaka da English" is most definitely advertising.
Now if you're in that senior class, and it's a grown up event - art gallery, restaurant opening, poetry reading, cooking class, salsa night, etc - and she's 30+ - she might be there solo. In any event, do the song and dance of asking about her friends.
The first few weeks you go out - the real goal is to get used to lights, smoke, darkness, drunk people etc. And then the next thing is actually enjoy being out, not depending on meeting chicks. There's something special about hearing good music from loud speakers. A lot of songs entirely change their character at "high volume".
If you have fun in the environment, other people see you having fun, they too will have fun. And it's just that much easier for folks to talk to you, approach you etc. And if you're in a good social mood, it's easier for you to share the love. When you're vibing and the crowd is vibing, you don't need MUCH of a game plan. You do need one, but it's not super calculated like some evil genius plotting to take over the world.
Now in terms of what to really say to a group of random strangers - that's something that you need to practice in low stakes environments. Not because you're gonna say the same thing, but it's just not a normal thing that people do in 2023. Not like it was in the 90's early 00's. Randomly making comments at the gym or at the grocery store, or to people you don't know at work/school - that's how you get used to talking to strangers. And I don't mean staff, I mean people just like yourself.
I don't want to give you a script, but be able to hold a basic conversation (see paragraph above)
- Don't ask for names at first
- Where they from (be it state/country/side of town)
- What are they doing tonight? (Birthday? Happy Hour Crew? Just robbed a D-boy on the Eastside and spending the proceeds?)
- Who they know at the Venue?
- Have you been to this other venue? (that you learned from the bartender/promoter/dj)
- Generic stuff
- Don't ask a question that you can't answer
- Where you live
- What you do
- Where you went to school
- Where you were born
- Where YOUR friends are - "Dat boy Rollo said he was playing Call of Duty tonight, but I had to get away from screens."
There's a ton more to it than that, but in terms of what to say, what to talk bout - food, music, relationships/love and then sex. People tend to have strong opinions on trivial things. So that's what you want, get something with a little heat, and then push the convo into something better than the topic.
But overall the guy that's dressed some what normally, talking to staff, talking to strangers, sipping on something, enjoying himself = not a weirdo. Social normal guy.
Dudes holding the wall, bottle of beer up by they chest, whispering to each other, staring broads down - that's weird, that's anti-social.