Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[360dagod]

You see…the thing about this is…if i was to entertain a woman that curved me when i hollered and now she decided to spin the block:

1. I won’t feel the same way i did when i first hollered at her
2. I know she won’t respect me if i gave in (subconsciously lets her know you can’t get other women or don’t value yourself enough to allow a woman that didn’t like/value you back into your life)

If a woman really wants you, nothin will get in her way imo. I mean, women in relationships cheat all the time wit nikkas that want them or they want…

I’d actually respect a woman more if she never came back around after i hollered instead of comin back around tryna breadcrumb me.

If she cheats, these bytches ain't shyt

If she dosent cheat and give whoever she is seeing a fair chance, she not gonna respect you for respecting her response lol

 

[MikelArteta]

Yeah I'm pretty trying to lock something down

But I was more of a casual fling type than a serial dater...

So if someone meets the basic guidelines of what I want, I'm gonna give it a chance off rip...

Serial dating for men is an issue cuz no one is ever good enough and it's pretty much a hula-hoop that ends in unhappiness and wasted time...

I'm not saying to not "play the field", but continually disqualifying because you don't find 100% compatibility is gonna lead to bitterness..

I serial date or you have nothing to compare against. You owe no one nothing. Obviously no one is perfect but until i'm official I'm going to see what's out there and if something better comes along then well

 

[Ahadi]

I serial date or you have nothing to compare against. You owe no one nothing. Obviously no one is perfect but until i'm official I'm going to see what's out there and if something better comes along then well

Correct.

This is not the generation to put your eggs in one basket. Cause best believe, these women are not.

You need at-least 3-4. I’d even have one for each day (cept Fri-Sunday), assign each woman a dedicated day. Meet them once a week.

If they apply pressure, give them Friday or Saturday.

 

[Ahadi]

Spoiler: Outdoor dates for summer

Outdoor dates for Spring / Summer:

Coffee
Ice Cream / Frozen Yogurt / Vegan Ice Cream / Protein Shake
Happy Hour
Bottle of Wine in the park / pier
Outdoor concert
Go for a Walk

 

[MikelArteta]

Correct.

This is not the generation to put your eggs in one basket. Cause best believe, these women are not.

You need at-least 3-4. I’d even have one for each day (cept Fri-Sunday), assign each woman a dedicated day.

Yup and hell even after a while you may not be interested in them or vice versa, its a numbers game

Example talking to around like 8 women

Chick 1 - mixed her up with someone else and got unmatched.
Chick 2 - Went out twice but I don't really like her aggressive personality and her always being on her phone we still talk here and there but my interest is like 0 now
Chick 3 - Went out once she's older and wanted serious settle down fast never contacted her after the date as I wasn't interested
Chick 4 - Second date is tomorrow, first date was nice
Chick 5 - Was supposed to meet up but she cancelled last minute
Chick 6 - Date went ok, but I can tell she was really not interested so meh
Chick 7 - white girl i met up with yesterday, it was alright but I wouldn't want anything romantic or anything
Chick 8 - another chick I was supposed to meet up with but then got the hey sorry I just want to look for something organically (whatever teh hell that means)


So out of these 8 women

4 weren't interested in me
3 I'm not interested in continuing
1 is potential and even that one told me she had a date the day before we met up and had one a day after but its good when you have an array of options. If a girl isn't interested in me no biggie and If I'm not interested no biggie


I'm still continuing to have some things scheduled as well this week. It's just like a hiring manager not all candidates will be the right fit and vice versa.

 

[Ahadi]

Yup and hell even after a while you may not be interested in them or vice versa, its a numbers game

Example talking to around like 8 women

Chick 1 - mixed her up with someone else and got unmatched.
Chick 2 - Went out twice but I don't really like her aggressive personality and her always being on her phone we still talk here and there but my interest is like 0 now
Chick 3 - Went out once she's older and wanted serious settle down fast never contacted her after the date as I wasn't interested
Chick 4 - Second date is tomorrow, first date was nice
Chick 5 - Was supposed to meet up but she cancelled last minute
Chick 6 - Date went ok, but I can tell she was really not interested so meh
Chick 7 - white girl i met up with yesterday, it was alright but I wouldn't want anything romantic or anything
Chick 8 - another chick I was supposed to meet up with but then got the hey sorry I just want to look for something organically (whatever teh hell that means)


So out of these 8 women

4 weren't interested in me
3 I'm not interested in continuing
1 is potential and even that one told me she had a date the day before we met up and had one a day after but its good when you have an array of options. If a girl isn't interested in me no biggie and If I'm not interested no biggie


I'm still continuing to have some things scheduled as well this week. It's just like a hiring manager not all candidates will be the right fit and vice versa.

That’s how it should be done & you’re spending as minimal as possible.

& once they “feel” you have a lot of options, they’ll try to capture your attention even more. That’s the game.

 

[The ADD]

Correct.

This is not the generation to put your eggs in one basket. Cause best believe, these women are not.

You need at-least 3-4. I’d even have one for each day (cept Fri-Sunday), assign each woman a dedicated day. Meet them once a week.

If they apply pressure, give them Friday or Saturday.

I think that’s misaligned with what @360dagod is trying to achieve. If you are in a constant rotation of women with certain days then developing anything past just meet dating seems unlikely.

Nothing wrong with it but doesn’t sound like what he’s trying to accomplish.

 

[re'up]

You see…the thing about this is…if i was to entertain a woman that curved me when i hollered and now she decided to spin the block:

1. I won’t feel the same way i did when i first hollered at her
2. I know she won’t respect me if i gave in (subconsciously lets her know you can’t get other women or don’t value yourself enough to allow a woman that didn’t like/value you back into your life)

If a woman really wants you, nothin will get in her way imo. I mean, women in relationships cheat all the time wit nikkas that want them or they want…

I’d actually respect a woman more if she never came back around after i hollered instead of comin back around tryna breadcrumb me.

in business, and in life, to me, one key aspect is building connections, and maintaining them long term. if someone is truly awful, for sure, cut them off.

I think the idea that everyone is going to do what you want them to do exactly when you want it, is not realistic. Why burn the contact?

 

[Panther]

The getting to know you phase is so annoying

Caught this thick chocolate off ig over the weekend, she down the street from the crib too

 

[twan83]

Yeah I'm pretty trying to lock something down

But I was more of a casual fling type than a serial dater...

So if someone meets the basic guidelines of what I want, I'm gonna give it a chance off rip...

Serial dating for men is an issue cuz no one is ever good enough and it's pretty much a hula-hoop that ends in unhappiness and wasted time...

I'm not saying to not "play the field", but continually disqualifying because you don't find 100% compatibility is gonna lead to bitterness..

I went thru that phase serial date and was deeper than a nba bench afterward I got tired of the headache and work and went your route and wanting to lock someone down so I get what ur trying to do and where u come from.

Either way u can still run into same issues but ur focus can be more singular tho
Try to find someone who could be close enough on a best friend level cuz communication is most important aspect and will also prevent boredom

 

[360dagod]

Correct.

This is not the generation to put your eggs in one basket. Cause best believe, these women are not.

You need at-least 3-4. I’d even have one for each day (cept Fri-Sunday), assign each woman a dedicated day. Meet them once a week.

If they apply pressure, give them Friday or Saturday.

From women having periods to life getting in the way for both parties, there is no margin for error...

And if they play their cards right, they can whine and finesse their way into a weekend?lol

The ones that don't get their weekend now you in the "hole"...

Mind you, it's highly unlikely you choose even halfway correct cuz it's highly unlikely all of them got a fair shot lol

 

[360dagod]

I went thru that phase serial date and was deeper than a nba bench afterward I got tired of the headache and work and went your route and wanting to lock someone down so I get what ur trying to do and where u come from.

Either way u can still run into same issues but ur focus can be more singular tho
Try to find someone who could be close enough on a best friend level cuz communication is most important aspect and will also prevent boredom

I mean there needs to be a CLEAR hierarchy if you gonna play the "roster" game...

And it needs to be at best 2 or 3...

 

[360dagod]

I serial date or you have nothing to compare against. You owe no one nothing. Obviously no one is perfect but until i'm official I'm going to see what's out there and if something better comes along then well

There is a minimum level of efficiency that imo must be taken into consideration

If a female dosent reach the "target zone" of what your looking for from the basic age/looks category,

It was a net loss as soon as you left the crib

 

[MikelArteta]

There is a minimum level of efficiency that imo must be taken into consideration

If a female dosent reach the "target zone" of what your looking for from the basic age/looks category,

It was a net loss as soon as you left the crib

 

[re'up]

There's no doubt that kind of dynamic gets messy and complicated. Not trying to see 4-5 people a week, maybe 4-5 a month. And that's a reach. All this categorizing and holding up marriage as the ultimate goal, makes it all complicated, much more so than anyone probably really wants.

but, that's it's own ordeal, because mostly everyone is going to go with who wants a serious relationship, so people are always dropping off/ghosting, in my experience.