Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[WIA20XX]

Dinner at at a dude's place 10-20 years ago - meant sex.
If it was the first date, she suspected and usually knew.
If it was the 3rd date, she brings her "backpack purse".

These days?

Most guys are not putting much effort into traditional dating at all. So chicks are going with the flow.

But sex might not be on the menu in her mind. And it's because she can't think things through.

Typical dinner at my place date.

• Get there, music and tv on on.
• Shown around the place (bed made, toilet and bathroom surgery room clean, microchip factory clean)
• Finger FoodAppetizer, Glass of Vino
• If you're smart, get her to help out, and then judge her for not being able to toss salad (pause)
• entree and sides
• dessert.

1 or 2 more glasses of wine as the night plays out. If y'all partake in ganja, etc.

So now she's winding down, her body is taking blood and energy from her brain to digest the food. (which is why they want to eat light, but don't seem to understand chicken is nutrient dense).

Next to you on the couch, and then a little bit of making out. One thing leads to another, especially if you understand how to pace things right. (For you salsa dancing dudes, a little bit of La Fea and a photo of you cutting it up in Cali on the wall, can suggest an impromptu lesson - not that I know anything about that or have a playlist ready for such an occasion)

And before you know it, she's waking up with a hangover and wondering if she left out enough food for 'Yonce and Kelly.

This is the norm. It's understood.

In 2023, a lot of females are just used to not going anywhere and seeing anything and doing anything. So they're totally cool with coming straight to your place, safety and decore be damned.

Whether she gives it up is one question. But she knows, or should know at this point.

This is the life THEY chose.

Cause if you met her on an app, you already know you're in the top 1-10% of all men on the apps. She knows it too.

This how a good looking dude acts. He barely does anything, and she'd better give it up.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

whatever

 

[Ahadi]

If a woman tells you she wants you to open up to her and let her be there for you, would yall brehs trust it?

I want to but I been burned so many times in my life. I got battle scars on top of battle scars and baggage that makes it so hard for me to trust any woman.

Opening up would have me feeling like a fish out of water, suffocating, not able to breathe, in an environment that I'm sure will be the death of me.

I talked to a therapist last week for the first time in my life and she told me "But isn't that what love is about? Being open and taking that chance?"

I know she's right but man... I don't know if I got it in me to take another L in love these days

The next one just might be the one that breaks your boy, have me laying in the bed playing sad love songs like

No

 

[360dagod]

After an extended break, I’m back at it.

Got a date on Friday. It’s gonna be kinda early because she has a birthday party to go to afterwards. So, I’m meeting up with a female friend afterwards. I think my friend might have split with her man, but I’m not sure. Sometimes I like her and sometimes she reminds me why we’re just friends.

That shyt can go either way....

Independent of how we feel

What is success(besides sex)
What is failure
How are you in these conditions
Is it worth it for you to even go thru

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

If a woman tells you she wants you to open up to her and let her be there for you, would yall brehs trust it?

I want to but I been burned so many times in my life. I got battle scars on top of battle scars and baggage that makes it so hard for me to trust any woman.

Opening up would have me feeling like a fish out of water, suffocating, not able to breathe, in an environment that I'm sure will be the death of me.

I talked to a therapist last week for the first time in my life and she told me "But isn't that what love is about? Being open and taking that chance?"

I know she's right but man... I don't know if I got it in me to take another L in love these days

The next one just might be the one that breaks your boy, have me laying in the bed playing sad love songs like

Do not unless you are sure she’s a truly empathetic person. Generally, women want a man who conforms, to some degree, to gender stereotypes.

One of my female friends found it uncomfortable that her boyfriend occasionally cries when stressed.

Another girl I randomly met confided in me that her boyfriend was triggered by the War in Ukraine due to his family history, being from Hungary. She thought it was weak.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

man that's crazy

 

[Ohene]

Do not unless you are sure she’s a truly empathetic person. Generally, women want a man who conforms, to some degree, to gender stereotypes.

One of my female friends found it uncomfortable that her boyfriend occasionally cries when stressed.

Another girl I randomly met confided in me that her boyfriend was triggered by the War in Ukraine due to his family history, being from Hungary. She thought it was weak.

lol as i said before
Women are a$$holes

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

whatever

 

[Dave24]

After an extended break, I’m back at it.

Got a date on Friday. It’s gonna be kinda early because she has a birthday party to go to afterwards. So, I’m meeting up with a female friend afterwards. I think my friend might have split with her man, but I’m not sure. Sometimes I like her and sometimes she reminds me why we’re just friends.

Good luck @Sonny Bonds


@Sonny Bonds how long was your extended break?

 

[Action Mike]

Dinner at at a dude's place 10-20 years ago - meant sex.
If it was the first date, she suspected and usually knew.
If it was the 3rd date, she brings her "backpack purse".

These days?

Most guys are not putting much effort into traditional dating at all. So chicks are going with the flow.

But sex might not be on the menu in her mind. And it's because she can't think things through.

Typical dinner at my place date.

• Get there, music and tv on on.
• Shown around the place (bed made, toilet and bathroom surgery room clean, microchip factory clean)
• Finger FoodAppetizer, Glass of Vino
• If you're smart, get her to help out, and then judge her for not being able to toss salad (pause)
• entree and sides
• dessert.

1 or 2 more glasses of wine as the night plays out. If y'all partake in ganja, etc.

So now she's winding down, her body is taking blood and energy from her brain to digest the food. (which is why they want to eat light, but don't seem to understand chicken is nutrient dense).

Next to you on the couch, and then a little bit of making out. One thing leads to another, especially if you understand how to pace things right. (For you salsa dancing dudes, a little bit of La Fea and a photo of you cutting it up in Cali on the wall, can suggest an impromptu lesson - not that I know anything about that or have a playlist ready for such an occasion)

And before you know it, she's waking up with a hangover and wondering if she left out enough food for 'Yonce and Kelly.

This is the norm. It's understood.

In 2023, a lot of females are just used to not going anywhere and seeing anything and doing anything. So they're totally cool with coming straight to your place, safety and decore be damned.

Whether she gives it up is one question. But she knows, or should know at this point.

This is the life THEY chose.

Cause if you met her on an app, you already know you're in the top 1-10% of all men on the apps. She knows it too.

This how a good looking dude acts. He barely does anything, and she'd better give it up.

Literally my last situation lmao

 

[Brandsdale]

Do not unless you are sure she’s a truly empathetic person. Generally, women want a man who conforms, to some degree, to gender stereotypes.

One of my female friends found it uncomfortable that her boyfriend occasionally cries when stressed.

Another girl I randomly met confided in me that her boyfriend was triggered by the War in Ukraine due to his family history, being from Hungary. She thought it was weak.

That’s just messed up

 

[WIA20XX]

If a woman tells you she wants you to open up to her and let her be there for you, would yall brehs trust it?

I would trust her to be a female about it.

So the average dude, wants that 50/50 relationship but also wants to be "head of the house" even though she got half on the bills - he gets a "partner".

He says he got issues with his family, or somebody said something at work that kinda got him in his feelings, or some days he just don't feel up to it.
So she says she wants to hear about it.

And when she does realize most men have a deep internal and emotional inner life - she doesn't know what to do.

So she might start changing up her patterns based on new information. Maybe she's not telling you everything. Maybe she gotta bit more sass to her now.
Maybe on an "unrelated note" she starts hitting the gym, dressing better, and having an extra girl's night out...

Maybe months from now she makes direct reference to whatever you said...

I remember one of them Feminist Dude was talking about having a Legit allergy to Grass. (He was chatting up everyone's favorite Black Male feminist FD Signifier) We talking major health issues related to clippings. He had mentioned this to his broad when they first got together. Anyway, years down the line, they get a house together, and when it comes time to handle the lawn - he's trying to 50/50 Jose n'nem's bill.

She wasn't having it. Why can't you do it...

I think that whole video was about Black Female Feminists not actually wanting to be feminist/understanding the problems with gender roles....

There you are.

Now a man that's been through some relationships realizes females have a particular nature (just like a man has a particular nature).
Part of being a man, mean's expressing your emotions to folks other than your woman.
Ideally you gotta a crew of cats in the same position as you, or at least been there.

The way the society is now, they don't allow men to be in their own spaces...

Standard Plays
1. Stonewall and push it for later. Be emotionally unavailable.
2. Give her some fake "openness" - and see 1) if that is what she needed, 2) If she's gonna use it against you (i.e. change her behavior for the negative, or bring it up in a fight. 3) use it as an excuse to just blab more about herself.

The Real Play Imo

If you're not in a position where you can walk, you're not in a position to have a woman in your life, imo.

0) You have to be SOLID if you go this route. Money on point, your own place, your own car, your own friends AND

Have the following

1) History of checking broads for poor behavior
2) A history of checking this broad in particular
2) Bouncing if they do something that can't be corrected (see 0, aka baseline)

Then here's what you do when she asks this stuff.

Tell that broad exactly what's on your mind, and then watch her deal with it.

99 times out of 100, she can't deal with it like an adult.

99 times out of 100, she comes at you as a sympathetic ear, and to help her deal with problems.

Why?

She chooses you because you're older, wiser, smarter, stronger, taller, richer, more social status, etc.

So that means she's younger, not as wise, not as smart, definitely not strong, shorter, only decent money, probably lower in terms of social status.

Almost by definition, she can't really help you with what's going on with your life - because she set it up that way.

The things she wants, you already are and she is not.

How is the client supposed to help the lawyer?
How is the patient supposed to help the doctor?
How is the student supposed to help the teacher?

She's supposed to play her role with her tools, the ones you don't have. (caring, nurturing, maybe cooking and cleaning, taking care of things, multi-tasking).

So now, she's seen behind the mask. She can listen, she can rub your back or whatever, but after too much revelation - a chick will change her behavior for the worst, and often throw it back in your face.

So you shoulda been checking this broad from jump and you gotta check this broad when she betrays you.

There are no schools on how to check a broad, it's always "communication". Most guys don't learn they need to check a female, much less learn how to. Or like myself learn too late.

So if/when she does try to flip things...

"I tell you things in confidence, and this is how you act, this is what you do..."

Then just shut the broad down at that point.

Now,

If she is a real one, a real RARE one, she will back your play though. And that's the real value in being free with your feelings.

Cause if you always gotta play defense and close yourself off - that will shave years off your life and decades off your happiness.

 

[Sonny Bonds]

Good luck @Sonny Bonds


@Sonny Bonds how long was your extended break?

Thanks man. Last time I went on a date was March…of last year. I just didn’t feel like it.

I’m not actually that pressed about my friend. There was something there in the past, but it was a long time ago. I value her friendship, but she’s one of those people who disappears for extended periods of time and pops up again.

 

[bullygohard1]

I would trust her to be a female about it.

So the average dude, wants that 50/50 relationship but also wants to be "head of the house" even though she got half on the bills - he gets a "partner".

He says he got issues with his family, or somebody said something at work that kinda got him in his feelings, or some days he just don't feel up to it.
So she says she wants to hear about it.

And when she does realize most men have a deep internal and emotional inner life - she doesn't know what to do.

So she might start changing up her patterns based on new information. Maybe she's not telling you everything. Maybe she gotta bit more sass to her now.
Maybe on an "unrelated note" she starts hitting the gym, dressing better, and having an extra girl's night out...

Maybe months from now she makes direct reference to whatever you said...

I remember one of them Feminist Dude was talking about having a Legit allergy to Grass. (He was chatting up everyone's favorite Black Male feminist FD Signifier) We talking major health issues related to clippings. He had mentioned this to his broad when they first got together. Anyway, years down the line, they get a house together, and when it comes time to handle the lawn - he's trying to 50/50 Jose n'nem's bill.

She wasn't having it. Why can't you do it...

I think that whole video was about Black Female Feminists not actually wanting to be feminist/understanding the problems with gender roles....

There you are.

Now a man that's been through some relationships realizes females have a particular nature (just like a man has a particular nature).
Part of being a man, mean's expressing your emotions to folks other than your woman.
Ideally you gotta a crew of cats in the same position as you, or at least been there.

The way the society is now, they don't allow men to be in their own spaces...

Standard Plays
1. Stonewall and push it for later. Be emotionally unavailable.
2. Give her some fake "openness" - and see 1) if that is what she needed, 2) If she's gonna use it against you (i.e. change her behavior for the negative, or bring it up in a fight. 3) use it as an excuse to just blab more about herself.

The Real Play Imo

If you're not in a position where you can walk, you're not in a position to have a woman in your life, imo.

0) You have to be SOLID if you go this route. Money on point, your own place, your own car, your own friends AND

Have the following

1) History of checking broads for poor behavior
2) A history of checking this broad in particular
2) Bouncing if they do something that can't be corrected (see 0, aka baseline)

Then here's what you do when she asks this stuff.

Tell that broad exactly what's on your mind, and then watch her deal with it.

99 times out of 100, she can't deal with it like an adult.

99 times out of 100, she comes at you as a sympathetic ear, and to help her deal with problems.

Why?

She chooses you because you're older, wiser, smarter, stronger, taller, richer, more social status, etc.

So that means she's younger, not as wise, not as smart, definitely not strong, shorter, only decent money, probably lower in terms of social status.

Almost by definition, she can't really help you with what's going on with your life - because she set it up that way.

The things she wants, you already are and she is not.

How is the client supposed to help the lawyer?
How is the patient supposed to help the doctor?
How is the student supposed to help the teacher?

She's supposed to play her role with her tools, the ones you don't have. (caring, nurturing, maybe cooking and cleaning, taking care of things, multi-tasking).

So now, she's seen behind the mask. She can listen, she can rub your back or whatever, but after too much revelation - a chick will change her behavior for the worst, and often throw it back in your face.

So you shoulda been checking this broad from jump and you gotta check this broad when she betrays you.

There are no schools on how to check a broad, it's always "communication". Most guys don't learn they need to check a female, much less learn how to. Or like myself learn too late.

So if/when she does try to flip things...

"I tell you things in confidence, and this is how you act, this is what you do..."

Then just shut the broad down at that point.

Now,

If she is a real one, a real RARE one, she will back your play though. And that's the real value in being free with your feelings.

Cause if you always gotta play defense and close yourself off - that will shave years off your life and decades off your happiness.

This was a great breakdown breh

 

[Serious]

Y'all said don't give women flowers?

I gave my ex flower randomly but she’s was my girl and it took a minute before I did it.


This ain’t even your chick, nor does it seem like she’s giving full cooperation