Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

parking lot pimpin?

exactly

i have met , fukked and had good conversations with far more women walking /traveling home from the club or bar than in the club

 

[africngiant]

I’m like 0/100 lately.

I turn women off like a faucet. Makes zero sense tho, I stay clean, fresh breath, smelling good, dressed well, haircut, ect.

But as soon as I start talking women are like “nah”. Some get real disrespectful and standoffish too. Idk how tf that keeps happening cause I don’t have a disrespectful or confrontational energy. I usually approach at bars/clubs maybe outside the place too.

Think the problem is that I give off a corny vibe, I have kind of a monotone voice. Ngl, I say basic shyt like “yo how’s your night going”/ “you’re cute, I like your outfit”/ “yo I’m X what’s up” / “happy friday” shyt like that.

Like I’m a MASTER at turning women off, like if there was negative game I am an expert at that shyt.

I been going out for the past few months. Absolutely zero results.

I know a dude who pulls literally every time we go out. He pulls threesomes too and shyt. His entire game is going around and dancing with girls. That’s literally all he does. Other than that he doesn’t do anything special. Idk what it is about dude but women love him. I personally think he’s kind of annoying but hey I can’t hate the player.

I tried that shyt and women are like “nah” too. Like they don’t even wanna dance. And then a few mins later I see em dancing with random dudes

i have your same issue. but i can’t complain. all i can do is stunt. im pretty sure it’s my upbringing with my parents vs peers that damaged my confidence growing up. and me only recently glowing up

it’s like i might be the problem? but nahhh i might just be living in bizarro world. i think the ideals of young ppl are just fukked up and im not in sync cause i missed out on the validation during my formative years

im a old head trying to appeal to whores initial expectations

 

[Ohene]

im a old head trying to appeal to whores expectations

 

[africngiant]

im feeling pretty jaded why the cosby tho. im not feeling this generation’s vibe at all what do you talk about to break the ice?

edit: nvm someone answered already.

just venting though on my off day. gen z is ass

 

[WIA20XX]

by the time you talk to girl #5 though, every woman in the club has peeped what time youre on.

in a club/party setting (even a house party) a man has to be selective

If dude is not discrete, yeah the first five will kill the next 75.

There's an art to this, imo.

 

[africngiant]

Anyways, went out this weekend in AZ for a mini vacation. Got rejected like 80+ times. Didn’t do anything or meet up with any women. They weren’t feeling me in the venues or outside. Really pushed myself to talk to any women I found attractive.

Tried to apply some of the advice I got earlier. Got 2 numbers and an IG that went nowhere. They didn’t respond.

Stayed to the brutal end too. Out at 3-4am every night still trying to approach. That shyt wore on me. I try not to let shyt affect me but at this point. I’m just over here like

Even worse was being out and seeing dudes you know you look better than having all these good ass interactions with fine women. Meanwhile I’m intentionally putting myself out there getting nothing.

Feel like I wasted my time, overall the only thing I can commend myself on is that I didn’t give up. And in retrospect I’ve had many nights like this and years later I’m still subjecting myself to this bullshyt because I continue to push myself to go after what I want.

Idk man. I kept thinking to myself that I have to reinvent the wheel and do something different but idk. Nothing worked.

preach i keep trying to tell folks that looks don’t matter like that. i just can’t get the words out to ppl here without looking like a defective monster.

im not the best socializer and the clubs aren’t really my thing. i don’t like the setup of having to hunt for women vs a bunch of other sausages the concept seems corny and forced to me, so i don’t enjoy going out like that. everything is so performative and im just a lax, ambitious kind of nikka my values don’t align with city girl and current trends and shyt like that. i absolutely cannot stand the theme of mfs constantly staring and mugging me either.

you don’t get bytches just because you look good it doesn’t go like that.

 

[WIA20XX]

word. That approach isnt going to work in a club though. Too much noise and barriers around, plus too many other men approaching.

Approaching at a club is golden.

When you look for dudes trying to make moves, it's not nearly as many as dudes think. I'd say more than half the male population is holding a beer and playing the wall.

The element of surprise/catching a girl off guard is important. i will build deeper connections if the situation permits, if there is something around us that i can use to stimulate a real convo. But if its a random girl walking past me or sumn i'll be straight up with it.

I'm the exact opposite. I'm not trying to catch a girl off guard. I want her to see me coming at her. I don't care if she has given me eye contact, I'm making eye contact with her.

If I wanted to holla at chick unawares, I'd approach in empty parking lots, lol.

issue could be non-verbal. Whether its his appearance, smile/demeanor, voice, confidence etc.

Without knowing more, I'd say on a surface level, it's definitely non-verbal.

But the non-verbal in a man's body language and demeanor stems from his inner self.

In general, when you feel down, you look down. (not always, which is why "happy" people delete themselves).

But the general perception is happy body language = happy person.

His boy is dancing, having a good time, getting other people to dance - that's very inviting to other people.

If you at the bar, rapping to everyone, holding court, that's inviting to other people.

If folks laughing at your jokes, listening to your stories, that's inviting to strangers.

Women tell me I am good looking and they love my voice. Plus I tend to truly believe I can bag any women I come across and that If i dont it is her loss. It sucks cause its very arbitrary but i guess some have "it" and some dont.

3 out of 80 is bad if none go anywhere. I think one should be able to get a number for every 5 women they approach and prolly make good progress with 1 in every 10 women they approah (be it smashing, a few good dates, a relationship or whatever)

I'd say you should be able to small talk 9/10, get numbers from 5/10, and smash 1 in 5.

That assumes though that you're interesting/engaging to the broads, you know how to handle typical club/bar problems, and you're leading things in that direction.

But If you're not bringing the party, you're bringing her (and her friends) down.

 

[Ohene]

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Approaching at a club is golden.

When you look for dudes trying to make moves, it's not nearly as many as dudes think. I'd say more than half the male population is holding a beer and playing the wall.



I'm the exact opposite. I'm not trying to catch a girl off guard. I want her to see me coming at her. I don't care if she has given me eye contact, I'm making eye contact with her.

If I wanted to holla at chick unawares, I'd approach in empty parking lots, lol.



Without knowing more, I'd say on a surface level, it's definitely non-verbal.

But the non-verbal in a man's body language and demeanor stems from his inner self.

In general, when you feel down, you look down. (not always, which is why "happy" people delete themselves).

But the general perception is happy body language = happy person.

His boy is dancing, having a good time, getting other people to dance - that's very inviting to other people.

If you at the bar, rapping to everyone, holding court, that's inviting to other people.

If folks laughing at your jokes, listening to your stories, that's inviting to strangers.




I'd say you should be able to small talk 9/10, get numbers from 5/10, and smash 1 in 5.

That assumes though that you're interesting/engaging to the broads, you know how to handle typical club/bar problems, and you're leading things in that direction.

But If you're not bringing the party, you're bringing her (and her friends) down.

if you were to guess, what % of women do you think are single? (and identify as single lol)

 

[VertigoKnight]

In terms of the club. When I go my main aim is to enjoy myself. If a chick wants to get into it, even better. As an observation I've had more women approach me or come into my orbit when I'm dancing and not paying them any attention.

And once chicks see other women dancing with you their defenses drop as well. Which means you talking to a bag of them no longer looks like you strictly p*ssy hunting.

Meanwhile you see guys on the sidelines standing round in groups of 2 and 3 watching like hungry wolves are getting no play.

 

[africngiant]

do people hate on you guys a lot in general?

and especially when you’re in the club pulling?
@WIA20XX @Ohene @VertigoKnight

if so, do you guys believe in being humble about it?
or do you guys fully step into that “fukk off,” you madd type of energy around other guys?

 

[Ohene]

do people hate on you guys a lot in general?

and especially when you’re in the club pulling?
@WIA20XX @Ohene @VertigoKnight

if so, do you guys believe in being humble about it?
or do you guys fully step into that “fukk off,” you madd type of energy around other guys?

nah ive never received hate from men. if anything men usually come to me asking me what i do in the gym, how much i lift, complimenting my gear etc. more than women do lol.

i think men need to big eachother up more tbh. women do it a ton - reason why their egos are so inflated

 

[Ahadi]

nah ive never received hate from men. if anything men usually come to me asking me what i do in the gym, how much i lift, complimenting my gear etc. more than women do lol.

i think men need to big eachother up more tbh. women do it a ton - reason why their egos are so inflated

Yup. I was at a club / speakeasy and a Breh was like “you’re making us look good bro” ended up having this 2nd wave / resurgence of confidence



This red head joint I was with last night must of felt it

 

[Ahadi]

Spoiler

“High Quality dates”

 

[WIA20XX]

preach i keep trying to tell folks that looks don’t matter like that. i just can’t get the words out to ppl here without looking like a defective monster.

im not the best socializer and the clubs aren’t really my thing. i don’t like the setup of having to hunt for women vs a bunch of other sausages the concept seems corny and forced to me anyway so i don’t enjoy going out like that either. everything is so performative and im just a lax, ambitious kind of nikka my values don’t align with city girl and current trends and shyt like that. i absolutely cannot stand the theme of mfs constantly staring and mugging me either.

you don’t get bytches just because you look good it doesn’t go like that.

There's definitely some truth here.

IMO, you don't need to be a "bars and clubs" type of dude to get broads offline. And really I prefer a more laid back spot myself. Used to hit bars that were only big enough for a pool table and a dance floor.

That said, if you don't want to do bars and clubs - you do need to be where the hoes at.

And that means having a social life.

So if you're not going out to things where people are, then there's a problem that needs solving.

If you got one broad or if you got a harem - it's about socializing.

 

[WIA20XX]

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if you were to guess, what % of women do you think are single? (and identify as single lol)

At the club? 100% of the chicks are single for the right guy.

If she was boo'd up and in love, she'd be with that dude.

She's not gonna put herself in a position to get hollar'd at by some NBA/NFL ball player, much less a regular dude like myself.

But chicks do put themselves in position to see "if they still got it".

But then they get GOT. A couple of drinks in em, Back Dat Azz Up, she gonna feel flirty, and then the biology takes over.