Almost all my boys do the "hooknah at my place" routine, with about 40% success rate, given whatever variables. Lots of alchol needed by both parties, and men are offering up, drugs, alcohol, and a place to do them. Very chaotic, very high up front investment. but it works.
on dinners and all that, I try to get to to where we have the space and time to let our guards down, or let their guard down. That's not always a dinner date. Dinner has a structure, like a three act play. They have a hard stop. Sometimes you are full, tired, whatever. Try for something more relaxed, eat before and be somewhere with some privacy. The thing with those dinners, is it gets like a bad sales routine. The sales guys is trying to hard close, as he sees the times slipping away. And the other person is often defensive getting ready to fend them off. Someone in high end luxury asset sales told me "you don't close them on the lot". I just don't even concern myself with that structure, go to dinner, pay and just enjoy it. Like I couldn't be less concerned with anything beyond the moment. People will let their guards down a litte. Like the sales guy with the Ferrari, he doesn't need your deal.
all the body language should be natural, when you are attracted, you should give compliments, you should make eye contact. No onee is going to stare into your eyes if they don't want you. I tend to lick my lips too much on some Ll Cool J shyt. Don't even notice it. Try just telling someone you are really attracted to them, once you are both chilling somewhere, and see where it goes. Be willing to play and lose. Just like in sales, the most relaxed guy, who only cares once they get started, always has the most going on.
on dinners and all that, I try to get to to where we have the space and time to let our guards down, or let their guard down. That's not always a dinner date. Dinner has a structure, like a three act play. They have a hard stop. Sometimes you are full, tired, whatever. Try for something more relaxed, eat before and be somewhere with some privacy. The thing with those dinners, is it gets like a bad sales routine. The sales guys is trying to hard close, as he sees the times slipping away. And the other person is often defensive getting ready to fend them off. Someone in high end luxury asset sales told me "you don't close them on the lot". I just don't even concern myself with that structure, go to dinner, pay and just enjoy it. Like I couldn't be less concerned with anything beyond the moment. People will let their guards down a litte. Like the sales guy with the Ferrari, he doesn't need your deal.
all the body language should be natural, when you are attracted, you should give compliments, you should make eye contact. No onee is going to stare into your eyes if they don't want you. I tend to lick my lips too much on some Ll Cool J shyt. Don't even notice it. Try just telling someone you are really attracted to them, once you are both chilling somewhere, and see where it goes. Be willing to play and lose. Just like in sales, the most relaxed guy, who only cares once they get started, always has the most going on.
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