Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[cyndaquil]

i even called a chick out for not saving my number recently. its something a lot of women do nowadays.

we had gone out on two dates when i noticed. she said saving numbers makes things feel too personal; mind you, this is the same chick who was acting like she wants something serious. i said how can you expect things to go anywhere if you aint tryna get personal? I deleted her number.

Dont waste time with women who are pessimistic and going into it looking/waiting for shyt to go wrong.

Collectively some bums out here smh

 

[Ohene]

Collectively some bums out here smh

iunno what happened in the last 4,5 years breh
like damn, did COVID really do that big a number on people? dating doesnt need to be this complicated

1. find someone youre attracted to
2. go out a few times to see if yall got chemistry and similar values
3. figure out if there are compromises that can be made in the areas that important values dont align
4. fukk.
5. become a couple and continue to spend time eachother, see how things progress

it's really that simple

 

[Redwood]

iunno what happened in the last 4,5 years breh
like damn, did COVID really do that big a number on people? dating doesnt need to be this complicated

1. find someone youre attracted to
2. go out a few times to see if yall got chemistry and similar values
3. figure out if there are compromises that can be made in the areas that important values dont align
4. fukk.
5. become a couple and continue to spend time eachother, see how things progress

it's really that simple

Even then, goalposts were still being moved

 

[The ADD]

iunno what happened in the last 4,5 years breh
like damn, did COVID really do that big a number on people? dating doesnt need to be this complicated

1. find someone youre attracted to
2. go out a few times to see if yall got chemistry and similar values
3. figure out if there are compromises that can be made in the areas that important values dont align
4. fukk.
5. become a couple and continue to spend time eachother, see how things progress

it's really that simple

Less people want a relationship than they realize so it throws the dating pool off.

 

[Ohene]

Less people want a relationship than they realize so it throws the dating pool off.

for sure. lot of people acting like they want one but as soon as things start getting serious they act dumb and sabotage

 

[The ADD]

for sure. lot of people acting like they want one but as soon as things start getting serious they act dumb and sabotage

Like not storing a dates phone number

Silly shyt

 

[The Jewnited States]

Any brehs ever have a real solid chick that held it down and loved you fully and you knew you could trust them, sex was great and all that but for whatever reason you just could NOT see yourself being with them long term?

I'm in that predicament now and I don't know how to move. Part of me says I'd be throwing away a chance at a real solid chick for the rest of my life, other part of me finds myself not wanting to spend so much time with her..... I don't know if I'm being too picky or what


Side note: any brehs on here wanna exchange contact info? I find myself needing someone to talk to about dating and relationships but I don't always have people who can offer useful advice

 

[Ohene]

Any brehs ever have a real solid chick that held it down and loved you fully and you knew you could trust them, sex was great and all that but for whatever reason you just could NOT see yourself being with them long term?

I'm in that predicament now and I don't know how to move. Part of me says I'd be throwing away a chance at a real solid chick for the rest of my life, other part of me finds myself not wanting to spend so much time with her..... I don't know if I'm being too picky or what


Side note: any brehs on here wanna exchange contact info? I find myself needing someone to talk to about dating and relationships but I don't always have people who can offer useful advice

@The ADD case in point lmaoooooo

 

[The ADD]

@jew

Any brehs ever have a real solid chick that held it down and loved you fully and you knew you could trust them, sex was great and all that but for whatever reason you just could NOT see yourself being with them long term?

I'm in that predicament now and I don't know how to move. Part of me says I'd be throwing away a chance at a real solid chick for the rest of my life, other part of me finds myself not wanting to spend so much time with her..... I don't know if I'm being too picky or what


Side note: any brehs on here wanna exchange contact info? I find myself needing someone to talk to about dating and relationships but I don't always have people who can offer useful advice

If you don’t like her that much then it be what it is.

 

[The Jewnited States]

@The ADD case in point lmaoooooo

I understand my post sounds ridiculous on the heels of that sequence of posts. Let me give a little more context and reasons I'm apprehensive:

We known each other since middle school. Middle school sweethearts and all that. Our timing never really worked out to allow us to give it a real chance. We would keep in touch but often times were in different states and couldn't be together physically. Throughout our 20s we both had our own lives. She had 2 kids. I have no kids. She cannot get pregnant again due to her last pregnancy being a problem pregnancy. A part of me is worried that if I settle down with her, the chance of me having my own kids goes out the window. Because I don't have my own kids, I also feel ill equipped to step into a step dad type role.

If she didn't have kids or maybe even if she could give me a kid someday, I would probably just commit one hundred percent.

Am I really that crazy for feeling like this?

 

[The ADD]

I understand my post sounds ridiculous on the heels of that sequence of posts. Let me give a little more context and reasons I'm apprehensive:

We known each other since middle school. Middle school sweethearts and all that. Our timing never really worked out to allow us to give it a real chance. We would keep in touch but often times were in different states and couldn't be together physically. Throughout our 20s we both had our own lives. She had 2 kids. I have no kids. She cannot get pregnant again due to her last pregnancy being a problem pregnancy. A part of me is worried that if I settle down with her, the chance of me having my own kids goes out the window. Because I don't have my own kids, I also feel ill equipped to step into a step dad type role.

If she didn't have kids or maybe even if she could give me a kid someday, I would probably just commit one hundred percent.

Am I really that crazy for feeling like this?

You aren’t crazy for feeling that way but also why are you with her?

Also if she’s this solid I’m guessing she sees a future and you pretty much don’t which speaks to what me and @Ohene are talking about.

 

[The Jewnited States]

You aren’t crazy for feeling that way but also why are you with her?

Also if she’s this solid I’m guessing she sees a future and you pretty much don’t which speaks to what me and @Ohene are talking about.

I only got out of prison recently and it was through mutual friend that we were able to reconnect. It was supposed to be just a friends with benefits thing at first and I never talked about a full blown relationship, but lately she has been pushing for it and I know it's time to shyt or get off the pot

I just started my new job, I'm going back to school for the fall semester and there's a lot of uncertainty regarding my future. It's hard for me to commit

 

[The ADD]

I only got out of prison recently and it was through mutual friend that we were able to reconnect. It was supposed to be just a friends with benefits thing at first and I never talked about a full blown relationship, but lately she has been pushing for it and I know it's time to shyt or get off the pot

Come on bruh. You thought an old high school flame with two kids only was no strings attached

 

[Ohene]

I understand my post sounds ridiculous on the heels of that sequence of posts. Let me give a little more context and reasons I'm apprehensive:

We known each other since middle school. Middle school sweethearts and all that. Our timing never really worked out to allow us to give it a real chance. We would keep in touch but often times were in different states and couldn't be together physically. Throughout our 20s we both had our own lives. She had 2 kids. I have no kids. She cannot get pregnant again due to her last pregnancy being a problem pregnancy. A part of me is worried that if I settle down with her, the chance of me having my own kids goes out the window. Because I don't have my own kids, I also feel ill equipped to step into a step dad type role.

If she didn't have kids or maybe even if she could give me a kid someday, I would probably just commit one hundred percent.

Am I really that crazy for feeling like this?

yea thats important context. i personally wouldnt date a single mother if i didnt have my own kids so it would be a hard pass for me
plus i wouldnt date her unless i knew i didnt want kids
you not crazy at all, just stop wasting your and her time

 

[Ohene]

I only got out of prison recently and it was through mutual friend that we were able to reconnect. It was supposed to be just a friends with benefits thing at first and I never talked about a full blown relationship, but lately she has been pushing for it and I know it's time to shyt or get off the pot

I just started my new job, I'm going back to school for the fall semester and there's a lot of uncertainty regarding my future. It's hard for me to commit

get off the pot my breh
didnt know you were locked up all this time. welcome home