Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[craigsagersuit]

even if you genuinely like the chick, your mindset should always be:

"I know my destination. I know where i'm going. I'm the pilot of my plane. Either you want to be my co-pilot for this trip or you don't. You're always free to quit or leave. If you do, i won't even front, it's sad cause i like you and you've been a good co-pilot so i will miss you. but at the end of the day, i'm still going where i'm going with or without you. right now i'd rather it be you sitting in the seat next to me but whatever you choose, there will eventually be someone who fits my standards sitting in that co-pilot seat. it's either you or someone else "

you don't even need to say it verbally to her. but she HAS to know that's how you feel. she has to know through your actions. She has to know you're getting where ever you need to go no matter what she decides. a co-pilot who figures out the pilot needs her suddenly stops respecting his authority. they ask for pay-raises, become insubordinate, show up late to work, and even resents the pilot for all the authority he had over her while he didn't "need" her. eventually the co-pilot gets bored and wants to fly with a different pilot who does more exciting flights.

don't chase them, replace them.

trying to live by this quote brehs. @Turbulent

Just be careful odds are it won't last. Usually when parents love you and treat you like that it means sadly their daughter made horrible choices in men previously and your the first decent one.

Everything seems great because your still in the honeymoon period.

Just take it slow , know that it probably won't end in marriage etc. And she will prob be your first heartbreak.

I'm sure she dropped the I'm not like that and will never hurt you line. I've been a 19 year old birgin before stricken by "love" and beauty.

true. she tells me how "perfect" I am, how that I'm a "blessing" to her from God, and how she wants me to be her husband someday yaddi yaddi yadda and i'm like in my head thinking how many guys has she said that line to.

which is why i'm not too emotionally investing in her. giving her that 80-20 treatment so when the inevitable happens I won't be too bad

I admit I don't want to lose her because she fits what I want in a woman, but at the same time if I feel like my happiness is in jeopardy or that i'm just being played



shout outs to this thread btw. goat

 

[FukyourFort]

some real potent gems being dropped and everybody vibin. im on month two of getting over my ex and its definitely hard but i deserve to be treated the way i treat them. don't take me for granted or start actin shady just because im easy going and laid back. im a nice guy so it seems like im easy to get over on but im making notes the whole time then they surprised when you drop them thangs on em. doubt she cared but whatever i pushed that button. peace to ya'll on your own missions

 

[BreezyH]

imagine if these gems went mainstream and dudes really didn't go out of their way for undeserving women, it'd be a revolution out here brehs. dare to dream

 

[Turbulent]

imagine if these gems went mainstream and dudes really didn't go out of their way for undeserving women, it'd be a revolution out here brehs. dare to dream

not everyone wants to take responsibility. believe it or not, some people actually enjoy the suffering because the pain is comforting to them because it makes them martyrs (and i catch myself thinking that way sometimes too...) so instead a lot of us choose to embrace the rules already established. After all, the alternative would be to destroy and rebuilt your whole belief system and own up to the responsibility if things don't end up going your way(quite scary...). I hope i can get there one day and i'm definitely putting in work on myself...

but yeah. it probably won't go mainstream because most us are happy being tricks and simps deep down.

 

[Mr. Negative]

, how that I'm a "blessing" to her from God,

careful with that. Every single person who's ever told me that has fukked me over in the worst way possible.

 

[craigsagersuit]

careful with that. Every single person who's ever told me that has fukked me over in the worst way possible.

these women, man.

 

[MikelArteta]

Likewise I mentioned above more times than not these women have messed with horroble in on the past your the first good one so you her hyped up. However these women are set in their ways and want that drama filled cheat on me great me bad why can't I tame him type of ma

careful with that. Every single person who's ever told me that has fukked me over in the worst way possible.

 

[Mr. Negative]

not everyone wants to take responsibility. believe it or not, some people actually enjoy the suffering because the pain is comforting to them because it makes them martyrs (and i catch myself thinking that way sometimes too...) so instead a lot of us choose to embrace the rules already established.

yeah, this is one of the things I first said about men+women when I first came to this board. We really do live in a DoubleThink society (1984 reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doublethink) and we ALL KNOW it's wrong. Especially the men... who have nothing to gain at all from going in and out of bad relationships....

but we go into them on the promises that we will be the ones to show women the error of their ways, and that if we aren't a part of the solution (be a "good" man) then we MUST be part of the problem (because we aren't "good" men, we must be lower than the type of men that constantly get chosen over us)

My problem was always that I was raised in a family of angry, bitter women who are exactly the kind of women we discuss in this thread. The Entitled and Lazy. They treat (and always have) the males in the family the same way they would boyfriends and spouses. That's from my older uncles down to my nephews. They make their love, praise and affection an unobtainable goal (it doesn't exist) that you must earn by your subservience and servitude.

And I can't speak for the other dudes in my family, but my mindset was reinforced by constant physical abuse and systematic psychological torture, all the while flat out being told that the reason for my treatment was because of how THEY were treated by men.

I was like " I don't want to be the kind of man that makes them like that!" It wasn't even a year ago that I came to a realization: They weren't like that because of men (notice how selfish, angry, and bitter women ALWAYS claim that men make women go bad. That they must have been treated bad by a man or a string of men.... now they "flipping the script")... They were like that anyway.... and were mad at men for not giving them their way at every single junction. Giving them an easy life. A life free of responsibilities.


So that became my belief system. My Religion. The Quest for A Woman's Love. Bad women just needed to be shown that not all men were bad. Don't be a man like the kind of men my family hated. Not like them "playas" and nikkas in rap videos. Surely the heaven you desire will be your reward.



Only problem with that.... whenever a woman would come along and I consciously or subconsciously saw those same selfish traits and she backed it up by throwing me the slightest bit of affection, attention or praise.......... And every time it started to go bad, I told myself I simply wasn't trying hard enough.


And my religion was wrong. It wasn't easy to accept. So maybe I did become a martyr in a way. I died for the cause. These long ass posts may as well be a eulogy. And I hope that any man that comes in here and hears these words takes heed, takes account of himself and steps off the path I used to be on.... if he's man enough to accept the fact that he's on it.

After all, the alternative would be to destroy and rebuilt your whole belief system and own up to the responsibility if things don't end up going your way(quite scary...). I hope i can get there one day and i'm definitely putting in work on myself...

it's the worst thing ever, breh.

but yeah. it probably won't go mainstream because most us are happy being tricks and simps deep down.

They'd kill us. it's too much money in tricking and simping.







Know what..... typing out these long ass essays can be very...... therapeutic.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Whats with women idolizing Marilyn Monroe and Nicki Minaj types?

 

[MikelArteta]

imagine if these gems went mainstream and dudes really didn't go out of their way for undeserving women, it'd be a revolution out here brehs. dare to dream

to many simps and men driven by puzzy. Hell look at me I'm accused of a woman hater on this site from the same people who watch porn that degrades women, laugh at rape, have cheated in the past, and listen to rap msic

yet im a woman hater because I speak out against the system, how this is a matriarchal society, how most women of today are unworthy to even be called your gf let alone your wife

 

[Turbulent]

yeah, this is one of the things I first said about men+women when I first came to this board. We really do live in a DoubleThink society (1984 reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doublethink) and we ALL KNOW it's wrong. Especially the men... who have nothing to gain at all from going in and out of bad relationships....

but we go into them on the promises that we will be the ones to show women the error of their ways, and that if we aren't a part of the solution (be a "good" man) then we MUST be part of the problem (because we aren't "good" men, we must be lower than the type of men that constantly get chosen over us)

My problem was always that I was raised in a family of angry, bitter women who are exactly the kind of women we discuss in this thread. The Entitled and Lazy. They treat (and always have) the males in the family the same way they would boyfriends and spouses. That's from my older uncles down to my nephews. They make their love, praise and affection an unobtainable goal (it doesn't exist) that you must earn by your subservience and servitude.

And I can't speak for the other dudes in my family, but my mindset was reinforced by constant physical abuse and systematic psychological torture, all the while flat out being told that the reason for my treatment was because of how THEY were treated by men.

I was like " I don't want to be the kind of man that makes them like that!" It wasn't even a year ago that I came to a realization: They weren't like that because of men (notice how selfish, angry, and bitter women ALWAYS claim that men make women go bad. That they must have been treated bad by a man or a string of men.... now they "flipping the script")... They were like that anyway.... and were mad at men for not giving them their way at every single junction. Giving them an easy life. A life free of responsibilities.


So that became my belief system. My Religion. The Quest for A Woman's Love. Bad women just needed to be shown that not all men were bad. Don't be a man like the kind of men my family hated. Not like them "playas" and nikkas in rap videos. Surely the heaven you desire will be your reward.



Only problem with that.... whenever a woman would come along and I consciously or subconsciously saw those same selfish traits and she backed it up by throwing me the slightest bit of affection, attention or praise.......... And every time it started to go bad, I told myself I simply wasn't trying hard enough.


And my religion was wrong. It wasn't easy to accept. So maybe I did become a martyr in a way. I died for the cause. These long ass posts may as well be a eulogy. And I hope that any man that comes in here and hears these words takes heed, takes account of himself and steps off the path I used to be on.... if he's man enough to accept the fact that he's on it.



it's the worst thing ever, breh.



They'd kill us. it's too much money in tricking and simping.







Know what..... typing out these long ass essays can be very...... therapeutic.

i feel you breh but like we said, it's our own fault. We can't keep blaming these women for allowing them to be disrespectful. they will be disrespectful as long as we keep giving them the option to be. If you met a chick who allowed you to smut her out and was still loyal to you, you'd either treat her like shyt or leave. and then she'd say "but i'm everything you dream of, i'm your filthy whore, allow you to sleep around and disrespect me, never nag, never give you drama and you still don't want to wife me..." . it's the same thing but in reverse. Not saying i condone their behavior but i'm starting to understand. the same way we want respectable ladies yet still try to smut chicks we meet only to throw them away, the same way they want strong men yet still try to turn you into a bytch/emasculate you only to throw you away. You can only treat them like they allow you to be treated just like they can only treat you like you allow them to.But realizing that is one thing. internalizing it into your inner compass is a whole other. it's the difference between knowing the path and walking the path.

 

[Mr. Negative]

yeah, it's all on us, really.

I'm just one of those types that couldn't accept it until I dug down deep enough to know why I kept doing it. lol

 

[360dagod]

@360dagod

#nofukksgiven working real good for me right now

lol what happened?

 

[Flay Mayweather]

lol what happened?

bishes not talking reckless no more and "NEED" my attention

i switched the game on them and they aint even know

 

[kevm3]

To my Christians in here, do not sacrifice your love for Jesus or your morals for women or anything for that matter. It is terrifying to admit, but we are living in truly evil times. Honestly, I count it a blessing that I'm single right now since if I was with a woman, I'd be more focused on pleasing her than God... and to bring a kid into these times? The coming few days will reveal exactly the times we are living in.

Something I was blessed to receive is knowledge of a mistake that I havee made as well as many of us have made. This is to seek the ways and the favor of a woman. In other words, many men have made women their idol or their god and seek to please them above all. And after pleasing these women, have they been rewarded? After seeking to do any and everything to bring their woman satisfaction, even to the point of wickedness, were they blessed? I think not. The Bible tells us to seek first the Kingdom of God and all of these things will be added unto us. Seek to please God and a righteous woman will be added unto us if God deems that fit.

Now when we look at the landscape, is it not bare how desolate it is? Love is a beautiful feeling, and yet how many of us are truly wary of it now because we feel we cannot trust each other? We've come to a time period where we feel we must be cold and wicked in order to deal with women, but if that is the case, is it not better to abstain? Is it not better to abstain from eating a rotten apple? If you must change your core character from righteousness to wickedness to deal with anyone, then you are simply better off avoiding them. The company of humankind is only temporal. You will do any and everything to obtain it, and yet you will be discarded for all your sacrifices. Heed this message.