Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[re'up]

Never let a bytch bring you to the point where you feel like you need to go out of your way avoid her

Do whatever you want, go where you want. If shyt goes awry she’s the one who can remove herself from the habitat, not you. And if she doesn’t and you come across her, walk past her without giving a fukk the same way you do anyone else. Are we not men? Jesus.


Just yday a girl who faded me a year ago randomly was at my gym. She don’t even live in my city unless she moved recently so i didn’t even believe it was her at first. I went about my workout and paid her no mind. Then eventually I walked past her at the end of my workout and she waved. I waved back and went about my day. Who cares? Don’t let these women get under your skin. They ain’t worth it. Same way, I went to the gym today. It’s my gym. fukk i look like letting a chick scare me away from it

You always have to remember, it's not really that weird or awkward, and if anyone should feel weird, it's usually not me.

Over the weekend I was walking in my neighborhood, and I see this girl who I met last summer, got the number, hit her up to go on a walk, and she never answered, I've waved and said whats up, with another girl once or twice, but we never talked again. So I see her heading straight for me, and then she swerves hard right with her dog, and her head in her phone.

And I was like is it really that serious? Nothing happened. 5 minutes later I hit a corner, and she comes crashing into me with her dog. High anxiety, she smiles and says HI HOW ARE YOU and I just calmly said her name like Tiffany, right? And she smiled and went into her place, reburied her head into her phone. She might be an ONLYFANS girl. Her face has gotten razor thin and her ass even bigger. Some of these girls are wired so tight and so anxious, it's really not anyone but them.

 

[Jasonmask]

Sometimes I wish I was more friendly but then I remember life and be like fück all that

 

[Ahadi]

I understand the era of the long screening, but what do you talk about on FaceTime? Do you ever push the meet up? To me, that would be the most uncomfortable part of it.

For me, FaceTime often feels like a filibuster… not much different from a Zoom conference call. I connect and communicate better through real, shared experiences in real time, where I can engage fully with my environment and have more intimate, meaningful dialogue. Video calls tend to dilute that, especially if we haven’t already built a foundation. Without touch, presence, and the full sensory experience, it’s harder for me to feel genuinely connected.

She should ultimately want to be in your presence.

 

[Ahadi]

You always have to remember, it's not really that weird or awkward, and if anyone should feel weird, it's usually not me.

Over the weekend I was walking in my neighborhood, and I see this girl who I met last summer, got the number, hit her up to go on a walk, and she never answered, I've waved and said whats up, with another girl once or twice, but we never talked again. So I see her heading straight for me, and then she swerves hard right with her dog, and her head in her phone.

And I was like is it really that serious? Nothing happened. 5 minutes later I hit a corner, and she comes crashing into me with her dog. High anxiety, she smiles and says HI HOW ARE YOU and I just calmly said her name like Tiffany, right? And she smiled and went into her place, reburied her head into her phone. She might be an ONLYFANS girl. Her face has gotten razor thin and her ass even bigger. Some of these girls are wired so tight and so anxious, it's really not anyone but them.

You can’t control how anyone reacts. As long as you stick to your principles , you good. All that extra ish is just noise.

 

[Braman]

Its called common courtesy/politeness. who cares

Out of everything you wrote I’ll highlight this

Do you workout? Some people are wired this way some aren’t: the gym is a sanctuary. Im not being courtesy and polite. I don’t want to talk to *anyone*. I don’t gotta think, be cordial, acknowledge, etc

So I’m not worried it won’t work out. I’m assuming it will . And in that scenario, no i do not want to see someone I’m actively talking to and fukking….every day. Literally, every day. Yea fukk all that we gon ‘avoid’

 

[Braman]

I understand the era of the long screening, but what do you talk about on FaceTime? Do you ever push the meet up? To me, that would be the most uncomfortable part of it.

We briefly FaceTime’d. She’s goin thru her whole ‘I been fukker over before’ script. We meeting up this weekend.

 

[re'up]

For me, FaceTime often feels like a filibuster… not much different from a Zoom conference call. I connect and communicate better through real, shared experiences in real time, where I can engage fully with my environment and have more intimate, meaningful dialogue. Video calls tend to dilute that, especially if we haven’t already built a foundation. Without touch, presence, and the full sensory experience, it’s harder for me to feel genuinely connected.

She should ultimately want to be in your presence.

All that is right, and used to be the normal human experience, which has grown diluted by 2026, with technology. People used to naturally just crave that or desire that, and now I think that's changed a lot.

I was out with someone last night, and made a point to say it's been 2.5 hours and feels like no time has gone by, because we are in person. People forget how that feels I think. I get a rush from calls and texts, but it's very short lasting. You need that new hit right away.

 

[re'up]

We briefly FaceTime’d. She’s goin thru her whole ‘I been fukker over before’ script. We meeting up this weekend.

Related to that, do you think people today are much more gratuitously dramatic, about what used to be just normal experiences? Heartbreak, unrequited loves, breakups, whatever it is. Somewhere between therapy speak and narrativizing their lives is part of the answer.

 

[Ahadi]

Related to that, do you think people today are much more gratuitously dramatic, about what used to be just normal experiences? Heartbreak, unrequited loves, breakups, whatever it is. Somewhere between therapy speak and narrativizing their lives is part of the answer.

But also consuming content in a TikTok style format, dramatizing a simple experience when it was just a misalignment. That was it, just a misalignment.

Not pouring that energy into the next person for them to become a fixer or pollute the current dynamic. Every interaction should be a clean slate. You’re already starting off the relationship in bad faith.

 

[Ohene]

Out of everything you wrote I’ll highlight this

Do you workout? Some people are wired this way some aren’t: the gym is a sanctuary. Im not being courtesy and polite. I don’t want to talk to *anyone*. I don’t gotta think, be cordial, acknowledge, etc

So I’m not worried it won’t work out. I’m assuming it will . And in that scenario, no i do not want to see someone I’m actively talking to and fukking….every day. Literally, every day. Yea fukk all that we gon ‘avoid’

Then lay out the ground rules after you fukk
Simple

 

[Braman]

Related to that, do you think people today are much more gratuitously dramatic, about what used to be just normal experiences? Heartbreak, unrequited loves, breakups, whatever it is. Somewhere between therapy speak and narrativizing their lives is part of the answer.

The made me laugh. Bc YES. Therapy, social media giving people monetary/fame incentive to gas up a dating ‘story’, dating shows too. All of it has cultivated a new normal where women (probably men too) are hyper vigilant of every little nuance, everything is over-analyzed, dating and relationships far more complex than what they should be.

I had a chick say she didnt like one guy bc he had self deprecating humor, and it made her question his confidence and if she would be able to say to her future son ‘go ask your father’

I do think therapy has had unintended consequences. I said this a few years back and I think things have only gotten worse…

this is my whole thing with therapy…it’s like jewels being handed to a child. Everyone isnt built to be hyper aware of every waking thought, doubt, flaw, etc.

 

[re'up]

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/03/opinion/gen-z-dating-clavicular.html

And women, for their part, are moving away from the corporeal entirely, celebrating yearning rather than in-person relationships, decentering men and solo-romanticizing their own lives. It’s a tendency that made “Wuthering Heights,” Emerald Fennell’s smutty fanfic interpretation of the classic romantic novel, a Valentine’s weekend blockbuster. It’s not a movie to watch with a date. As the review site Vulture put it, “Masturbation on the Moors for the Win"

For younger adults, romance has turned into something to be debated, theorized and optimized for but not actually engaged in.

Thought this was pretty close to what we talk about on here sometimes. skyrunner1 was saying something like this.