Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

Hey bros when I was at work I thought of some questions and figured this would be the best place for honest answers
How do you feel about giving compliments(looks, brains, and things in general)? If so how much is too much?
What do you do when the convo goes dry?
What if she doesn't wanna chill? It is what it is? She'll come around when she's ready?
How honest is honest? Can you take it too far?
Is two(or more) girls better than one? Keeping a bench to keep you crisp
Always be playing(mind games, not taking things seriously)?
The fukk her feelings its all about me mindset?
Always refuse to pay and make her pay?
After sex protocol dip out or chill?
Always keep convo dry and basic(don't open up kinda thing)?

I'mma be straight up with you. the root of your behavior is looking for approval from women, or in other words, what is the right set of strategies and actions in order to make her like me. We've all been there. The problem with that mentality is that you are making HER the prize, and when a woman feels like she is the prize, she will get away and look for another man that she feels is the prize. Women always want a man they can look UP to, not a man that they look down on who is trying to win her affection... so stop stressing so much and doing so much strategizing and keep it simple. You are there to give a woman an opportunity to deal with you. If she doesn't take it, that's on her, so keep it pushing. Stop trying to 'win over' these women and give them a shot to win you.

In regards to praising women this and that, give them a lil compliment but don't overdue it. In regards to dinner and all of that, best to avoid all of that until she earns it. The KEY is to deal with women that value, or in other words look at you as a prize... and it's plain as daylight when it comes to how they interact with you. They are MUCH easier to deal with and are willing to spend time with you with little or no resistance. On the other hand, if you have to do circus monkey tricks in order to get a woman's attention and hold it, you will be wasting your time. If she doesn't have interest in you, don't waste your time being interested in her. If you have to chase, you will lose the race.

 

[MikelArteta]

Hey bros when I was at work I thought of some questions and figured this would be the best place for honest answers
How do you feel about giving compliments(looks, brains, and things in general)? If so how much is too much?

I don't give compliments per say, I'll be like nice dress where did you get it? or nice shoes. But I won't be like omg your so gorgeous, or sexy and all that. And by saying nice dress or nice shoes i'm not complimenting on her beauty, I always have been the type of dude chicks gotta go home and text their friend and wonder if he likes me.

What do you do when the convo goes dry?

Women are talkers, just keep asking questions about their favorite thing to talk about themselves

What if she doesn't wanna chill? It is what it is?

Stop wasting time on women who are not as interested in you as you are as interested in them, to many women out there to waste time on one that's not interested.

She'll come around when she's ready?

why would you want to be a second option?, if a broad doesn't want me now and think she cna put me on the backburner she has another thing coming

How honest is honest? Can you take it too far?

I'm honest in everything, I have nothing to be ashamed about, im not going to blurt out everything but if someone asks me i will oblige

Is two(or more) girls better than one? Keeping a bench to keep you crisp

if you are not exclusive then why not, why not more than 2, why not 3, 4,5. Never give your commitment away mindlessly and easily. If you are looking for a car are you just going to go to one dealership? if your looking fo ra job are you just going to apply to one job?

Always be playing(mind games, not taking things seriously)?

I don't really play mind games, and chicks who play mind games i cut out of my life

The fukk her feelings its all about me mindset?

put yourself first and you will never lose! if you feel there are redflags something is off, who cares if she isa nice girl to you get out

Always refuse to pay and make her pay?

I never pay on the first date, why? because many women of today are multi dating they date you on a friday and have jamal on the saturday. So why should I pay out of my pocket for my meal and her meal for example when she's playing the field and/or im not guranteed a second date. When I'm exclusive or have given my commitment I do not mind paying for a date, but beforehand hell no

After sex protocol dip out or chill?

Do what you want to do, if you feel like leaving then leave, if you feel liek chilling then chill

Always keep convo dry and basic(don't open up kinda thing)?

Women love to talk so let them talk, the more you say the more you may say or do something she may not like.

Oh your a democrat, oh you don't like animals, oh you just work there, let her talk.

 

[NickTaLife]

I'mma be straight up with you. the root of your behavior is looking for approval from women, or in other words, what is the right set of strategies and actions in order to make her like me. We've all been there. The problem with that mentality is that you are making HER the prize, and when a woman feels like she is the prize, she will get away and look for another man that she feels is the prize. Women always want a man they can look UP to, not a man that they look down on who is trying to win her affection... so stop stressing so much and doing so much strategizing and keep it simple. You are there to give a woman an opportunity to deal with you. If she doesn't take it, that's on her, so keep it pushing. Stop trying to 'win over' these women and give them a shot to win you.

In regards to praising women this and that, give them a lil compliment but don't overdue it. In regards to dinner and all of that, best to avoid all of that until she earns it. The KEY is to deal with women that value, or in other words look at you as a prize... and it's plain as daylight when it comes to how they interact with you. They are MUCH easier to deal with and are willing to spend time with you with little or no resistance. On the other hand, if you have to do circus monkey tricks in order to get a woman's attention and hold it, you will be wasting your time. If she doesn't have interest in you, don't waste your time being interested in her. If you have to chase, you will lose the race.

Damn, I feel you on that. I'm trying to break out of this simp mold that my friends and fam laid out. I appreciate you keeping it real with the kid. Much respect my man

 

[kevm3]

What's so crazy about this world is this thing called social programming. It's when society teaches you a set of rules and actions to follow and it becomes so ingrained in your psyche that it intertwines with your emotions as well, so you start thinking that doing this or that particular thing WILL reward you with what you seek. This is very true of women and how young men deal with them. You turn on television or play a videogame and you see men straight up getting abused by women, taking all of their trash talk and then rushing over to them like baby, no baby, please baby, understand baby... just corny behavior. Look at that video with that asian guy walking around on his knees. She did him a favor by slapping him in the face. As a man you need to have dignity. Crawling around, bawling and begging women are a no no... why do so many do it? Because their parents never taught them anything, most guys who knew hid away the knowledge because they wanted to maintain their advantage, and because you are programmed through the media to do the opposite... and what makes it even deeper is that the vast majority of your boys are brainwashed by the same system, so they do nothing but reaffirm your particular behaviors that DON'T WORK.

So you go out, you try to be this sweet guy that always gives in to women and does whatever, and you get abused. You do it again, you get abused. You talk to your boy and they say something like, "Dude, she just wasn't the right one for you. There's another gem out there." You do the same thing again, you get abused. Some men wisen up and realize that that sucker role DOESN'T work. Others keep on doing the same thing, thinking this time things will be different.

What makes the behavior so ingrained is that it is taught on television and it works on television, so subconsciously you start thinking it works. These guys are begging women, constantly praising them, acting goofy and they end up with the woman. You try that in real life and women will not pay you an iota of attention or clown you. Cut that tv off and stop listening to so much RnB music because it is affirming to you the false mentality that by begging and whining, you will be better off with women... and it teaches you the false paradigm that women are any and everything to your existence. 11 out of 12 songs on rnb cds are in some way relating to and begging women... you ride around and listen to that all day, where do you think your mind will start to gravitate? What kind of thoughts do you think will form in your mind?

So the real deal is stop trying to 'win over' women. Get at them and if they like you, you will know. Stop showering these women with praise and trying to show out for them. Deal with the ones that want to deal with you and keep it pushing.

 

[MikelArteta]

man its a holiday up here thanksgiving and i went out to volunteer somewhere and stopped at a few places and ran into a girl i once dated/close to, with her man ish bugged me a little bit just a weak moment

 

[Mr210]

man its a holiday up here thanksgiving and i went out to volunteer somewhere and stopped at a few places and ran into a girl i once dated/close to, with her man ish bugged me a little bit just a weak moment

Very weak moment don't do it again

 

[MikelArteta]

Very weak moment don't do it again

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Its a crazy game out here.I tell you cats Love dont pay no bills.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

man its a holiday up here thanksgiving and i went out to volunteer somewhere and stopped at a few places and ran into a girl i once dated/close to, with her man ish bugged me a little bit just a weak moment

Its all good man,you human.Think of it as its His problem now

 

[HoloGraphic]

I just got put onto this book called the Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. What I loosely remember from watching a vid, was him saying that Men or the Masculine Energy, is about the Death Drive, living life on the edge, Dare Devil, Adrenaline Type. Which is also about Prescence. Ex, that heightened feeling of being in the moment during an intense sport or activity. And that men also set the Direction and a woman, feminine follows.

 

[kevm3]

Thanks for the book recommendation. I will have to agree that men set the direction, but I will have to disagree with the notion that masculine energy is about living on the edge, being high adrenaline, etc. Now that's a part of masculinity during certain situations, but if you're constantly on the edge and amped up, you will start making bad decisions and will constantly be stressed out. The key of masculinity is being in control of yourself and of the situation at hand. Sometimes it requires more aggression and other times it calls for a calmer, more collected approach. Balancing your emotional states in order to get the proper outcome is key.

 

[kevm3]

Just completed a new blog entry.
http://kevm3.wordpress.com/2013/10/15/the-secret-to-skill/

 

[CrossBones]

I just got put onto this book called the Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. What I loosely remember from watching a vid, was him saying that Men or the Masculine Energy, is about the Death Drive, living life on the edge, Dare Devil, Adrenaline Type. Which is also about Prescence. Ex, that heightened feeling of being in the moment during an intense sport or activity. And that men also set the Direction and a woman, feminine follows.

I think thats true. I believe that testosterone, and in general male energy, is a gift and a curse in a way. its there to give us that powerful drive for us to push forward and exhibit either aggression or strength. its best though if its focused and used when the time is right. its not something to let control you and tell you what youre to do. if you dont do control it then you willl be a slave to this predisposition and will be running all over the place like a savage. to make it in this world, you are to temper your strengths, and not let your urges be in charge of you.

I have that book too, I just havent read it yet. it was recommended by that muscleheaded guy who I posted a video of not too long ago. he actually speaks a lot truth and seems to speak from a very humble and helpful place. his videos are alright from what Ive seen

now as for women, I believe that theyre equipped with the gift of being very welcoming, inviting, warm, soft, nuturing, comforting etc. they arent the same in how they go about things, think about problems, or interact with others, because they arent even built that way. their traits show out in their natural ways, their God given gifts of nuturing, being social, and their overall alluring presence. they are more like beacons for us to seek out, and we men are the ones who take the initiative and must hone in on them. still, if they dont temper their traits then they end up being the town slut and found to be of little value to keep around

overall men and women do share some of the same traits in different areas and to different degrees. more or less we're just a reflection of the other. some women may have some prominent manly traits, some men may have some more prominent feminine traits. but in the end a man is still a man and a woman is still a woman. that doesnt change. I feel like each has their own role to play for making a union work, and their partners should be chosen based on how well their traits can accompany one another. our gifts can be our curse if we dont know how to utilize them properly and when to pull back on them

 

[Beerus]

Soooo a nikka was tryna find a way to open a text convo wit homegirl did the "dreamt about you" text, n it went to her bringing me food route(like a desert from her country)
I was jokin but breh she really brought it fo me .
The duck should i make out of this??
Mind you she rejected my offer of going out back in feb(only knew her for like 3 weeks back then)

 

[kevm3]

If a woman brings you food she obviously has some sort of interest in you. Stop trying to read her mind and get at her. If she's down for you coo, if not, move on to another woman. No need to over-complicate things.