Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

One thing which I notice is why cant more women go out of their way for us? Think about it...we do the majority of the work in relationships.We have to initiate everything.Yes I know us men are suppose to sacrifice for women and back in day even give our lives.However times have changed and we must think "Would these women do the same"? "They want to be equal" "What sacrifices does she bring"? Some may say this is selfish thinking like I said if you dont look out for yourself who will?Give your heart all you want,but when you get hurt who will be listening to you?I notice thru out this thread all the energy and time we lost trying to get her back,or get her attention.Yet we arent getting anywhere but frustration and disappointing results.The dating game is just that a GAME.Our parents generation was the last golden when it came to Relationships. Male-Female relationships in 2013 going into 2014 are changing and arent getting better,time we start realizing before HER there was You.Me before WE mentality.

This is exactly the point that i was making in that thread I posted a couple of pages back. The majority of dudes obviously knew where I was coming from, but you had this clown bdizzle or whatever his name is talking about 100,000 years of mating rituals (as if human and social dynamics never change over time) and some bullshyt about how dudes who say that women should also make an effort are "just scared" of rejection....and I was just saying if a woman likes you, then she can also make the effort to initiate a conversation. Then you had other clowns talking about men should do all the work cos we have balls and whatever else shyt they were saying. You find that these are the same dudes who end up getting played the most and then they resent men like us who actually "have balls" and have a better radar when it comes to real women and the golddiggers/chickenheads/users/sluts etc. Somehow being a "man" is doing all the work while the woman just sits back and looks pretty. You find these fools deep down are simply jealous of men who know with their own principles and aren't dazzled by just good looks alone

Any relationship has to be 50/50 and only a fukking simp or an idiot who knows nothing about life will tell you otherwise. I could post numerous examples of men who have done all the work only for their chick to be getting her back blown out by the next dude. They take good men for granted all the time because everything comes easy and they don't need to put in any work themselves.

 

[kevm3]

In Japan they have 'hostess clubs' where women go to pay men to talk to them... women don't bring anything to the table in America because men don't demand it. They accept a woman no matter what she brings. All she has to do is look pretty and you have simped out dudes talking about how they will drink her bathwater or do all sorts of corny things to and for her. And in response, these guys will often respond, "If you don't do it another man will!" Or "You'll be alone!"

It's better be alone than to deal with a woman who will give you attitude, put you down or walk out with half of your stuff and spend it on another man. If you can't be alone as a man, you are the male equivalent of one of those women who constantly get in abusive relationships because they are afraid of being single. Why do men allow women to keep 'dashes' in their name instead of taking on their last name? Because men are weak enough to allow it. Bottom line is women do what you allow. If you let them do all kinds of messed up things to you, that's exactly what they will do,.The neo feminist indoctrination is so deep these days, men are afraid to demand basic things that used to be a GIVEN.

Stop arguing with male simps and stop giving feminists attention. Let those simps get used up and abused by those same feminists they are defending. If a woman can't get with your program, don't let her in the door.

 

[Turbulent]

don't get mad at them though. just pay them no attention. Chicks try to start dating convos with me about dating and when i see the convo is going in the direction that "a real man should..." i just say i disagree and explain why. when they start insisting, if their points don't make sense, i either change the convo or just stop talking to them. same thing when they start talking that feminism shyt.

why engage them further? If she isn't talking right or acting right i'm not gonna tell them "you shouldn't think that way, you shouldn't act that way" we're free. But my attention may be spent elsewhere. If i see she's still trying to convince me after i dismissed her, i already know i got her as long as i stick to my principles. But i won't mess with them until they either bring some great points that make me change my mind for real (teach me something) OR until they submit. anything else is not worth the headache. Dudes need to realize getting mad at them is pointless because we don't have to do anything. I just continue on my path and she continues on hers

Let them choose. if they don't choose you, let them be.

 

[kevm3]

Here's another point to keep in mind. Don't let feminism and 'modern society' affect your moves. You were blessed by God to be a man, so be a man. Women were blessed to be women, so they need to be females. Ain't no such thing as 50-50. As a man, you are in charge. If she can't move out the way, she has to move on. In fact, it's 100-0. Ain't no such thing as percentages. As a man, you are running it, and if the woman you are dealing with can't accept it, then she can't accept your leadership. I'm tired of all this watered down and diluted manhood. All of this cutting deals, explaining and arguing doesn't get you nowhere but out of time. Keep it 100.

 

[MikelArteta]

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[twan83]

if your a simp in real life then in this world this generation u gotta stop or u gonna end up getting ur feelings hurt all the damn time. not gonna say change who you are but adjust your ways. nothing wrong being nice too a female imo but do it at the right time with the right woman.

if she aint giving you anything back don't waste your time with her. if she meeting you half ways and much more and you wanna do something real nice for her go for it nothing wrong with that and that aint simping its you treating a female nice who treats you the same way back and thats a great thing too have

a good woman will appreciate who you truly are and not give u so much hell and disrespect you.

 

[twan83]

when a females u too ask me u should buy me flowers

i hit them with this face or and say u would of gotten flowers if you listened and stop tripping you wouldn't have too ask me that cuz i would of already got u flowers long time ago

her face
my response: ya reality hurts doesn't it


granted these females weren't my girlfriends just someone getting too know and it may sound mean but look at it this way
y would i do nice things for somebody who don't do shyt for me and treat me right fukk outta here with that


i always tell me I'm a chilled nice guy but an a$$hole when need too be and if I'm an a$$hole too you means u aint doing right by me so i gives no fukks as harsh as that sounds it is what it is

 

[twan83]

this is my opinion

if you with a female that always wants too go out then u should throw her ass too the bushes. y she need too go out all the damn time when she with you.

i got a girls night out every so often or a party a friend is having but several times a month fukk outta here with that. I'm as confident as they come but u going out all the damn time and looking real nice should be for me too blow your damn back out at home not for you too go get some damn attention with a high possibility of u doing shyt you aint suppose too be doing

r.kelly said it best don't bring your girl too club cuz she gonna go home with me tonite

 

[CrossBones]

Aight brehs here I go

I'm 20. Never been with anyone, relationship or sexually. I've grown outta being super shy but I'm not great at initiating conversations and I'm a dude of few words anyway till I been around someone enough.

Most numbers I've gotten been thru class, mutual friends, basically multiple interactions till I say fukk it try it. I've liked 2 girls in high school on a serious note but shyt ain't go thru for different reasons. I ain't been trying my luck since cause I haven't had the income to go out.

Now I got my first job and been thinking about trying to play the field a little but between school, work, and recording music I don't think I'll have time/energy to be dealing with 3-4 chicks at once. I've thought of scooping just one decent chick I like to cuff for some experience and let it rock till its time up, but my job is a revolving schedule (weekend-heavy though, movie theater) and I don't wanna worry about/find out she seeing other nikkas cause we can't chill every time she wants...

Advice brehs?

dont cuff anyone, especially not to "just do it." dont do it just for experience, or whatever. its not something you take that lightly. you have to know the other person and be real about it yourself. when youre comfortable with yourself and what you want, shes at the same place in her mentality, and you two enjoy spending time together and learning about each other, then you can build something with her. that is a real relationship.

second of all, since you want to kick it with different girls and not be their man, you have to make it clear with who you talk to that you just wanna chill and enjoy being single. she will know what that means. she might not be down, in that case no big deal you move on. then if shes with it, get with her and you make your moves. theres no disparity in your words of actions, then no one is misled, and you did your job of being real with her. dont take many of these girls seriously with whatever they say, and never be desperate or shy with them. move on their actions. they come and they will go be cause it sounds like youre not trying to really spend a lot of time with em and build anything. so nothing is really going to keep them around for too long, know that and respect it.

so make sure she understands that youre getting at her for jump off status and will move on if shes not with the program. no ones hurt, no ones lied to. so thats what you should be doing if you want to start to get with all these modern girls out there.

 

[Mr210]

this is my opinion

if you with a female that always wants too go out then u should throw her ass too the bushes. y she need too go out all the damn time when she with you.

i got a girls night out every so often or a party a friend is having but several times a month fukk outta here with that. I'm as confident as they come but u going out all the damn time and looking real nice should be for me too blow your damn back out at home not for you too go get some damn attention with a high possibility of u doing shyt you aint suppose too be doing

r.kelly said it best don't bring your girl too club cuz she gonna go home with me tonite

I feel you, so far my girl has had a nice balance since we have been together, she has gone for drinks with her girls or out to eat, but other than that, nothing to crazy

 

[kevm3]

here is an example of why you don't simp and buy these women things
http://www.thecoli.com/threads/how-shall-i-tell-him-the-truth.159967/

 

[CrossBones]

Also fellas we need to pay attention to what these women watch on tv.Some may say "C.Holla you thinking too hard" say what you want but these reality shows are also destroying women.TV&Media can influence.Im sure most of us grew up in households where we couldnt watch certain things and it was for a reason!As a child we were way more liable to repeat what we hear and imitate what we do.As men we have a choice.However these women eyes light up when you mention "Real Housewives" "Love&HipHop" and SOME are very influenced by these shows.If your woman is watching alot of reality shows like us men watch Sportscenter its a problem.

its really bad whats put out there. part of it is that the situations, personalities, and behaviors portayed in these shows are somewhat real, and that adds to the overall attraction. now while there are people who are just as foul as what we see on the shows out there, not all of the actors are necessarily as scandalous as they are shown. but, the thing about it is the shows do represent an undercurrence going on in society today. the family unit in general, relationships, and the lack of responsibility from both sides have fallen off hard . its not what it was before, and it feels like that attitude of being a selfish ass is getting even more purvasive

people like to say that entertainment doesnt effect them, which can be true to an extent, but every action has a thought behind it. and if your thoughts are being cluttered with immature attitudes, sick entertainment, and unhealthy words, youre feeding your brain too much junk food.


people will say that music and the media does not control people ... but what it can do is influence. and those without any healthy influences, will more than likely just latch onto something that is constantly being shown to them. theres a danger in having too much of anything.

seriously, anyone who doubts the power of music can look at the devil worshippers that popped out during the 60s and 70s rock n roll era. people started abandoning their local churches and legitimately began worshipping the devil. later, there people all over the globe started to wear colors in the 90s to bang, yet these gangs they were representing had no origins or relevance to their area. all of a sudden everyone thought itd be cool to wear colors and bang for crip, or blood. we even had little white kids from little rock arkansas start gangbanging for real




its crazy, but the more time someone spends actively listening to or following any type of media/form of entertainment, the closer their thoughts might start to resemble it. women have been acting out and being more loud these days, even repeating the stupid phrases and attitudes from these miserable reality stars. the problem is when these shows give out a lot of drama and ratchedness, many women find it alluring and start to imitate it.



Im not saying that watching the show is going to corrupt you just because, dont get me wrong, but it gets dangerous when we see folks let entertainment become somewhat of a guide in their life. more people need to actively watch what theyre putting into their ears and brains all of the time, and instead see what else they could be doing with their energy. at the least, I would say minimize the foulness and dont treat it as a reflection of your life. people can only make changes for themselves when they realize what they want and how to get it, but it has to be a decision reached without a lot of outside influences. as for someone who focuses a lot on reality shows, I feel like it is a definite warning sign to look out for. peace

 

[Rocket Scientist]

its really bad whats put out there. part of it is that the situations, personalities, and behaviors portayed in these shows are somewhat real, and that adds to the overall attraction. now while there are people who are just as foul as what we see on the shows out there, not all of the actors are necessarily as scandalous as they are shown. but, the thing about it is the shows do represent an undercurrence going on in society today. the family unit in general, relationships, and the lack of responsibility from both sides have fallen off hard . its not what it was before, and it feels like that attitude of being a selfish ass is getting even more purvasive

people like to say that entertainment doesnt effect them, which can be true to an extent, but every action has a thought behind it. and if your thoughts are being cluttered with immature attitudes, sick entertainment, and unhealthy words, youre feeding your brain too much junk food.


people will say that music and the media does not control people ... but what it can do is influence. and those without any healthy influences, will more than likely just latch onto something that is constantly being shown to them. theres a danger in having too much of anything.

seriously, anyone who doubts the power of music can look at the devil worshippers that popped out during the 60s and 70s rock n roll era. people started abandoning their local churches and legitimately began worshipping the devil. later, there people all over the globe started to wear colors in the 90s to bang, yet these gangs they were representing had no origins or relevance to their area. all of a sudden everyone thought itd be cool to wear colors and bang for crip, or blood. we even had little white kids from little rock arkansas start gangbanging for real




its crazy, but the more time someone spends actively listening to or following any type of media/form of entertainment, the closer their thoughts might start to resemble it. women have been acting out and being more loud these days, even repeating the stupid phrases and attitudes from these miserable reality stars. the problem is when these shows give out a lot of drama and ratchedness, many women find it alluring and start to imitate it.



Im not saying that watching the show is going to corrupt you just because, dont get me wrong, but it gets dangerous when we see folks let entertainment become somewhat of a guide in their life. more people need to actively watch what theyre putting into their ears and brains all of the time, and instead see what else they could be doing with their energy. at the least, I would say minimize the foulness and dont treat it as a reflection of your life. people can only make changes for themselves when they realize what they want and how to get it, but it has to be a decision reached without a lot of outside influences. as for someone who focuses a lot on reality shows, I feel like it is a definite warning sign to look out for. peace

at the knowledge you have dropped You broke down society to a T.

 

[twan83]

I feel you, so far my girl has had a nice balance since we have been together, she has gone for drinks with her girls or out to eat, but other than that, nothing to crazy

then ur straight cuz trust coming from the guy who would meet females in clubs picking up girls that are married or in relationships ( i didn't know if they were till the last minute or after sex ) nor do i mess with any female in a relationship knowingly its crazy out there

ex: met this one female at club smashed after doing it and leaving her at hotel she dropped this ya u can please me better than my husband and I'm like wtf so thats y u paid for the hotel

then again should of known better cuz it was a hotel and not her place figured she didn't want me too know where she live it cuz i use too do the same shyt cuz if they crazy and know where u live it won't end well

 

[kevm3]

its really bad whats put out there. part of it is that the situations, personalities, and behaviors portayed in these shows are somewhat real, and that adds to the overall attraction. now while there are people who are just as foul as what we see on the shows out there, not all of the actors are necessarily as scandalous as they are shown. but, the thing about it is the shows do represent an undercurrence going on in society today. the family unit in general, relationships, and the lack of responsibility from both sides have fallen off hard . its not what it was before, and it feels like that attitude of being a selfish ass is getting even more purvasive

people like to say that entertainment doesnt effect them, which can be true to an extent, but every action has a thought behind it. and if your thoughts are being cluttered with immature attitudes, sick entertainment, and unhealthy words, youre feeding your brain too much junk food.


people will say that music and the media does not control people ... but what it can do is influence. and those without any healthy influences, will more than likely just latch onto something that is constantly being shown to them. theres a danger in having too much of anything.

seriously, anyone who doubts the power of music can look at the devil worshippers that popped out during the 60s and 70s rock n roll era. people started abandoning their local churches and legitimately began worshipping the devil. later, there people all over the globe started to wear colors in the 90s to bang, yet these gangs they were representing had no origins or relevance to their area. all of a sudden everyone thought itd be cool to wear colors and bang for crip, or blood. we even had little white kids from little rock arkansas start gangbanging for real




its crazy, but the more time someone spends actively listening to or following any type of media/form of entertainment, the closer their thoughts might start to resemble it. women have been acting out and being more loud these days, even repeating the stupid phrases and attitudes from these miserable reality stars. the problem is when these shows give out a lot of drama and ratchedness, many women find it alluring and start to imitate it.



Im not saying that watching the show is going to corrupt you just because, dont get me wrong, but it gets dangerous when we see folks let entertainment become somewhat of a guide in their life. more people need to actively watch what theyre putting into their ears and brains all of the time, and instead see what else they could be doing with their energy. at the least, I would say minimize the foulness and dont treat it as a reflection of your life. people can only make changes for themselves when they realize what they want and how to get it, but it has to be a decision reached without a lot of outside influences. as for someone who focuses a lot on reality shows, I feel like it is a definite warning sign to look out for. peace

People saying that television doesn't affect people are deluding themselves. They call television shows 'programs' and say back to your regularly scheduled programming for a reason. When you program a computer, you give it instructions. It's the same thing with these shows. People who watch these trash shows slowly, but surely start to adopt the habits they see. When people were brainwashed, they were forced to watch propaganda films over and over until their mentality changed. The only difference now is that people WILLINGLY watch this propaganda and have tricked themselves to believe that it doesn't have an affect on them.

Here is a verse from Mathew 6:22
The eye is the lamp of the body. So if your eye is sound, your entire body will be full of light.

In other words, depending on what you look at, you will fill your soul with light or darkness. If you're watching screwed up things over and over, eventually it will seep into your mind. Same with righteous things. That's one of the reasons I hardly watch television. So many trashy shows that brainwash.