Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Rusty Dusty]

fukk it i'm done with women

i'm not gonna keep chasing women, if they want me, they'll have to come to me. I'm not hitting on any women from now on. I'm just gonna focus on myself.

I don't know why, but I sensed a lot of frustration in this post. Perhaps you just need to pay attention to the signs better. Any situation with a woman is a little give and take. You just have to know when to stop giving because then that becomes draining.

 

[The Frozen One]

I don't know why, but I sensed a lot of frustration in this post. Perhaps you just need to pay attention to the signs better. Any situation with a woman is a little give and take. You just have to know when to stop giving because then that becomes draining.

nah not frustrated...just can't handle the chasing game right now. Not in the right space of mind for that.

 

[Kartel13]

Why do women think that dialing it back after giving up the puss so quickly is going to make things any better? I always wondered that. If you gave into your animalistic instincts, then embrace it. Dialing it back only adds complications. Is it a lack of confidence on their part? Or do they fantasy this story book begining? shyt's

 

[RealAssanova]

We gotta understand the game will always be in our favour. Lemme tell you why.

• Men don't really start to peak till their 30's. Meaning, if we in decent/muscular/somewhat fit shape and have da rest of our shyt together, we can be eating well into our 40's. The same cannot be said for women. They have a limited shelf life and most last till about their late 20's early 30's.
• We tend to age better (depending on ofcourse factors such as diet, exercise, little to no-smoking, etc.)
• The ratio of women to men is higher then men to women and this ratio will continue to grow

So nikkaz, taking into account all these facts, the dating game should be simple. THERE IS NO GREY AREA. You get a girls number, cool. Call her up and tell her that ya'll 2 should kick it (with a place and time already in mind). She will either be with it or she won't. If she is, go with it and if she ain't, like @kevm3 @DaRealness @His_Excellence_Reincar @Turbulent and all the other breh's in here said, she ain't worthy of you. Don't second guess, don't overanalyze, don't listen to others...DON'T DO NONE OF THAT SHYT. This is really important because you are able to weed out which hoes are genuinely into you and which ones wanna milk you for attention and an ego boost. The latter of which will decline almost all your invites. As for them ones into you, chill with them. Me, 1st date, i gotta get sexual with her. If we don't fukk, cool. But 1st date i'm tryna make out, touch up on her and shyt...all progressively though. As in, laugh and shyt durin da date, get her comfortable, throw in couple touches and sensual words, then get physical towards da end (or middle if its obvious) cuz u obviously can't get all hot on a cold chick. Point is, by doing this, i know 2nd date i'm almost guaranteed to fukk. In any case, i gotta make my intentions known that i want her to be my woman and not anything else.

So nikkaz, stop over analyzing and be free. The game is in our favour. A girl wants to play games, let her. Don't call her out. Don't get mad. You didn't put a gun to her head and force her to right? She is doing it outta her own free will so let her. Let her also find another man in the process too cuz she is straight bushes. Go to the gym, buy nice fitted clothes, make money, kick it wit your nikkaz, take care of your family and self and don't worry bout these hoes. Go get them, but be a man of principle and boundaries. There is a woman out there in this world for almost every dude on this planet that is worthy of you and all that you bring. A woman that wants to be the mother of your kids and treat you with respect, dignity and love you like a real woman should. Most importantly, a woman worthy of you calling her your wife.

 

[CrossBones]

It seems as if your whole character can instantly be assassinated due to someone else's bullshyt.

it can, and the thing is before a woman dumps you shes already discusedd it with the clan, her female friends her mom etc., and they are all like yeah go do it girl, hes a loser, you can do so much better etc.


its all followers, why if say a group of 4 close friends one gets married just watch as the rest go in ltr and get married, or if one gets a bf the other ones do.

Or if one breaks up watch as the other ones do so they can start clubbing partying going on vacays etc. again.

women really are of a hive mind. if one has an opinion, then others start to cosign it. women are quick to shyt talk behind each others back and ostrasize another if she isnt liked by the group leader (the prettiest one). when one gets a man, they all try to compete and get a man. some will even flirt with their girlfriends man just to see if he is attracted to her, or cheat with him, and its done all in the name of jealousy and competition. lots of scandalous women even like married men and those men who are locked down, because hes already passed the test of being liked by other women. they know that obviously this man has a woman who saw something in him. the truth is, they like men that other women like. women notice you more when you walk in with a girl. if women are really close, they start becoming one big group think. they even get their periods together if they stay around each other too much, and thats real.. they all start to become eerily alike if they dont watch out

 

[CrossBones]

The more I think about it, I actually think it's a positive thing that women diss these 'nice guys'. There's a vast difference between being a 'nice guy' and a good guy.

Nice guys are sneaky men with a vein of cowardice in them who use their veneer of pleasantness to bait and switch. They come under the veneer of friendship only to try to shift it to something else. It's like somebody coming up to you saying they want to be your friend and acting cool with you, only to try to get you to join Primerica or one of those MLM schemes. If you don't join, they get mad at you because they felt that them being 'nice' to you entitles them to getting a favor from you. The 'nice guy' act disappears real quick when they don't get what they originally came for, which is something they never mentioned in the first place.

When dealing with a woman, stop being scared and stop coming at them like you are a 'friend' and try to parlay that into something more down thel line. These nice guys have the audacity to get mad when they don't get taken up on their bait and switch offer. If you come as a friend, that's where she'll place you.

Something about these 'nice guys' is that they aren't necessarily good. They are manipulative and if they don't get what they want, they get angry. They also like to avoid confrontation, so they will say anything to 'keep the peace'. They are like perennial yes men who will tell you it's ok to jump off a cliff if that's what they think you wanted to hear in order for them to avoid conflict or in order for them to keep it cordial with you so they can get what they want down the line. Sometimes conflict is necessary in order to set things straight, and being pleasant all the time isn't being real.

its funny, but really the only difference between a simp and a trick is that one knows exactly what he wants to buy. the trick is very straight forward about what he wants to purchase, and the simp tries to lie about what hes putting the money up for. its almost like hes trying to buy this womans soul and loyalty while acting like its sweet. the trick is in and out, down and dirty. theyre both about breaking bread for a womans company, but the simp can be dishonest about what his intentions are (although so is the woman in a lot of cases, but thats another story.)

 

[Kartel13]

We gotta understand the game will always be in our favour. Lemme tell you why.

• Men don't really start to peak till their 30's. Meaning, if we in decent/muscular/somewhat fit shape and have da rest of our shyt together, we can be eating well into our 40's. The same cannot be said for women. They have a limited shelf life and most last till about their late 20's early 30's.
• We tend to age better (depending on ofcourse factors such as diet, exercise, little to no-smoking, etc.)
• The ratio of women to men is higher then men to women and this ratio will continue to grow

So nikkaz, taking into account all these facts, the dating game should be simple. THERE IS NO GREY AREA. You get a girls number, cool. Call her up and tell her that ya'll 2 should kick it (with a place and time already in mind). She will either be with it or she won't. If she is, go with it and if she ain't, like @kevm3 @DaRealness @His_Excellence_Reincar @Turbulent and all the other breh's in here said, she ain't worthy of you. Don't second guess, don't overanalyze, don't listen to others...DON'T DO NONE OF THAT SHYT. This is really important because you are able to weed out which hoes are genuinely into you and which ones wanna milk you for attention and an ego boost. The latter of which will decline almost all your invites. As for them ones into you, chill with them. Me, 1st date, i gotta get sexual with her. If we don't fukk, cool. But 1st date i'm tryna make out, touch up on her and shyt...all progressively though. As in, laugh and shyt durin da date, get her comfortable, throw in couple touches and sensual words, then get physical towards da end (or middle if its obvious) cuz u obviously can't get all hot on a cold chick. Point is, by doing this, i know 2nd date i'm almost guaranteed to fukk. In any case, i gotta make my intentions known that i want her to be my woman and not anything else.

So nikkaz, stop over analyzing and be free. The game is in our favour. A girl wants to play games, let her. Don't call her out. Don't get mad. You didn't put a gun to her head and force her to right? She is doing it outta her own free will so let her. Let her also find another man in the process too cuz she is straight bushes. Go to the gym, buy nice fitted clothes, make money, kick it wit your nikkaz, take care of your family and self and don't worry bout these hoes. Go get them, but be a man of principle and boundaries. There is a woman out there in this world for almost every dude on this planet that is worthy of you and all that you bring. A woman that wants to be the mother of your kids and treat you with respect, dignity and love you like a real woman should. Most importantly, a woman worthy of you calling her your wife.

Yep, I agree. There's not grey area in dating. Either she's with you or not. However ya'll meet, she should be looking forward seeing you asap. If she can't, I always expect her to leave the door open for a next time if our schedules conflict. If not, bushes.

 

[kevm3]

We gotta understand the game will always be in our favour. Lemme tell you why.

• Men don't really start to peak till their 30's. Meaning, if we in decent/muscular/somewhat fit shape and have da rest of our shyt together, we can be eating well into our 40's. The same cannot be said for women. They have a limited shelf life and most last till about their late 20's early 30's.
• We tend to age better (depending on ofcourse factors such as diet, exercise, little to no-smoking, etc.)
• The ratio of women to men is higher then men to women and this ratio will continue to grow

So nikkaz, taking into account all these facts, the dating game should be simple. THERE IS NO GREY AREA. You get a girls number, cool. Call her up and tell her that ya'll 2 should kick it (with a place and time already in mind). She will either be with it or she won't. If she is, go with it and if she ain't, like @kevm3 @DaRealness @His_Excellence_Reincar @Turbulent and all the other breh's in here said, she ain't worthy of you. Don't second guess, don't overanalyze, don't listen to others...DON'T DO NONE OF THAT SHYT. This is really important because you are able to weed out which hoes are genuinely into you and which ones wanna milk you for attention and an ego boost. The latter of which will decline almost all your invites. As for them ones into you, chill with them. Me, 1st date, i gotta get sexual with her. If we don't fukk, cool. But 1st date i'm tryna make out, touch up on her and shyt...all progressively though. As in, laugh and shyt durin da date, get her comfortable, throw in couple touches and sensual words, then get physical towards da end (or middle if its obvious) cuz u obviously can't get all hot on a cold chick. Point is, by doing this, i know 2nd date i'm almost guaranteed to fukk. In any case, i gotta make my intentions known that i want her to be my woman and not anything else.

So nikkaz, stop over analyzing and be free. The game is in our favour. A girl wants to play games, let her. Don't call her out. Don't get mad. You didn't put a gun to her head and force her to right? She is doing it outta her own free will so let her. Let her also find another man in the process too cuz she is straight bushes. Go to the gym, buy nice fitted clothes, make money, kick it wit your nikkaz, take care of your family and self and don't worry bout these hoes. Go get them, but be a man of principle and boundaries. There is a woman out there in this world for almost every dude on this planet that is worthy of you and all that you bring. A woman that wants to be the mother of your kids and treat you with respect, dignity and love you like a real woman should. Most importantly, a woman worthy of you calling her your wife.

Exactly. These women really ain't that special to be catered to. That's why I can't get into that PUA stuff. They make these women WAY too important and go as far as to craft a whole different persona in order to 'win' their sex. They've made the women the prize because they feel the woman has something they want so much they are willing to become a different dude for it. You lose your power as a man when you start morphing yourself to become what a woman wants in order to get something from her. "Oh she likes rock and roll dudes? I need to learn about rock and roll so I can impress her."

Something I had to learn over time is that these women really aren't to be chased, but they are to be replaced. What that means is if I got to go out of bounds in order to deal with this woman and put in excessive amounts of effort, then I'm messing up. What I should do is take myself elsewhere where I'll be naturally appreciated more. Bottom line is stop trying to 'win over' these women. You are here to give them an opportunity to deal with you as opposed to trying to win them over. If you have to put in all this effort, then you're the lower value one. If Trey Songz or some RnB star told her to 'come on over', do you think she will put up all this resistance and tell that negro to take her to dinner first or not answer his texts? The reason she is so compliant with him and not as compliant with you is because in her mind, he has a much higher value than you. When you come from the position of a low value man in that you have to 'prove yourself' to her, then you will steadily be chasing and she will play with you all day long.

The key to this thing here is to simply recognize where you are in a situation where a woman looks at you as high and low value and avoid dealing with women that look at you as low value. Sometimes you have to say screw her looks because inside, you have a lot of desire for her, but your mind has to be stronger than that and you have to realize when you are playing a losing game. If you come in the door chasing, you will be chasing all the day long.

Dealing with a woman should be pleasurable, in that you shouldn't always feel on edge. if the broad wants to peel off because of something you said, tell her bye bye. A lot of guys want to instead try to 'salvage' the conversation and give in and be the man she likes or something lame like that. YOU'RE the boss. You're the one doing the hiring. When you go to a company for employment, your boss doesn't dance around on his tippy toes hoping you don't get offended and he doesn't go around catering to your emotions. Trying to play mind reader with some catty woman who has her foot halfway out the door as soon as you meet her is a loser endeavor and you're here to win.

As a man of value, you don't come cheaply and time is among the most precious things you have. Don't waste it on women who can't appreciate it.

 

[kevm3]

In regards to her 'friend' influencing her decision, her friend just did you a favor and exposed a woman that ain't really all about you like that. Just about every girl got some homegirl who they 'can't tell nothing to' because she is dealing with some guy that is supposedly bad for her and they keep telling her but she doesn't listen. So if a woman 'listens to her friend' about you, she wasn't all that much about you. Don't trip, don't get offended, just move on. You can't allow someone not feeling you be the cause of your joy being gone. She was just a shirt that didn't fit.

Now, here's another thing to get out of your head. Stop caring what 'women like' or what women want. Your attitude should be I'm offering who I am and either she likes it and we move how we're supposed to or she doesn't and she can take her butt on.

Here's another secret. The less important you make women in your life, the more important you become in theirs. Look at these high status guys. If they spent all their time chasing women and just ending up being average guys, do you think they'd be able to deal with the caliber of women they deal with? They spent the majority of time in life on things other than women, and they got the women chasing them.

Something I don't want to hear any more of is, "What do women like?" "What do women want?" "What cologne do women like?" What clothes and shoes do women find hot?" That's a lame mentality. These women ain't important enough to be catered to. It's more like is what you're wearing fly to YOU? Is the cologne you're wearing smelling right to YOU? Why are you valuing some woman's opinion higher than yours, especially on yourself? The only way to really have confidence is to value yourself and stop worrying about what all these other people like and want from you and morphing into that. You want to be you full blast, and you will come to realize that there will be those who like who you are and what you're about and there will be those who don't...and the way to win is to deal with those who like you for you. If you want to get something real, you have to put out the real. That's why I go on about that PUA stuff. A lot of these cats go off scripts and techniques, aka making a fake persona... if they catch a woman with that and that woman likes 'him', they'll be in a world of trouble because she liked that fake persona he put on and in order to keep her he has to keep that up. That will get exhausting, and the real 'him' will come out and she'll leave because he turned into another dude.

Stay in your zone. Deal with the women that like you. Stop trying to surround your steak with vegetables to try to sneak that to a vegan but go to someone who loves steaks. That's how you win.

 

[kevm3]

Also, fellas realize this. life is to be enjoyed. If you can't 'win' at a particular game, then don't play it. In other words, if you aren't having fun and enjoying yourself with some particular woman, don't deal with her. Enjoy your life. Friends, family, God, your hobbies and interests... you have so many things to enjoy out of life and be grateful for. Don't lose out on that because you're mad at how some woman is acting.The less you sweat women, the more they will sweat you.

 

[TheArchitect]

Also, fellas realize this. life is to be enjoyed. If you can't 'win' at a particular game, then don't play it. In other words, if you aren't having fun and enjoying yourself with some particular woman, don't deal with her. Enjoy your life. Friends, family, God, your hobbies and interests... you have so many things to enjoy out of life and be grateful for. Don't lose out on that because you're mad at how some woman is acting.The less you sweat women, the more they will sweat you.

Exactly. I find that to be true in all aspects of life. For instance: I don't like how society in the USA works, I can't imagine being here for the rest of my life. So instead of conforming (a.k.a. "playing the game"), I have began taking steps to exit the country for good. Because fukk that, I didn't ask to be here, so why the hell should I suffer on some bullshyt?

Funny you say that about sweating women. When I was really trying to chase, I would mostly come up with nothing. But once I started not really saying much to females, that's when the "he's quiet" "how come he never talks to me" etc.started...Funny...

 

[TheArchitect]

In regards to her 'friend' influencing her decision, her friend just did you a favor and exposed a woman that ain't really all about you like that. Just about every girl got some homegirl who they 'can't tell nothing to' because she is dealing with some guy that is supposedly bad for her and they keep telling her but she doesn't listen. So if a woman 'listens to her friend' about you, she wasn't all that much about you. Don't trip, don't get offended, just move on. You can't allow someone not feeling you be the cause of your joy being gone. She was just a shirt that didn't fit.

Now, here's another thing to get out of your head. Stop caring what 'women like' or what women want. Your attitude should be I'm offering who I am and either she likes it and we move how we're supposed to or she doesn't and she can take her butt on.

Here's another secret. The less important you make women in your life, the more important you become in theirs. Look at these high status guys. If they spent all their time chasing women and just ending up being average guys, do you think they'd be able to deal with the caliber of women they deal with? They spent the majority of time in life on things other than women, and they got the women chasing them.

Something I don't want to hear any more of is, "What do women like?" "What do women want?" "What cologne do women like?" What clothes and shoes do women find hot?" That's a lame mentality. These women ain't important enough to be catered to. It's more like is what you're wearing fly to YOU? Is the cologne you're wearing smelling right to YOU? Why are you valuing some woman's opinion higher than yours, especially on yourself? The only way to really have confidence is to value yourself and stop worrying about what all these other people like and want from you and morphing into that. You want to be you full blast, and you will come to realize that there will be those who like who you are and what you're about and there will be those who don't...and the way to win is to deal with those who like you for you. If you want to get something real, you have to put out the real. That's why I go on about that PUA stuff. A lot of these cats go off scripts and techniques, aka making a fake persona... if they catch a woman with that and that woman likes 'him', they'll be in a world of trouble because she liked that fake persona he put on and in order to keep her he has to keep that up. That will get exhausting, and the real 'him' will come out and she'll leave because he turned into another dude.

Stay in your zone. Deal with the women that like you. Stop trying to surround your steak with vegetables to try to sneak that to a vegan but go to someone who loves steaks. That's how you win.

Preach. I was guilty of all that. I SUB-CONSCIOUSLY still am, but that's something I've been working at on some higher conscious-repair my inner self shyt. I was one of those guys looking and hoping to find that special lady and shyt, only to be sorely disappointed time after time.

 

[kevm3]

Another thing. Stop watching tv or heavily limit the amount you watch and be very careful about listening to too much RnB where dudes are begging and crying. That stuff gets into your mentality. Jesus said the eyes are the lamp of the body. What you look at will slowly impress itself onto your mind. When you're watching your 'programming' on television, they want to instill a certain mindset into you, and these days, it's that you are inferior to a woman and that you are a goofball to be abused and used up by women. RnB artists sell their music primarily to women, so instead of kicking the real, they tell women what they want to hear and sit around begging and whining to them. You listen to that and you will start getting the notion that acting like that will work... which it won't. You will get the notion that treating women like your together forever buddies will work.. It won't. Television is pure fantasy, often concocted from the minds of other males. Television depicts how a man would LIKE for a woman to be, and not reality. Acting like a nervous, goofy dude will not end up with the ladies loving you like in television... but you keep watching tv and you will start to get a lot of wrong notions because television replicates reality to an extent, so your mind starts to think that if you undertake x action like on television, you will also get x reward like on tv. Not so.

Sitting around being soft, telling women your problems and expecting them to act like your homies with reciprocated loyalty and all of that is a no no. Women don't operate based on what you do for them. It's all about your perceived value and how they feel when they are around you. You don't have to take them out to these expensive dinners or do all of that. We grew up in a generation where so many people are getting brainwashed, so many of us missed out on the proper way to interact with females. Like I said before, do NOT treat them like your buddies and get to chatting with them all night and being overly friendly. "Hanging out" with a woman all night is the wrong way to go. Hoping a woman shares 'common interests' with you and appreciates you for what you are truly into is fantasy. What women really appreciate is your vibe. That's why women do more for men they know little to nothing about compared to the guy that does everything for them. When you are nonthirsty and mysterious, you give off a vibe they like much more than when you are always there and always does what she wants. If a woman doesn't like your vibe or gets tired of it, that's when she gets ghost or all these problems magically start popping up.

 

[MikelArteta]

@RealAssanova
that is the key, every relationship, date, etc. you have that doesn't work out take it as a blessing.

Its like a job when your young and working at retail or mcdonalds its not the goal for your life you know you wont be there for yeras and years, but when your young like 18,19 and dating a girl your caught up in the moment thinking its going to be the girl forever when odds are it wont, its just a stepping stone, as you get older you date people more compatible like as when yu get older you get better jobs that use your skillset. Just like jobs nowadays its rare for people to be in one relationship for the rest of the life but sometimes you are lucky and youll be working at that place for ever and yu may have ups and downs in that job but your thankfl to have it same as for relationships.

So every relationship/date etc. women you been with that failed just look at it like your mcdonalds, your home depot, your mailroom job its all there to build experience

you know how some people stay in a job they hate and then they fired they feel like crap then they get a new job and there like in the end i found a job that paid more, better benefits better work environment and that i love going to

its the same way you shuld view a relationship when say you get dumped, you wer comfortable with it and to scared to break up and for change but now that they did it it hurts because your not getting paid benefits etc. but when you get that new job youll be like

 

[MikelArteta]

@RealAssanova
that is the key, every relationship, date, etc. you have that doesn't work out take it as a blessing.

Its like a job when your young and working at retail or mcdonalds its not the goal for your life you know you wont be there for yeras and years, but when your young like 18,19 and dating a girl your caught up in the moment thinking its going to be the girl forever when odds are it wont, its just a stepping stone, as you get older you date people more compatible like as when yu get older you get better jobs that use your skillset. Just like jobs nowadays its rare for people to be in one relationship for the rest of the life but sometimes you are lucky and youll be working at that place for ever and yu may have ups and downs in that job but your thankfl to have it same as for relationships.

So every relationship/date etc. women you been with that failed just look at it like your mcdonalds, your home depot, your mailroom job its all there to build experience

you know how some people stay in a job they hate and then they fired they feel like crap then they get a new job and there like in the end i found a job that paid more, better benefits better work environment and that i love going to

its the same way you shuld view a relationship when say you get dumped, you wer comfortable with it and to scared to break up and for change but now that they did it it hurts because your not getting paid benefits etc. but when you get that new job youll be like