Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Brandeezy]

Don't know where to start. I have no prospects or nothing. shyt is depressing

 

[Shameonyou]

Don't know where to start. I have no prospects or nothing. shyt is depressing

dont get depressed bruh...just focus on you and start campaigning when you get your shyt right

 

[Panther]

She musta just got dumped and since she saw you as 'simping' back in the day, here she comes to pop up asking for favors and a free dinner. Honestly, I'd even be careful about doing business with her. You know how when a woman gets turned down and gets emotional, she rarely keeps things 'just business'. Either she might keep on pressing to get into your lif or she could go sour and start doing underhanded things.

Breh i would bet my life savings this is whats going on, she used to always hit me when she got out of a relationship and i would 'carry' her to her next nikka like a fukking lifeboat. But yea its strickly business from my end, i left her and my cape in 2013

fukk her. If it ain't business, you don't wanna hear shyt else. She's your ex for a reason. This whole business thing was probably just some ruse to get back into your life and play games with your head, anyway. I'm glad you told her step. Notice how she said YOU should take her to dinner. Bwoy, dem gal deh nuh easy, rudebwoy.

I meant it when I said 2014 is the #hardonhoes year.

Yea i def peeped that out, but like my boys and i say... Aint shyt sweet round here

And i aint feeding these hoes nothing right now, im focused on this A+ cert and finding a new gig

 

[Mr210]

It sounds like you need to leave both women alone and sort your issues out and figure out what it is you really want, to be honest. Having constant fights at the beginning of any relationship is not a good sign at all and the mere fact you claim in another post you can't forgive this girl for a big lie she told - the anger is festering within you and it's something you can't let go of - is an indicator that you need to put this one out of it's misery. I don't know what the big lie was, but that's NOT how you want to start things off.

As for the woman at work, forget it. Different department means nothing, she still works in your building and personally I don't like being in a position where my colleagues know and talk about my business like that. That's where I go in order to pay my bills, not to get caught up in no he said, she said bullshyt. When things go wrong, it puts everything at risk and times are too hard right now. There's millions of women outside your job. What you've seen at work is just her workplace persona, you don't know her from the fruit Adam and Eve ate, so therefore you don't know what she's really like. Single mother, too? LOL no guesses as to what I'd say about that.

Ultimately, this boils down to you. You need to work on your issues and stop worrying about being a people pleaser. The one thing life has taught me is that everybody looks out for themselves and ultimately, they will do what they have to do for them whether your feelings get hurt in the process or not. Likewise, I've adopted the same mentality. fukk who I "let down", I'm doing me. Simple as that. Disappointment is a part of life. You feel a lot better within yourself when you stop worrying about what other people think which in the grand scheme of things means nothing anyway.

I respect everyone's opinion but im not going to totally dismiss a woman because she had a child with her husband and the marriage failed, I dont however; mess with chicks who just get knocked up by some random dude. You are right I dont know her personality outside of work, but there are people that know her and have known me for years that vouch for her and they are some of the few people in this world that i trust, so I will take their word that she is the real deal when it comes to her personality. I agree I normally wouldnt mess with a chick that works at the same location, and in the 7 years ive worked there Ive never met a woman that I would be willing to change that for but I would for her.

I agree I do need to change the people pleaser in me, its not really that i care of people like or dont like me, but im hard on myself, and when I know people believe in me I dont like letting them down. I remember a few years back I was going for this promotion and I didnt get it I felt like I let my role models and my inner circle down, so I promised them that for the next year I would grind and get that promotion and the following year I did get it

I would just sit back and just really think about things

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

No capes in 2014. I like it.

 

[Atlrocafella]

These babymama's be mad as shyt when I don't give them any time of my day.

 

[MikelArteta]

one thing ive noticed the past 3 relationships I have, all those chicks are now married. And married the dude they got with after me, i was basically the one to "fix them", give them "self esteem", show them how a guy should treat their demonic toxic selves and then someone else got the finished product.

DON'T BE THAT GUY, be the guy with the finished product.

Don't be the stunt man who takes all the bumps, but doesn't get the glory

 

[The Frozen One]

one thing ive noticed the past 3 relationships I have, all those chicks are now married. And married the dude they got with after me, i was basically the one to "fix them", give them "self esteem", show them how a guy should treat their demonic toxic selves and then someone else got the finished product.

DON'T BE THAT GUY, be the guy with the finished product.

Don't be the stunt man who takes all the bumps, but doesn't get the glory

i feel you on this one Reincar.

Why should we save some hoe that fukked up her life by making dumb decisions? I know when i was young, i would go for any women that showed interested, but after my recent experience, i've had it with fukked up bytches. I'm not gonna make room for anyone that don't have what i want in a women. If it means i won't get laid all of 2014, that's fine by me. I'm gonna stick to my standards. I'm not gonna save no damn hoe. The girl should be saving me instead.

 

[DaRealness]

I respect everyone's opinion but im not going to totally dismiss a woman because she had a child with her husband and the marriage failed, I dont however; mess with chicks who just get knocked up by some random dude. You are right I dont know her personality outside of work, but there are people that know her and have known me for years that vouch for her and they are some of the few people in this world that i trust, so I will take their word that she is the real deal when it comes to her personality. I agree I normally wouldnt mess with a chick that works at the same location, and in the 7 years ive worked there Ive never met a woman that I would be willing to change that for but I would for her.

lol, oh well what can I say. It's your life. Do you.

 

[The Frozen One]

I respect everyone's opinion but im not going to totally dismiss a woman because she had a child with her husband and the marriage failed, I dont however; mess with chicks who just get knocked up by some random dude. You are right I dont know her personality outside of work, but there are people that know her and have known me for years that vouch for her and they are some of the few people in this world that i trust, so I will take their word that she is the real deal when it comes to her personality. I agree I normally wouldnt mess with a chick that works at the same location, and in the 7 years ive worked there Ive never met a woman that I would be willing to change that for but I would for her.

I agree I do need to change the people pleaser in me, its not really that i care of people like or dont like me, but im hard on myself, and when I know people believe in me I dont like letting them down. I remember a few years back I was going for this promotion and I didnt get it I felt like I let my role models and my inner circle down, so I promised them that for the next year I would grind and get that promotion and the following year I did get it

I would just sit back and just really think about things

You gotta think of it this way. Ok you like the girl. She's hot, has her shyt together. She doesn't have any issues with the baby daddy. She knows how to cook, clean, take care of her kid(s), and knows how to be a great housewife. She is also independent, knows what she wants, and obviously her friends tells you she's loyal etc etc.

But can you handle the responsibility of being a father to the kid(s)? Will you be ok with the fact that she still talks to the dad, and during events like bday, family stuff, he will be there. He will be the first one to cut the kid(s) cake, be the first one to take a bite. Be the first one on the pic etc etc.. During these events, you'll be an afterthought, standing around in a corner mumbling to yourself "what the fukk am i doing here, i could be with a hotter girl right now"

Also, have you ever had to take care of a kid on your own? What will happen if the kid tells you "you're not my daddy, i can do what you want". You have to be extra careful as you can't discipline them. Finally, the girl will ALWAYS have the kid as her first priority. She'll tell you what decisions she will make, but will not care how you feel about them.

You're probably young (younger than 30 i'm assuming) and haven't had much experience with kids. These are some of the things you would have to consider. You're essentially saving this girl from her past mistakes. And you'll be taking extra responsibility on top of that. Why put yourself through all this when there are younger women out there who are just as good but with no kids? At the end of the day, you'll day what you want, no body will stop you. But make sure you make the right decision for yourself, not for the girl or for the kid.

Btw, what kind of work do you do?

 

[DaRealness]

Saving and upgrading chicks is the worse thing a man could ever do in this day and age. When you put in a new sound system, engine, and tires for your car it's for your benefit. It's not gonna suddenly feel itself because it has new parts and then drive itself like the movie Christine and go to another owner lol, it's yours for life.

Women will suddenly feel like they can do bad all by themselves and go to the next dude leaving you behind. They have no loyalty. If they're not "upgraded" or are of good standard when you already meet them, then forget it. They should work on their issues before they even consider being in a relationship.

 

[Mr210]

You gotta think of it this way. Ok you like the girl. She's hot, has her shyt together. She doesn't have any issues with the baby daddy. She knows how to cook, clean, take care of her kid(s), and knows how to be a great housewife. She is also independent, knows what she wants, and obviously her friends tells you she's loyal etc etc.

But can you handle the responsibility of being a father to the kid(s)? Will you be ok with the fact that she still talks to the dad, and during events like bday, family stuff, he will be there. He will be the first one to cut the kid(s) cake, be the first one to take a bite. Be the first one on the pic etc etc.. During these events, you'll be an afterthought, standing around in a corner mumbling to yourself "what the fukk am i doing here, i could be with a hotter girl right now"

Also, have you ever had to take care of a kid on your own? What will happen if the kid tells you "you're not my daddy, i can do what you want". You have to be extra careful as you can't discipline them. Finally, the girl will ALWAYS have the kid as her first priority. She'll tell you what decisions she will make, but will not care how you feel about them.

You're probably young (younger than 30 i'm assuming) and haven't had much experience with kids. These are some of the things you would have to consider. You're essentially saving this girl from her past mistakes. And you'll be taking extra responsibility on top of that. Why put yourself through all this when there are younger women out there who are just as good but with no kids? At the end of the day, you'll day what you want, no body will stop you. But make sure you make the right decision for yourself, not for the girl or for the kid.

Btw, what kind of work do you do?

past mistakes?

, she got married had a kid with her husband and they got a divorce. Im not going to totally dismiss a woman because of that, secondly I am 30, thirdly her kid is 12, so its not like im having to deal with a 4 yr old. Like I said thanks for your opinion, I havent made any decision as of now, but of course I have weighed everything.

You are right there are plenty of women that are out there with no kids, and trust me ive dated plenty, shyt was miserable for 1 reason or another. I would never date a woman who had a young kid or a kid with some random dude, but if the child is a product of a marriage, im not going to fault the woman. Yeah ideally I would rather date a woman with no kids, but guess what, the world in itself is not ideal and there is no perfect woman. Im 30 so finding women my age w/o atleast 1 kid is not impossible but def. more difficult. shyt yeah act like Im going to marry this chick tomorrow, like i stated havent made any decision, but im def. open to atleast dating her and seeing where things go.

also like i stated i know people who know her very well and these people also know me, i trust these people, 2 of whom are in my small inner circle and they have given me primarily positive feedback. There only hesitation is because we work at the same location, but like i stated they have said that she is worth the risk. Trust nothing is 100% in the world, so ive yet to see anything or hear anything that is just straight up crazy. Could something come down the road, of course but that is for any chick.

thanks for your opinion, i guess its just hard to get feedback w/o giving you the entire story which is difficult w. writing a damn essay

thanks again

 

[MikelArteta]

i feel you on this one Reincar.

Why should we save some hoe that fukked up her life by making dumb decisions? I know when i was young, i would go for any women that showed interested, but after my recent experience, i've had it with fukked up bytches. I'm not gonna make room for anyone that don't have what i want in a women. If it means i won't get laid all of 2014, that's fine by me. I'm gonna stick to my standards. I'm not gonna save no damn hoe. The girl should be saving me instead.

im the same, i want the finished product, im done being that guy who has to have her at her worst and put in time and effort then when shes finally build up some other dude gets the finished product

nah

 

[Mr210]

lol, oh well what can I say. It's your life. Do you.

of course i will, just hearing other thoughts I normally dont come on here asking for advice its just its so weird whats being going on this past month, never experienced something similar. I was expecting anyone to give me the go head because I know how the coli feels about a woman with a kid, but he is older and it was a product of a marriage, so thats not as big of an issue to me, but i understand others will see differently, no biggie

 

[MikelArteta]

Saving and upgrading chicks is the worse thing a man could ever do in this day and age. When you put in a new sound system, engine, and tires for your car it's for your benefit. It's not gonna suddenly feel itself because it has new parts and then drive itself like the movie Christine and go to another owner lol, it's yours for life.

Women will suddenly feel like they can do bad all by themselves and go to the next dude leaving you behind. They have no loyalty. If they're not "upgraded" or are of good standard when you already meet them, then forget it. They should work on their issues before they even consider being in a relationship.

man, exactly.

Im thinking of this girl i dated who is now married, i had to deal with her when she had to go to therapy, when she was struggling in life, struggling in school, had low self esteem, when she was cutting herself.

those days are done.