Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Frozen One]

past mistakes?

, she got married had a kid with her husband and they got a divorce. Im not going to totally dismiss a woman because of that, secondly I am 30, thirdly her kid is 12, so its not like im having to deal with a 4 yr old. Like I said thanks for your opinion, I havent made any decision as of now, but of course I have weighed everything.

You are right there are plenty of women that are out there with no kids, and trust me ive dated plenty, shyt was miserable for 1 reason or another. I would never date a woman who had a young kid or a kid with some random dude, but if the child is a product of a marriage, im not going to fault the woman. Yeah ideally I would rather date a woman with no kids, but guess what, the world in itself is not ideal and there is no perfect woman. Im 30 so finding women my age w/o atleast 1 kid is not impossible but def. more difficult. shyt yeah act like Im going to marry this chick tomorrow, like i stated havent made any decision, but im def. open to atleast dating her and seeing where things go.

also like i stated i know people who know her very well and these people also know me, i trust these people, 2 of whom are in my small inner circle and they have given me primarily positive feedback. There only hesitation is because we work at the same location, but like i stated they have said that she is worth the risk. Trust nothing is 100% in the world, so ive yet to see anything or hear anything that is just straight up crazy. Could something come down the road, of course but that is for any chick.

thanks for your opinion, i guess its just hard to get feedback w/o giving you the entire story which is difficult w. writing a damn essay

thanks again

if she's your age, then she had the kid when she was 18. If having a kid at age 18 is not a mistake, then i have no idea what you consider a mistake is. Most likely what happened was she got knocked up, then had to marry because of it.

But like everyone else said, do you. You're gonna do it, despite sound advice you're getting from people who've been in the same situation. I was in a serious relationship with a girl that had 2 kids. My posts are well documented here. She was everything i wanted in a girl, but i couldn't get the idea that i've been getting someone else's damaged goods out of my head. Plus those issues i mentioned are issues i had to go through. It's not nice nor was it easy. plus i always had to answer to her family members why am i dating her when she has 2 kids, and i have none.

But anyways, good luck.

 

[Mr210]

if she's your age, then she had the kid when she was 18. If having a kid at age 18 is not a mistake, then i have no idea what you consider a mistake is. Most likely what happened was she got knocked up, then had to marry because of it.

But like everyone else said, do you. You're gonna do it, despite sound advice you're getting from people who've been in the same situation. I was in a serious relationship with a girl that had 2 kids. My posts are well documented here. She was everything i wanted in a girl, but i couldn't get the idea that i've been getting someone else's damaged goods out of my head. Plus those issues i mentioned are issues i had to go through. It's not nice nor was it easy. plus i always had to answer to her family members why am i dating her when she has 2 kids, and i have none.

But anyways, good luck.

she is older than me, ha ha at 2 kids, thanks take care, also she was married for 3 years before she had a kid, but i feel you man, thanks for your advice

 

[DaRealness]

 

[The Frozen One]

one thing i've learned in the past month is that being aggressive with women gets you nowhere. I've realized why i got flakes and no responses from women. Basically i tried to get them to hang out too quickly when they don't know me that well.

Women love texting, it's the easiest way to catch their attention. I now have a rule, ask once and that's it. If the girl can't do it, then simply say it's cool and mind your business. If she digs you enough, she'll be the one initiating and making plans.

Basically, build rapport, have confidence and the right one will come. Having #s on your phone doesn't mean shyt.

 

[T-K-G]

one thing i've learned in the past month is that being aggressive with women gets you nowhere. I've realized why i got flakes and no responses from women. Basically i tried to get them to hang out too quickly when they don't know me that well.

Women love texting, it's the easiest way to catch their attention. I now have a rule, ask once and that's it. If the girl can't do it, then simply say it's cool and mind your business. If she digs you enough, she'll be the one initiating and making plans.

Basically, build rapport, have confidence and the right one will come. Having #s on your phone doesn't mean shyt.

im actually somewhat curious in what you were doing wrong, strictly for entertainment purposes, sounds like you were tryin some pick-up type shyt

i just be normal around em, none of that extra shyt, and it works out just fine

imo, only time you should even think of doing any kind of "move" is when you're alone wit em and tryin to close the deal

 

[The Frozen One]

im actually somewhat curious in what you were doing wrong, strictly for entertainment purposes, sounds like you were tryin some pick-up type shyt

i just be normal around em, none of that extra shyt, and it works out just fine

imo, only time you should even think of doing any kind of "move" is when you're alone wit em and tryin to close the deal

being too pushy breh. Nah i don't play those stupid pick up lines shyt. One flaked on me after making plans and i haven't heard from her since. I didn't even bother to ask her why she did what she did.

The other asked me what i was looking for. And i was honest with her. I told her i'm just looking to hang out, be friends and take it from there. She's like i'm looking for a relationship so we shouldn't waste each other's time and that was done.

This other one i was being sexual with her over text, asking her all kinds of kinky shyt, and i guess she didn't like that. So told me i'm too aggressive and i should find someone similar. This one i didn't give a fukk about and i wanted to know how far i can take it lol.

This other one i'm talking to right now. Basically just asking her questions about her, and she seems pretty open. I haven't asked to hang out with her, which is why she still continues to talk. asked me what i was doing on the weekend, and i said i'm busy working and other shyt. She replies oh maybe we should plan something for some other time then.

 

[T-K-G]

being too pushy breh. Nah i don't play those stupid pick up lines shyt. One flaked on me after making plans and i haven't heard from her since. I didn't even bother to ask her why she did what she did.

The other asked me what i was looking for. And i was honest with her. I told her i'm just looking to hang out, be friends and take it from there. She's like i'm looking for a relationship so we shouldn't waste each other's time and that was done.

This other one i was being sexual with her over text, asking her all kinds of kinky shyt, and i guess she didn't like that. So told me i'm too aggressive and i should find someone similar. This one i didn't give a fukk about and i wanted to know how far i can take it lol.

you shoulda been able to come up with something off the top of the dome to keep the 2nd one in your pocket, but when you said "and take it from there" cuz to her it sounded like you were basically saying "im too shook to say i want a fukk buddy or a relationship so im just gonna linger around til i get more confident, wait for me" and she aint respect that shyt told yo ass to

the 3rd one you just made a rookie ass mistake tho you can't really go too far with all of that sex talk shyt until you already made that physical contact with em cuz one day they're gonna re-look at those texts and you're gonna look corny/creepy/thirsty as fukk, in situations like that it's action over talkin

 

[DaRealness]

 

[T-K-G]

This other one i'm talking to right now. Basically just asking her questions about her, and she seems pretty open. I haven't asked to hang out with her, which is why she still continues to talk. asked me what i was doing on the weekend, and i said i'm busy working and other shyt. She replies oh maybe we should plan something for some other time then.

from what you sayin, she's still talkin to you cuz you haven't said much yet, with the other ones it seems like you talked yourself out of some p*ssy cuz you were tryna do too much, save as much info/interesting shyt about yourself until you meet in person, give her too much over the phone and she aint gonna have any reason to wanna meet up, just spit a few witty jokes and whatnot to keep her attention, dont wait too long doe

that's how i'd play it, but im only going off of what you said so take it with a grain of salt

 

[MikelArteta]

i remember when i did a liar liar review another reason not to mess with single moms

liar liar
anyone remember this movie?

its been years since i watched it, but remember how jim carrey ex wife found a decent guy named jerry, a guy who wifed a single mom, a guy who worked hard and provided for them both, a guy who loved them both even though he was treated like dung? a good guy who was moving to the big city to bigger and better things and paid the air fare for jim carreys ex wife and her son, yet at the last minute jim carrey who hsa been lying and lying for years letting down the family, stops a airplane and jerry is left out in the cold as she runs back to her ex husband so they can be a happy family

 

[The Frozen One]

from what you sayin, she's still talkin to you cuz you haven't said much yet, with the other ones it seems like you talked yourself out of some p*ssy cuz you were tryna do too much, save as much info/interesting shyt about yourself until you meet in person, give her too much over the phone and she aint gonna have any reason to wanna meet up, just spit a few witty jokes and whatnot to keep her attention, dont wait too long doe

that's how i'd play it, but im only going off of what you said so take it with a grain of salt

i know what you're saying. Basically none of these girls are quality girls so i was mainly practicing with them (still hurt my feelings that they weren't willing to hang out). 2 i met at parties and quickly got their number, based on the initial attraction. The others i met through POF, which i have since deleted cause all the women there are fukked in the head.

I been out of the game for too long. I text like i texted my ex, since i barely talked to anyone else. So i won't lie i'm rusty. I'm not looking for any type of relationship though, not even FWB, which i why i was honest with girl #2. She wasn't good looking either so i didn't care as much that she gave me the

 

[T-K-G]

i know what you're saying. Basically none of these girls are quality girls so i was mainly practicing with them (still hurt my feelings that they weren't willing to hang out). 2 i met at parties and quickly got their number, based on the initial attraction. The others i met through POF, which i have since deleted cause all the women there are fukked in the head.

I been out of the game for too long. I text like i texted my ex, since i barely talked to anyone else. So i won't lie i'm rusty. I'm not looking for any type of relationship though, not even FWB, which i why i was honest with girl #2. She wasn't good looking either so i didn't care as much that she gave me the

all the girls that im strictly friends with are lesbians(NOT THE RADICAL FEMINIST ONES) and i suggest you do the same for multiple reasons:
1. they're more likely to like the same shyt you like as far as entertainment wise
2. If they're the tomboy type(not manish, moreso like they prolly play sports or somethin, wear jeans instead of skirts/leggings, etc.) you wont have to worry about b/s girl talk/gossip/complaining
3. zero tension
4.if they look good, when you go out, people are gonna see you with a pretty girl and women flock to dudes who pull dimes for whatever reason
5. they are 10000000x better wingmen than any nikka will ever be

 

[Redguard]

all the girls that im strictly friends with are lesbians(NOT THE RADICAL FEMINIST ONES) and i suggest you do the same for multiple reasons:
1. they're more likely to like the same shyt you like as far as entertainment wise
2. If they're the tomboy type(not manish, moreso like they prolly play sports or somethin, wear jeans instead of skirts/leggings, etc.) you wont have to worry about b/s girl talk/gossip/complaining
3. zero tension
4.if they look good, when you go out, people are gonna see you with a pretty girl and women flock to dudes who pull dimes for whatever reason
5. they are 10000000x better wingmen than any nikka will ever be

 

[T-K-G]

im tryna give you nikkas the game for free a good lesbo on your team is worth 5 nikkas easily

 

[SubLyminalz]

just gave a chick the i been messing with for on and off for about a year now, of course she was a single mom.


im glad i dont have to deal with that shyt anymore way too many red flags, i only really kept her around because she started working out and lost alot of weight, and she held me down in a few financial situations but she started to feel herself a bit too much and got too comfortable with doing certain shyt i wasnt feeling so i deaded that situation quick, plus she was a few years younger than me.

i actually feel much better now brehs fukk that hoe, all im gonna focus on now is bettering myself and hitting the gym for right now.


i gave my other 3 side joints the also before the holidays now i dont have any bytches on my roster this is gonna burn for a few days but ill be straight.


to this thread and everybody in it i learned alot from yall nikkas in here.