Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

someone gotta school me brehs,

Been talking to this chic I met through my homie that he works with (not that it matters but he works at Starbucks).

-We text each other often, conversations flowing, sharing the same taste in music, outlooks, in short: she's a dope chic
-Time comes around and I get comfortable and ask her out on a date. I ask when she's free, we decide on a day and time and the rest is set in stone
-We keep in touch with each other and text normally and the night before she asks me to re-confirm when and what time and I tell her, she prompts me and asks if we can go at an earlier time and I respond that I finish work at 6 so she says that's fine we can keep the same timing

no here's where the bullshyt happens and feel free to point me out where I went wrong

The date is at 8pm, I get home from work around 7:15, jump in the shower, get fresh, put on my clothes and dip out. I'm at the place for 8 (but went inside at like 8:08 or so ) and text her "hey I'm here". 20 minutes later I get a text back saying "lol you should of texted me I I just got home"

THEN

I text this broad back saying "do you want me to pick you up" and she responds that "its ok I'm just gonna chill and do homework"

she sends a long text saying "next time you make plans with someone, confirm with them first instead of just saying you're at the place"....

couple texts here and there kept it civilized saying "I mean you gotta yourself accountable" blah blah blah.
in short she said she's willing to re-schedule, but I dunno how I can even recover from this, I guess you can say I made a rookie mistake for not messaging her that day or even prior to even leaving my crib but it's not even that, just the fact that she hit me with the whole staying home and doing homework.

S'all good though man, you learn from your mistakes right?

where you went wrong is when you made this post thinking you're in the wrong. i don't even understand why you are doubting yourself. the chick is obviously testing you. i don't even understand what she wanted you to confirm. she's acting silly. Now she got you to take responsibility for her fukk up. that's the sign of weakness. keep it real with yourself. if she really wanted to see you, she would have texted you to see if you were there. she would have accepted your offer of picking her up (matter of fact she would have came back to see you on her own). If you ask me, your mistake was even getting into a light debate about who was wrong and who's accountable. If you would have just politely dismissed her, chances are she would have either tried to set up a date with you OR moved on (either way you win).

EDIT: i see the brehs already broke it down.

 

[Brandsdale]

where you went wrong is when you made this post thinking you're in the wrong. i don't even understand why you are doubting yourself. the chick is obviously testing you. i don't even understand what she wanted you to confirm. she's acting silly. Now she got you to take responsibility for her fukk up. that's the sign of weakness. keep it real with yourself. if she really wanted to see you, she would have texted you to see if you were there. she would have accepted your offer of picking her up (matter of fact she would have came back to see you on her own). If you ask me, your mistake was even getting into a light debate about who was wrong and who's accountable. If you would have just politely dismissed her, chances are she would have either tried to set up a date with you OR moved on (either way you win).

see that's the thing, she didn't apologize but yet she was texting me figuring out when we can reschedule and what not.

 

[Turbulent]

see that's the thing, she didn't apologize but yet she was texting me figuring out when we can reschedule and what not.

aka she flipped the script on you to where she's doing you a favor by even re-scheduling. she should be apologizing and now she reframed the whole thing, dismiss her from your life breh.

 

[MikelArteta]

see that's the thing, she didn't apologize but yet she was texting me figuring out when we can reschedule and what not.

i wouldnt even reschedule, your not even dating this broad yet and she already wasted one of your evenings?

you think if trey songz or usher said 8 she would have forgot and blamed them and try and reschedule?

see this is where having a roster comes into play a chick pulls this you just text the next on your list, "hey want to hang out tonight?"

id have toss this chick into the bushes

 

[MikelArteta]

aka she flipped the script on you to where she's doing you a favor by even re-scheduling. she should be apologizing and now she reframed the whole thing, dismiss her from your life breh.

the funny thing if it was the other way around she would have called him waste and not talk to him again, women don't put up with things like this for the most part because they have options, if a women gets dolled up and is waiting for a dude to show and he just texts how hes staying home not going she'll take out that phone and have treyvathian there in half n h our

 

[Turbulent]

i wouldnt even reschedule, your not even dating this broad yet and she already wasted one of your evenings?

you think if trey songz or usher said 8 she would have forgot and blamed them and try and reschedule?

see this is where having a roster comes into play a chick pulls this you just text the next on your list, "hey want to hang out tonight?"

id have toss this chick into the bushes

basically. I call it the "Will Smith Rule"

 

[MikelArteta]

im not even saying im special or anything but a few months ago this happaned to me, i was supposed to go see the hunger games with this chick, well she kept on saying tom, then tom came and oh im tired the next day, i just , went and saw hunger games with another broad.

Women especially any broad that looks decent think men are just lap dogs sitting and waiting around, that there queen elizabeth or something and we are honoured just to be in their presence

 

[MikelArteta]

trust me when a woman is into you, no excuses, no games nothing.

this broad im messing wiht now , theres like 5cm of snow outside, roads are bad and she still came down here for breakfest,

If there is one thing i've learned through the years, women who play games and not showing enough interest I don't even waste my time anymore, there are to many broads out there.

 

[DaRealness]

someone gotta school me brehs,

Been talking to this chic I met through my homie that he works with (not that it matters but he works at Starbucks).

-We text each other often, conversations flowing, sharing the same taste in music, outlooks, in short: she's a dope chic
-Time comes around and I get comfortable and ask her out on a date. I ask when she's free, we decide on a day and time and the rest is set in stone
-We keep in touch with each other and text normally and the night before she asks me to re-confirm when and what time and I tell her, she prompts me and asks if we can go at an earlier time and I respond that I finish work at 6 so she says that's fine we can keep the same timing

no here's where the bullshyt happens and feel free to point me out where I went wrong

The date is at 8pm, I get home from work around 7:15, jump in the shower, get fresh, put on my clothes and dip out. I'm at the place for 8 (but went inside at like 8:08 or so ) and text her "hey I'm here". 20 minutes later I get a text back saying "lol you should of texted me I I just got home"

THEN

I text this broad back saying "do you want me to pick you up" and she responds that "its ok I'm just gonna chill and do homework"

she sends a long text saying "next time you make plans with someone, confirm with them first instead of just saying you're at the place"....

couple texts here and there kept it civilized saying "I mean you gotta yourself accountable" blah blah blah.
in short she said she's willing to re-schedule, but I dunno how I can even recover from this, I guess you can say I made a rookie mistake for not messaging her that day or even prior to even leaving my crib but it's not even that, just the fact that she hit me with the whole staying home and doing homework.

S'all good though man, you learn from your mistakes right?

That's just disgusting behaviour and pretty low, but unsurprising for chicks nonetheless.

Everybody else said what I was already going to say. For the life of me, I don't know what it is you're blaming yourself for.

She just didn't feel like going out, therefore didn't bother have the basic human courtesy most people would posses and cancel way beforehand and reschedule. Instead, she just sits back and says nothing knowing full well you were going to the spot.

I don't know what age group she is, but she's beyond immature and you should just delete her number. That lowlife bytch is not even worth cussing out.

I don't take the texting game seriously anyway.

At least this time you know to make for damn sure a chick is serious and for real. First sign of bullshyt, no matter how small it is, you end right then and there and don't give them the time of day just off the strength off a "maybe" or "what if". Remember, they know damn well what they're doing and nothing is by accident.

#HOH has to be your motto and situations like this only show why.

 

[DaRealness]

There comes a point where you can't blame the woman, but you have to blame the guy for being so weak to let this go on.




This dude is the equivalent of that women who moves some low-life thug type of dude into her house, lets him eat up all the food, drives her car, and complains about him every day, but never kicks him out. Yeah, the woman is a low-life in this case, but it takes a willing sponsor to continue to finance her behavior.

As for this, I damn near threw up everything I ate just reading it.

 

[Brandsdale]

That's just disgusting behaviour and pretty low, but unsurprising for chicks nonetheless.

Everybody else said what I was already going to say. For the life of me, I don't know what it is you're blaming yourself for.

She just didn't feel like going out, therefore didn't bother have the basic human courtesy most people would posses and cancel way beforehand and reschedule. Instead, she just sits back and says nothing knowing full well you were going to the spot.

I don't know what age group she is, but she's beyond immature and you should just delete her number. That lowlife bytch is not even worth cussing out.

I don't take the texting game seriously anyway.

At least this time you know to make for damn sure a chick is serious and for real. First sign of bullshyt, no matter how small it is, you end right then and there and don't give them the time of day just off the strength off a "maybe" or "what if". Remember, they know damn well what they're doing and nothing is by accident.

#HOH has to be your motto and situations like this only show why.

The only reason why I had doubts on myself is because she said that she was able to make it and wouldn't have cancelled without saying anything prior and didn't know what was going on since I didn't text her all day.

Having the plans already set I didn't feel I needed to text her AGAIN to reassure saying "hey we still good for tonight" and what not.

 

[Turbulent]

The only reason why I had doubts on myself is because she said that she was able to make it and wouldn't have cancelled without saying anything prior and didn't know what was going on since I didn't text her all day.

Having the plans already set I didn't feel I needed to text her AGAIN to reassure saying "hey we still good for tonight" and what not.

that shyt doesn't even make sense. Even if we apply this theory (which is giving her a HUGE benefit of the doubt), say you guys had already confirmed and then she didn't hear from you all day and then didn't know what was going on, why couldn't she have called you to see if you were still gonna make it? If it was already confirmed, why dis she go straight to the conclusion that it was canceled based on the fact you guys didn't speak for a day (without checking with you, etc).

wouldn't have cancelled without saying anything prior

isn't that what she just did though?

 

[RealAssanova]

The only reason why I had doubts on myself is because she said that she was able to make it and wouldn't have cancelled without saying anything prior and didn't know what was going on since I didn't text her all day.

Having the plans already set I didn't feel I needed to text her AGAIN to reassure saying "hey we still good for tonight" and what not.

fukk her excuse. She has an excuse to relieve herself from guilt. That's all.

@His_Excellence_Reincar said it clearly breh and i can vouch for him...if a girl is into you...even armageddon wouldn't stop her from seeing you. So truss me and the rest of us here when we say that there are women out there that are for you that wouldn't pull this shyt and she is NOT one of those women. Let that shyt marinate in your head.

I mean, you haven't even met face to face, felt each other out or anything and this is already happening?

 

[Brandsdale]

fukk her excuse. She has an excuse to relieve herself from guilt. That's all.

@His_Excellence_Reincar said it clearly breh and i can vouch for him...if a girl is into you...even armageddon wouldn't stop her from seeing you. So truss me and the rest of us here when we say that there are women out there that are for you that wouldn't pull this shyt and she is NOT one of those women. Let that shyt marinate in your head.

I mean, you haven't even met face to face, felt each other out or anything and this is already happening?

We have because I went to visit my friend at work very briefly and she was there but we couldnt talk because she was too busy. I hear exactly what you're saying though, it shouldn't be this difficult this early in the game.

 

[RealAssanova]

We have because I went to visit my friend at work very briefly and she was there but we couldnt talk because she was too busy. I hear exactly what you're saying though, it shouldn't be this difficult this early in the game.

What part of the city you from? These toronto hoes are