Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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someone gotta school me brehs,

Been talking to this chic I met through my homie that he works with (not that it matters but he works at Starbucks).

-We text each other often, conversations flowing, sharing the same taste in music, outlooks, in short: she's a dope chic
-Time comes around and I get comfortable and ask her out on a date. I ask when she's free, we decide on a day and time and the rest is set in stone :obama:
-We keep in touch with each other and text normally and the night before she asks me to re-confirm when and what time and I tell her, she prompts me and asks if we can go at an earlier time and I respond that I finish work at 6 so she says that's fine we can keep the same timing

no here's where the bullshyt happens :beli: and feel free to point me out where I went wrong :whoa:

The date is at 8pm, I get home from work around 7:15, jump in the shower, get fresh, put on my clothes and dip out. I'm at the place for 8 (but went inside at like 8:08 or so :heh:) and text her "hey I'm here". 20 minutes later I get a text back saying "lol you should of texted me I I just got home" :dahell: :dahell:

THEN

I text this broad back saying "do you want me to pick you up" and she responds that "its ok I'm just gonna chill and do homework" :dahell: :what:

she sends a long text saying "next time you make plans with someone, confirm with them first instead of just saying you're at the place"....

couple texts here and there kept it civilized saying "I mean you gotta yourself accountable" blah blah blah.
in short she said she's willing to re-schedule, but :snoop: I dunno how I can even recover from this, I guess you can say I made a rookie mistake for not messaging her that day or even prior to even leaving my crib but it's not even that, just the fact that she hit me with the whole staying home and doing homework.

S'all good though man, you learn from your mistakes right?

george.jpg

Real talk it went downhill when you said

"We text often"

But then you had courage to ask her out? After many back and forth text? :wtf:

Should of made plans on day 1
If she said no
Then should of delete her number and Kim


More you text, less chance of fukkin her
 

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i wouldnt even reschedule, your not even dating this broad yet and she already wasted one of your evenings?

you think if trey songz or usher said 8 she would have forgot and blamed them and try and reschedule?

see this is where having a roster comes into play a chick pulls this you just text the next on your list, "hey want to hang out tonight?"

id have toss this chick into the bushes
Co sign

When females know that YOU have OPTIONS
That's when they act right


And dude lost for texting back and forth from the jump
 

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The only reason why I had doubts on myself is because she said that she was able to make it and wouldn't have cancelled without saying anything prior and didn't know what was going on since I didn't text her all day.

Having the plans already set I didn't feel I needed to text her AGAIN to reassure saying "hey we still good for tonight" and what not.

She said a buncha bullshyt and should have made it, that's the bottom line.
 

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im not even saying im special or anything but a few months ago this happaned to me, i was supposed to go see the hunger games with this chick, well she kept on saying tom, then tom came and oh im tired the next day, i just :camby:, went and saw hunger games with another broad.

Women especially any broad that looks decent think men are just lap dogs sitting and waiting around, that there queen elizabeth or something and we are honoured just to be in their presence :childplease:

whats crazy is how much women have learned to flip the game in their favor. theyre using all this leverage on men, for something so simple, and so basic, that we can get blinded and fail to see here what is at stake: companionship and affection. something that BOTH sides really want. but here we are, looking at a game where most men are trying to do for, and putting up with so much - for something everyone wants anyways.


when you start seeing it like that, you start taking away from their power plays. I mean, is a bad attitude and disrespect worth it just for some ass? she likes sex and being treated well, dont you? do you want to give up your dignity and peace of mind for some shyt that isnt even yours, and never will be? men think because we get some time from a girl and some flirting replies that we're winning. that we're doing well because a girls on our arm. thats how the game is flipped right then.


for some men theyre willing to get it by all means. look at dude from kevs post. and men trick ourselves into thinking that we can buy ourselves in, and these women out here just welcome it. all because shes giving us the privalege to take them out. or to take care of them. think about that. all of a sudden men assume that shes ours because we do a lot for them. but think about it with your guy friends, it doesnt work like that. nobody likes an opportunist, who only hangs around to get something from us. we cut that mess off quick to see it for what it is. its not that way with women for some reason, a lot of times youre just overpaying for some company and accept it. even so, realize that she isnt yours, player.


only with time does loyalty mean anything, and even then, she has to show it to you consistently. you cant assume that just because youre willing to do things for her, and she accepts these things, that she is willing to do things for you. because the only thing theyre mostly exchanging, is their sex and company. what a bargain on their behalf, huh?

we're already in a losing position, because as long as shes fixated on what youre spending or favors that youre doing for her, thats not love, thats infatuation and greed. its why so many women are living their lives based on the whore model. we're willing to be their tricks for some affection and companionship. we're here hustling and balling out and trying to do so much, and thinking its going to give us love in return, yet one thing youll never own is another persons will. their loyalty is something that they need to constantly be giving you, and it should have a deeper meaning. and most importantly, if you want it to last, the respect should be there. its impossible to do all that for a greedy whore.

men dont even see it, we're often blinded by thinking too much with our dikks or by having an unrealistic, romantic view of a male and female relationship. we literally make things up in our mind about how its going to be and how it is, instead of just seeing and taking it for what it is.
 
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fukk her excuse. She has an excuse to relieve herself from guilt. That's all.

@His_Excellence_Reincar said it clearly breh and i can vouch for him...if a girl is into you...even armageddon wouldn't stop her from seeing you. So truss me and the rest of us here when we say that there are women out there that are for you that wouldn't pull this shyt and she is NOT one of those women. Let that shyt marinate in your head.

I mean, you haven't even met face to face, felt each other out or anything and this is already happening? :camby:


at this point hes being played for and is seen as an option. women test men and try to break them down to the core. run games and see if youll kiss up to them and accept bullshyt. if they can just lie to you to get away with shyt and just how far. basically theyll toy with you because youre willing to be toyed. people in life, theyll take advantage of your niceness to see if youre actually about your word or are spineless. what you need to do is you need to hold them to the same standards you have for yourself, or youre in a losing battle already
 
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whats crazy is how much women have learned to flip the game in their favor. theyre using all this leverage on men, for something so simple, and so basic, that we can get blinded and fail to see here what is at stake: companionship and affection. something that BOTH sides really want. but here we are, looking at a game where most men are trying to do for, and putting up with so much - for something everyone wants anyways.


when you start seeing it like that, you start taking away from their power plays. I mean, is a bad attitude and disrespect worth it just for some ass? she likes sex and being treated well, dont you? do you want to give up your dignity and peace of mind for some shyt that isnt even yours, and never will be? men think because we get some time from a girl and some flirting replies that we're winning. that we're doing well because a girls on our arm. thats how the game is flipped right then.

for some men theyre willing to get it by all means. look at dude from kevs post. and men trick ourselves into thinking that we can buy ourselves in, and these women out here just welcome it. all because shes giving us the privalege to take them out. or to take care of them. think about that. all of a sudden men assume that shes ours because we do a lot for them. but think about it with your guy friends, it doesnt work like that. nobody likes an opportunist, who only hangs around to get something from us. we cut that mess off quick to see it for what it is. its not that way with women for some reason, a lot of times youre just overpaying for some company and accept it. even so, realize that she isnt yours, player.

only with time does loyalty mean anything, and even then, she has to show it to you consistently. you cant assume that just because youre willing to do things for her, and she accepts these things, that she is willing to do things for you. because the only thing theyre mostly exchanging, is their sex and company. what a bargain on their behalf, huh?


we're already in a losing position, because as long as shes fixated on what youre spending or favors that youre doing for her, thats not love, thats infatuation and greed. its why so many women are living their lives based on the whore model. we're willing to be their tricks for some affection and companionship. we're here hustling and balling out and trying to do so much, and thinking its going to give us love in return, yet one thing youll never own is another persons will. their loyalty is something that they need to constantly be giving you, and it should have a deeper meaning. and most importantly, if you want it to last, the respect should be there. its impossible to do all that for a greedy whore.

men dont even see it, we're often blinded by thinking too much with our dikks or by having an unrealistic, romantic view of a male and female relationship. we literally make things up in our mind about how its going to be and how it is, instead of just seeing and taking it for what it is.

I've been seeing and hearing too many examples of dudes valuing these women waaaay more than the women value them.

It doesn't make sense for men to do all these things for a few 30 minute acts (depending on your stamina) that already come with the territory when you're in a relationship anyway. Back in the days, a man hung around a woman because of the wifely qualities she could bring the table while he makes things happen. Nowadays, dudes are making NO demands from women at all. All the woman has to do is sit back and look good while he does all the driving around and worrying about what he's going to say to her and shyt. You have men who've got everything going for themselves but self respect/esteem and women see that.

You really have to be nonchalant and indifferent and if you have a high sex drive, channel that energy into something else. Watch less of the TV and read self empowerment books and delve more into your spirituality and self upliftment and engage in activities outside of work, because if you don't respect yourself, then you're not going to attract anyone who does - male or female. People sense each other like dolphins, especially women and they know what you're about by the way you carry yourself and what you say. You have to treat them like they're no big deal and mean that shyt. Hold them to standards and if they don't comply, then show them the door. That's why I shut out little miss "You're boring" chick the other week and will treat any female who pulls that kind of nonsense and not give them any second chances. Back in the day, I wouldn't have done that. Now, I'd have no problem Mark Cambying any chick if she got out of pocket, no matter who she is and would give no fukks or fall for any little attempts to get back in my good books. Male or female, you shouldn't let anyone have you doubting yourself like that piece of shyt chick did to dude above. You have to carry yourself in such a way that females do their utmost to show YOU what THEY have to bring to the table.

EDIT: Also, another thing to bear in mind is that females are the ones who will struggle to conceive after a certain age whereas with men, nine times out of ten we wouldn't struggle to have seeds provided we look after ourselves physically. So why all of a sudden we should be the desperate ones, I don't know....
 
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I've been seeing and hearing too many examples of dudes valuing these women waaaay more than the women value them.

It doesn't make sense for men to do all these things for a few 30 minute acts (depending on your stamina) that already come with the territory when you're in a relationship anyway. Back in the days, a man hung around a woman because of the wifely qualities she could bring the table while he makes things happen. Nowadays, dudes are making NO demands from women at all. All the woman has to do is sit back and look good while he does all the driving around and worrying about what he's going to say to her and shyt. You have men who've got everything going for themselves but self respect/esteem and women see that.

crazy part about it is, that on the other side of the coin, women arent even trying to offer up anything that looks like wifey qualities. its just sex. maybe exclusive sex. thats it. theyre not trying to act like theyre ready to settle down, change into a housewife, or be a full time mother. so whats to marry? many women are so out there, and so busy riding the cock carousel, and proclaiming that theyre so "independant" that theyre better off staying that way. and I see it that way. sure its good for a woman to have her own life, and be able to support herself, dont get me wrong - but when theyre so independant and arrogant about their ways, then they dont act like good women to lock down anymore. so why keep them around you? the only thing theyre offering you is the same thing theyre offering to everyone else. sex and company. not marriage material there


You really have to be nonchalant and indifferent and if you have a high sex drive, channel that energy into something else. Watch less of the TV and read self empowerment books and delve more into your spirituality and self upliftment and engage in activities outside of work, because if you don't respect yourself, then you're not going to attract anyone who does - male or female. People sense each other like dolphins, especially women and they know what you're about by the way you carry yourself and what you say. You have to treat them like they're no big deal and mean that shyt. Hold them to standards and if they don't comply, then show them the door.

thats true, and thats some golden advice. when you treat yourself with the utmost respect, then you dont allow others to step in and disrespect you. they dont fit with what you look at when you look at yourself, and thats why that wont go. thats why we constantly talk about building yourself up and finding something of importance in your life other than women. they come and go, and some of them dont even know how to act. theyre like spoiled children. youre better off in holding yourself to a high standard at all times, instead of stooping down to a lower level of respect in order to get laid.

That's why I shut out little miss "You're boring" chick the other week and will treat any female who pulls that kind of nonsense and not give them any second chances. Back in the day, I wouldn't have done that. Now, I'd have no problem Mark Cambying any chick if she got out of pocket, no matter who she is and would give no fukks or fall for any little attempts to get back in my good books. Male or female, you shouldn't let anyone have you doubting yourself like that piece of shyt chick did to dude above. You have to carry yourself in such a way that females do their utmost to show YOU what THEY have to bring to the table.

I dont get how people let others treat them the way that they would never treat somebody else. men and women get walked on when theyd never do that do someone else. its all an imbalance, and it creates animosity on both sides. nature starts to even that shyt out. sooner or later it ends, and the longer it takes the worse the ending. I think thats also why modern relationships are so funny. we're supposed to be old fashioned gentlemen, and treat women well, but a lot of times we dont get any of the old fashioned perks from women. in that case, all thats being offered is sex and companionship. why do you have to treat her when shes isnt about treating you in her own unique way? and not in sex, thats not what I mean. instead today we see a lot of busy bodies and inconsiderate females trying to woo anybody for the next best deal. its disgusting when you look at some women in the office place and in society who are just trying to come up off a man. Im at a point where I see that if a man doesnt stop a woman from taking advantage of him, its half his fault. maybe even all, considering that you most of the times you have things happen because thats what you accept from people
 
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someone gotta school me brehs,

Been talking to this chic I met through my homie that he works with (not that it matters but he works at Starbucks).

-We text each other often, conversations flowing, sharing the same taste in music, outlooks, in short: she's a dope chic
-Time comes around and I get comfortable and ask her out on a date. I ask when she's free, we decide on a day and time and the rest is set in stone :obama:
-We keep in touch with each other and text normally and the night before she asks me to re-confirm when and what time and I tell her, she prompts me and asks if we can go at an earlier time and I respond that I finish work at 6 so she says that's fine we can keep the same timing

no here's where the bullshyt happens :beli: and feel free to point me out where I went wrong :whoa:

The date is at 8pm, I get home from work around 7:15, jump in the shower, get fresh, put on my clothes and dip out. I'm at the place for 8 (but went inside at like 8:08 or so :heh:) and text her "hey I'm here". 20 minutes later I get a text back saying "lol you should of texted me I I just got home" :dahell: :dahell:

THEN

I text this broad back saying "do you want me to pick you up" and she responds that "its ok I'm just gonna chill and do homework" :dahell: :what:

she sends a long text saying "next time you make plans with someone, confirm with them first instead of just saying you're at the place"....

couple texts here and there kept it civilized saying "I mean you gotta yourself accountable" blah blah blah.
in short she said she's willing to re-schedule, but :snoop: I dunno how I can even recover from this, I guess you can say I made a rookie mistake for not messaging her that day or even prior to even leaving my crib but it's not even that, just the fact that she hit me with the whole staying home and doing homework.

S'all good though man, you learn from your mistakes right?

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Man...cancel that bytch. :camby: SO disrespectful.
 

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i wouldnt even reschedule, your not even dating this broad yet and she already wasted one of your evenings?

you think if trey songz or usher said 8 she would have forgot and blamed them and try and reschedule?

see this is where having a roster comes into play a chick pulls this you just text the next on your list, "hey want to hang out tonight?"

id have toss this chick into the bushes

:blessed: Absolutely. I would had another chick on the line like come through and kick it with me, than tell the chick that cancelled that's its all good, we don't have to reschedule,I got someone else to fill in..Yall better stop letting these hoes play these games with you.
 
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