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What are these "wifey qualities" and "perks" you speak of?
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What are these "wifey qualities" and "perks" you speak of?
CrossBones
Louder than words
modesty, respect for the head, willingness to listen to her mans advice, an ability to keep problems in house and not all over to friends and facebook etc, no attention whoring, she shouldnt be crude, she should have the desire to want to keep family first over their career. not have a high number of sexual partners. can cook and clean. knows how to comfort her man. not looking to break a mans pockets because she knows that the needs of everyone outweigh her shoe fetish and overall lack of ability to handle bills. just look at the women from the age of your mom or better yet your grandmom. now look at today. sure they werent perfect, but those women held it down in the house and for their man. they also knew how to look good without being extra raunchy
I salute them, and women today who are like that. real women who deserve respect
Repped. That is exactly what I am looking for in a wife/LTR.
TheArchitect
All Star
I'm a
I'm a scorpio too brush and idk if its my age or what but I'm always horny
Man, that might be the answer there....I'm getting back into boxing/mma/kendo in a couple of weeks, so that should help a lot....plus 'I've been doing a lot of drawing/writing, so that can as well....
EDIT: Also, another thing to bear in mind is that females are the ones who will struggle to conceive after a certain age whereas with men, nine times out of ten we wouldn't struggle to have seeds provided we look after ourselves physically. So why all of a sudden we should be the desperate ones, I don't know....[/quote]
Goddammit, your preaching to the choir on this one.....I swear, I NEVER looked at it this way....
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
A lot of men are desperate because the weather is colder.If it was 80 outside dudes wouldn't be thinking about a woman.Hence why I keep stressin to you cats travel and work on you before getting a relationship.
when you get fly as fukk but ya plans get cancelled.someone gotta school me brehs,
Been talking to this chic I met through my homie that he works with (not that it matters but he works at Starbucks).
-We text each other often, conversations flowing, sharing the same taste in music, outlooks, in short: she's a dope chic
-Time comes around and I get comfortable and ask her out on a date. I ask when she's free, we decide on a day and time and the rest is set in stone
-We keep in touch with each other and text normally and the night before she asks me to re-confirm when and what time and I tell her, she prompts me and asks if we can go at an earlier time and I respond that I finish work at 6 so she says that's fine we can keep the same timing
no here's where the bullshyt happensand feel free to point me out where I went wrong
The date is at 8pm, I get home from work around 7:15, jump in the shower, get fresh, put on my clothes and dip out. I'm at the place for 8 (but went inside at like 8:08 or so) and text her "hey I'm here". 20 minutes later I get a text back saying "lol you should of texted me I I just got home"
THEN
I text this broad back saying "do you want me to pick you up" and she responds that "its ok I'm just gonna chill and do homework"
she sends a long text saying "next time you make plans with someone, confirm with them first instead of just saying you're at the place"....
couple texts here and there kept it civilized saying "I mean you gotta yourself accountable" blah blah blah.
in short she said she's willing to re-schedule, butI dunno how I can even recover from this, I guess you can say I made a rookie mistake for not messaging her that day or even prior to even leaving my crib but it's not even that, just the fact that she hit me with the whole staying home and doing homework.
S'all good though man, you learn from your mistakes right?
lol sorry that just came to my head
but yea bushes, no questions.
Why do women act the way they do? You can only blame the women so long before you have to get to those who are in charge. Men are given the task of leadership by God, but in this day and age they want to hand it off to the woman and they are getting punished for it. Why do a lot of women act the way they do? Because men allow it and never tell her nothing. They never show her that there will be repercussions for her actions. They are the ones trying to sneak into her heart through the friend-zone because they are too scared to be direct. Women never bring anything to the table because the men never tell them to or they act scared about it. If you could go to a restaurant that said, "Eat for free", and you went there and ate everything up, what right does the owner of the restaurant have to get mad at you that you didn't 'bring anything to the table', when he was the one that hung the sign out for everyone to come and eat for free?
In life, I learned you won't get your respect unless you stand on it, especially with women. If you are always bowing down, backing off, letting them misuse you, abuse you, punk you, etc., then that's exactly what you will get. You will either get gold-diggers who leach you dry, or you will keep getting women who will peel off on you because you are coming off as so weak and as such a sucker that they cannot tolerate to be in your presence for long.
A woman keeps on flaking on you? Past two times, that's your fault. One time, you might give her a chance and see if she has a valid reason, but if she does it again and you are still in contact with her, you are sending her the message that she can treat you any way and you'll still be around. It's little different than that woman who you keep trying to tell her something, but she won't leave her 'playa' boyfriend who is always cheating on her and who is always using her money.
That's why I always advocate learning how to be alone and having activities you can do or friends you can hang with... so you don't put yourself into a desperate position to where you feel you 'need' the company of this or that woman and you start accepting bad behavior. Men with that attitude are like those women who always 'need' to be in a relationship, so they rush out to be with the first dude that pays them attention and constantly end up getting misused.
If you want your respect as a man, you have to demand it. Do you think some Fortune 500 company will keep on giving you chances if you skip out on the interview? If they did, you would start feeling yourself to such an extent that there's no telling if you ever would show up to an interview or not. The fact that they offer you an opportunity and if you miss it, you lose your chance, makes you respect them that much more and it makes you step up so you won't lose your chance to work at a valuable company. Same thing with a man dealing with a woman. If you give them 5,000 screw up passes, then you will get the reputation of a man they can always fall back on and there is no telling if they will ever show up on dates or whatever you want them to do. Remember, your actions and mentality are key. YOU have to get your respect and can't assume they will come in the door and give it to you automatically.
Some of this attitude sounds unbelievable. Why? Because you've been conditioned by society and you are probably surrounded by simped out dudes who reinforce that you have to 'earn' a woman's love or some nonsense. Having the 'attention of a woman' is NOTHING if it's not quality attention. Some of these guys might have a pretty wifey, but what's the point if she has a foul mouth, is using up all of his resources, and won't even respect him enough to take his last name? It's better to be alone than have the company of a woman who doesn't respect you or is bringing a lot of drama to your house. Even proverbs alludes to something similar.
In life, I learned you won't get your respect unless you stand on it, especially with women. If you are always bowing down, backing off, letting them misuse you, abuse you, punk you, etc., then that's exactly what you will get. You will either get gold-diggers who leach you dry, or you will keep getting women who will peel off on you because you are coming off as so weak and as such a sucker that they cannot tolerate to be in your presence for long.
A woman keeps on flaking on you? Past two times, that's your fault. One time, you might give her a chance and see if she has a valid reason, but if she does it again and you are still in contact with her, you are sending her the message that she can treat you any way and you'll still be around. It's little different than that woman who you keep trying to tell her something, but she won't leave her 'playa' boyfriend who is always cheating on her and who is always using her money.
That's why I always advocate learning how to be alone and having activities you can do or friends you can hang with... so you don't put yourself into a desperate position to where you feel you 'need' the company of this or that woman and you start accepting bad behavior. Men with that attitude are like those women who always 'need' to be in a relationship, so they rush out to be with the first dude that pays them attention and constantly end up getting misused.
If you want your respect as a man, you have to demand it. Do you think some Fortune 500 company will keep on giving you chances if you skip out on the interview? If they did, you would start feeling yourself to such an extent that there's no telling if you ever would show up to an interview or not. The fact that they offer you an opportunity and if you miss it, you lose your chance, makes you respect them that much more and it makes you step up so you won't lose your chance to work at a valuable company. Same thing with a man dealing with a woman. If you give them 5,000 screw up passes, then you will get the reputation of a man they can always fall back on and there is no telling if they will ever show up on dates or whatever you want them to do. Remember, your actions and mentality are key. YOU have to get your respect and can't assume they will come in the door and give it to you automatically.
Some of this attitude sounds unbelievable. Why? Because you've been conditioned by society and you are probably surrounded by simped out dudes who reinforce that you have to 'earn' a woman's love or some nonsense. Having the 'attention of a woman' is NOTHING if it's not quality attention. Some of these guys might have a pretty wifey, but what's the point if she has a foul mouth, is using up all of his resources, and won't even respect him enough to take his last name? It's better to be alone than have the company of a woman who doesn't respect you or is bringing a lot of drama to your house. Even proverbs alludes to something similar.
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Also, stop worrying about where to take women and how to entertain them or what to say. Stop trying to 'win over' women. YOU are the employing company and what you are doing is offering her an opportunity for employment. If she doesn't want the job, someone else will.
Instead of thinking where to take women, choose somewhere YOU want to go and would have went even if there wasn't a woman that would come along. Invite her along. If she comes, cool. If not, you'll still go anyways, even if it's by yourself or if you choose to invite another woman. You need to be the dude that lets a woman 'tag along' instead of putting her in the driver seat and letting her pick the place to go. Only time you let her pick is if she's been with you for a while and you want to reward her, so you let her pick something.
Instead of thinking where to take women, choose somewhere YOU want to go and would have went even if there wasn't a woman that would come along. Invite her along. If she comes, cool. If not, you'll still go anyways, even if it's by yourself or if you choose to invite another woman. You need to be the dude that lets a woman 'tag along' instead of putting her in the driver seat and letting her pick the place to go. Only time you let her pick is if she's been with you for a while and you want to reward her, so you let her pick something.
When it's said and done, don't be mad at the women for punishing you until you stand up and be the man you should be. If you want to be mad at someone, be mad at society for telling you a lie and encouraging you to be a weak, feminized man who lets everyone roll over them. That's why you need to cut that television off and be wary of the music you're listening to. Television brainwashes you by showing you scenes of a man acting feminine, and in the movie, the guy is rewarded for that, so you eventually start associating that with behavior that works. A lot of music is catered towards getting money from women, so these artists aren't interested in 'being real'. Instead they are interested in delivering messages that are pleasing to women, and as a result you have music that whines and begs women and puts them on a pedestal and will have you believing that behavior works. A woman might tell you, "You need to give me roses and a dinner like that Maxwell song said." You tell her, "Man call Maxwell up right now and see if he will have those roses for you and if he will take you out tonight. You better stop believing in that fantasy land nonsense."
If you find a certain set of behaviors don't work, stop doing it. Being there for a woman, doing 1,000 favors for her, hoping she appreciates what you do for her, etc., doesn't work, so cut it out. She's essentially told you that you can get the best side of her without coming off of money and favors if you know how to come at her as a man, so why be mad at that? Be mad at the lame simp attitudes being pushed in movies that told you that's how you have to interact with women. You get treated how you come off as. A lot of men act just like a woman's homegirl and wonder why they get treated as such. If you want to be treated as a man, you have to be a man... you can't let her try and stuff you in some other category. No holding her purses, no listening to her sob stories all day and gently comforting her, no all-night conversations gossiping and giggling about any and everything... naw, none of that.
When it's said and done, if you really want something valuable in life, more times than not, it has to be earned... and that includes respect. Stand up, be a man, and stop letting women play with you and you will be rewarded for it.
If you find a certain set of behaviors don't work, stop doing it. Being there for a woman, doing 1,000 favors for her, hoping she appreciates what you do for her, etc., doesn't work, so cut it out. She's essentially told you that you can get the best side of her without coming off of money and favors if you know how to come at her as a man, so why be mad at that? Be mad at the lame simp attitudes being pushed in movies that told you that's how you have to interact with women. You get treated how you come off as. A lot of men act just like a woman's homegirl and wonder why they get treated as such. If you want to be treated as a man, you have to be a man... you can't let her try and stuff you in some other category. No holding her purses, no listening to her sob stories all day and gently comforting her, no all-night conversations gossiping and giggling about any and everything... naw, none of that.
When it's said and done, if you really want something valuable in life, more times than not, it has to be earned... and that includes respect. Stand up, be a man, and stop letting women play with you and you will be rewarded for it.
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someone gotta school me brehs,
Been talking to this chic I met through my homie that he works with (not that it matters but he works at Starbucks).
-We text each other often, conversations flowing, sharing the same taste in music, outlooks, in short: she's a dope chic
-Time comes around and I get comfortable and ask her out on a date. I ask when she's free, we decide on a day and time and the rest is set in stone
-We keep in touch with each other and text normally and the night before she asks me to re-confirm when and what time and I tell her, she prompts me and asks if we can go at an earlier time and I respond that I finish work at 6 so she says that's fine we can keep the same timing
no here's where the bullshyt happens
The date is at 8pm, I get home from work around 7:15, jump in the shower, get fresh, put on my clothes and dip out. I'm at the place for 8 (but went inside at like 8:08 or so
THEN
I text this broad back saying "do you want me to pick you up" and she responds that "its ok I'm just gonna chill and do homework"
she sends a long text saying "next time you make plans with someone, confirm with them first instead of just saying you're at the place"....
couple texts here and there kept it civilized saying "I mean you gotta yourself accountable" blah blah blah.
in short she said she's willing to re-schedule, but
S'all good though man, you learn from your mistakes right?
The brothas here already gave you a dose of what you're supposed to do. With your mentality, you're putting WAY too much value into this broad. You're trying to 'win her over' or in other words, you are questioning what secret blend of conversation and techniques you need to engage in to make her want to deal with you. In other words, subconsciously, you feel she has more worth than you, so you feel the need to utilize techniques that are contrary to you being yourself in order to get her to spend time with you. In reality, you need to realize you gave her an opportunity, she wasn't feeling it, so save it for another woman. Stop trying to win these broads over and impress them. You gave them a shot and if they can't appreciate it, then take it somewhere else. Even if you 'got with her' by doing all these techniques and tactics, you're going to have to keep up that fake routine to keep her, which is impossible. The mindset you need to have is you're giving her an OPPORTUNITY, as opposed to you giving her the job right off the bat and telling her, "Baby you can do whatever you like."
Take this with you too. Just because you have a cool lil conversation with a mami and she's smiling doesn't mean she really likes you like that. It means ya'll just had an entertaining convo. How a woman responds to your requests will give you a notification of whether she really likes you or not. If she's ready to go when you say let's roll, that's a sign. If she's making these excuses when you ask her out, then time to keep it pushing.
Also, don't be afraid to have standards and to know what you want in a woman. Don't be afraid to communicate that either. How can a woman give you what you want if you never tell her? If you want a traditional type woman who cooks and cleans and is loyal to you and values her sexuality to the extent she isn't sharing it with everyone, go on record and state it and STAND BEHIND IT. You can't say you want one thing but always be accepting something else. If you go to a store and you grab some cookies that say $5.00 on the package, you go to the counter and say, "Let me have these for $2.50" and the owner complies, will you respect his prices? You'll be in there trying to haggle and bargain everything down. You have to value yourself enough to tell a woman, "If you can't afford the price, then you got to keep on pushing." Most men got this low self-esteem attitude though, so they are in the mind that they need to beg and plead for someone to take their product--which is themselves. They view themselves as so low worth, they feel they need to pay someone to take their product off their hands. Is it any wonder why they are never valued or treated with respect?
The problem is that today we are living in an insane society and we've been exposed to insanity so long, we think it's normal. Women who cook, clean, act feminine, are chaste, etc., is something that worked for MILLENIUMS... THOUSANDS of years, if not more. Same thing with men being men... and yet in this new-age, devilish society, we are actually shamed for wanting to engage in something that works, despite direct evidence that this new age trash isn't working. We are seeing increasingly masculine women and feminized men, but look at the divorce rates. Look at how many women are ending up single with no hopes of being married. The average simp wouldn't tell a woman this because he's too afraid it would offend her and ruin his chances of sneaking up in her vagina. The male feminist will nod his head and smile as she heads right off of Loneliness Cliff. Just as a woman will punish you for engaging in weak, feminine behavior, you need to demand they live up to being a woman and do what a woman is supposed to for a man.
The problem is that today we are living in an insane society and we've been exposed to insanity so long, we think it's normal. Women who cook, clean, act feminine, are chaste, etc., is something that worked for MILLENIUMS... THOUSANDS of years, if not more. Same thing with men being men... and yet in this new-age, devilish society, we are actually shamed for wanting to engage in something that works, despite direct evidence that this new age trash isn't working. We are seeing increasingly masculine women and feminized men, but look at the divorce rates. Look at how many women are ending up single with no hopes of being married. The average simp wouldn't tell a woman this because he's too afraid it would offend her and ruin his chances of sneaking up in her vagina. The male feminist will nod his head and smile as she heads right off of Loneliness Cliff. Just as a woman will punish you for engaging in weak, feminine behavior, you need to demand they live up to being a woman and do what a woman is supposed to for a man.
Let me emphasize one more point. YOU are the employer. Stop giving these women a job before you even looked at her qualifications. Cats be looking at a pretty looking broad and automatically qualifying her in their minds. All she has to be is pretty and she's hired. In fact, they imagine they can either mold her or imagine her having characteristics she doesn't This rush to wrap up pretty or hiring out of desperation is why cats end up with a whole bunch of problems.
Fellas, what's your opinions on dating females with a lot of emotional baggage, i'm talking a fkn lot.
I have been going out with this girl a lot, we really enjoy each others companies and for me it just feels natural, like I don't have to try or worry about my moves or no shyt like that. No games or anything, we hung out yesterday despite the breezy ass cold and snow and she didn't care, she just wanted to chill with me.
But anyways, I'm not going to put all her business out there but she has a lot of a baggage, she has crazy family problems. She has been through crazy relationship things but never really got into detail about it but I know she is just getting out of a long term relationship. She avoids telling me things that I feel i'm entitled to know so yesterday I had to be a man and I told her simply what has been going on with her and I told I like chilling with her but I said do not waste my time and don't lead me on. When I told her this I feel she sort of got the intention that I would stop messing with her and she told me all this crazy shyt. This is why it's very hard for her to show emotions and took me a while to break her in, cause she's been hurt a lot in the past. After she told me this she said she had to go for a walk by herself and I let her go, and she went for like 15 minutes, I thought she left for good cause she was so embarrassed but I had a feeling she went somewhere to cry.
From people I have asked they said if you feel she is worth it then stick with it but I'm not sure if she is worth it yet. I need opinions.
I have been going out with this girl a lot, we really enjoy each others companies and for me it just feels natural, like I don't have to try or worry about my moves or no shyt like that. No games or anything, we hung out yesterday despite the breezy ass cold and snow and she didn't care, she just wanted to chill with me.
But anyways, I'm not going to put all her business out there but she has a lot of a baggage, she has crazy family problems. She has been through crazy relationship things but never really got into detail about it but I know she is just getting out of a long term relationship. She avoids telling me things that I feel i'm entitled to know so yesterday I had to be a man and I told her simply what has been going on with her and I told I like chilling with her but I said do not waste my time and don't lead me on. When I told her this I feel she sort of got the intention that I would stop messing with her and she told me all this crazy shyt. This is why it's very hard for her to show emotions and took me a while to break her in, cause she's been hurt a lot in the past. After she told me this she said she had to go for a walk by herself and I let her go, and she went for like 15 minutes, I thought she left for good cause she was so embarrassed but I had a feeling she went somewhere to cry.
From people I have asked they said if you feel she is worth it then stick with it but I'm not sure if she is worth it yet. I need opinions.
as long as she acts right
. I feel like people usually go one extreme or the other. she told you about her shyt. now i don't think that in itself would make me unhappy with her BUT if she were to start using all this as an excuse to start being disrespectful and then blame it on her issues, then at that point i would let her go. That's what i mean by one extreme or the other. lots of guys either toss her to the bushes or become overly soft with her just because she suddenly shared her shyt. i mean we don't know what she told you so it's up to you to know if you can live with it. If you can't it's better you break up (staying with her while not being able to deal is more foul than leaving). From the outside looking in, it seems to me like what she told you is hard to stomach but on the other hand you feel guilt for leaving her now after she shared her past. maybe you feel like you made her believe she had nothing to fear by sharing her past?